Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mr210]

Don't know the girl you talking about but in general, i'd advise not to say something like that. I know it sounds like the gentleman thing to say and all. But subconsciously, you're putting yourself down in her eyes. you,re devaluing the time she is spending talking to you by telling her whatever she'll be doing while she's having her "me"/chill time is more valuable then your attention. And i'm not saying this will make or break you. all i'm saying is that women will consciously think it's considerate. but subconsciously it lowers your worth to her.



again, don't know the type of vibe you have with her so go with your gut and forget what im saying if it doesn't make sense to you. but from my perspective, you might be doing too much. you already had one long interesting convo with her, then you'll call her again tonight, then you'll send her a text tomorrow wishing her a good day and how much you like talking to her, then you'll call her tuesday to set up a meet...Give her the option of seducing you as well. Give her the space to seduce you. the way you described it, she'll most likely think "this dude is really feeling me hard and it feels like he's scared i might get away". You're giving her all the power and if she's a bytch she'll play you like a simp. even if she's not a bytch she'll feel less attracted to you and think she's higher valuee than you if you're jocking harder than she is. give her space to do her thing with you...again, it depends on your vibe with her, you know what's best for you.


i see what you,re saying. to be frank, if she's feeling you it doesn't really matter. I just like movies in general. And that thing you said about third date is part of the reason i like it early. cause it feels like something couples that have been together for a while do with no pressure. to me that's the point. to establish a vibe where you,re already a couple without saying it. I don't have to say much in a movie. i just share snacks with her, usually buy a jumbo drink and share with her, have my arm around her and just enjoying a movie together. We both feel like we've been together for a year. it establishes a certain familiarity. so sleeping together seems normal. but then if there's nothing to say you don't care cause it's on her as much as it's on you. she'll feel comfy with you but when there's nothing to say and she sees you genuinely don't care, she might wonder if she's boring or uninteresting. so she gives it up to make things interesting again.

different strokes for different folks man. if what you,re doing isn't broke, don't fix it. be who you truly are and keep winning!

you must have missed understood me, tonight will be our first phone conversation, everything so far has been chatting online for the past 4 days. Thats why i said i will keep tonights convo short (ie 30-45 minutes which is short to me) and then hit her up tuesday to set something up for this weekend. I agree with what you are saying about how to get off the phone, so what would you suggest i say when im ready to get off the phone with her tonight. So is the text tomorrow a no go? Should i just make the first convo tonight and then not contact her again until Tuesday

I guess the reason why I play by the call every other day when first meeting someone is because in the past ive had females tell me that me going 2-3 days without contacting/calling them wasnt cool. Its never completely burn me to where we still didnt progress, but i just figured every other day was the way to go, it shows im interested yet im not smothering them with calls and text every day

 

[Votti]

30 minutes? The fukk are you gonna talk about for 30 minutes?

Better yet, if you're having these long ass phone conversations what are you going to have to talk about when you eventually go on dates?

you must not know how to talk to women. first off you let THEM do all the talking since most women love to talk anyway. your role as a man is to listen (or just act like youre listening). you just have know how to ask the right questions. i can be on the phone with a woman i just met for over two hours and still be able to have something to talk about with her on the date. this happened with the last girl i smashed and we ended up fukking on the first date.

don't get me wrong though. of course you're gonna have to do some talking too but keep it light, comical, and intelligent if you can. most importantly never reveal too much of yourself.

 

[Turbulent]

you must have missed understood me, tonight will be our first phone conversation, everything so far has been chatting online for the past 4 days. Thats why i said i will keep tonights convo short (ie 30-45 minutes which is short to me) and then hit her up tuesday to set something up for this weekend. I agree with what you are saying about how to get off the phone, so what would you suggest i say when im ready to get off the phone with her tonight. So is the text tomorrow a no go? Should i just make the first convo tonight and then not contact her again until Tuesday

I guess the reason why I play by the call every other day when first meeting someone is because in the past ive had females tell me that me going 2-3 days without contacting/calling them wasnt cool. Its never completely burn me to where we still didnt progress, but i just figured every other day was the way to go, it shows im interested yet im not smothering them with calls and text every day

my bad if i misunderstood. i thought you meant you already talked to her on the phone. as far as how to get off the phone. just tell her you gotta go do _____ but you really enjoyed the convo. It's better if _____ is true and if you actually enjoyed the convo. don't say you enjoyed it if you didn't.

I personally wouldn't send her a text out of the blue hoping she has a good day or to tell her i enjoyed the convo. number one, chances are this early i don't really care that much about her good or bad days. and that's not even me being an a$$hole. that's just me being real. I can't tell you what to do though. I can only speak on what i'd do.

as far as contacting her or not, after the first call, it depends on the dynamics between you too. Don't do way more than what she is doing but be careful not to get caught up in a waiting game. matter of fact, don't play games with her. keep it real. if you tell her you will call her at a spoecific time, do it. if you want her to call you at a specific time, give clear instructions and if she doesn't follow the instructions, follow your gut. if things are kind of ambiguous, follow your gut, not your insecurities.

I guess the reason why I play by the call every other day when first meeting someone is because in the past ive had females tell me that me going 2-3 days without contacting/calling them wasnt cool. Its never completely burn me to where we still didnt progress...

and finally, the most interesting part of your post. let me ask you a question, those chicks that told you it wasn't cool, what ended up happening with them? see their words said one thing but what did their actions say? were they still jocking you/talking to you afterwards or not? and again, not saying you should play games of ignoring them. what i'm saying is you should do what YOU feel is right and cool. if you,re genuinely busy or don't feel like talking, don't regardless of if they feel it's cool or not. go with your gut a little more. fukk what they're saying. do what feels right.she'll either feel it or she won't (don't overthink it)

 

[Turbulent]

you must not know how to talk to women. first off you let THEM do all the talking since most women love to talk anyway. your role as a man is to listen (or just act like youre listening). you just have know how to ask the right questions. i can be on the phone with a woman i just met for over two hours and still be able to have something to talk about with her on the date. this happened with the last girl i smashed and we ended up fukking on the first date.

don't get me wrong though. of course you're gonna have to do some talking too but keep it light, comical, and intelligent if you can. most importantly never reveal too much of yourself.

if you want to play the game, i feel like that's the best way to go at it.long convos where she's talking a lot and you're participating without reaviling too much then she wasted all her good convo material and the only thing left she has to keep your attention is sex.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

you must not know how to talk to women. first off you let THEM do all the talking since most women love to talk anyway. your role as a man is to listen (or just act like youre listening). you just have know how to ask the right questions. i can be on the phone with a woman i just met for over two hours and still be able to have something to talk about with her on the date. this happened with the last girl i smashed and we ended up fukking on the first date.

don't get me wrong though. of course you're gonna have to do some talking too but keep it light, comical, and intelligent if you can. most importantly never reveal too much of yourself.

I don't like acting out of character to get laid

1. Most women aren't that interesting to begin with, I don't see what we would have to talk about that would have me genuinely interested
2. I hate talking on the phone

If I can get her to the date without a long ass, boring ass phone conversation, then why waste my time?

 

[Turbulent]

I don't like acting out of character to get laid

1. Most women aren't that interesting to begin with, I don't see what we would have to talk about that would have me genuinely interested
2. I hate talking on the phone

If I can get her to the date without a long ass, boring ass phone conversation, then why waste my time?

both of you are making good points. the bottom line is to be true to yourself and not to bow down to these chicks' demands or surrender the power to them. If you like talking for long convos, cool. if you'd rather save that shyt for when you meet in person, cool. there is no right or wrong answer. different paths lead to rome.

 

[Jahmal]

Eating p*ssy is reserved for the wifey, all these nikkaz that just eat out random chicks are on some other shyt.

Sometimes it just be looking so juicy that I cant help myself

 

[Mr210]

my bad if i misunderstood. i thought you meant you already talked to her on the phone. as far as how to get off the phone. just tell her you gotta go do _____ but you really enjoyed the convo. It's better if _____ is true and if you actually enjoyed the convo. don't say you enjoyed it if you didn't.

I personally wouldn't send her a text out of the blue hoping she has a good day or to tell her i enjoyed the convo. number one, chances are this early i don't really care that much about her good or bad days. and that's not even me being an a$$hole. that's just me being real. I can't tell you what to do though. I can only speak on what i'd do.

as far as contacting her or not, after the first call, it depends on the dynamics between you too. Don't do way more than what she is doing but be careful not to get caught up in a waiting game. matter of fact, don't play games with her. keep it real. if you tell her you will call her at a spoecific time, do it. if you want her to call you at a specific time, give clear instructions and if she doesn't follow the instructions, follow your gut. if things are kind of ambiguous, follow your gut, not your insecurities.

and finally, the most interesting part of your post. let me ask you a question, those chicks that told you it wasn't cool, what ended up happening with them? see their words said one thing but what did their actions say? were they still jocking you/talking to you afterwards or not? and again, not saying you should play games of ignoring them. what i'm saying is you should do what YOU feel is right and cool. if you,re genuinely busy or don't feel like talking, don't regardless of if they feel it's cool or not. go with your gut a little more. fukk what they're saying. do what feels right.she'll either feel it or she won't (don't overthink it)

Naw i feel you about the text, it might be too much, more than likely I will hit her up tonight and if things go well call her again Tuesday briefly just to set something up for the weekend. By tonight she will have my number so lets see if at any point in time she contacts me. From there it will all depend on how we vibe. In each situation I got with both girls, I dont really like talking on the phone so usually early stages I do the every other day thing unless there is something i really need to talk to them about. It gives both of us time to breath. It will be interesting to see how this turns out tonight because we are from 2 different cultures but she was born in america. She has her masters and comes off real intelligent this isnt just some no nothing bird

 

[Turbulent]

Naw i feel you about the text, it might be too much, more than likely I will hit her up tonight and if things go well call her again Tuesday briefly just to set something up for the weekend. By tonight she will have my number so lets see if at any point in time she contacts me.

i completely agree, especially about seeing if she contacts you as well.

From there it will all depend on how we vibe. In each situation I got with both girls, I dont really like talking on the phone so usually early stages I do the every other day thing unless there is something i really need to talk to them about. It gives both of us time to breath.

and there it is...they said it wasn't cool and that they don't like it but they still got with you. fukk their words. their actions speak louder. their words was just them venting their frustration about the fact they lost the power. so they try to guilt you into giving it back. but if you would have given the power back, chances are they would abuse it and play with it. and i completely agree as far as giving time to breath. there are no specific rules. it's like you said, it depends on the vibe you feel.

 

[Jahmal]

I don't think 30 minutes is too long if the convo is flowing naturally. Gives you chance to see where her head is at/if he convo game is popping. It's better than going into a date blind and finding out the hard way after you've already invested time you can't get back.

Cosign. 30 minutes isnt long at all. It gives you a chance to see where her head is at and if she is actually worthy of your time. There have been plenty of times where I've gotten a chick's number, called her and deleted her number immediately afterwards because the conversation was wack. Value your Time and Money Brehs!

 

[Mr210]

Cosign. 30 minutes isnt long at all. It gives you a chance to see where her head is at and if she is actually worthy of your time. There have been plenty of times where I've gotten a chick's number, called her and deleted her number immediately afterwards because the conversation was wack. Value your Time and Money Brehs!

just curious what do you consider wack conversation

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I guess the reason why I play by the call every other day when first meeting someone is because in the past ive had females tell me that me going 2-3 days without contacting/calling them wasnt cool.

And why couldn't they call you?

Don't let these chicks play their little attention whoring games with you. The frame you set at the beginning of every relationship will determine how the rest of it goes, why couldn't they pick up their phones and call you?

 

[MAKAVELI25]

just curious what do you consider wack conversation

Seems self explanatory, breh

 

[Mr210]

And why couldn't they call you?

Don't let these chicks play their little attention whoring games with you. The frame you set at the beginning of every relationship will determine how the rest of it goes, why couldn't they pick up their phones and call you?

I dont think I have ever dated a woman where she was calling me or texting frequently until after we hit like the second date

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I dont think I have ever dated a woman where she was calling me or texting frequently until after we hit like the second date

But they were complaining that you didn't call them. If they wanted to talk to you so badly why couldn't they give you a call? What, do you owe them attention just cuz they have vaginas?