Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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that's the thing about me. I can't settle. I got to have something that satisfies me or I can't have it at all.
 

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a lot of my guy friends are getting engaged and it seems like every single one of them is just tired of going out and dealing with new women and the chase.

nothing wrong with that, but i dont feel like any of them are really that into their women. she's just in the right place at the right time.

isn't this the definition of settling?​

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that's the thing about me. I can't settle. I got to have something that satisfies me or I can't have it at all.

I'll never settle for something that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

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I'll never settle for something that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

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exactly. i'm in it to finish with the woman I start with. I don't want to waste ten years of my life or 20 years and then have it all dissolve and wish I was somewhere.
 
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Got this girl's number in my class. Supposed to be for the purposes of a "study session" but I kind of want to do physical things with this woman :guilty:

I'm a little conflicted. When the number exchange was approved, I started to feel satisfied. I'm stuck now. Don't know if I should just not hit her up at all, or if I should contact her and let her know what it is.
 

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Got this girl's number in my class. Supposed to be for the purposes of a "study session" but I kind of want to do physical things with this woman :guilty:

I'm a little conflicted. When the number exchange was approved, I started to feel satisfied. I'm stuck now. Don't know if I should just not hit her up at all, or if I should contact her and let her know what it is.

You want that sloppy toppy go for it. Dont think about it, the less u think about it the more of a chance u have to not talk urself outta of it.
 

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a lot of my guy friends are getting engaged and it seems like every single one of them is just tired of going out and dealing with new women and the chase.

nothing wrong with that, but i dont feel like any of them are really that into their women. she's just in the right place at the right time.

isn't this the definition of settling?​


that's the thing about me. I can't settle. I got to have something that satisfies me or I can't have it at all.



I'll never settle for something that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

All this starter wives starter husbands ish

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The older I get the more confident I have gotten, the more I'm starting to enjoy the chasing, sweet talking a woman and the adrenaline rush you get when the woman is down for you.
 

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I honestly have spent a week going through this thread and it's why I signed up for the website. Gems for someone like me who's 25. I've had a history of simp-like behavior which my friends have pointed out. THis thread really hit home on things like taking pride and focusing on yourself more then on making a woman the focal point of your happiness. Appreciate it :to:
 

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I honestly have spent a week going through this thread and it's why I signed up for the website. Gems for someone like me who's 25. I've had a history of simp-like behavior which my friends have pointed out. THis thread really hit home on things like taking pride and focusing on yourself more then on making a woman the focal point of your happiness. Appreciate it :to:

Welcome breh, every man goes through it until one woman changes you for the rest of your life,lol
 

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Quick tip I thought about on my ride home:

When dealing with a woman your attractiveness to her will largely depend on how she views your ability to get other women.

Hear me out. I'm not saying be a womanizer or constant flirt, but I've noticed that a lot of girls that like me are quick to say, "I bet you can have any woman you want." Now this is nowhere near the truth, but because the woman feels that I can have my pick of the litter, she plays accordingly. This is true in a relationship and if you're just dating. Girls want the guy that every other girl wants. That's why when you're in a relationship your stock goes up. You just have to keep it up. If you want your girl to stay attracted.

"Buu.. bu.. but what if my girl is the jealous type."

Then :ufdup: You should never date a jealous girl. Your girl should be aware that other girls are gonna be into you but be confident enough in herself that she knows she's the one you want. And you should make her feel secure in this by re-affirming it through your actions. There's a fine balance that has to be maintained.



So how can you do this? Mainly by keeping your body up, staying sharp intellectually, dressing good, etc. Basically all the shyt you should be doing anyway. Do not regress and don't fall off. The worst thing a man can do is get comfortable with a girl and himself go. Even if your married you want to be the Boris Kodjo to your girl's Nicole Ari Parker. This will make your girl feel like she is so lucky to have you. Do not discount that fact... Her happiness depends on it. This will also inspire your girl to keep herself up too.

The best thing about it is that its all subconscious. You don't even have to say a word.
 

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Quick tip I thought about on my ride home:

When dealing with a woman your attractiveness to her will largely depend on how she views your ability to get other women.

Hear me out. I'm not saying be a womanizer or constant flirt, but I've noticed that a lot of girls that like me are quick to say, "I bet you can have any woman you want." Now this is nowhere near the truth, but because the woman feels that I can have my pick of the litter, she plays accordingly. This is true in a relationship and if you're just dating. Girls want the guy that every other girl wants. That's why when you're in a relationship your stock goes up. You just have to keep it up. If you want your girl to stay attracted.

"Buu.. bu.. but what if my girl is the jealous type."

Then :ufdup: You should never date a jealous girl. Your girl should be aware that other girls are gonna be into you but be confident enough in herself that she knows she's the one you want. And you should make her feel secure in this by re-affirming it through your actions. There's a fine balance that has to be maintained.



So how can you do this? Mainly by keeping your body up, staying sharp intellectually, dressing good, etc. Basically all the shyt you should be doing anyway. Do not regress and don't fall off. The worst thing a man can do is get comfortable with a girl and himself go. Even if your married you want to be the Boris Kodjo to your girl's Nicole Ari Parker. This will make your girl feel like she is so lucky to have you. Do not discount that fact... Her happiness depends on it. This will also inspire your girl to keep herself up too.

The best thing about it is that its all subconscious. You don't even have to say a word.

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women want what other women want, its why exes who dump you dont give a damn until they find out your dating someone knew

even if you have no other options fake it, i have
 
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