Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Message]

brehs... i dunno if I was built for the challenges of adult dating. I keep learning how shady women can be and it wears me out. I don't know if I can ever really trust a girl.

but I'm also not built for the alternative.

i actually envy nikkas who got married relatively young. even if they have problems they're potentially building a family and not out here in this dating world. the older I get, each girl I seriously date wears me down more than the one before her. because everybody you date at this age has 'marriage' implications.

long story short: i wish things were carefree like when i was young. there's way too much on the line for me to not approach every female strategically.​

I got a homie who got married at 23 to the girl who was his only girlfriend and the only girl he has ever smashed. They've been together about 12 years. She is all he's ever known. They got 2 kids. Sounds like a great scenario - but it aint.

Dude is miserable. Every waking day he lives with the regret of marrying young - especially to the only chick he's ever been with. It really has broken this dude. It's sad. He's always had low self esteem issues and she's preyed on that. Dude will never leave her bc he hides behind his religion as justificiation to never divorce and stick it out. Now that may be admirable but with him......with him it's some bullshyt, bc fam doesnt truly believe it and does not want to be married - especially not to her. Dude outgrew her even before they got married.

 

[Huellz Santana]

I got a homie who got married at 23 to the girl who was his only girlfriend and the only girl he has ever smashed. They've been together about 12 years. She is all he's ever known. They got 2 kids. Sounds like a great scenario - but it aint.

Dude is miserable. Every waking day he lives with the regret of marrying young - especially to the only chick he's ever been with. It really has broken this dude. It's sad. He's always had low self esteem issues and she's preyed on that. Dude will never leave her bc he hides behind his religion as justificiation to never divorce and stick it out. Now that may be admirable but with him......with him it's some bullshyt, bc fam doesnt truly believe it and does not want to be married - especially not to her. Dude outgrew her even before they got married.

ehh... that's the green is greener mentality kicking in. It's all he knows. if he was out here living the dating life and getting burned (physically and mentally) by these chicks I bet he'd wish for a calmer more boring life.



there's no right or wrong way. few people will get to bang whoever in their t20's and settle down with a dime wifey with low numbers, no baggage, and live happily ever after.​

getting a broad, a wife, starting a family is the easy part, ive never seen a wedding photo, its all smiles, everyone thinks their marriage is going to work, the sad thing is in this day and age, everything you built up can be destroyed.

the thing for me about marriage is i have things im looking for, and i think about it alot, we know womens looks drop of so fast, say you marry a 25 year old broad, big titties, big azz, beautiful face, slim waist. Say she balloons after the first kid, the azz dissappears, the titties dissappear, the gray strands come in then what?

say she gets cancer and you have to look after her, say shes in a accident and gets paralyzed from the neck down, are you gonna stay? are yotu going to stray? Im a man who will take my marriage vows seriously if i were to ever get married in sickness and in health.

what if she wants a divorce and you got 4 kids what then?

what if she gets her dream job in like europe or africa are you ready to pack up and move?

you could talk yourself out of literally ANYTHING if you think about what every single thing that could go wrong. Dont get it twisted, I'm definitely not for marrying for the wrong reasons... I'm just saying at this point in my life it makes sense and I welcome it for once. provided the girl is a good match and has good motherly qualities.​

You have the same problem that one of my boy's have. You're more concerned about being a father and starting a family than you are in finding a good woman. Worry about the latter first. Worrying about a family first will reverse all of this:

this makes sense.​

 

[Jahmal]

I don't want to be the old guy at the club

Play your cards right and you can be the old guy that owns the club

 

[Oye]

Well I won't be chilling with that older woman. My friend that works with her is close friends with her "bestie" and told me about her and she's really nasty to the point I'll have to pass. She's thirsty for me but apparently she's messing with a guy she thinks might be DL because of the fact he wants to be penetrated with a dildo. Basically there's nothing she won't do and she has a thing for young guys. My friend said she's a whore and he never talks like that.Yeah thanks but no thanks.

 

[semtex]

brehs... i dunno if I was built for the challenges of adult dating. I keep learning how shady women can be and it wears me out. I don't know if I can ever really trust a girl.

but I'm also not built for the alternative.

i actually envy nikkas who got married relatively young. even if they have problems they're potentially building a family and not out here in this dating world. the older I get, each girl I seriously date wears me down more than the one before her. because everybody you date at this age has 'marriage' implications.

long story short: i wish things were carefree like when i was young. there's way too much on the line for me to not approach every female strategically.​

 

[sixsixtwo]

The Myth of the Lonely Old Man |

 

[sixsixtwo]

When your value raises, you demand more « Random Xpat Rantings

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"Once you understand how women think you’d have to be an absolute idiot to ever trust them. As the physically weaker sex, women evolved to rely on deception and manipulation as their weapons. It’s simply what they do. You can always count on a woman to lie to you under certain circumstances the same way you can count on a man to punch you in the face under certain circumstances.

A woman’s entire view of the world is seen through the lens of her emotions. This means that her perception of reality will shift based on her emotional swings. To be fair, this happens to men as well, but to a much smaller degree. With women, however, the shifts are extremely pronounced.

The result is that women have no firm grounding in reality. Everything in a woman’s life is built on a foundation of the shifting sands of her emotions. She can love you one minute and hate you the next. Women have no innate understanding of honor or justice, because to a woman these concepts do not exist independently of herself. In the female mind, “justice” is whatever is just to her. “Honor” is whatever makes her feel good about herself. Solipsism is inherent to their worldview.

This means that women have absolutely no moral qualms about lying, because to them lying is perfectly justified. Lying is a means of serving their feelings and emotions, which always take precedence. They honestly do not even view lying as being wrong, because they create justifications for it that excuse them. For example, a woman can rationalize cheating and lying to her boyfriend by telling herself that “he’s not meeting my emotional needs”. With this rationalization, she is able to self-justify and excuse the lying and cheating. In her mind, she has a RIGHT to lie and cheat if doing so makes her feel good.

You will also find that a woman is incapable of any sort of self-reflection or self-blame. Instead, women will invariably find some external cause (usually a man) to blame when anything goes wrong for them. By placing blame externally, the woman is also able to rationalize all sorts of anti-social behavior in order to help extricate her from the situation. So when a woman lies and cheats on her boyfriend, she literally does not see herself as doing anything wrong. She sees her boyfriend as the one who is wrong, and herself as the innocent victim.

Never treat anything with a woman as set in stone. Given their emotional instability, capacity for self-delusion and innate proclivity for dissimulation, truth and honor have no meaning to them."

 

[wutang512]

I got a question..

Im the godfather of this chick that I've had sexual relations with..

She sees me from afar and calls me...

talks about she aint seen me yada yada yada

then she brings up money for the godchild...

she says she tells the godson that im working when she asks about me....

I believe the lil nikka dont ask shyt...

She said I should spend more time with him

This all you should have focused on man

Its not your problem that her baby daddy is a dead beat.

And for her to ask for money for her child is disrespectful to you.

I would call her out about it and never speak to her again.

 

[kevm3]

Well I won't be chilling with that older woman. My friend that works with her is close friends with her "bestie" and told me about her and she's really nasty to the point I'll have to pass. She's thirsty for me but apparently she's messing with a guy she thinks might be DL because of the fact he wants to be penetrated with a dildo. Basically there's nothing she won't do and she has a thing for young guys. My friend said she's a whore and he never talks like that.Yeah thanks but no thanks.

Not surprising. She had that look of the older lady that wants to stay young and those type of women are down to do anything if they can get with a young guy they feel.

If she's willingly messing with a guy that she thinks is on the DL, that's a clear red flag to avoid so you're making a great choice.

 

[kevm3]

That's the dilemma a lot of us cats are facing. We actually WANT to take a woman seriously, but it's like the more seriously you take a woman, the less serious she takes you. Seeing how women treat guys who do things like pay for their school, take them to dinner and just generally pay their expenses opens your eyes. You actually get punished for being a provider, which is an idea completely contrary to how many of us were reared. As the man you should provide, take care of the household, make sure there are no financial worries, etc... but you are not rewarded for taking that mentality in reality. To the contrary, the more responsible you are, the more likely you are to get cheated on.

It's sad, especially when you grew up with that innocent mindset thinking that women were angels and you wake up to the reality that it's nothing like that.

 

[LebronsHairline]

That's the dilemma a lot of us cats are facing. We actually WANT to take a woman seriously, but it's like the more seriously you take a woman, the less serious she takes you. Seeing how women treat guys who do things like pay for their school, take them to dinner and just generally pay their expenses opens your eyes. You actually get punished for being a provider, which is an idea completely contrary to how many of us were reared. As the man you should provide, take care of the household, make sure there are no financial worries, etc... but you are not rewarded for taking that mentality in reality. To the contrary, the more responsible you are, the more likely you are to get cheated on.

It's sad, especially when you grew up with that innocent mindset thinking that women were angels and you wake up to the reality that it's nothing like that.

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I feel you on all that. I havent had any problems with females for the past 2 years or so because i just cant take them serious anymore. I treat them like i would my little sister but in a playful type manner and they love me for it


It is sad, but that innocent mindset is for the birds, ain't nobody innocent out here

And its funny cause i see the same behavior in my 51 year old mother smdh

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Quick thought...

As someone who regularly dates really attractive women (8's and aboves. no bs, don't hate, it's not that hard to do). It's funny how quickly they turn mediocre in my eyes. I dunno, maybe I'm just really picky but I have to always be reminded by friends how attractive the girl I'm with is.

Homie: "Damn bruh she fine as fukk!"

Me after 3 months of dealing with her: "She's cool."

Homie: "nikka you aint never happy."


Truth is, that once the allure of attraction wears off a lot of women don't have much to offer.

But I can't go lower in looks. What to do... what to do...

 

[360dagod]

Quick thought...

As someone who regularly dates really attractive women (8's and aboves. no bs, don't hate, it's not that hard to do). It's funny how quickly they turn mediocre in my eyes. I dunno, maybe I'm just really picky but I have to always be reminded by friends how attractive the girl I'm with is.

Homie: "Damn bruh she fine as fukk!"

Me after 3 months of dealing with her: "She's cool."

Homie: "nikka you aint never happy."


Truth is, that once the allure of attraction wears off a lot of women don't have much to offer.

But I can't go lower in looks. What to do... what to do...

Ur looking for the wrong things my nikka..

Alot of those 8s and betters are like high maintenance cars...The cost outweighs the benefits...

no one i saying to go out with a person your not attracted to,but it seems you place to high a value on looks

 

[360dagod]

This all you should have focused on man

Its not your problem that her baby daddy is a dead beat.

And for her to ask for money for her child is disrespectful to you.

I would call her out about it and never speak to her again.

yea,,,lesson learned about the god father thing..

Thanx

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Ur looking for the wrong things my nikka..

Alot of those 8s and betters are like high maintenance cars...The cost outweighs the benefits...

no one i saying to go out with a person your not attracted to,but it seems you place to high a value on looks

I'm probably just too picky.