Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Got to have a mind of a football coach when it comes to women out here.Take Bill Bellicheck....if a player disrespects him they automatically get the boot,do you think he is gonna let somebody question him or any decision in the media?NOPE.Even the players he liked,he wound up cutting.No matter how much you like a woman,you have to have a part of you willing to cut ties at any moment. Balatant disrespect,airing your business in the streets,cheating...no man should tolerate that.
 

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well... i texted her the other night just to see her reaction, she responded back fast , convo little, then she continued it later into the night

I met up with her today in person to ask her to go out for our 3rd time out it would be, the week our finals and school are done which is soon, were both busy now, and she said definitely yea, so that's good.

So that's where that's at, I'll see how it goes.
 

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Where was this thread when i was in my 20's/college.


*sighs*


Better late than never i guess. Hope everyone is doing well.


Y'all havent' seent me here as much cuz my lady friend has been nothing but smooth sailing. I know what you're thinking, "So what's wrong with her?"

Absolutely nothing. She's everything i want in a partner.

Then what's the issue?

Me.

I'm the problem. I always think there's someone else even MORE compatible with me and fall in line to what i'm deeply searching for (whatever that profound entity may be).

Still in the early stages with this current gyal (closing in on the 6 month mark and she's reciprocating a whole lot more now and still gives me my space to do what i need to do on the weekdays and neither of us has said the revered yet revolting "1 4 3" at this point, so we're both guarded - to an extent).


*sighs*


I guess its not her that has me concerned about the future - it's moreso my insecurities and not being able to live with the fact that once my mirage fully dissipates, she'll move on to someone with more substance and security (i don't have very much of those qualities; no major career, still party here and there, no real responsibilities - even at my age, etc.).

To be frank, i'd say my biggest selling points is my wit, charm, creativity, spontaneity, mystique and optimism. It seemed to have worked well with that past few gyals - but i haven't had a long term relationship that exceeded a year to truly test my longevity.

Maybe there's nothing wrong with me the way i am. Maybe she's still here because she sees me in the long term. Perhaps, i'm just being too cautious, reserved from past experiences and that's jaded me to the point where i have to tread more carefully than i need to - and that's making the entire journey a very guarded one.

But every time i see her, i'm always brought back to a place of happy thoughts and more felicitous moments in my life - if that makes sense.

It's like her whole aura... comes equipped with something always there to remind me.


She's okay that i like bright trainers with simple clothes, that i have a big ethnic nose and like to get faded up every other week. Also worth nothing that she's been voluntarily paying every other meal (it was expensive early on when i footed everything, but she's acting like a true companion, almost homie/lover/friend status, but i can see myself wifing up).


I just hope that one day i don't do something stupid and look back and say, "Can't believe i let her get away."


Because you should never learn to live with regrets.


Nobody this fun - should be alone.


We are young.


[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06bUoBG4-pg"]nas you wont see me tonight - YouTube[/ame]


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actually i have and will again, if a chick pushes my buttons, disrespect me i dont raise my voice, i dont get angry, i just toss aside and get on with my life.

yes i am not a robot but the boot i have developed has been a life saver, do i sometimes pondeer the decisions i make yup, do i sometime say maybe i should all or text them yup, but do i? nope when i cut a chick out thats it no turning back.

even if i have no other options i let every chick know shes easily replaceable

The problem with that is some women are actually turned on if you get angry and put them in their place. This is especially true with black women, they'll test you like you're a punk to see how you'll react. If you try and ignore it, she'll only continue the disrespect and think of you as a punk. Now the relationship has gone to shyt. If you have any intention of pulling black girls, you'll have to get real alpha with em and tell em how it's gonna be when they step out of line. Otherwise, you'll habitually have to walk out on them like that, because they'll keep testing you to see if you're the nikka they can follow, or another punk.:ld:
 

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actually i have and will again, if a chick pushes my buttons, disrespect me i dont raise my voice, i dont get angry, i just toss aside and get on with my life.

yes i am not a robot but the boot i have developed has been a life saver, do i sometimes pondeer the decisions i make yup, do i sometime say maybe i should all or text them yup, but do i? nope when i cut a chick out thats it no turning back.

even if i have no other options i let every chick know shes easily replaceable

listen, ur saying what i use to say back when i use to post under the name playerboss from years back. i'm talking back in the early 2000s. i grew out of that phase. dont fool yourself into believing ur some tough guy man. and dont let bitterness ruin your life.
 

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listen, ur saying what i use to say back when i use to post under the name playerboss from years back. i'm talking back in the early 2000s. i grew out of that phase. dont fool yourself into believing ur some tough guy man. and dont let bitterness ruin your life.

Lol I have no bitterness nor am I a player.

I just am not afraid to cut the cord and sever the ties with any broad no matter if I'm emotionally invested or not

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The problem with that is some women are actually turned on if you get angry and put them in their place. This is especially true with black women, they'll test you like you're a punk to see how you'll react. If you try and ignore it, she'll only continue the disrespect and think of you as a punk. Now the relationship has gone to shyt. If you have any intention of pulling black girls, you'll have to get real alpha with em and tell em how it's gonna be when they step out of line. Otherwise, you'll habitually have to walk out on them like that, because they'll keep testing you to see if you're the nikka they can follow, or another punk.:ld:

why would you feed that shyt? these types of woman are a nightmare. the best thing you can do is have them test somebody else.
 

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The problem with that is some women are actually turned on if you get angry and put them in their place. This is especially true with black women, they'll test you like you're a punk to see how you'll react. If you try and ignore it, she'll only continue the disrespect and think of you as a punk.


I don't want women in my life that are constantly testing me and trying to push my buttons for no reason. If she isn't cooperative and supporting my vision then she gets thrown in the bushes(no homicide). I refuse to deal with out of pocket b1tches but You guys enjoy yourselves with these loud mouth, finger waving, disrespectful black women.
 

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Thought I'd type this out on my phone before I head out the hotel. Not a biggie, but had my first bullshyt experience out here on the DR. Women are a trip. A couple of days ago, I was having lunch at this table that seats four people, just eating and minding my own business. Anyway, one of the waiters sat this woman on my table who couldn't find a seat. So she asked if anyone else was gonna be joining me at the table and I said no one else will be sitting down so she sat down on the other side. I didn't say anything else to her and vice versa, we both just ate our meals like strangers in silence. The thought of striking up convo did cross my mind for a fleeting moment, but I didn't bother in the end. I just finished my meal and bounced.

So yesterday after coming back from this outback safari trip, I went for a much needed swim at the beach. After about 10 minutes or so, I see the same woman who sat at my table the previous day from a little distance getting into the water too. She didn't swim though, she just got her legs wet. Anyway, I took a break from swimming and made my way over to my deck chair to do some reading. She saw me from a distance and came over to say hi and that she recognised me from the previous day at lunch. She then said "I wasn't too sure whether I should have said something over the table cos you didn't say anything." I just laughed it off and said I was gonna say something a first too, but it was no prob.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, we chatted for about 20 minutes or so about ourselves and she said she was out on vacation on her own and is here for two weeks and I told her its the same with me, but I leave next week a couple of days before her. She was clearly enjoying our conversation and seemed interested. I decided to take the initiative and ask if she waned to meet up for dinner at the main restaurant later that evening so we could just kick it. She said she was gonna meet up with a few people she met from Switzerland at dinner but that we can meet up at the bar for about 10pm and watch the regular show the hotel does. I agreed, but I could sense a tiny little bit of hesitancy. Anyway, later on that night I saw her coming into the main hall just as was leaving out as I already had my dinner. She asked me where I was sitting, but I told her I had just finished my meal just then her pals she was talking about waved to her, so I asked if we were still on for 10pm and she said yes.

So later, I head to the bar and she was a no show. I didn't really think much of it since I watch the lives shows there at nights and chop it up with folk anyway. She didn't turn at all, so I just KIM, hung out in the lounge checking my emails then bounced back to my room.

Saw her at breakfast earlier and she didn't say why she didn't show or even ask to sit together even though we both pretty much came in at the same time. Obviously I wasn't gonna press the matter, she jus said "see you around" and that was it.

These broads, man...one minute they're so keen and eager, initiating contact and shyt, then they just do a 180 like you did something wrong. Anyways......

:snoop: @ me feeling a little bit of a way about it but oh well, bout to head out to the complex and kick it with some locals.
 
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:patrice: let's break this down breh...you going out of your way to take ya girl out to a nice restaurant on valentines day (bold for emphasis) and she shows her appreciation by throwing a temper tantrum because you didn't pick the parking spot she chose...you match her level of goofiness by taking on a challenge of a shouting match completely blowing up the spot and embarrassing yourself...you fukked her later on that night in which you believe handled the situation but i'm sure she still disrespected you after that event possibly carried on through out your relationship which led to the end of it? :ld:...so to sum it up...she acted like a brat and you accepted...she disrespected you and you accepted it...she took you out your comfort zone and made you embarrass yourself in public...and you accepted...and she even got a nut out of it :leon: now you're left with this belief that you handled the situation when she really tested you...and you failed :heh: i hope you at least had enough self respect to NOT feed her that night cuz i see you didn't mention it? or did you reward her with that also? now gon head and give me another one of those :childplease:'s to show me that you're in the right mind frame dealing with women :obama:
 

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Thought I'd type this out on my phone before I head out the hotel. Not a biggie, but had my first bullshyt experience out here on the DR. Women are a trip. A couple of days ago, I was having lunch at this table that seats four people, just eating and minding my own business. Anyway, one of the waiters sat this woman on my table who couldn't find a seat. So she asked if anyone else was gonna be joining me at the table and I said no one else will be sitting down so she sat down on the other side. I didn't say anything else to her and vice versa, we both just ate our meals like strangers in silence. The thought of striking up convo did cross my mind for a fleeting moment, but I didn't bother in the end. I just finished my meal and bounced.

So yesterday after coming back from this outback safari trip, I went for a much needed swim at the beach. After about 10 minutes or so, I see the same woman who sat at my table the previous day from a little distance getting into the water too. She didn't swim though, she just got her legs wet. Anyway, I took a break from swimming and made my way over to my deck chair to do some reading. She saw me from a distance and came over to say hi and that she recognised me from the previous day at lunch. She then said "I wasn't too sure whether I should have said something over the table cos you didn't say anything." I just laughed it off and said I was gonna say something a first too, but it was no prob.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, we chatted for about 20 minutes or so about ourselves and she said she was out on vacation on her own and is here for two weeks and I told her its the same with me, but I leave next week a couple of days before her. She was clearly enjoying our conversation and seemed interested. I decided to take the initiative and ask if she waned to meet up for dinner at the main restaurant later that evening so we could just kick it. She said she was gonna meet up with a few people she met from Switzerland at dinner but that we can meet up at the bar for about 10pm and watch the regular show the hotel does. I agreed, but I could sense a tiny little bit of hesitancy. Anyway, later on that night I saw her coming into the main hall just as was leaving out as I already had my dinner. She asked me where I was sitting, but I told her I had just finished my meal just then her pals she was talking about waved to her, so I asked if we were still on for 10pm and she said yes.

So later, I head to the bar and she was a no show. I didn't really think much of it since I watch the lives shows there at nights and chop it up with folk anyway. She didn't turn at all, so I just KIM, hung out in the lounge checking my emails then bounced back to my room.

Saw her at breakfast earlier and she didn't say why she didn't show or even ask to sit together even though we both pretty much came in at the same time. Obviously I wasn't gonna press the matter, she jus said "see you around" and that was it.

These broads, man...one minute they're so keen and eager, initiating contact and shyt, then they just do a 180 like you did something wrong. Anyways......

:snoop: @ me feeling a little bit of a way about it but oh well, bout to head out to the complex and kick it with some locals.

Whenever you feel hesitancy go in the other direction.

Text a chick she doesn't reply, natural instinct is to text again. But what you should do is pick up the sign and go in the other direction

Ask a chick out on a date she flakes because something comes up. Natural instinct is to ok how about Insert date

What you should do is just go the other direction and next her.

Women are rarely direct with their intentions.


Sometimes you have to communicate in such a way that even if she flakes you technically do not take an L.

Ala I usually eat dinner in the main restaurant at 8, come by and we can continue our conversation

Your implying you've been eating dinner there since you been on your trip, if she shows cool if not no biggie it's not like you went out of way.

Same with the bar at ten



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:patrice: let's break this down breh...you going out of your way to take ya girl out to a nice restaurant on valentines day (bold for emphasis) and she shows her appreciation by throwing a temper tantrum because you didn't pick the parking spot she chose...you match her level of goofiness by taking on a challenge of a shouting match completely blowing up the spot and embarrassing yourself...you fukked her later on that night in which you believe handled the situation but i'm sure she still disrespected you after that event possibly carried on through out your relationship which led to the end of it? :ld:...so to sum it up...she acted like a brat and you accepted...she disrespected you and you accepted it...she took you out your comfort zone and made you embarrass yourself in public...and you accepted...and she even got a nut out of it :leon: now you're left with this belief that you handled the situation when she really tested you...and you failed :heh: i hope you at least had enough self respect to NOT feed her that night cuz i see you didn't mention it? or did you reward her with that also? now gon head and give me another one of those :childplease:'s to show me that you're in the right mind frame dealing with women :obama:

:childplease:
 
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