Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Not By Bread Alone]

I'm just very suspicious of women these days..You just never know man.

This is basically my mindstate.

A female colleague is seeing a male friend of mine. Nice, raised well, homebody type she is. Anyway I know she had this previous man from back in the day but because of the distance between them (7hr drive) they only seen each other a couple of times in the last half a year.

My friend just started hanging out with her. Quite often, and they're getting physical (don't think he's smashed yet though).

But this weekend she's going on a trip OT. She half let it slip in the office who she's meeting up with...

Feel like she's foul for this. Don't know if she has told my friend what the deal is already. Never would've guessed it from her. When I found out they were dating, I did ask her "what's up with you and your man down South?" and she said nothing's happened for a while.

I called her a playa and she said "that's unfair". My face was this:

 

[Kenny West]

It isn't about being socially whatever the fukk you said, it's about having better things to do with yourself than immediately responding to someone as if you don't have better things to do.

And a woman will tell you a lie in a text just like a man will, why? Because if she's out there screwing someone else then obviously she isn't yours (a person can't be yours anyway, you do not own them) and whether you converse or not she or he has the right to not share personal information with you, and it's none of your business. Idea of this thread is you should be focusing on you, bettering yourself, so why the fukk would you care if she's fukking someone else when she's not yours and you're supposedly focusing on bettering yourself. You can't claim to be focusing on yourself and then as soon as someone gives you a hint of attention you run into their open arms. Yeah I've got my phone by me and I see your text, yes I've read it, but yes, I do have shyt to do and if you're feeling me you can wait for a funky ass text.

Right. You guys preach all this "focused on me focused on me, fukk these hoes im focused on me" but then your actions tell an opposite story. Texting back immediately, meticulously planning dates, thoroughly screening and evaluating your women's lives. What you say and the attitude is incongruent with your actions.

the reason I started keeping my phone on silent is because I was disgusted at how I would go to any type of social gathering or event and see 80% of the attendance staring blankly into their phone scrolling. nikkas paying 15 bucks up front to get in a bar just to stand in the corner and simp bytches on twitter

game is only as sincere as the intention of the person using it. I don't text back sometimes as a result of me trying to live my life detached from my phone as well as keeping it on silent. that's what makes me congruent. I'm not acting like I have a busy life/like I got more important shyt to do, I'M LIVING THAT WAY....which is what's attractive to women

also lol @ everybody pulling the "im too grown to do this and that" card. yall don't play your own game, but have no problems playing by the rules of society and women? Do you REALLY want to go on dates to expensive restaurants just to do the typical getting to know you bullshyt? do you really want to wait two dates to fukk?

 

[CrossBones]

the wrong kind of woman in your life will place a greater value on the "highlight" portions of a relationship over all else. she wants things to be extra and always talks to you about these big dreams and wants that she has. she will attempt to have everything that happens between you two to be just as she sees it in her head, ie what is perfect for her. the restaraunts, the weekend trips, the shopping, the wedding, etc etc

these things all, in case you havent noticed it, revolve around an expensive gift or something you need to spend some money on. dont fukk with a woman who says that she needs that from you in order for her to think something is meaningful. its game being run on you. on top of that, its an incredibly unrealistic way of thinking, so you need to stay far away from that.

a woman with thoughts like that will try to build you up as a and bargain her affection in order to make you think she deserves all of this treatment. its her game to make you think youre this great everything to her, and that she needs to be everything to you - so thus, you have to get things for her.



beware of the sweet talking, "can you get this for me?" type of chick.

dont fall for it and keep in mind what life really is. one of the most important things that really do matter in your time on earth, are the little moments. most of your life isnt going to be a honeymoon, a fancy dinner, a nice vacation, sex, or a getaway day at the beach. its most likely going to be you doing you, and her doing her, so make sure everyone fits with the program. at the end of the day, the two of you need to be coming together to make things work in a fair way. the times that do count are the ones where youre both showing an effort to maintain your bond. the times that show character and sticking to your guns. the daily respect and admiration you can have for one another. the times that reveal that the two of you care about each others peace of mind and well being. the type of women you should go for, are the ones who value honesty, who are telling you what really is happening with them (no gossip to their friends), and will willingly stick with you through certain times.



and that has be your intention from the gate: that youre real about yours and need a woman who is the same. dont let a woman start to guide you into her realm of fantasy and special treatment. of having a one sided, motion picturesque perfect relationship. life is not a book, a movie, a soap opera or a music video. many of them still think shyt is supposed to be like that.

its a deep game. tv, single mothers who have failed, and simps are now raising these women. dont let someone have you souped up and willing to play inside one of those roles for them. find someone who is for you and doesnt come off as selfish, cold, unrealistic, or illusioned by fantasy, woman.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Bump*


I met a older puerto rican chick cpl days ago at a mickey d's. I ate mcdonalds 3 days in a row during my half hr break just to get a moment to talk to her, cuz the first day i saw her she kepted glancing over. The next day i went back hoping i would see her again, i bought my food and sat down. Lord.n behold she sits right next to my table and starts conversing with me. From my experience dating a older woman before they aggresive. This chick she looks to be around 45 yrs old, real petite. Last two days we would just sit and talkwhile i wait to finish my break and she waits to pick her niece up from school. Sometimes a older female wont fukk with you if make it obvious u trynna hit. On some "hey ma, let me get ur nunber" type shyt.

Lol i swear that's how one of the older ones is that i like. she'll keep glancing over, eye contact,or if im around she'll always try to bring me into a conversation but i never came at her tho, it kinda like a miss opportunity. crazy thing is she live down stairs from me and is friends with my momma.but if i come at her it got be the right an not hey ma shyt like you said. but wat happen with the rican, did you get her number?

 

[Mofongo]

Lol i swear that's how one of the older ones is that i like. she'll keep glancing over, eye contact,or if im around she'll always try to bring me into a conversation but i never came at her tho, it kinda like a miss opportunity. crazy thing is she live down stairs from me and is friends with my momma.but if i come at her it got be the right an not hey ma shyt like you said. but wat happen with the rican, did you get her number?

Actually not exactly. I aint see her during the weekend, so when i did see her on monday we talked a bit and i gave her my number. My plan was maybe the friendly flirtation wasnt enoug to convince her im interested in a older woman. I told her to call me up so we can go out.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Right. You guys preach all this "focused on me focused on me, fukk these hoes im focused on me" but then your actions tell an opposite story. Texting back immediately, meticulously planning dates, thoroughly screening and evaluating your women's lives. What you say and the attitude is incongruent with your actions.

the reason I started keeping my phone on silent is because I was disgusted at how I would go to any type of social gathering or event and see 80% of the attendance staring blankly into their phone scrolling. nikkas paying 15 bucks up front to get in a bar just to stand in the corner and simp bytches on twitter

game is only as sincere as the intention of the person using it. I don't text back sometimes as a result of me trying to live my life detached from my phone as well as keeping it on silent. that's what makes me congruent. I'm not acting like I have a busy life/like I got more important shyt to do, I'M LIVING THAT WAY....which is what's attractive to women

also lol @ everybody pulling the "im too grown to do this and that" card. yall don't play your own game, but have no problems playing by the rules of society and women? Do you REALLY want to go on dates to expensive restaurants just to do the typical getting to know you bullshyt? do you really want to wait two dates to fukk?

It truly is, it's as if they're trying not to convince themselves that they're thirsty, but if they truly weren't then they wouldn't be in such a rush to set up a date. And then stalking their Instagram and Facebook like damn weirdos You expect privacy, then you better give some. And trying to talk about being superior and such, a superior man who is a winner doesn't worry about what a girl whom he's not even with.

Exactly, don't be in a rush to text back. Put that shyt on hold and go get something done, because believe it or not there's several things that you may need to have done in your life. I don't even text on the go tbh, if we meet up then I call otherwise until I have the chance to properly sit down and think about what I want to say then you're going to have to wait. And that's going for guys and girls. I know guys can't stand me doing that shyt, but then again my phone just keeps me in touch with the world, it doesn't get my work done or clothes washed.

That's a thing I don't get as well.

 

[AffordableSuplexReviews]

So if I'm totally free when I receive a text message from someone, I should immediately find something that occupies my time so that I can't text them back until a later time? Is that what you're telling me?

 

[re'up]

I may be arguing with no one, but I just generally don't (agree) with deliberately not responding, in a reasonable time frame, like just to (envision) them sweat it out, I don't think thats cool, and it goes to simply, treat people basically how you want to be treated. As infrequently as I initiate text convos, I don't care for people waiting three hours to respond, or frequent texting and then leaving someone hanging, there are exceptions everywhere, depends on the person, situation, etc, etc.

If I'm legit busy/in the middle of something, and I need a few minutes to construct a response, maybe I'll take 20 30 minutes, if it's only acknowledgment maybe I'll wait longer, but if some girl texts me 'whats up ____, did you see/did you hear/what are you doing' i'm not going to wait three hours so she thinks I'm busy. Its such a shallow little web of deceit and innuendo we weave to each other, for no fukking reason. Like, 'I'll show him/her i'm important, I'll wait hours to respond', as if it doesn't take 5 minutes to text back.

 

[Jahmal]

So if I'm totally free when I receive a text message from someone, I should immediately find something that occupies my time so that I can't text them back until a later time? Is that what you're telling me?

If I get a text/call from someone and I'm not busy I contact them back. These clowns here be looking down at their watch on some "she texted me at 3pm so I cant text her back until 7pm". GTFOH with that nonsense.

 

[Kenny West]

So if I'm totally free when I receive a text message from someone, I should immediately find something that occupies my time so that I can't text them back until a later time? Is that what you're telling me?

you should be occupying your time so that you dont notice that you received such a text in the first place

 

[Jahmal]

you should be occupying your time so that you dont notice that you received such a text in the first place

So you will respond back to men's questions on a message board immediately but wont respond back to a woman you are feeling ...

 

[Mofongo]

So if I'm totally free when I receive a text message from someone, I should immediately find something that occupies my time so that I can't text them back until a later time? Is that what you're telling me?

shyt sounds dumb. Correct me if im wrong but the whole aspect of waiting to reply is to make it look as if you have a busy life. As if the female is gon think u just sit on ur ass waiting for her to text......

 

[I_Q]

you should be occupying your time so that you dont notice that you received such a text in the first place

This seems a little childish I think yougot meant if he doesn't have anything going on at the time (he's not doing shyt) why should he ignore the text and wait to text back just for the fukk of it. If I found out a chick was doing something so petty I wouldn't deal with her any further so why would I do it

 

[re'up]

To be fair, women, at least some of them definitely do think that, I've heard as much from more then a few. Along the lines of wanting the guy to be busy and not consumed with her, least in the beginning stages. Unfairly, on the other hand, when a women texts me back right away, which almost all of them do, most of the time, I don't look at it like they are so unoccupied with work or whatever else, just they are glued to their phones, which they are, women people in general these days, iphones are like extensions of their hands, in the double fingers interlocked position all day.

 

[Jahmal]

Everyone with a smart phones checks their phone atleast every 10-20 minutes. At my job I see everyone texting, facebooking, tweeting and instagraming on their phones all day long. If a person feels I'm not important enough to respond back in a reasonable time then they get cut off. SMH at these Grown ass men here still playing high school texting games with these broads. Its a Damn Shame!