Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I understand that. The thing is, many men were taught that flirting was disrespectful to women flirting is associated with men only viewing women as sexual objects, not human beings.

im we're just sayin that they were taught wrong and they either learned that from and older woman (who's never gonna keep it real) or and old nikka who's been out the game so long he lost touch :yeshrug:




women like being wanted sexually just like anyone else breh they just like it more subtle



you can only cling on to that "i was taught that-" for so long breh
 

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With the Briggs Meyer personality test, it seems like those who find that it rings most true are the INTJs...which is also the personality type that is highly attracted to message boards. It's interesting seeing how many turn up on message boards, but yet they are only 3 or 4% of the population... and I believe the second rarest type of personality out there.
 

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Regarding the texts/not responding/Eryakah Badu in shower post, I'm conflicted because on one hand, I'm sure it works, I know it does, but isn't that the same thing I (we) get so frustrated with regarding women and their manipulations? The coy text messaging, baiting, ignoring responses on purpose? It is. Rather move above that kinda shyt, even if it costs me.
 

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Regarding the texts/not responding/Eryakah Badu in shower post, I'm conflicted because on one hand, I'm sure it works, I know it does, but isn't that the same thing I (we) get so frustrated with regarding women and their manipulations? The coy text messaging, baiting, ignoring responses on purpose? It is. Rather move above that kinda shyt, even if it costs me.

That's the whole thing about the game breh... Either you play or you don't... Women are less bothered by guilt because to them it's not "game" it's them weeding out the "lame" negroes... They live the game!!! So make sure you know the rules...
 

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Nah, I get it, I know the game, I'm just tired of that shyt from all angles. That's what fukks everything up, all these manipulations, petty little run arounds, baiting, psych war fare, honesty and sincerity is against the rules...it's not naiveté on my part, it's frustration and bitterness.
 

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In regards to the point of needing to have a cold heart, I disagree with that. If you have to have a cold heart in order to deal with women, you might as well not deal with them. Why engage in something you don't actually enjoy?

If you have to change yourself into a state of detachment and not feeling anything in order to deal with women, then you should assess your mindset. Now what you DO have to do is be intelligent and use your noggin and avoid dealing with women that play those wack little games. I'm perfectly down to be warm and friendly to women and if she's in my presence, I'm going to be enjoying myself and I hope she will enjoy herself as well.

Let me give ya'll this simple rule. If you're not enjoying your interaction with her, don't deal with her. Women are something you partake in because you WANT to, not because you NEED to. When cats get in the mindset that they need to deal with women is when they start putting up with a whole lot of nonsense in order to be in the presence of a woman. That is NOT being the prize.

If babygirl is playing all these games or requiring you to be some cold, heartless dude, don't deal with her. The key is to enjoy your life so much without even factoring a woman into the equation in the first place. It's about being a whole man who doesn't need a woman to complete him and who is living a truly blessed life. When you get it right like that, you will be in a position to where you allow women the PRIVILEGE of entering into your life... and if she doesn't enhance your life overall, you don't deal with her, point blank and period.

If she's flaking, beating around the bush, playing these little games, give her the boot and keep it pushing. If you're an employer and you call someone who sent you an application and they don't pick up the phone, THEY are the ones who are at a loss... THEY lost out on an opportunity. Get your life right and don't let these women play with you and things will run a lot smoother.
 

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Always be forward about your intentions.if you are looking for sex,say so.it's much better to be direct from the jump then beat around the bush and then try and be direct,the women who are interested will generally reciprocate.Truth is every woman won't feel you those are the ones that let u kno that they are not interested.the ones who give you grief or decide to give u a 30min dressing down on how u are not supposed to be upfront about your intentions are phony.social conditioning has them confused because how they feel and what they are told to feel are not in sync. these girls will chastize u in public but given time will seek you out for company because of ur brash behavior. At the end of the day voice your true intentions from a place of honesty and you'll never have to deal with manipulative head games.
 
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Woah....didn't expect to derail the thread.

But I caught up to the last few pages. I guess some get it some don't. It aint for everybody. This could take some explaining so long read ahead...but here's how I see it

This thread has harped on about how women can be manipulative by nature. but they are most familiar with manipulation toward them

have you ever wondered why women hate simps? we always see it from our side...nikkas pouring their hearts out, showering her with gifts and compliments, yet at some point the women shyts on them with such malice :wow:

Well I think it's because simps are manipulators. poor ones. they try to buy p*ssy with money or favors, try to manipulate her feelings ("making her feel special" ) or "earn" their way into p*ssy by sticking around or being an emotional tampon. And females see right thru it.

on the other hand the average a$$hole doesn't really give a fukk and treats her AT MOST like any ol person. (and it's only downhill from there) The rapper/baller/athlete see's 100 bad chicks daily and is desensitized to them so much they probably just treat them like shyt. And women love these men

western media brought women this current pedestal position while feminism made society sex crazed. The result it has on dudes is guys treating just a conversation with any ol bop like a fukkin job interview. answering questions dutifully, brown nosing n shyt. :snoop: nikkas forgot that women were people in the quest for p*ssy. they treat the woman as a whole as just some sort of cerberus, a bytchy gatekeeper they have to disarm to gain access to the pink gates of p*ssyhalla. qualifying in general subcommunicates this behavior and this is why women are so disgusted by it secretly.

Good [mind]frame for women is to treat them like kids. or treat them how you would as a kid. don't really take shyt they say seriously, cuz most times they just talkin just to talk. and why not? they hate responsibility and all things adult anyway. I treat them the way they want to be treated. AND IT'S AWESOME. chicks are fun cause you can pull pranks one em, preform wrestling moves on em :ahh:, pull their hair and just be a charming jerk. And they love it. just be plain playful. That's what talkin shyt is. Just banter. and it can be fun too

like, imagine a Jahmal date. :bryan: nikka be lookin at his phone's Quick lil Gems pdf. file under the table like ":guilty: oh yea reincar said to screen her, lemme ask this list of questions"

a date of grillin the chick with questions? that sounds like some shyt gold digger chicks do. that shyt doesn't sound like it would be any fun for her or you

I think most of this thread is stuck at intermediate game....we have our heads on straight and know not to be simpy fakkits but don't really have improvements with their interactions with women. that's where the money is fellas. it starts with mindframe and is carried by subcommunication.

In my other post I see most either glossed over or flat out ignored this quote. but it's my fault for not emphasizing because it's arguably the most important part of the success of the whole "texting randomly" thing that's being so furiously debated. If any part of this is game, this section would be the lion's share of it


To elaborate, say something and SAY NOTHING BACK. don't even check your phone if you have to. the subcommunication is that her reply never mattered. You were just saying what you want/what you thought/saying whatever the fukk you want. To a chick, among all the simps in her phone desperately trying to string together conversation or the stoic ass nikkas trying to not-text their way into her pants, there you are, the cheeky fukk who said he saw a pit bull that looked like her and ignored her laughing/whats up text/simp test/ attempt to keep the conversation going. :wtf:

If you don't text back you:
- Run no risk of becoming her emotional tampon. you'd have to converse to do that
-see where her head is at. if she cant reply to a simple text like that then she's already gone



Now on to the rebuttals


I don't "text first". that shyt don't exist in my world bruh. I text when i want to. if she don't reply or even text back late it doesn't matter because I don't want to talk to them anymore then. Especially if she text back late, I wont reply. I don't interact on her terms, I interact on mine.

As far as the whole text thing working for me, it's a lot better than you'd think. As long as you can do it without a ounce of tryhard in it results are positive. Depending on the quality of the text itself you even start getting back to back replies.

Some personal examples

Me: good day to listen to erykah badu in the shower
Her: Yesss what song?

I didn't reply. not even gamey or charming, i just happened to jam to Mama's gun while gettin ready for work and told someone about it. When I chilled with her (this past week) she went thru her phone and showed me that text and said "Why did you say this? :dwillhuh:" I replied "I was listening to Erykah badu in the shower :manny:"

among all the simps in her phone telegraphing intent (wassup how u doin, what u doin, what do u do for fun) she spent all that time wondering about a 8 word text I sent while dryin my nuts after a shower. that! is swagger

Here is another one I used....it's money. and a little more gamey. if you're having trouble with conveying sexual intent this is a good one. try it on a chick you already got a comfortable vibe with. under no circumstances do you reply to her no matter what she says

Me: idc where you are, grab ur left boob for me
her: huh? (shyt test)
her 21 minutes later: why?

I never replied. texts me out the blue a few days later

same line on a diff chick

her: ok now you come down here and grab the right one (it's a trap!)
her 30 something minutes later: lol i guess not....

The above is probably the most favorable scenario cause she not only went along, but set a trap any thirst nikka or simp would've jumped on. I hit it the next time I saw her



You nikkas is so worried about this army of simps in her phone, but in that sea of numbers there are numbers of SOMEONE WHO IS fukkING THEM. It might as well be me. women don't like simps. they only use them for favors or quick lil ego boosts. For every woman with dozens of nikkas in their phone there is someone who managed to stand out and fukk her. Then there is another someone. and another. next thing you know they're whores.

simps are a dime a dozen and being able to stand out from them is easy. just don't simp. you nikkas are backwards rationalizing any somewhat positive interaction toward women as simping





Just havin fun out there. If you make your interactions with women fun then your "I don't give a fukk" aura is genuine. her manipulations on your emotions don't work, her thirst traps don't work and her lies don't matter. because im just amusing myself. even if you're sort of a a$$hole, it's still attractive to them. think of it like sour patch kids

Sour Patch Kids - YouTube

this is what women mean when they say "Just be yourself". if you're acting within your own interests she can't shake your frame with any manipulation. in turn this makes them like you more. It takes strength of character, congruence, self actualization and a control over your body/hormones. That in itself makes a high value individual. Sometimes the powerful game is knowing when to not play the game at all.
so basically you're subtle in your approach while pursuing women...i think most dudes in here understand that you don't wanna be overly eager or too timid but don't act like it's not a objective here :beli:...i use a similar approach but my shyt is mostly tearing bytches down and making them realize how much of a loser they are, then building them up with their good qualities...i was fukkin with this one mexican and black bytch who had that dumb cassie shaved hairstyle

me: don't you got that joe dirt mullet cut too?
her: lmao fukk you nikka i don't hear no complaints
me: what events took place in ya life where you felt the need to shave ya head like a alabama redneck?
her: i'm a stab you when i see you nikka

after the process of tearing her down i built her up by letting her know that she was cute so she could pull it off but her and any other bytch with that hairstyle was tryna fake stand out by being unique and they looked dumb as hell...it eventually led me to a fwb relationship :yeshrug:
 

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As far as the whole text thing working for me, it's a lot better than you'd think. As long as you can do it without a ounce of tryhard in it results are positive. Depending on the quality of the text itself you even start getting back to back replies.

Some personal examples

Me: good day to listen to erykah badu in the shower
Her: Yesss what song?

I didn't reply. not even gamey or charming, i just happened to jam to Mama's gun while gettin ready for work and told someone about it. When I chilled with her (this past week) she went thru her phone and showed me that text and said "Why did you say this? :dwillhuh:" I replied "I was listening to Erykah badu in the shower :manny:"

among all the simps in her phone telegraphing intent (wassup how u doin, what u doin, what do u do for fun) she spent all that time wondering about a 8 word text I sent while dryin my nuts after a shower. that! is swagger

Here is another one I used....it's money. and a little more gamey. if you're having trouble with conveying sexual intent this is a good one. try it on a chick you already got a comfortable vibe with. under no circumstances do you reply to her no matter what she says

Me: idc where you are, grab ur left boob for me
her: huh? (shyt test)
her 21 minutes later: why?

I never replied. texts me out the blue a few days later

same line on a diff chick

her: ok now you come down here and grab the right one (it's a trap!)
her 30 something minutes later: lol i guess not....

Breh, no offense, but I'm too old to be playing these games you're talking about :scusthov:

Texting someone arbitrarily just to share a random/inconsequential thought? That sounds like something a woman would do :what:
 

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When it comes down to it, we all will deal with women in different ways because we are individuals and what works for one won't work for another. Laid back and cool may work for one guy, and aggressive and up front for another. You have to figure what works for you. We all can be saying things that may seem contrary, but when it comes down to it, if it works for you individually, do THAT.

The key is to avoid engaging in actions that will get you into sucker situations, but how you ultimately approach situations will be an expression of your own individual personality. It doesn't make sense for Mugsy Bogues to try to approach the game of basketball like Shaq. A short guy will have a completely different approach to things than a tall guy. Now where we will all agree on is nobody wants to be played for a sucker or waste their time, so ultimately, we may share a lot of the same principles, but the application will be up to you.

that's the problem with a lot of people telling you exactly what they did. What worked for them may not work for you, given that you have different personalities, the type of girl they used what they used on may not be the type of girl you are talking to at the moment, etc. The key is to just get out there and express YOURSELF instead of looking for some magical formula-- because none exists. Now there are things you do want to do and want to avoid in GENERAL, but past those boundaries, you will operate in your own way.
 

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That's the whole thing about the game breh... Either you play or you don't... Women are less bothered by guilt because to them it's not "game" it's them weeding out the "lame" negroes... They live the game!!! So make sure you know the rules...

nah, if she cannot see i'm quality material, i weed her out. if she starts playing games it's :pacspit: foh. to quote caine karter "p*ssy is so available that you can even buy it". you can't buy quality guys. it's that simple.

what makes them think they are special? because they are pretty and have a vagina? i'm handsome and have a penis, so we're both fulfilling the basic requirements. what more are they bringing to the table? games and tests? sorry, that's not what i'm looking for.
 
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actually its good to wake up and see like 20 new posts :obama:

but again i disagree with the texting games you play sniper, if someone texts me and i see it and im not busy im replying right away, i don't care about the "she may think i have no other options and is not busy

again im 27 you may be younger, but if a woman plays games with me im done with that, i dont need that stress or drama in my life. The only games i play is on my television.

if i text someone adn they text me im replying when i get the text, if i text a girl and she doesnt reply i delete her number and if i never here from her again shrugs.
 

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Regarding the texts/not responding/Eryakah Badu in shower post, I'm conflicted because on one hand, I'm sure it works, I know it does, but isn't that the same thing I (we) get so frustrated with regarding women and their manipulations? The coy text messaging, baiting, ignoring responses on purpose? It is. Rather move above that kinda shyt, even if it costs me.

it is
we all know women have thier phones on em 24/7 and check all the time, so why do you text you get a text back like 1-2 hours later or the next day

its like kevm said look at yourself as the employer hiring, ims ure these chicks would get back asap if you got their resume for a position, no matter how busy they were because they are interested.
 
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