Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[LeVraiPapi]

Never Backpedal Or Explain Yourself

If you say or do something that seems to upset a woman, don’t try to explain your way out of it or do something to “make her feel better.” Don’t act like you screwed up or show her that you’re nervous just because she’s acting upset. Just move on as if nothing happened. Get right on to the next topic or story. If she stays on it, whines or complains, just say “Get over it, it was a joke, stop being a pain,” and then get on to the next topic again. If you try to backpedal or explain yourself or in any way hint that you think you’ve “screwed up,” you’re DEAD MEAT. If you say something and she doesn’t like it, that’s not YOUR problem. Women often complain to see if they can manipulate you with their emotions, and when you show you don’t fall for this, her respect and ATTRACTION for you will go through the roof.

Some chick at work pulled this on me and she been on ignore status since. They were talking about her pants and everybody was saying how they look good on her. So, I was like yeah she gonna have to wear it again cuz I like it too. Mind you that's a female who jokes with me all the time. SHe then blew off like " You not my bf to tell me such Mr. Go find your wife to tell her such". I then replied "Sorry that I used to address you cuz I thought you were more mature even though you act like you still in HS" Then all the girls got on her like he was just complimenting you, why u came at him like that ? She was like "oh if he don't like it, oh well. He too sensitive then"

So I haven't talked to her in 2 weeks and she grabbed my arm like "are we cool now ?" I said "Yeah. We are exactly where we supposed to be at. Let's work cuz that's what we're here for "


Well, she tried to get in my car and I told her "hell NAH!"

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Word up breh I know we had a few disagreements in the past but I know u not a bad poster... I agreed with sniper's advice too about just being funny and texting randomly to spark interest but not be thirsty to chill then disappear for a while to make her wanna be around you... nikkas in here talking about I text her once and ask when we chillin You can tell these nikkas is just trynna portray the celebrities(who naturally have better luck with women due to their status) that they have in their Avatars... "Hard on hoes" How about "Hard and alone" for most of these dudes. Then put some crazy off the wall shyt like "Don't have children brehs" in their titles... This is a thread for DEALING WITH WOMEN! NOT PUNISHING THEM FOR OTHERS MISTAKES IN THE PAST AND SCARING THEM AWAY...

Yeah tbh I had you on ignore, but I'm taking you off just because I saw we shared the same point of view.

And I agree, that's exactly why I've maintained a certain amount of abscence in this thread. It used to be good and I was attracted to it when I was coming from a hurt heart and figured that I needed to change myself and be "hard on hoes" and I sucked in the information and "game" that was sent my way, but honestly that never bettered my situation. What bettered my situation was reading some of the material about focusing on myself and a bit of self-realization. All the information I read now seems to just be coming from a bitter place in the posters hearts. And the weird thing about this thread is we have all of these rules and yet we read and post threads about feminism destroying women and how we have to be the bosses, and how a dude is being cheated on by his girlfriend, etc and at the same time we preach "think about yourself, better yourself, travel, etc". If you truly wanted to better yourself you wouldn't even sift through half of that shyt, you'd be focusing on yourself instead allowing other people's opinion to change your outlook on women and marriage. I don't have an outlook on either, I'm trying to focus on me and what comes my way, comes my way. No need to read threads about trifling women so I can mentally destroy myself by becoming untrusting. No matter how much you better yourself if you're untrusting, you're still insecure. And if guys want to get married, let them get married. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and if it doesn't work out then so what, don't let the idea of failing stop you from doing something. Get married brehß

 

[George Gooney]

Some chick at work pulled this on me and she been on ignore status since. They were talking about her pants and everybody was saying how they look good on her. So, I was like yeah she gonna have to wear it again cuz I like it too. Mind you that's a female who jokes with me all the time. SHe then blew off like " You not my bf to tell me such Mr. Go find your wife to tell her such". I then replied "Sorry that I used to address you cuz I thought you were more mature even though you act like you still in HS" Then all the girls got on her like he was just complimenting you, why u came at him like that ? She was like "oh if he don't like it, oh well. He too sensitive then"

So I haven't talked to her in 2 weeks and she grabbed my arm like "are we cool now ?" I said "Yeah. We are exactly where we supposed to be at. Let's work cuz that's what we're here for "


Well, she tried to get in my car and I told her "hell NAH!"

You did a good thing breh! I think you may need to be a little more stern during your interactions with her... Just so she begins to associate you with being a person who shouldn't be disrespected, a lot of men tolerate disrespect from a female so maybe she thought she could come at you like that... Just be more "strictly business" towards her But still be respectful. No need for her thinking she got under your skin and she has power over you...

Yeah tbh I had you on ignore, but I'm taking you off just because I saw we shared the same point of view.

And I agree, that's exactly why I've maintained a certain amount of abscence in this thread. It used to be good and I was attracted to it when I was coming from a hurt heart and figured that I needed to change myself and be "hard on hoes" and I sucked in the information and "game" that was sent my way, but honestly that never bettered my situation. What bettered my situation was reading some of the material about focusing on myself and a bit of self-realization. All the information I read now seems to just be coming from a bitter place in the posters hearts. And the weird thing about this thread is we have all of these rules and yet we read and post threads about feminism destroying women and how we have to be the bosses, and how a dude is being cheated on by his girlfriend, etc and at the same time we preach "think about yourself, better yourself, travel, etc". If you truly wanted to better yourself you wouldn't even sift through half of that shyt, you'd be focusing on yourself instead allowing other people's opinion to change your outlook on women and marriage. I don't have an outlook on either, I'm trying to focus on me and what comes my way, comes my way. No need to read threads about trifling women so I can mentally destroy myself by becoming untrusting. No matter how much you better yourself if you're untrusting, you're still insecure. And if guys want to get married, let them get married. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and if it doesn't work out then so what, don't let the idea of failing stop you from doing something. Get married brehß

I feel you breh I had you on ignore too but took you off a while ago. While using some of the advice in this thread It got to a point with me where I was like "damn I don't wanna be mad anymore". Dudes ain't even dropping jewels anymore just posting horror stories about SOME trifling women and tales of their mysoginistic revenge conquests... One breh I can say always been on point tho is brother @kevm3 his posts have no malice behind them and it's clear he still respects women and ain't another scourned negro(men shouldn't get scourned only women ). Ima make sure to buy a few copies of his book he working on just to show some support to a positive righteous brother we need more like him in the world!


BE RIGHTEOUS BREHS

 

[LeVraiPapi]

You did a good thing breh! I think you may need to be a little more stern during your interactions with her... Just so she begins to associate you with being a person who shouldn't be disrespected, a lot of men tolerate disrespect from a female so maybe she thought she could come at you like that... Just be more "strictly business" towards her But still be respectful. No need for her thinking she got under your skin and she has power over you...



I feel you breh I had you on ignore too but took you off a while ago. While using some of the advice in this thread It got to a point with me where I was like "damn I don't wanna be mad anymore". Dudes ain't even dropping jewels anymore just posting horror stories about SOME trifling women and tales of their mysoginistic revenge conquests... One breh I can say always been on point tho is brother @kevm3 his posts have no malice behind them and it's clear he still respects women and ain't another scourned negro(men shouldn't get scourned only women ). Ima make sure to buy a few copies of his book he working on just to show some support to a positive righteous brother we need more like him in the world!


BE RIGHTEOUS BREHS

She was trynna come in to dig my gold cuz she saw my car thinking I am one of those dumazz neggas trynna trick


She was naming places she wanna go and I hit her with the I been there with my wife of course. I m telling you she is a pure gold digger. She acted outta spite. Then she tried to get in my car

Now I m all biz like you say and she been acting strange trynna show she got neggas trynna hit it daily.


Talking to some random dude saying I miss u and the negga going like "What ?"

 

[MikelArteta]

if your happy being in the friendzone, happy being that emotional tampon, then by all means keep being the person who alwas contacts first. Keep being that lame lance screen shot saying hey how are you a few times a week. It's not abou being hard on hoes its about having self respect for you.

if you want to be that quirky little friend with the playful banter getting some lols and ish then by all means

 

[George Gooney]

if your happy being in the friendzone, happy being that emotional tampon, then by all means keep being the person who alwas contacts first. Keep being that lame lance screen shot saying hey how are you a few times a week. It's not abou being hard on hoes its about having self respect for you.

if you want to be that quirky little friend with the playful banter getting some lols and ish then by all means

Breh I wasn't even coming at u I was talking about that other nikka... I already know the signs to avoid when dealing with women and avoiding the friendzone. I dropped several of of my gems in this thread and got dapped up by mad nikkas (even you) but why nikkas coming at other dudes trynna do they thing??? It's pointless being angry at women! we can't change the entire female gender we can only change ourselves. And somewhere along this thread that point was lost! You been dropping Jewels that I learned from and i'm grateful keep it up... But other nikkas haven't been doing nothing but complaining and arguing with they own brothers in the struggle name calling and shyt aint what we here for..

 

[I_Q]

at what this thread has turned into...

It's a lot of gems being dropped all I can say is take what you can from this thread and k.i.m. We all ain't gonna agree with each other 100% of the time (unless its Kevm dropping knowledge) we've all had different experiences with women and we all bring something different to the table, don't get discouraged if you read shyt you don't agree with in here. Plus some nikkas just like to troll and argue

 

[T-K-G]

@ nikkas just realizing the thread was veering in the wrong direction

 

[George Gooney]

@ nikkas just realizing the thread was veering in the wrong direction

lol in my defense I rarely enter this thread anymore... If I come across I gem I wanna share i'll pop through or just skim through real quick when i'm bored...

 

[T-K-G]

lol in my defense I rarely enter this thread anymore... If I come across I gem I wanna share i'll pop through or just skim through real quick when i'm bored...

i feel you breh, alot of nikkas in here forgot that women are people too



nikkas really in here tryna go at sniper cuz he's fine with being friends with a few bytches



a real nikka once told me you can't be tryna smash/get into a relationship with every broad you met, some of em can be friends that can look out for you just like ya nikkas do AND they can help you out when you havin woman problems...




but these nikkas are either team #HardonHoes or they on some scorned shyt, posts readin like a Tyler Perry script

nikkas just as extreme as the feminists they complain about

 

[Jahmal]

Invasion of the Simps!

 

[George Gooney]

i feel you breh, alot of nikkas in here forgot that women are people too



nikkas really in here tryna go at sniper cuz he's fine with being friends with a few bytches



a real nikka once told me you can't be tryna smash/get into a relationship with every broad you met, some of em can be friends that can look out for you just like ya nikkas do AND they can help you out when you havin woman problems...




but these nikkas are either team #HardonHoes or they on some scorned shyt, posts readin like a Tyler Perry script

nikkas just as extreme as the feminists they complain about

Seriously breh... I first came in this thread to IMPROVE my interaction with certain kinds of females but some of these negros acting like they want women exterminated or some shyt...

 

[kevm3]

A lot of those old school sayings got 'for-real' meaning behind it. It's just our emotions that make us get caught up and think we can do the unthinkable. Chris Brown found out the hard way... He thought he 'owned' Rihanna, but a woman with those kind of urges can never be held in check forever. If you're with a woman that likes to get down, she will eventually get back to her old nature more times than not.

For as much money and as much fame as Chris Brown has, it still wasn't enough to keep Rihanna faithful. Some women just want to explore, and by giving an exclusive contract to someone who likes to try different men out, you'll be setting yourself up.

Remember this if nothing else. Your 'game' will not be able to make a woman with a ho nature eliminate her tendencies... You can only make her hide it for a while. She will be on her 'best behavior' while she is infatuated with you, but once those feelings go away, which can be anywhere from a couple of months to a couple of years, when she sees a new cat that gives her that itch, she's licking her lips and ready to try something new... and a lot of times you will be kept around as the emotional/financial provider. That's what happens when these women go 'cold' out of nowhere for no realr eason.

This is an important lesson to learn because sometimes cats love to overlook a woman's history and think that 'her past doesn't matter. It only matters what she does when she's with me.' Why that statement makes little sense is that the habits she developed in the past will very likely repeat themselves while she is with you. People CAN change, but more times than not, people revert back to the patterns they engaged in in the past. So unless she has had a religious conversion or some similar event which has caused her to become committed to acting in a more appropriate fashion.

What often happens is the guy convinces himself he has so much unbelievable game that he can change a woman and couples that with the fact that he believes the 'new woman' spiel she gave him... aka he believes the 3 month mirage. She's SO sweet, she is a hidden gem! I'm so unlucky.How could she have gone on untaken? Then when the 3 months passes by and her real nature starts to leak to the surface and he no longer has the new negro smell, so she loses a lot of her infatuation, then her old tendencies start to resurface. This is when she starts getting cold and you just don't see her as much... aka you get the 'I'm so busy rap'. Of course she won't completely let go of you until she's got her next thing locked in, so you'll get variations of the busy rap until one day she pops up talking about, "We need to talk".

The importance of this knowledge is to help save yourself a lot of time and funds investing into someone that is just playing around with you. The past isn't a sole determining factor of someone's future actions, but it plays a huge role. If she was getting around when she met you, she's highly likely to get around while she's with you.

 

[Malta]

Volunteer work is a great screener, how many self centered "Bad bytches" you know that actually use their free time to help others?

 

[kevm3]

Here's something else to keep in mind.
Women are soft in their nature, so they don't want a soft man. If they wanted something like themselves, they'd go get with a woman. That's why even those pretty lesbian chicks go for women that look like men.

What's tough about dealing with women is that you will often have to act in a fashion that is contrary to what you're feeling. When you're really digging a woman , you have to be careful not to let your emotions override common sense. It's real easy to turn into a snuggle bear when you start digging a woman and your heart is feeling all warm, but you need to keep your cool.

When you start getting sweet on a woman, sooner or later she will view you as soft. Now, what makes this so tricky is that, while she's in your face, she will actually reward you for that soft, sweet behavior. She will tell you, "Awwww, you're so sweet. I am SO lucky to have a guy like you." You sit back and think you are doing things right, but then a couple of weeks to a few months later, she starts to act funny. You just got dumped into the emotional provider role. In her mind you're the soft guy who is 'always there' for her and she can hit up whenever she needs to. When you become this guy, you get hit with the 'I'm so busy' spiel a lot.

Now, when you're that real dude... you keep it solid... she will complain about your behavior and make you think you are doing the wrong thing, but for some odd reason, you can never shake her. If you must know one thing about women, they constantly categorize men. The sort of actions you engage in, and thus the feeling you start leaving her with, determine what category you get put in. Typically there is the category of 'the man' and category of 'snugglebuddy' aka guy who is two steps from the friend zone and being used as a provider. You need to stay out of the latter category because you will end up getting used and abused if you get dumped off in there.