Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Reality]

One that I've figured out over the years and have had women tell me I'm right:

When a girl is bytching about something, don't try to fix it. She just wants to vent. I used to try to quick fix shyt because that's what men do we fix things. Forget that. She just wants to get out her emotions and tell you how the world is trying to fukk her.

True to a degree. My girl actually takes my advice, it just takes some time to sink in after she vents.

Here's how i handle it:

Her: Complain complain
Me: *silent*
Her: Problem is so bad. It's such a problem.
Me: *silent*
Her: Ugh just so frustrated/confused/angry
*5 minute lmit reached*
Me: Ok, well have you ever thought about doing xyzabc?
Her: Well if i x then i cant do e because blah blah blah
Me: Fine...just my two cents. *Reiterates solution--does not get in argument...indicates conversation is over by going to do something else*
Her: You're not a good listener (or some variation of this)

*6 weeks later*

Her: Baby, you were right. I'm glad I xyz-ed. I'm glad you pushed me.
Me: you owe me sex and a sammich
Her: Glad to oblige.

basically how it goes in my relationship. but i have a good girl from a smaller town in the south. some of these chicks you just have to ignore.

 

[Jesus]

I need some advice from the fellow members around here.

Ever since I got completely shytted on by the chic that I used to be cool with a couple of years ago, I been working on myself and learning how to deal with women. During this time, I seen or experience all of the flakiness, emotional games, double standard, etc and it has made me very leary when I'm dealing with women now.

A couple of weeks ago, I got this number from the PAWG at a bar and we going to meet up later on tonight to get to know each other more. It been a minute since I been on a date, espically with a chic who I find attractive. Back during my sucker/simp days, I would be excited about the opportunity for this but now I just feel cold going into the date. Is this normal how some guys feel when they are dating again after a bad experience with a woman or two? I'm not trying to make myself look like a sucker for love or a simp again over a woman. I not really looking for a relationship or love because I'm trying to move to California soon but a part of me would like to have some type of female companionship ever now and then. A man get tired of going to the movies or bars by his lonesome from time to time. Any feedback would be greatly appreicated. Thanks

When I set dates...I go in expecting her to cancel/be late/re-schedule.

Got this girl's number at work on Thursday and set a date for Friday...she cancelled that Thursday's evening for a friend's graduation she got last minute tickets to. She suggested Sunday. We'll see what happens.

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

When I set dates...I go in expecting her to cancel/be late/re-schedule.

Got this girl's number at work on Thursday and set a date for Friday...she cancelled that Thursday's evening for a friend's graduation she got last minute tickets to. She suggested Sunday. We'll see what happens.

That the mindset that i'm in now. I keep checking my phone for the cancellation text.


Why the game is sooooo fukked up?!?!

 

[George Gooney]

Never Backpedal Or Explain Yourself

If you say or do something that seems to upset a woman, don’t try to explain your way out of it or do something to “make her feel better.” Don’t act like you screwed up or show her that you’re nervous just because she’s acting upset. Just move on as if nothing happened. Get right on to the next topic or story. If she stays on it, whines or complains, just say “Get over it, it was a joke, stop being a pain,” and then get on to the next topic again. If you try to backpedal or explain yourself or in any way hint that you think you’ve “screwed up,” you’re DEAD MEAT. If you say something and she doesn’t like it, that’s not YOUR problem. Women often complain to see if they can manipulate you with their emotions, and when you show you don’t fall for this, her respect and ATTRACTION for you will go through the roof.

 

[Two Stacks]

i wouldnt even ask my mom for 1700

take. Bold bytch to ask for 1700 bucks.

tell her to put it on her visa

Her: So I take that as a no, right?!


bytch.....my mom wouldnt even ask me for $1700.

 

[Jahmal]

Edit: lol @ the wasting my time part. bruh it's a text. it's a low committal form of communication that takes two seconds. use it as just that

Have fun being her text buddy breh

 

[MikelArteta]

When I set dates...I go in expecting her to cancel/be late/re-schedule.

Got this girl's number at work on Thursday and set a date for Friday...she cancelled that Thursday's evening for a friend's graduation she got last minute tickets to. She suggested Sunday. We'll see what happens.

when a chick cancels on me thats it, those last minute excuses are bushes status.

 

[George Gooney]

Pretending....I guess that's the difference. I do it cuz I really don't care and I can enjoy women as people regardless of the fukkery that they have.

I think the problem with a lot of dudes is that they put so much value and importance on sex that they forget to just enjoy themselves. I'm like just havin fun out there.

Edit: lol @ the wasting my time part. bruh it's a text. it's a low committal form of communication that takes two seconds. use it as just that

I agree with much of what u said in theory but the execution would be key to that technique's success(you seem like u understand the technique tho props). Don't even bother arguing with these "Hard on hoes" negroes that think "if we ain't discussing a meetup then fukk her!" How does she know if she wants to meet with u or not if u overly serious and non-inviting to them??? Kepp your shyt up tho breh the only brehs you can really take serious on here are @His_Excellence_Reincar and @kevm3 and a couple others...

 

[George Gooney]

well enjoy being in the friendzone breh

and actually i dont care about sex, ive been celibate the past two years, i just refuse to be some text buddy emotional tampon

u gotta understand where dude is coming from tho reincar he's on to something...

 

[Medio]

swag.....



Bruh, i know nikkas here are on some never text first shyt....but YOU have to set the tone for your interactions with women. that tit for tat "ill text you only after you text me" or "wait ten minutes to text" shyt is bad frame man... she playin games and you playin too. is that how you really want your interactions to be? it usually just ends up with you chalking the girl or just bullshyt...probably the former more often than not. this aint what you want

let's be real with ourselves here. If you take a chick number you're pretty much interested in her. and if getting her number ended cold with you deleting it then I think it's pretty safe to say you didnt follow your original interest when you met her. If it was poker you would have folded. How are you ever gonna win at poker if you always folding? you don't have to view starting a convo via text as chasing (unless you don't have any other communication with her, then I strongly advise against it)

I pretty much text my bytches whenever I want and however I want. most times I text slow, sometimes fast, sometimes I don't text back at all It's easy for me cause I always have my phone on silent

you just have to establish the precedent for randomness. some things like:

- don't wait times to text. text back randomly and just make sure you aren't texting back 5 or 10 minutes exactly or taking the same amount of time. contrary to popular belief bytches aren't that stupid as to not pick up on it. take a long time most times, and text quickly (< 5 mins) rarely.
- don't try to start conversations every time yall text. just say some drive by comment or funny shyt (steer away from opinion shyt doe). even if she tries to extend it. if she can't even reply to shyt like this then she might as well be chalked.
- if your gonna have a convo don't let that shyt extend past 7 texts....when you near 7 start steering the convo toward the meet up
- text at random times. random text about nothing at booty call hours with no reply to her response has them

The point? to set a precedent as a person who communicates with her who DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING FROM HER. In her mind, this makes you different from the 99% of dudes who she thinks all want her p*ssy. That's the best thing about women man. they're people you can prank, talk stupid shyt with and generally not take seriously and they LOVE YOU for it

not even going to lie this was kind of eye opening to me, i'm not super enlightened but i kind of realized something about balance.it's hard to find the balance of keep her interested and not appearing too interested and you said it completely right 'communicate with her by being someone who doesn't want anything from her'. I have a feeling this works pretty well. I may have to try to start that keep your phone silent thing.

I do believe it's fine when you text first sometimes but if you feel it's one sided and she NEVER text you first or has stopped texting you first you have to fall back and just see what happens, try to keep her interest up.

 

[DaRealness]

A lil piece of random advice: Don't get baited into any silly public arguments with chicks who aren't even your woman. Just KIM. It's not a good look and plus since we live in a society of manginas/white knights and feminists, the chances are someone in the audience who isn't even involved is gonna cape for the female and chime in to gang up on you. I've seen it before.

A long time ago I was coming out this building I had work in and there were a few other leaving too, some were in front of me and some chick was way behind me walking slow. So it was one of those doors that close back very slowly, so when you're walking out and you kinda pull the door all the way behind you so the other person behind has more than enough time to to walk through it or at least grab the handle when they get to it? Anyways, I did that and I hear this voice behind me shout in this sarcastic tone "thanks for holding the door for me like everyone else did for you!" Everyone turned around and I looked around to see this chick giving me some nasty glare then I'm looking at her like and just said "yeah whatever" and just walked to my car. Then she shouts "it's called MANNERS!" Now who the fukk yells at a complete stranger over some bullshyt like that, but rather than get into some shouting match with some woman I don't even know or care about, I just got in my car and bounced.

A lot of these chicks are just man hating attention whores with abandonment issues or they simply feed off negative energy and have to start some kind of shyt to deliberately provoke some kind of an argument or confrontation cos that's all they know (sometimes they'll do that to a dude because they 'like' him as if a guy is really wanna fukk with a chick who acts like that ) and love to talk greasy especially when there's a lot of people around.

Just walk away or completely ignore them altogether and have them looking as stupid as they are.

 

[Jahmal]

u gotta understand where dude is coming from tho reincar he's on to something...

He's reporting LIVE from the bottom of the FRIENDZONE!

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

@Meet The Sniper

Your advice is really good. Good pointers and such. I think all of this rules and regulation things that are emphasized in this thread are over dramatized. I'm not on a power trip, and I don't want the control because I'm nonchalant about the whole thing. Unless shyt is that serious which in most cases it isn't, you should just do you.

Thanks for the good advice though.

 

[George Gooney]

@Meet The Sniper

Your advice is really good. Good pointers and such. I think all of this rules and regulation things that are emphasized in this thread are over dramatized. I'm not on a power trip, and I don't want the control because I'm nonchalant about the whole thing. Unless shyt is that serious which in most cases it isn't, you should just do you.

Thanks for the good advice though.

Word up breh I know we had a few disagreements in the past but I know u not a bad poster... I agreed with sniper's advice too about just being funny and texting randomly to spark interest but not be thirsty to chill then disappear for a while to make her wanna be around you... nikkas in here talking about I text her once and ask when we chillin You can tell these nikkas is just trynna portray the celebrities(who naturally have better luck with women due to their status) that they have in their Avatars... "Hard on hoes" How about "Hard and alone" for most of these dudes. Then put some crazy off the wall shyt like "Don't have children brehs" in their titles... This is a thread for DEALING WITH WOMEN! NOT PUNISHING THEM FOR OTHERS MISTAKES IN THE PAST AND SCARING THEM AWAY...

 

[George Gooney]

at what this thread has turned into...