Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[PrettyCoach]

90%+ of the things that happen to you in life are your own fault. Very seldom are you ever a victim. You misunderstand the mood in this thread and forum. This isn't about blaming women its about an enlightenment of self so you don't fall into common mistakes people make.

I understand where you are coming from but please read some of the quotes that are said. Women are the reason for divorce. Take as long as you want as a man bc the older you get the better your options are. Women getting older is their downfall. You are saying that this forum has not turned into a female bashing as it always does. I believe that things happen to ppl bc of their own actions but one thing i have learned about these forums always find a way to only blame the female which is hilarious to me. I understand advice but give advice on both spectrums not just pumping up the male ego and diminishing the females in the process. By all mean women are not perfect either. We have our downfalls but come on yall dont be one sided all the time.

 

[winb83]

Women file for divorce the vast majority of the time.

as a man the older one gets the more options are available to him because a man's quality of life improves with age.

a woman is primarily judged on things that decline with age.

most of the angry men here have been taken advantage of by women. In the end they allowed it to happen but at the same time it doesn't excuse the woman from her actions.

 

[jadillac]

The Damselfish: Yeah Im A Tease,I Dont Have Nothing Better To Do
Lots of recent changes, seeing I'm so picky. Kinda given up on love. Going on 4yrs since something serious. So I should have FUN in the meantime with smart affluent charming bossmen. Yea I am a flirt, but most certainly take the right gentlemen seriously and put all the games aside.
Got a soft spot for hot cowboys, men who like to get dirty and clean up well. Also prefer men older than me.

If you broke,ghetto,still sagging,smoke, shoes dirty, income under 50g's. Dont write me. Six figures would be a plus. Judge me, my preferences. I dont date broke men, just like I dont date men who smoke. Been there done that MY PREFERENCES....But thanks for coming by. Real simple...

I know I seem kinda harsh and bluntly honest, im really a sweetheart get lots of mail. So this will help cut back on unnecessary time wasted for the both of us. Good luck in your search!

Who's going to take this prize off the market? Man up, fellas!

I love the way women like this say, "I have standards....I have preferences"....and as a man, if you fit those bills, you think "cool...i can holla at her"......but if you step back for a few mins, if you have any common sense, you'll be like "This woman wants all these THINGS, but does she want ME?"

You're telling me about all what I should be and you can't even speak proper English, "...I Dont Have Nothing Better To Do"

i remember growing up...people were like make you always compliment a bytch and what not


now i look back..thats automatic no p*ssy

Yeah, i wonder if it's changed, or if it's always been like tat.

I think back then as youngster, girls really liked compliments, but as times change the thirtsty generation has ruined the game. With facebook, twitter, and dudes just being thirsty in general in public, most women are oblivious to compliments.

 

[PrettyCoach]

I do not advise any male to get married in this matriotic society , for a man it's just not worth it. Until the laws are changed and there is family law reform it is a losing Investment

The World is overpopulated how it is already, the dumb will continue to lie with ratchet chicks, men will continue to get married thinking they know more an there situation is different.

I can't control what people want to do I just point out how it's stacked against them.

As a Christian, yes God does mention marriage a man and a wife coming together m.

He also doesn't mention alimony and child support, divorce only when adultery is committed and women submitting to their husband.

No where is engagement rings, a white wedding dress, naggin wives, divorce child support mentioned




Its always funny when the men always says that a woman is supposed to submit to their husbands. The funny thing is men forget that men are supposed to submit to God and the church. Yall throw this wife submit like ppl throw slavery around but forget what the man is supposed to do. For the christians in the bible:


Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband" (Ephesians 5:21-33).

Now yall know that its not just a wife submitting to their husband but a husband is supposed to love their wife like they love themselves.

 

[Ohene]

Women file for divorce the vast majority of the time.

as a man the older one gets the more options are available to him because a man's quality of life improves with age.

a woman is primarily judged on things that decline with age.

most of the angry men here have been taken advantage of by women. In the end they allowed it to happen but at the same time it doesn't excuse the woman from her actions.

its the sad reality for these women.

 

[Ohene]

Unless you find that "Lebron James" level woman, then you don't wife girls up and have kids.

You build franchises with "Lebrons"(starting a family, settling down), you bring in "Shane Battier" types for limited minutes and to hit shots. You never commit nor build anything of significance with "Shane Battier", only the superstars(women who strive for success, responsible, virtuous, etc) get commitment or kids.

That is all

i see nikkas is listening to my analogies dap

 

[jadillac]

Yo, ever single message i get from girls on OKCupid is "Hi there" or "hey "
or "How are you"? Yet they say in there profile don't message me with just hi or hey, be creative.

Here i am writing stand up routines as my opening message just to have some bird not even click my profile.

What part of the game is that bro?

100% truth.

They do this all the time. I'll get a message from a chick and it'll just say "Hey"....I'm like It shows they dont take teh time to read ur profile and are only going off ur pics.

I dont even stress myself over stuff to say anymore bruh. You'll learn that, too. Just message them something basic about their picture or something they like

 

[Ohene]

I feel all yall men bytch and complain in this forum about what women have done to you but NEVER look at yourself and realize maybe JUST MAYBE it might be yall. hmmm

Lies. Men are logical.

One thing I'm sure we have all done in our past is apologize to our women for our wrongdoings and maybe even plead for forgiveness and stuff to go back to what it once was.

But as the saying goes when a women is fed up there is nothing you can do. It can be the smallest , undeserving reason or the largest deserving reason but the fact remains...when love is lost it is gone forever in a girls mind. Or rather until its convenient for them to come back

Like I said earlier we realize we aint perfect and one of the things want in a women is for them to understand were not perfect but to instead focus on the strengths are helping us better ourselves. Notice I said helping which is not synonymous with molding. 'Cause Girls often try to mold men into their own figurine and get all bent when it doesnt work or even more fascinating...when it does work they even get bored sometimes and look for the next challenge ...

The fact of the matter is yall cant plead negligence either regarding our characters. Of course some people may end up flipping switches and turning into completely different people...but how often really? Besides cheating...or some sort of deep, dark scandalous secret being revealed...no reason should exist to pull some of the 180s that girls do. But it happens regardless. Maybe they just aint feeling it anymore...somebody else got the girl attention or they aint built for the relationship life.

If that is so its is fair regardless...but please let your actions be consistent with your reasoning. For the sake of my brethren. Dont say you dont wanna boyfriend and then let a man see you hugged up in bed on facebook with the new starter. Have decency. Dont say that you need time to think and then let a man hear about you in the club drinking alchohol and acting sleezy. etc etc. Don't act like we are monsters and then start sending us breadcrumb messages, saying shyt like you wanna be friends or maybe in the future. If I was that badwhy would you still want me in your life?

 

[PrettyCoach]

Lies. Men are logical.

One thing I'm sure we have all done in our past is apologize to our women for our wrongdoings and maybe even plead for forgiveness and stuff to go back to what it once was.

But as the saying goes when a women is fed up there is nothing you can do? It can be the smallest , undeserving reason or the largest deserving reason but the fact remains...when love is lost it is gone forever in a girls mind.

Like I said earlier we realize we aint perfect and one of the things want in a women is for them to understand were not perfect but to instead focus on the strengths are helping us better ourselves. Notice I said helping which is not synonymous with molding. 'Cause Girls often try to mold men into their own figurine and get all bent when it doesnt work or even more fascinating...when it does work they even get bored sometimes and look for the next challenge ...

The fact of the matter is yall cant plead negligence either regarding our characters. Of course some people may end up flipping switches and turning into completely different people...but how often really? Besides cheating...or some sort of deep, dark scandalous secret being revealed...no reason should exist to pull some of the 180s that girls do. But it happens regardless. Maybe they just aint feeling it anymore...somebody else got the girl attention or they aint built for the relationship life.

If that is so its is fair regardless...but please let your actions be consistent with your reasoning. For the sake of my brethren. Dont say you dont wanna boyfriend and then let a man see you hugged up in bed on facebook with the new starter. Have decency. Dont say that you need time to think and then let a man hear about you in the club drinking alchohol and acting sleezy. etc etc. Don't act like we are monsters and then start sending us breadcrumb messages, saying shyt like you wanna be friends or maybe in the future. If I was that badwhy would you still want me in your life?

ok by no means did I say that women are angels. Yes men are logic but that doesnt mean your logic is good or right. We do some f'up things also. We lie, cheat and play men against each other. We trick off men also. All i was saying was i have been in these forums and feel that all the thread starts are all women bashing. I know there are men that mess up and then ask for forgiveness. They beg to be with the women. Now some men do look for something new like new face to smash or get tired of the being tied down. These are things that happen to all sexes. All i meant was that if men are going to blame women to look at what they have done themselves. My point is take the plank out of your own eye instead of trying to take it out of someone elses.

 

[Captain Crunch]

I understand where you are coming from but please read some of the quotes that are said. Women are the reason for divorce. Take as long as you want as a man bc the older you get the better your options are. Women getting older is their downfall. You are saying that this forum has not turned into a female bashing as it always does. I believe that things happen to ppl bc of their own actions but one thing i have learned about these forums always find a way to only blame the female which is hilarious to me. I understand advice but give advice on both spectrums not just pumping up the male ego and diminishing the females in the process. By all mean women are not perfect either. We have our downfalls but come on yall dont be one sided all the time.

I understand what you're saying.
At the end of the day, this is a thread about men dealing with women, so it's going to be from the male perspective. We've had several ladies come in and ask for advice, and they're questions have been answered fairly and respectful.

Sure you can say that there has been some female bashing, but the overall vibe of this thread has been about enlightenment rather than bashing females.

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel all yall men bytch and complain in this forum about what women have done to you but NEVER look at yourself and realize maybe JUST MAYBE it might be yall. hmmm

Where have I said anything differerent?

Mostly everything posted is here to help folks not make the mistakes we did

On the other hand as a man you can choose the best partner take all precautions and still get burned.

 

[Ohene]

ok by no means did I say that women are angels. Yes men are logic but that doesnt mean your logic is good or right. We do some f'up things also. We lie, cheat and play men against each other. We trick off men also. All i was saying was i have been in these forums and feel that all the thread starts are all women bashing. I know there are men that mess up and then ask for forgiveness. They beg to be with the women. Now some men do look for something new like new face to smash or get tired of the being tied down. These are things that happen to all sexes. All i meant was that if men are going to blame women to look at what they have done themselves. My point is take the plank out of your own eye instead of trying to take it out of someone elses.

that may be true but on some real shyt men are more real with it I find to the point where they may play you but its a women's fault for not knowing.

i cant speak on tricking and gold digging cause I've never experienced that but honestly If I were I wouldnt bash women for it because i'd be the fool that allowed it. But its that much more frustrating and detrimental to one's esteem or midnset to have a girl in love with you then stop messing with you over some petty shyt (my case). Or to be tricking on you and then act like it wasnt that all along and then you did something fukked up when you really didnt...having your mind running circles and shyt (case of others as it seems)

 

[Sharp]

ok by no means did I say that women are angels. Yes men are logic but that doesnt mean your logic is good or right. We do some f'up things also. We lie, cheat and play men against each other. We trick off men also. All i was saying was i have been in these forums and feel that all the thread starts are all women bashing. I know there are men that mess up and then ask for forgiveness. They beg to be with the women. Now some men do look for something new like new face to smash or get tired of the being tied down. These are things that happen to all sexes. All i meant was that if men are going to blame women to look at what they have done themselves. My point is take the plank out of your own eye instead of trying to take it out of someone elses.

You can't rationalize with a woman on things like this. Women don't apologize and hardly if ever take fault for their actions. A woman will manipulate you into somehow believing that you are the reason she acts the way she does. ADULTS TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR WHAT THEY DO. So PrettyCoach, this is exactly what you're not doing... "BUT, BUT, MAYBE ITS YOU".... Women can't admit their faults, and we know this, so I'm not surprised.

The purpose of this thread is for men to pay attention to the type of women they encounter and deal with. The older veterans, such as myself, made these mistakes so the youngins don't have to. At the end of the day I hold myself accountable for the bad choices I've made with the women I decided to deal with. We're making men much more keen on the things that women do. I also understand that most women are master manipulators and therefore a logical thread like this highlights the negative traits she so desperately attempts to hide by using her sex appeal and her self-proclaimed entitlement as a woman.

And woman will continue to believe that every man that they ever dealt with caused the demise of their relationships.

Woman and accountability

So with all due respect, I can't even listen to your nonsense and this is not the thread for it.

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

Women adore/lust/crave men with power the same way we lust after gorgeous women. If your lady steps out on you, chances are its because the other man was more powerful. Not in the sense of brute force, but his "powerful figure" is greater than yours. Just as we have laws of physics, its one of the laws of human nature.

Respect it.

 

[MikelArteta]

its typical of women to use shaming language when men dont pander to their whims

Shaming tactics are emotional devices meant to play on a man’s insecurities and shut down debate. They are meant to elicit sympathy for women and to demonize men who ask hard questions. Most, if not all, shaming tactics are basically ad homimem attacks.

Charge of Irascibility (Code Red)

Discussion: The target is accused of having anger management issues. Whatever negative emotions he has are assumed to be unjustifiable. Examples:

“You’re bitter!”
“You need to get over your anger at women.”
“You are so negative!”

Response: Anger is a legitimate emotion in the face of injustice. It is important to remember that passive acceptance of evil is not a virtue.


Charge of Hypersensitivity (Code Blue) – The Crybaby Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of being hysterical or exaggerating the problems of men (i.e., he is accused of playing “Chicken Little”). Examples:

“Stop whining!”
“Get over it!”
“Suck it up like a man!”
“You guys don’t have it as nearly as bad as us women!”
“You’re just afraid of losing your male privileges.”
“Your fragile male ego …”
“Wow! You guys need to get a grip!”

Response: One who uses the Code Blue shaming tactic reveals a callous indifference to the humanity of men. It may be constructive to confront such an accuser and ask if a certain problem men face needs to be addressed or not (“yes” or “no”), however small it may be seem to be. If the accuser answers in the negative, it may constructive to ask why any man should care about the accuser’s welfare since the favor will obviously not be returned. If the accuser claims to be unable to do anything about the said problem, one can ask the accuser why an attack is necessary against those who are doing something about it.


Charge of Overgeneralization (Code Gray)

Discussion: The target is accused of making generalizations or supporting unwarranted stereotypes about women. Examples:

“I’m not like that!”
“Stop generalizing!”
“That’s a sexist stereotype!”

Response: One may point out that feminists and many other women make generalizations about men. Quotations from feminists, for example, can be easily obtained to prove this point. Also, one should note that pointing to a trend is not the same as overgeneralizing. Although not all women may have a certain characteristic, a significant amount of them might.



Charge of Misogyny (Code Black)

Discussion: The target is accused of displaying some form of unwarranted malice to a particular woman or to women in general. Examples:

“You misogynist creep!”
“Why do you hate women?”
“Do you love your mother?”
“You are insensitive to the plight of women.”
“You are mean-spirited.”
“You view women as doormats.”
“You want to roll back the rights of women!!”
“You are going to make me cry.”

Response: One may ask the accuser how does a pro-male agenda become inherently anti-female (especially since feminists often claim that gains for men and women are “not a zero-sum game”). One may also ask the accuser how do they account for women who agree with the target’s viewpoints. The Code Black shaming tactic often integrates the logical fallacies of “argumentum ad misericordiam” (viz., argumentation based on pity for women) and/or “argumentum in terrorem” (viz., arousing fear about what the target wants to do to women).


Charge of Superficiality (Code Gold) – The All-That-Glitters Charge

Discussion: The charge of superficiality is usually hurled at men with regard to their mating preferences. Examples:

“If you didn’t go after bimbos, then …”
“How can you be so shallow and turn down a single mother?”

Response: Average-looking women can be just as problematic in their behavior as beautiful, “high-maintanence” women. Regarding the shallowness of women, popular media furnishes plenty of examples where petty demands are made of men by females (viz., those notorious laundry lists of things a man should/should not do for his girlfriend or wife).


Charge of Defeatism (Code Maroon)

Discussion: This shaming tactic is akin to the Charge of Irascibility and the Charge of Cowardice in that the accuser attacks the target’s negative or guarded attitude about a situation. However, the focus is not so much on the target’s anger or fear, but on the target’s supposed attitude of resignation. Examples:

“Stop being so negative.”
“You are so cynical.”
“If you refuse to have relationships with women, then you are admitting defeat.”
“C’mon! Men are doers, not quitters.”

Response: The charge of defeatism can be diffused by explaining that one is merely being realistic about a situation. Also, one can point out that asking men to just accept their mistreatment at the hands of women and society is the real attitude that is defeatist. Many men have not lost their resolve; many have lost their patience.

Threat of Withheld Affection (Code Pink) – The Pink Whip

Discussion: The target is admonished that his viewpoints or behavior will cause women to reject him as a mate. Examples:

“No woman will marry you with that attitude.”
“Creeps like you will never get laid!”

Response: This is an example of the logical fallacy “argumentum ad baculum” (the “appeal to force”). The accuser attempts to negate the validity of a position by pointing to some undesirable circumstance that will befall anyone who takes said position. Really, the only way to deal with the “Pink Whip” is to realize that a man’s happiness and worth is not based on his romantic conquests (including marriage).