Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Captain Crunch]

For example, if you have some fantasy about being in love with a guy, marry him and then have kids, but 10 years later you lose interest in that fantasy, the consequences of that are rather harsh. And women never seem to realize what is at the root of their problems. They tend to blame the problems on men. Blah, blah, blah... I don't love you anymore because you are boring, unromantic and a whole bunch of other things that are thinly veiled bullshyt with no basis in reality. The truth is they were never in love in the first place. Love has to do with what you do outside in the real world... your behavior and what you build with it. It has nothing to do with what is going on in your head, even though what is going on in your head may be fun and exciting.

I think a pretty basic thing every man needs to pay attention to when in any relationship is how much does the woman's behavior match up with what she is saying. She says "I love you", but does she act in a loving manner? Does she do things that are incompatible with a person who loves you? Most importantly, does she work toward long term goals based on nurturing a love relationship that is permanent, or is she just along for the ride. Very few women act in any way except just enjoying the moment. What that means is, your behavior and the decisions you make with regard to her should be based on that. I think it is inappropriate to be monogamous with someone who is just having fun times with you. Certainly it is not a good idea live with them, marry them and God forbid, have children with them. Those things absolutely require certain continuous and extended behaviours that the woman (and men and women are absolutely different in this regard) is just not interested in.

So how would we go about doing that?

 

[The Message]

So how would we go about doing that?

You gotta be able to look at the NON VERBALS. Is what she is telling you matching her actions? If chick (and this goes for men as well) is telling you she loves you and wants a long term relationship and marriage is at the forefront yet she isnt loyal to you, spends half the week at happy hour, all her homegirls are jumpoffs, her bills stay unpaid, never cooks, she got nikkas texting and blowing her FB page up all time - it would tell you she's just gassing you up and not interested in anything serious.

Always look at what she is NOT saying. Me, I look at everything. Does this chick jump from job to job? Are her parents still married? fukk that....what's her relationship with her father like? Is she trustworthy? Does her electricity get shut off all the time? STDs? Drug habits? What are her homegirls like? shyt, does she have any friends? lol I interview the hell outta a chick - for my own safety. I wont even sex a broad until I feel she meets the requirements - bc if I get this chick pregnant, my kid is gonna be raised by this chick.

It's actually kinda easy and doesnt take long. You can read and understand a person in a short period of time. My grandma always used to say "When a person shows you who they are - BELIEVE THEM."

 

[winb83]

For example, if you have some fantasy about being in love with a guy, marry him and then have kids, but 10 years later you lose interest in that fantasy, the consequences of that are rather harsh. And women never seem to realize what is at the root of their problems. They tend to blame the problems on men. Blah, blah, blah... I don't love you anymore because you are boring, unromantic and a whole bunch of other things that are thinly veiled bullshyt with no basis in reality. The truth is they were never in love in the first place. Love has to do with what you do outside in the real world... your behavior and what you build with it. It has nothing to do with what is going on in your head, even though what is going on in your head may be fun and exciting.

I think a pretty basic thing every man needs to pay attention to when in any relationship is how much does the woman's behavior match up with what she is saying. She says "I love you", but does she act in a loving manner? Does she do things that are incompatible with a person who loves you? Most importantly, does she work toward long term goals based on nurturing a love relationship that is permanent, or is she just along for the ride. Very few women act in any way except just enjoying the moment. What that means is, your behavior and the decisions you make with regard to her should be based on that. I think it is inappropriate to be monogamous with someone who is just having fun times with you. Certainly it is not a good idea live with them, marry them and God forbid, have children with them. Those things absolutely require certain continuous and extended behaviours that the woman (and men and women are absolutely different in this regard) is just not interested in.[/quote{


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Love is an internal feeling. An emotion. Love is not the rationalizations people place around it meaning that a person's love for you and how they treat you aren't necessarily related. A person can be angry with you and not treat you how one would expect an angry person to act. Still doesn't change their internal feelings.

 

[The Message]

So i am messaging two girls right now on OKCupid but i am having a hard time closing the number? Suggestions?


I was thinking something along the lines of: "I don't really check my messages that much, is it cool if i get your number so i can text you?


Or should i just ask them out for drinks?


Online dating isn't any easier than real life

First off it should never be hard, if a check is digging you - you'll know it.

Online is only a bit difficult bc the non verbal language is not there. You dont get the flirty vibes: a subtle flip of the hair, a bubbly giggle at your jokes, a light hit on your arm after making her smile. So you gotta get them off line asap. I give it no more than 6 messages (3 for me, 3 for her) - tops. Make her comfortable, make her laugh, be original. Always ask questions to get her talking, this makes her loosen up a bit. Be flirty, and dont be afraid to come off damn near cocky.

But all this means nothing if there's no rapport and no connection with her. She's gotta like you. Make yourself likeable and stand out from the other lames who flood her inbox. If she's typing a lot, it means she's interested. What I do is say, "Look it seems like we have a nice vibe so far, let's exchange numbers. Just promise me you wont fall in love with me after we get on the phone! 555-1212 ;-)" Always INSTRUCT them on what you want them to do. Or if you can tell the chick is feelin you - and this only works if you'd laid game down thorough: "Im not one for this cyber chatting nonsense. Lets talk right now. 555-1212" That's only if a chick is REALLY diggin you. Women like it for men to be direct. Stop dilly-dallying with these hoes online. Close the deal!

 

[winb83]

First off it should never be hard, if a check is digging you - you'll know it.

Online is only a bit difficult bc the non verbal language is not there. You dont get the flirty vibes: a subtle flip of the hair, a bubbly giggle at your jokes, a light hit on your arm after making her smile. So you gotta get them off line asap. I give it no more than 6 messages (3 for me, 3 for her) - tops. Make her comfortable, make her laugh, be original. Always ask questions to get her talking, this makes her loosen up a bit. Be flirty, and dont be afraid to come off damn near cocky.

But all this means nothing if there's no rapport and no connection with her. She's gotta like you. Make yourself likeable and stand out from the other lames who flood her inbox. If she's typing a lot, it means she's interested. What I do is say, "Look it seems like we have a nice vibe so far, let's exchange numbers. Just promise me you wont fall in love with me after we get on the phone! 555-1212 ;-)" Always INSTRUCT them on what you want them to do. Or if you can tell the chick is feelin you - and this only works if you'd laid game down thorough: "Im not one for this cyber chatting nonsense. Lets talk right now. 555-1212" That's only if a chick is REALLY diggin you. Women like it for men to be direct. Stop dilly-dallying with these hoes online. Close the deal!

Or he could just say something along the lines of "let's talk on the phone. My number is 555-555-5555" from there he could add "what's yours?" But personally I wouldn't add that. If you give your number to a woman that's interested she'll typically give you her number in return. He's over thinking things. Either she will or she won't. Chemistry matters more than the exact words anyway so he shouldn't think there's a certain thing he can say that makes success more likely.

 

[The Message]

Or he could just say something along the lines of "let's talk on the phone. My number is 555-555-5555" from there he could add "what's yours?" But personally I wouldn't add that. If you give your number to a woman that's interested she'll typically give you her number in return. He's over thinking things. Either she will or she won't. Chemistry matters more than the exact words anyway so he shouldn't think there's a certain thing he can say that makes success more likely.

Word. If the chemistry is fire, they usually drop the digits first. Which is why he should focus on building that rapport. We could tell him what to say line for line but if the flirting and chemistry aint there, it wont matter.

 

[winb83]

I was thinking something along the lines of: "I don't really check my messages that much, is it cool if i get your number so i can text you?

why the hell do you wanna text her anyway? that's how you get fast tracked to a be category with her such as only being a friend.

text should be used to set up a face to face and that's it maybe just a quick hello. never send a text longer than say 10 words to her if avoidable.

with a woman you need to be bold and direct. she's probably already made up her mind if you gonna get the number or not so why delay it.

when you first meet a woman your goal is to move as fast as possible to sex. you go for the number asap you talk on the phone asap you set up a face to face asap and you move to get physical asap.

when she first meets you her mind projects on to you most traits. as she gets to know you she projects less and realizes more of who you are. the more projection and the less actual realization she has about you the better your chances to hit it. if you can get her to have sex with you and she likes the sex she's invested enough for you to make some mistakes but before sex you wanna minimize all mistakes so you progress things as fast as you can.

also women want a man to take charge and lead. asking them is not leading. if you wanna go to the movies with her say "Hey Batman is coming out on the xxth what's the best day that weekend for us to go see it?" you've already assumed she's gonna go see it you're just letting her pick the day and time. if she seems even a tiny bit flaky or sketchy about going or your movie choice "you know what never mind i'll just go see it with somebody else" and move on. don't call her again for a week minimum. next time you call you're looking to get face time again. if she gets flaky again drop her.

you gotta move fast, take charge, and be decisive. you don't got time to wonder shyt like should i say it like this or say it like that. women can sense what you wanna do before you even do it. they're far more observant and perceptive than you are as a man. that's why you don't hesitate because if you do she'll know. this is why its more important for you to do what you want to do right then and there than it in important how you phrase it.

 

[sixsixtwo]

http://www.suchacheater.com/cheating-military-wives-caught-on-ashley-madison/221/

 

[MikelArteta]

http://www.suchacheater.com/cheating-military-wives-caught-on-ashley-madison/221/

if you are in the military and married 99% of the time your spouse is cheating

 

[rapdonttweet]

How to smash better looking females: Treat dimes like they're a 6.

 

[The ADD]

if you are in the military and married 99% of the time your spouse is cheating

I don't know why active duty military even gets married

 

[The ADD]

You gotta be able to look at the NON VERBALS. Is what she is telling you matching her actions? If chick (and this goes for men as well) is telling you she loves you and wants a long term relationship and marriage is at the forefront yet she isnt loyal to you, spends half the week at happy hour, all her homegirls are jumpoffs, her bills stay unpaid, never cooks, she got nikkas texting and blowing her FB page up all time - it would tell you she's just gassing you up and not interested in anything serious.

Always look at what she is NOT saying. Me, I look at everything. Does this chick jump from job to job? Are her parents still married? fukk that....what's her relationship with her father like? Is she trustworthy? Does her electricity get shut off all the time? STDs? Drug habits? What are her homegirls like? shyt, does she have any friends? lol I interview the hell outta a chick - for my own safety. I wont even sex a broad until I feel she meets the requirements - bc if I get this chick pregnant, my kid is gonna be raised by this chick.

It's actually kinda easy and doesnt take long. You can read and understand a person in a short period of time. My grandma always used to say "When a person shows you who they are - BELIEVE THEM."

Breh, for those non verbals who sees all that going on and still things marriage to that type of woman is a good idea? They deserve that inevitable heart break.

 

[MikelArteta]

You gotta be able to look at the NON VERBALS. Is what she is telling you matching her actions? If chick (and this goes for men as well) is telling you she loves you and wants a long term relationship and marriage is at the forefront yet she isnt loyal to you, spends half the week at happy hour, all her homegirls are jumpoffs, her bills stay unpaid, never cooks, she got nikkas texting and blowing her FB page up all time - it would tell you she's just gassing you up and not interested in anything serious.

Always look at what she is NOT saying. Me, I look at everything. Does this chick jump from job to job? Are her parents still married? fukk that....what's her relationship with her father like? Is she trustworthy? Does her electricity get shut off all the time? STDs? Drug habits? What are her homegirls like? shyt, does she have any friends? lol I interview the hell outta a chick - for my own safety. I wont even sex a broad until I feel she meets the requirements - bc if I get this chick pregnant, my kid is gonna be raised by this chick.

It's actually kinda easy and doesnt take long. You can read and understand a person in a short period of time. My grandma always used to say "When a person shows you who they are - BELIEVE THEM."

i tell folks this exact same thing, you are what your freinds are, if her friends are all ratchet and jumpoffs guess what she is as well, dudes will lay with anything then cry later when some broke, bad credit, ratchet chick is carrying their seed

 

[George Gooney]

You got to look at a woman as an investment. Financial,mental etc...you have to protect your heart FIRST. People may say your extra guarded or paranoid. Take it as a compliment,men out here are naive to these women's games."She wont do that to me,she loves me".There is a thing line between love/hate simple. Now we have Steve Harvey writing these books and these women are thinking like us,acting like us,trying to be players and calling themselves "pimps".This is why the men or nice guys,choir boys are being played,women prey on these guys. Yet society says nothing about this. However not all women are bad...you either will be blessed by one or find a "diamond" in the rough.Its easy to find a woman,however keeping her interested is the hard part. I dont know who said it but a poster said "Thats why women like vanity and fashion because it constantly changes as do their moods/mindset" thats a real statement.

i said that in this thread but nikkas don't listen! http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room/19211-spin-what-women-really-want.html

 

[jalamanta]

I think simpery occurs because most men don't have something going on in their lives, no direction, no hobby, interests, and really narrow outlook on life in general. That's why when a p*ssy is gone, confidence is gone too and nikkas feel lost.

I remember back at university I overhead one bytch was telling another about the break up and how her simp told her she was the best thing in his life ever. They both laughed. I was like at the thought that there are men who say such shyt to these cumdumpsters. Like, really, the best thing in life?

Love yourselves nikkas, improve yourselves, don't waste emotions and hold grudges on some useless bytches. As a matter of fact, if a man takes bytches seriously, he already lost. We about building castles, moving mountains and shyt, time to man up

Its not a quick lil gem on how to deal with women but fukk it