it's almost like the only way to win is to become a "sociopath" just like them...
good point. Im thinking about it, and thats a really good observation. but to compare the two, its not really the same thing. first of all, we cant turn into our enemies. second of all, we really arent like them in the first place. we cant fairly compare, or turn into one another for many reasons.
to start out, the differences speak for themselves. we have to put up with, and put on, a whole lot more to get with women. they basically get to enjoy a host of offerings and efforts from us, just so they can take us seriously. and in that process of us seeking to get ours, we're doing a lot to please women. so its not one sided in that case, even if we were considered, "being selfish."
we're doing the courting. shes laying back and either accepting your game or not. we have to meet her, start conversations with her, stand out from the pack, invite her out ... and she enjoys you being the host, showing her a good time, your personality, the free food, the ride, supplying the drinks or whatever, etc etc.
typically, she gets more out of it, and puts in less. she only needs to cooperate to make things work. and ultimately its really all for companionship, affection, and sex. something that SHE wants as well. so really they start off with more bargaining power and leverage. the scales arent even. also you can look at the legal benefits a woman gets when she faces off against a man in court. there is no true 50/50 balance. its just a fact.
I only say that to say, things are not the same on either end. we are not them, so changing our rules to be more like them, seems to defeat the whole purpose of you possibly getting what youve REALLY been looking for.
so look, in my opinion, there cant be a clear winner if we try to do what some of them do. if we are all motivated by selfish and decietful reasons, then its only coming down to two people using one another and not being real about it.
so when you say that men can only win by turning into sociopaths, its more like, we only need to turn cold and stop caring about the
wrong types of women. the ones who dont match up, and wont try to hold you down. I wouldnt suggest to turn into a sociopath just so you can avoid the responsibilities of a man and woman relationship. you just need the fair amount put back in from her, otherwise its not worth your time.
the ones to avoid would be those kinds of women always expecting shyt from you, the strongly vocal and independant "what have you done for me lately" types. the non-cooperating types. those who like to do nothing in return, they are the ones using men in a shameless manner. thats a true sociopath right there. and you only have to turn into a sociopath for THAT type.
and altogether, if you look at it,
it isnt a problem that you want to seek out your own needs. theres nothing wrong with that as long as there is a reciprocation on both sides. you have needs that must be met, and so does she. however, if there are no attempts to meet each others standards, then it is and will be a problem. that leads to resentment and hate. so there has to be an understanding and effort from everyone. turning into a sociopath could only end ugly.
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