Now, the most important thing about a man is your mindset. As Jesus says, a man is what he thinks. The questions you ask yourself in your mind and the statements that you accept mentally will determine your outlook on life and will vastly affect your life's outcome. Now check this... A lot of men's first thought in life is, "What can I do to get more women? What can I do to impress this certain woman? Where do I need to take this woman to eat? How do I talk to her?" Those are the WRONG questions to ask. Stop worrying about 'what the woman wants.' That's just an utterly nonsensical question to ask in the first place. For one, there are billions of women on this earth and none of them are exactly the same, so none of them like the same things. There are women that have a whole variety of tastes and preferences. Second, you as a man are supposed to be a leader. Your concern shouldn't be what do women want. It should be what do YOU want? But let's answer that question. Do you know what heterosexual women really want? They want a MAN.
The real questions you, as a man, need to ask are, "What am I trying to get out of life? How do I solidify my financial and general living status? What restaurants do I like to go to? What movies do I like? What are my favorite social venues? What are my principles? What are my morals? What kind of woman do I want in my life? What kind of woman will I not accept?"
If you go to the mall and pick up a shirt and the first thing out your mind is,"Will the hunnies like this?" you are doing it all wrong. You pick up a shirt and decide whether or not it looks fly to YOU. If YOU dig it, cop it and put it on. That is LEADING. You are the one in the front making decisions. Leadership simply comes down to making a choice. Will you be the one in the front to make decisions about your life or will you let someone else?
Develop your own personal style. Decide what restaurants YOU like. Your concern should not be whether or not some woman likes it or not. Find YOU. When you really start finding you and settling in, you will start developing CONFIDENCE. Why? Because you will then know exactly what you want and what you like and you will be able to pursue it much more effectively. Confidence is an emotional feeling based upon certainty of success. What can you really be more confident about than yourself since that's the one person you can really know? You will also have to make the choice to mentally value yourself. A lot of guys say, "Well if I take this girl to this place, she might not like it." That is placing HER preferences above yours. Wrong move. As a man, you can't read a woman's mind and women themselves usually don't know what they want, so how can you be confident if your whole mentality revolves around attempting to predict what a woman wants? That's the blind leading the blind. You simply have to CHOOSE to put your own worth way ahead of some woman's preferences.
Now, the more you've figured yourself out, you simply will find a lot of the problems you had with women will evaporate, because you now know what kind of woman to retain and what kind of woman to keep far away from you. You won't have to ask what to say or where to take her. You will take her where you want to go, or on occasion, you ask for her suggestion. If she doesn't like or appreciate it, cut her off and keep it pushing. Why in the world would you accept someone who is unappreciative and doesn't have anything in common with you? The question you ask yourself in your mind while interacting with her wouldn't be, "Is what I'm doing impressing her?" You would simply choose a venue you felt like going to, and if she really liked you, she would follow you.
THAT'S the key. Putting yourself out naturally is the key and choosing to deal with the women you naturally like you for you and who embody your list of qualifications is the key. Learning to cut off unappreciate, drama-filled women and deciding not to change your approach or who you really are is of utmost importance. If some particular woman doesn't like your routine, find one that does. Don't simpathize with her and try to read her mind and figure where to take her. A woman either likes you or she doesn't. If you want longevity out of a woman you simply have to be yourself and find one that likes you for who you are... because the longer you deal with a woman, the more she will find out about the REAL you. The better quality of a man you become, naturally, the better quality of women you will attract... Thus the key question becomes, "In what aspects can I improve myself as a man?", and not "What can I do to impress this particular woman?"
you went away?
, unless im getting married my family isn't meeting any of these chicks i deal with now. 
