Honestly man, sometimes you have to tell people about themselves. This is why I find it very difficult to do favors for women, because rarely do they ask out of true necessity, but do so out of manipulation.
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Honestly man, sometimes you have to tell people about themselves. This is why I find it very difficult to do favors for women, because rarely do they ask out of true necessity, but do so out of manipulation.
Mr Hate Coffee
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This makes sense.
I wasn't trying to holler at her tho. Its a small city and we're bound to run into each other. Plus I didn't want things to be awkward at church. I just wanted to say "Let's be cordial." I haven't bothered her since the breakup, I understand that.
If it had happened to me I would at least put on a public front.
Maybe it's how I wrote it, but I didn't come at her on some "hey baby" shyt. lol. I don't know what I expected, maybe a "What do you want?" or a "Now's not the time." or a "Hey" But not being childish and blatantly ignoring a nikka on church grounds.
I ain't wanna say nothing. What kind of response was he expecting???
See above.
I get that. Like I said, if we're gonna cross paths no point being immature and acting like we don't see each other.
I mean if the shyt I did was wrong I can man up and admit it but it aint like we had a dramatic breakup. Its not like I came to her house with flowers or some troll shyt. I've kept my distance the entire time.
Yall nikkas went in on me tho. :wow2:
I forgot to bring this up but speaking of women and manipulation, yesterday in the library on campus I was walking around as I normally do looking for a place to sit down and do my work on my laptop for a couple hours since I just have one class. It was full so I was about to leave and try somewhere else and as I am walking by the cubicles, I see this woman that was sitting in one of the cubicles suddenly get up an walk up to me. Prepared myself because I have been trying lately to improve my "DEFENSE". She asks me first "Sorry to bother you but are you going to be here for a long time"? I then tell her "No I was just leaving now" and she pauses and gives me this snide look on her face without saying anything......I then ask her......"What......" and then ....She starts giving me some story about how for one of her classes she needs to make photocopies of some book for a certain class but is not able to and mentioned something about the actual book being $40 something dollars(she said something about $40 something dollars but my mind is drawing a blank specifically what was said)
Anyway I tell her that I do not have any money on me....because half of me was actually believing that she was actually crazy enough to ask me to pay for something........and the other half believed I was just misunderstanding her....So after I mention the fact that I do not have any money, she starts off by saying "Oh no I mean...." and started talking about how she is not able to use her card(forgot the reason she told me why or if she even had a card) I told her that my library card isn't activated so I can't take out the book for her and explained to her that it was activated in the past, but EVERY SINGLE SEMESTER even if you are a current student, you are forced to REACTIVATE it and I told her I don't come up here that much anymore to do that so I haven't had it activated.....
Then she tells me "Oh okay well thanks anyway" and goes back to sit down and I just leave.About this story.....I remember someone in here who brought up the example ages ago in the archives about how in elemetary school dudes would deny giving a male peer something like a pencil for a test, but then turn around and give a girl who asks for one because "she is cute".
After my situation last semester with that female in my class, it taught me alot of things and I have learned to be more cautious about doing favors for females whether they are strangers or I know them.When of the most glaring signs in these situations is when they ask a favor and you see alot of hesitation by them and giving you snide looks.......like this girl did by asking me that "Are you gonna here a long time" to see how I would react.
The only exception I would make is something small like something like getting asked for change for bus fare(like giving change for a dollar) because that is something small and simple that you both benefit from Sorry btw with not being able to remember certain things about the story but even though it was yesterday with everything going on its hard to remember the specific details 100% correctly......But like i'm sure all of you know already...in these stories about women .....I was surprised and impressed with the way I handled it by the way though. I am improving my Defense little by little.
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man thats the thing i got a heart of gold, especially since i became saved again, ill give my expensive jacket to someone if they don';t have anything, when i went to cuba i left like all my shoes, all my shirts, fitteds and shorts for the maids and dudes in the front.
i gave this dude my blue jays snapback that cost me like 35 bucks and dude some old white cuban with grey hair started to cry and hugged me
i gave a cuban maid some razors i bought at the dollar store only cost me a buck and she wrote me this long ass note in broken english thanking me.
women up here? you could give em a kidney and they still wouldnt say thanks,
DaRealness
I think very deeply
You see, this is the one thing I cannot stand. You don't ask a complete stranger to take a book out for you from the library and I would never do that for anybody, cos for all you know they could move to another part of the country the following day then you have to pick up the fine.
That chick was scoping you out for a little while, cos I don't believe for one minute she just suddenly sprung up the very second she saw you and asked for this favour. I know that snide look you're talking about and when I see it, I immediately know they're on some bullshyt and coming with an ulterior motive. A lot of them try to suss you within a few seconds and can pick up on your energy/aura and quicjly decide in their minds whether to test you or keep it moving. That scenario may sound trivial, but you'd be surprised what the factors behind it are.
I wouldn't even make up any excuses, I'd just be like "nah, sorry can't help you" and keep it moving.
DaRealness
I think very deeply
anyways ive been bored brehs, so i created a dating profile, and called out these women for being manipulators, liars, and riding the cock carousel until they older and want a good man
lets see how it goes
lets see how it goes
lol i aint even hating breh, but ive been in her shoes, when a chick has crushed my heart, and then i see her and shes acting like everything all sweet, hey reincar how are things
i have a ex that lives just down the street from me, dumped me years ago tell me how a chick lives a hour away when we date, then when we no longer dating lives like 10 houses down
even years later i hold no animonsity but i aint your friend, i don't need a hey, or you left your car light on, or need anything at the store?
i dont even care if we were the most horrible match on earth once the relationship is done i dont want you to talk to me again :smugun:
I kind of slept on Facebook. I've had it since the summer but only recently started friending people I know from HS and now I have a bunch of females that are mutual friends hitting me up in messages. I'll screengrab the funniest one since it ended with her saying me not knowing her doesn't mean we can't be friends so I told her I sent a friend message and she said "That's not what I meant" 
Mr Hate Coffee
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lol i aint even hating breh, but ive been in her shoes, when a chick has crushed my heart, and then i see her and shes acting like everything all sweet, hey reincar how are things
i have a ex that lives just down the street from me, dumped me years ago tell me how a chick lives a hour away when we date, then when we no longer dating lives like 10 houses down
even years later i hold no animonsity but i aint your friend, i don't need a hey, or you left your car light on, or need anything at the store?
i dont even care if we were the most horrible match on earth once the relationship is done i dont want you to talk to me again :smugun:
Im the same way..
When its over its over...
Let me be..
Being friends...Cant do it
Wow thanks for bringing that up breh......I couldn't put my finger on a particular thing but that is something i DID NOT think about until you mentioned it........Your right I could have been left with a debt for a book I did not even use. Good thing I rejected her anyway but that didn't even cross my mind....
And as for the look they give when they scope you out for a while, this broad must have been fast. There is door that holds a small study room towards the corner of the back of the library next to the books and I peeked in there when I was looking for space to sit down with my laptop.
When I saw it was full this was when I started walking back towards the front and saw her........I only walked to look in that small room like 1 minute.....I mean these are the same women who talk about "MEN being thirsty" and then they do nonsense like this. Who are the ones who are thirsty now?
I think she thought she caught me when I said "What...." after she made that awkward pause and gave that snide look.....like I was gonna please her. When she said thank you at the end I didn't even bother saying your welcome or acknowledge.....my mind is blank but i think i just made a small grunt or "mhm" sound or something
Not gonna start cheesing and go into some "Im so sorry" statement. I have to say when I got to that "What....' part deep inside I was getting really pissed off but I held it in and handled it well.
It reminds me of the girl I described in here about a week or two ago in the same study room(a different girl) whose "male friend". Seemed like a cool dude not even a lame or anything just a regular dude...A class was coming up quick like in 10 or 15 minutes and he forget to do something and he asked this girl that I could tell from the conversation they are in contact with each other.......about if she can print some copies for him because he forgot his ID....
And of course the female entitlement comes into play, and starts pretty much giving excuses as for WHY she won't do it and if he can do it himself or ask someone else........When I would guarantee any amount of money he always helps her out. Eventually when he left she was asking the girls around her if she was too mean because he is her friend and how she feels bad....
But as I am sure you know already when I say "feel bad" its the type of thing like when in high school if a weaker dude is getting picked on they go into some "aww y u being mad mean to him" or "awww he's so cute" for a dude embarrassing himself in a simpish way.......
In short......basically I mean they did it that mocking joking way alot of these women love to do.........not even in a remorseful way.
In the case of that other girl, still think I handled it well but like you said I think I should have gone went step further and shut it down quicker next time.....
But damn that shyt makes my blood boil "Let me ask this skinny guy walking to do a favor for me for nothing in return". I don't condone domestic violence but mayneeeeeeeeeee
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