I may have fumbled a sure thing, but it's all in the game
I met this cute Chicana from Colorado a few years back on my grad school trip to China
At the time I had a girl and was into her heavy, so I didn't flirt or kick any game
After China, Chicana and I stayed in touch on DM here and there, nothing out of the ordinary
Eventually broke up with my (ex) girl and in Xmas time 2022 I was up in CO and met up with the Chi for hot pot in Denver
We caught up, good food good talk, no vibes or anything that I could detect. I was single so I had my antenna up
Back to occasional DM, eventually she ended up in Korea doing the English teacher thing
A few months ago when I was planning my Japan/Korea trip I told her I'd be in Seoul and would be dope if we met up
She left me on read for a while so I thought she either had a K-pop dude or just wasn't into it. Cool.
About a week before I took off for Narita she DMs back asking if I was still going to Seoul
Told her that's my plan, will she be around?
(whether I saw her or not was not a big deal. I was going to Seoul regardless and she's about 2 hours south, plus she left me on read).
She says yeah she'll take a bus and we can hang out
ok word
I arrive in Seoul, we meet up the next day, spend all day with her guiding me with her almost-fluent Korean (god bless)
Sightseeing, food, drinks, catching up, etc etc
Again, zero vibes. I compliment her looks, even did the old "put my arm around you like I ain't mean it" basic shyt and she just...nothing. Not even back away on some nah son shyt. But not reciprocating or anything remotely showing she was with it.
Anyway, day comes to an end and we're at the bus station
We're both on our phones looking at maps for me to get back to my telly
I look up and she's damm near in my face, I'm talking kissing distance
I think "should I kiss her"
then 3-4 secs of the day flash before me, showing no vibes, no energy, no flirting, no "accidental" brush up on me contact, nothing. Zip, zero, nada
So I let it go and she backs away to normal distance.
We hug and I ask her to let me know when she got home, she says ok cool you too
I get back to my room and tell her I'm good, how about you?
Left on read again.
I ran this ep by my homegirl of 20+years and she says "no woman is letting a guy she's not into be anywhere close to her like that, should've kissed her."
Me: "should've kissed her after all day with zero energy from her?"
Homie: "some women are like that. They won't show interest but again, when we're not feeling a dude we'll do everything to make sure to keep a respectable distance."