Yeah those were some of the main reasons why I havent even tried to do anything. But above all else I do consider her a friend and besides reasons already stated, me having sex with her would change our friendship (probably for the worst).
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Yeah those were some of the main reasons why I havent even tried to do anything. But above all else I do consider her a friend and besides reasons already stated, me having sex with her would change our friendship (probably for the worst).
CrossBones
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spend less time with her. get another one, or do something else to show her youre busy and not with all that shes trying to bring you. it sounds like the chick is confused in her life.you might even have to pull her to the side and straighten her out.
There are tons of women out there who are single, and why even do this?
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Ive already told her multiple times that Im not gonna have sex with her because she has a boyfriend. The reason why we really saw each other all the time is because shes the life guard at the hotel I just transferred from. So I wont really be seeing her anymore due to that. If women who didnt have a man were this persistent with me, I wouldnt be having women complaints at all lol.
Just my 2 cents
If you take her up on this knowing she has a bf you're no better than her. The fact that you're asking this question leads me to believe you're on here looking for us to tell you to do it so you'll feel better about it. You having morals means you should already know the answer
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I was warned. Weren't we all? "Don't get married! You'll end up miserable!"
Society has us conditioned to believe that this is just "men being men". That we have committment issues. I couldn't disagree more.
It seems that we ALL began our marriages believing that our wives were special. We are unable to imagine her being a completely different person and why would we, given no evidence? Sadly, many men will charge into marriage blindly, their blissful ignorance leading the way.
I fear that no matter what is said here, men will continue to plunge into marriage, only to be surprised later at the metamorphoses that their wives will undergo. Nevertheless, Ill share my story, even though, it will likely fall on the deaf ears of a man intent on marrying his special someone.
Like many of you, I thought my wife was really something special. A rare gem. Intelligent, strong, funny, and gorgeous to boot. I thought I had hit the jackpot.
The dating phase was amazing. We shared beliefs on religion, finances, children & parenting; we tackled all our problems together, we almost never fought, wed make meals for each other, surprise each other with little gifts the whole nine. From the outside, it was probably pretty nauseating, but damn it was great. In her, I had found my best friend, my partner, my confidante I was madly in love. After dating for three spectacular years, we married. I wanted to be with this woman for the rest of my life.
Once we got a place together and she got access to my income, all bets were off.
She began to spend money on little things she needed: a new blow-dryer, a new flat-iron, a pair of boots, a purse. Except she didnt replace them with the same budget brands she had always used, no no. She went with the hundred-dollar top-line models. She wanted something that was quality and would last longer (P.S. they dont).
She also decided she needed a career change, so she went to school ($) for that. After getting her cert, she worked for 1 day, decided she hated it, and went to school ($$) for something completely different. She didnt like that school and transferred to a different school ($$$). At the time, I was happy that she was following her passion. I really wanted her to have a career she loved. How silly I was. She wasnt content with her new job for long and was back in school ($$$) again. This cycle has been perpetual for 5 years.
And then there was the laziness. We used to split housework 50/50. Sure, wed have a few jobs we each did I mowed/shoveled, she did laundry but the arrangement worked. Slowly but surely (believe me when I say that this was a VERY GRADUAL process) the burden of maintaining our home shifted entirely onto me. I even ended up servicing my own laundry because I never had clean clothes when I needed them. The tipping point was when she had started a load with my nice work shirts, and let them sit, wet, in the washing machine for a week. Needless to say, they were stained and ruined. And what was her response? Will you please take your shirts to the dry-cleaner instead? REALLY? The shirts have washing instructions, and I steam press them all anyway, so Ill just do it myself.
I now do all the cooking, and, thus, all the grocery shopping. I clean the areas of the house that I frequent, but I cant keep up with a house where two people make messes and one person cleans. I work a full-time job, try to exercise a few times/wk like a responsible adult, I take care of the household, wash, rinse, repeat. Every time I ask for help -- you know, for the PARTNERSHIP that we once had -- I get chastised for having unrealistically high expectations. That Im too demanding. That all I want is some subordinate 1950′s housemaid of a wife. Trust me, that couldn't be any more UNAPPEALING to me. I want a PARTNER and an INTELLECTUAL EQUAL. Not a housemaid, nor a sloppy roommate, nor a dependent.
So I quit. Ive just started taking care of my immediate surroundings. Just the things that I need done, I do them. Sometimes I have to clean up after her mess, otherwise Id be eating out of my bare hands. And I cook meals for me, but she eats my leftovers.
Then theres the obligatory weight-gain, none of which was her fault, of course. First she thought she was pregnant, then she thought it was hormone imbalance, then she thought it was her thyroid, then she thought it was her depression. Never could it have been that she just ate way too much, snacked all the time, and never exercised. Look, I have absolutely nothing against big girls, but at least own up to it, ffs.
I could go on and on, of course, but you get the idea.
So now Im at a crossroads. We've been married five years, each year worse than the previous. I made a vow, and I am a man of my word. I promised for better or for worse. I promised for richer or for poorer. Ive been faithful, even when she hasnt. Ive worked for the partnership, even though she doesnt. I try to remain an honorable man but I dont think I can take any more. I'm nearly 30. I never pictured my life this way.
She says she wants to keep trying. Shes said that before, but nothing ever changes.
Its a sad state in life when you wish your wife would leave you.
*sigh* What to do What to do .
MEN, LISTEN UP: Dont put yourself in this position. You can have a fulfilling relationship with a woman without tying the knot.
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Society has us conditioned to believe that this is just "men being men". That we have committment issues. I couldn't disagree more.
It seems that we ALL began our marriages believing that our wives were special. We are unable to imagine her being a completely different person and why would we, given no evidence? Sadly, many men will charge into marriage blindly, their blissful ignorance leading the way.
I fear that no matter what is said here, men will continue to plunge into marriage, only to be surprised later at the metamorphoses that their wives will undergo. Nevertheless, Ill share my story, even though, it will likely fall on the deaf ears of a man intent on marrying his special someone.
Like many of you, I thought my wife was really something special. A rare gem. Intelligent, strong, funny, and gorgeous to boot. I thought I had hit the jackpot.
The dating phase was amazing. We shared beliefs on religion, finances, children & parenting; we tackled all our problems together, we almost never fought, wed make meals for each other, surprise each other with little gifts the whole nine. From the outside, it was probably pretty nauseating, but damn it was great. In her, I had found my best friend, my partner, my confidante I was madly in love. After dating for three spectacular years, we married. I wanted to be with this woman for the rest of my life.
Once we got a place together and she got access to my income, all bets were off.
She began to spend money on little things she needed: a new blow-dryer, a new flat-iron, a pair of boots, a purse. Except she didnt replace them with the same budget brands she had always used, no no. She went with the hundred-dollar top-line models. She wanted something that was quality and would last longer (P.S. they dont).
She also decided she needed a career change, so she went to school ($) for that. After getting her cert, she worked for 1 day, decided she hated it, and went to school ($$) for something completely different. She didnt like that school and transferred to a different school ($$$). At the time, I was happy that she was following her passion. I really wanted her to have a career she loved. How silly I was. She wasnt content with her new job for long and was back in school ($$$) again. This cycle has been perpetual for 5 years.
And then there was the laziness. We used to split housework 50/50. Sure, wed have a few jobs we each did I mowed/shoveled, she did laundry but the arrangement worked. Slowly but surely (believe me when I say that this was a VERY GRADUAL process) the burden of maintaining our home shifted entirely onto me. I even ended up servicing my own laundry because I never had clean clothes when I needed them. The tipping point was when she had started a load with my nice work shirts, and let them sit, wet, in the washing machine for a week. Needless to say, they were stained and ruined. And what was her response? Will you please take your shirts to the dry-cleaner instead? REALLY? The shirts have washing instructions, and I steam press them all anyway, so Ill just do it myself.
I now do all the cooking, and, thus, all the grocery shopping. I clean the areas of the house that I frequent, but I cant keep up with a house where two people make messes and one person cleans. I work a full-time job, try to exercise a few times/wk like a responsible adult, I take care of the household, wash, rinse, repeat. Every time I ask for help -- you know, for the PARTNERSHIP that we once had -- I get chastised for having unrealistically high expectations. That Im too demanding. That all I want is some subordinate 1950′s housemaid of a wife. Trust me, that couldn't be any more UNAPPEALING to me. I want a PARTNER and an INTELLECTUAL EQUAL. Not a housemaid, nor a sloppy roommate, nor a dependent.
So I quit. Ive just started taking care of my immediate surroundings. Just the things that I need done, I do them. Sometimes I have to clean up after her mess, otherwise Id be eating out of my bare hands. And I cook meals for me, but she eats my leftovers.
Then theres the obligatory weight-gain, none of which was her fault, of course. First she thought she was pregnant, then she thought it was hormone imbalance, then she thought it was her thyroid, then she thought it was her depression. Never could it have been that she just ate way too much, snacked all the time, and never exercised. Look, I have absolutely nothing against big girls, but at least own up to it, ffs.
I could go on and on, of course, but you get the idea.
So now Im at a crossroads. We've been married five years, each year worse than the previous. I made a vow, and I am a man of my word. I promised for better or for worse. I promised for richer or for poorer. Ive been faithful, even when she hasnt. Ive worked for the partnership, even though she doesnt. I try to remain an honorable man but I dont think I can take any more. I'm nearly 30. I never pictured my life this way.
She says she wants to keep trying. Shes said that before, but nothing ever changes.
Its a sad state in life when you wish your wife would leave you.
*sigh* What to do What to do .
MEN, LISTEN UP: Dont put yourself in this position. You can have a fulfilling relationship with a woman without tying the knot.
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Hey yall in the study room in the library now and this one broad is on her laptop talking to this guy on facebook(she said that to her friend next to her) how she is talking to this guy on faceook about why he doesn't like women who constantly curse...........
Her friend explained to her that everybody curses when they are angry......but some people just seem desperate and curse for every single thing like "I'm gonna get some shyt to eat"
She started laughing and started talking about how that is just the way she is and she is gonna tell the guy that........
Then started talking about how "That is why I have to get a bad guy because a bad guy will understand me better"
Alot of them are too PARANOID and FORCE THEMSELVeS to be LOUD and VULGAR because they think any form of submission would make them week. The whole thing is sad really....
She also mentioned earlier how she added some guy "Just because he is sexy" and how she does not care.
This is exactly why I cannot take alot of these women seriously. So much shallowness and right now sitting here seeing this is just making me more hopeless.
Her friend explained to her that everybody curses when they are angry......but some people just seem desperate and curse for every single thing like "I'm gonna get some shyt to eat"
She started laughing and started talking about how that is just the way she is and she is gonna tell the guy that........
Then started talking about how "That is why I have to get a bad guy because a bad guy will understand me better"
Alot of them are too PARANOID and FORCE THEMSELVeS to be LOUD and VULGAR because they think any form of submission would make them week. The whole thing is sad really....
She also mentioned earlier how she added some guy "Just because he is sexy" and how she does not care.
This is exactly why I cannot take alot of these women seriously. So much shallowness and right now sitting here seeing this is just making me more hopeless.Girlfriends are very expensive. I was in a relationship for most of 2012. I just finished looking over my credit card statement for that year. I spent over $12,000 last year going out to dinners, movies, buying gifts, wine, lounges, sports events, etc...
I broke up with her earlier this year and my expenses have decreased dramatically.
I can only imagine how marriage and kids would drain my finances.
real talk I never go all out with gfs, if she was my wife thats one thing but for a gf, hell no. We mostly go to the minor league baseball games ($12 for a ticket) or the arena football league. We may hit up 2 spurs games a year, but its going to be the seats that cost like $50 each. Plus every gf Ive ever had since college has paid for dinner/lunch or the movies atleast 30-40 percent of the time and thats w/o me having to ask, i guess ive just lucked out like that. The most ive ever spent on a gift was like $350 one xmas which up until then the most I had spent was like $100.
$12,000 in a year is straight crazy
Mister_DoItNice
Leading The Regime
Hey yall in the study room in the library now and this one broad is on her laptop talking to this guy on facebook(she said that to her friend next to her) how she is talking to this guy on faceook about why he doesn't like women who constantly curse...........
Her friend explained to her that everybody curses when they are angry......but some people just seem desperate and curse for every single thing like "I'm gonna get some shyt to eat"
She started laughing and started talking about how that is just the way she is and she is gonna tell the guy that........
Then started talking about how "That is why I have to get a bad guy because a bad guy will understand me better"
Alot of them are too PARANOID and FORCE THEMSELVeS to be LOUD and VULGAR because they think any form of submission would make them week. The whole thing is sad really....
She also mentioned earlier how she added some guy "Just because he is sexy" and how she does not care.
It's social networking. What do you expect? It breeds narcissism.