Nah playa...hit the jack and call her...
I remember when I used to do that before I got lazy...
These nikkas put me back on how I should be doing this
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Nah playa...hit the jack and call her...
I remember when I used to do that before I got lazy...
These nikkas put me back on how I should be doing this
Poh SIti Dawn
Staying Positive, Getting Better Everyday. Holler!
True, imma do that shyt tomorrow. Do you leave messages if she don't pick up tho?
Lol word. What's the difference between a text and a call tho? Besides not giving her the ball in her court and forcing her to make a decision without thinking hard n shyt.
calling is basically getting a mental "feel"of her and seeing whats she's about...Try to set up a date on that call...
you cant get that by texting her...
I always called first.....I got lazy by texting afterwards.....Always hit them with a call
Poh SIti Dawn
Staying Positive, Getting Better Everyday. Holler!
nikka what kind of feel I need if I met her irl?
Alright, I'll hit her up definitely want to try and do something Monday ish or should I go for setting up some shyt on the same day I call but later? That's cool right.
Was that your way of maintaining your distance as well? And how often would you call?
Meeting her and having her feel comfy where she can start opening up 2 you are two different things...
You will begin to learn about her and her life and go from there...Maybe she a freak,things of that nature....
Unless she was telling you this already
Poh SIti Dawn
Staying Positive, Getting Better Everyday. Holler!
Oh word, naw she hadnt. I've been having these urges tho where if I see a cute girl in a skirt I just wanna put my hand up it, she was wearing a skirt that day. Like as I get older I start to fantasize more, fukking male instincts kick in and I'm fukking looking at bytches undressing them with my eyes and shyt. Feel like I'm starting to get more aggressive
it almost always comes back to me that whatever chick i try to fukk with that doesnt work out ends up turning into a dodged bullet. i'll run it down.
#1 : tried to play the reformed hoe role in my eyes. now she a religious freak. always was dingy, but not a bad person.
#2 : was on some riddle shyt all the time. told me that if she told me something about herself id be mad. i assume to this day that shes gay. just say that shyt.
#3 : tried to play a good girl. turned out to be a super hoe. has 2 kids, and probably is on crack.
#4 : lied to a nikka out the gate that she wasnt talking to anyone, who turned to be some nikka "online". then i found out that she dont even have a GED. to this day still dont, and no car, and still stay at home, she 30 now breh.
#5 : she portrayed herself as damaged. then we get to talkin bout fukkin and shyt and she's like she aint fukked in about a month and im likeim just tryna fukk a couple times...she seemed a lil confused. so i broke it off.....she was telling me i couldnt handle her and i wasnt ready for her but i already knew how she got down and i was just testing her.
then she seems to get all into church and shyt last year.
now she out here fukking a woman. ehhh...whatever works
#6 : no ambition. she can never make up her mind on how to control her life. thats a huge red flag. she'll be 27 this year along with me.
the only one who's doing anything in life is #1 and #2 , 1 is a teacher. the other is in law school.
as for me, this spanned from 06 to this year. in that time i have: 1. maintained the same job. 2. bought a car. 3. maintained good credit. 4. got kicked out of school. 5. got back into school. 6. graduated from school. 7. back in school to continue. 8. just paid off that car.
so like 1 "life event" happens to me every year, while 4 of the 6 aint doing shyt and range in age from 24-30.
women are hilarious. over the last year, i looked at all the simp shyt i did and cut it out. there's another chick that wants to fukk with me but:
1. she's really religious.
2. she's 6 ft and like...250 lbs+ plus.
3. but she has a good job better than mine, in school, and has her car, and has a savings account, and finna buy a house.
4. but she aint gonna be losing that weight...had she been 170ish, ida went in on that. but that 250 will become 300 then she'll have health issues andi cant over look that weight issue. it aint changing for her cause i can tell how she is when she talks about eating and shyt but then talks about the gym and in my head im like....? gym? where? when? nah player. call me shallow but that gotta be fixed.
/done.
[della reese] the Lord works in mysterious was[/della reese]
it may suck when it happens but years later you may be :wheww:
the first girl that cheated on me, ended up with twins for a grocery bag clerk adn now lives in her mom basement with her two kids and him.
could have been me, and i didnt even wrap it up when i was smashing her like a idiot
yea...
If a loss of finances or feelings are the biggest loss,then you've won..
freedom cant be replaced
women can though
i always say nothing could be more worse than me having a child with a chick i dont love and being stuck for 18 years no thank you
exactly
To give some brehs an update on the girl who works in the same hospital as me and has a kid.
We have hung out a few times alone and a few times with her cousins who I have known and worked with before.
She told me she is trying to work it out with her baby daddy, but I don't think that's the case. I think she is bullshytting and holding out hope that one day he will come back.
Let's keep it real... he barely makes an effort when it comes to her and only makes an effort when it comes to their kid. We hung out with her coworkers for her birthday and she invited him, but he did not come because he said he was broke. Her birthday was last week and I got her some flowers. He did not get her shyt and she made a comment that her ex would only send her flowers if it was her funeral. Sure sounds like she is trying to work it out?
We have hung out a few times alone and a few times with her cousins who I have known and worked with before.
She told me she is trying to work it out with her baby daddy, but I don't think that's the case. I think she is bullshytting and holding out hope that one day he will come back.
Let's keep it real... he barely makes an effort when it comes to her and only makes an effort when it comes to their kid. We hung out with her coworkers for her birthday and she invited him, but he did not come because he said he was broke. Her birthday was last week and I got her some flowers. He did not get her shyt and she made a comment that her ex would only send her flowers if it was her funeral. Sure sounds like she is trying to work it out?
almost. it's actually more simple than that. it's not exactly unconscious. your intentions should be clear (keeping it real with yourself and with her). Sometimes it has to be communicated verbally (asking for her number, asking her out) and sometimes you can make your intentions clear with your body language (wanting to kiss her, wanting to sleep with her, most intimate contact). when you make your intentions clear you're giving her that option of also kissing you/going out/fukking. If she refuses, you respect her boundaries but at the same time ALWAYS remember that you can always choose not to give her attention or time. Don't be pushy but at the same time don't accept her terms if it's not something you want. You choose which options you want to provide to her and one of them is always that she could stop being with you. But i strongly advise to make your intentions clear. You're making her choices more simple that way and you're increasing your odds of cooperation from her.
In other words, don't think too hard about this. just have the right mindset (evacuate stress and neediness), know yourself and what you want, let her know (verbally or body language wise) and respect her boundaries but more importantly also respect your boundaries of what you're willing to give (and remember you can throw her in the bushes at anytime)
Might be wrong but i think you're nervous because you're too worried about what she's specifically thinking or wants.
What i said is just how i typically do it. Doesn't have to be followed rigidly. You just cal her when you feel and she will either want to or she won't. If she's not down to do something
don't lose sleep over it man. whatever she decides doesn't have any impact on who you are. That's kind of why i like to tell them "I'll call you tomorrow". that way my intentions are clear. She knows i'm not playing the "I'm not gonna call you for X days to make you think XYZ". My intentions are clear. then i call the next day and she's either still feeling me or she isn't. either way my conscience is clear cause I kept it real. If she fronts on me or plays games, i just assume she's not feeling me that much or not ready to keep it real so i move on. She may later reconsider and get back to you, or she may not 
how much benefit of the doubt you give them when you feel they are playing games with you depends on your patience. Funny thing is, older i'm getting, less patience i find myself having...Call, try to reconnect with her, when you feel the connection is on (when you get her feel and she gets yours and you guys just feel comfortable with eachother) ask her out. Calling her sunday isn't a bad thing. If texting them works for you, do that. it's about you man. Do your thing. When you read stuff from us, just keep an open mind and take whatever you want from it and leave what doesn't work for you. As long as YOU are comfortable with the way you do things and your results, that's all that really matters.
EDIT: the movie Swingers goes into these themes in very funny ways.
To give some brehs an update on the girl who works in the same hospital as me and has a kid.
We have hung out a few times alone and a few times with her cousins who I have known and worked with before.
She told me she is trying to work it out with her baby daddy, but I don't think that's the case. I think she is bullshytting and holding out hope that one day he will come back.
Let's keep it real... he barely makes an effort when it comes to her and only makes an effort when it comes to their kid. We hung out with her coworkers for her birthday and she invited him, but he did not come because he said he was broke. Her birthday was last week and I got her some flowers. He did not get her shyt and she made a comment that her ex would only send her flowers if it was her funeral. Sure sounds like she is trying to work it out?
leave her alone....