Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MBwithadream]

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[Two Stacks]

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[Two Stacks]

 

[kevm3]

Moose pretty much gave you a dose of what it really is. What females really feel is your vibe-- which is pretty much your internal emotional state and thoughts manifested into a sort of invisible energy field that projects around you that others can feel. You ever notice how when certain people step into the room, the whole mood of the room may dampen or how when others step in, the whole room brightens up?

One of the keys that will really help you attract women is just learning to enjoy life. Learn to have fun. A lot of times it's easy for men to take women too seriously. Remember, most women come to play, not to stay. You have to simply recognize that many and most women that you come across will merely be looking for entertainment, so don't take her too serious. But what you do want to do is just learn to have fun because when you really enjoy life, it will start to manifest in the way your energy projects. You will have a smile on your face, the subject of your conversations will be much more positive, etc.

Make sure you just get out and start exploring different restaurants, different coffee shops, different things to do, etc... and not those that you think will 'impress a woman', but rather just so you can gain experience refining your tastes. This will be very helpful when you are dealing with a woman though because you'll have an instant place to take her when you go out without having to think too much, which is critical to effective leadership.

Let me be real... your vibe is HUGE. Sometimes I just get this feeling where I'm 'in the zone' and start saying what can be construed as gibberish to women and they really start digging it. If you notice, the cats that are great with women aren't really the cats kicking philosophy into the woman's ear. The key is you HAVE a philosophy on dealing with women. You don't spit philosophy to women... unless she is one of those rare women that just have some disposition to deep thought.

 

[Two Stacks]

it almost always comes back to me that whatever chick i try to fukk with that doesnt work out ends up turning into a dodged bullet. i'll run it down.

#1 : tried to play the reformed hoe role in my eyes. now she a religious freak. always was dingy, but not a bad person.

#2 : was on some riddle shyt all the time. told me that if she told me something about herself id be mad. i assume to this day that shes gay. just say that shyt.

#3 : tried to play a good girl. turned out to be a super hoe. has 2 kids, and probably is on crack.

#4 : lied to a nikka out the gate that she wasnt talking to anyone, who turned to be some nikka "online". then i found out that she dont even have a GED. to this day still dont, and no car, and still stay at home, she 30 now breh.

#5 : she portrayed herself as damaged. then we get to talkin bout fukkin and shyt and she's like she aint fukked in about a month and im like im just tryna fukk a couple times...she seemed a lil confused. so i broke it off.....she was telling me i couldnt handle her and i wasnt ready for her but i already knew how she got down and i was just testing her.

then she seems to get all into church and shyt last year.

now she out here fukking a woman. ehhh...whatever works

#6 : no ambition. she can never make up her mind on how to control her life. thats a huge red flag. she'll be 27 this year along with me.

the only one who's doing anything in life is #1 and #2 , 1 is a teacher. the other is in law school.

as for me, this spanned from 06 to this year. in that time i have: 1. maintained the same job. 2. bought a car. 3. maintained good credit. 4. got kicked out of school. 5. got back into school. 6. graduated from school. 7. back in school to continue. 8. just paid off that car.

so like 1 "life event" happens to me every year, while 4 of the 6 aint doing shyt and range in age from 24-30.

women are hilarious. over the last year, i looked at all the simp shyt i did and cut it out. there's another chick that wants to fukk with me but:

1. she's really religious.

2. she's 6 ft and like...250 lbs+ plus.

3. but she has a good job better than mine, in school, and has her car, and has a savings account, and finna buy a house.

4. but she aint gonna be losing that weight...had she been 170ish, ida went in on that. but that 250 will become 300 then she'll have health issues and i cant over look that weight issue. it aint changing for her cause i can tell how she is when she talks about eating and shyt but then talks about the gym and in my head im like....? gym? where? when? nah player. call me shallow but that gotta be fixed.

/done.

 

[Two Stacks]

now yall see how and some of these women here can be. i know they got good ones in new orleans but they hard as fukk to find lol.

 

[kevm3]

Do you want to see a perfect visual representation of the respect paradigm? Read this article and look at the woman who respects her husband and the one who doesn't. Look at their facial expressions. One man looks wretched while his wife almost seems to be feigning a smile, while both are beaming with a huge smile where the woman respects her husband.

Katie Hopkins admits... I love my husband - but respect him? Don't make me laugh! | Mail Online

If your woman loses respect for you, your life will be miserable if you keep her around.

Here it is for your convenience. Make sure to go to the sight and read the article though:

 

[Turbulent]

@Monsieur. Fox

This is after a date or two that I present these options? And when should I hit her up? I got her number last night, so should I set up a date soonish? I'm not sure, if I should call her tonight or tomorrow. This is where I need the most help at. And when should I set up the date?

Lol I'm gonna have to check that out, sounds very helpful

the options concept is at any level where you're trying to guide a chick. from the moment you first talk to her til the moment you're old and grey with her if you get there with her. Whatever it is, getting her number, guiding her to go on a date with her, guiding her towards intimate physical contact, guiding her to change behavior. but again, it's not about giving them ultimatums, that's where alot of people get it confused IMO. Patrice Oneal (Black Phillip show) goes into great details about that concept and philosophy.


my opinions on when you should hit her up:

that's why i like to give them my number instead. some guys think it's a bad idea but i usually do it if i feel like she's really feeling me.

best game is no game. call her when you're not busy and when you feel like it. personally i would have sent her a text telling her to save my number on the same day (maybe even while still talking infront of her). then i would have called her when i'm not busy (unless she calls you first). Also, if it's a chick from class/work is different than if it's a chick you met on the street. chick you met on the street i'd probably call in the next 24hours (also i usually tell them i'll call them tonight/tomorrow). if it's a chick from class/work/friend of a friend, maybe i,d send a text within 48hours and then see how it goes. depends on the rapport you already have with her too...


bottom line, don't overthink things. it doesn't really matter that much. if she's feeling you, you could make all the "no-no's" in the world and she'll still jock.

depends if you're strictly trying to fukk or if you want to get to know her first.

if you're trying to fukk, call her, do some small talk, get her to "drop the mask" and be herself with you. then tell her you gotta go but you genuinely enjoyed the convo with her. tell her something like "what i like about you is that there's no pretending" say it in your own words if you wouldn't talk like that. then tell her you'd like to meet up spontaneously. if she asks to do what, tell her you want to take a walk, maybe coffee. (DO NOT TRY TO CONVINCE HER' DO NOT BE PUSHY OR NEEDY). if she says no don't be bitter, don't act like a bytch, just be cool and move on from it. once you meet her, it all depends on your G. [phone convo] should last maybe 30 mins/ an hour.


if you're just trying to get to know her, call, small talk for 5 minutes and tell her you'd like to get to know her more and set up the date.




EDIT: you don't necessarily HAVE to do it that way, that's my M.O. sometimes it works, sometimes it fails

Also, one thing i'd like to add. the advantage of choosing chicks that chose you first (as we talked in other posts) and that are jocking you heavy is that they'll be the ones who call you, they'll be the ones who will want to spend time with you, ask you if they could spend time with you, try to touch you, kiss you, be close to you, etc (as long as you manage to keep your "mystique")

 

[kevm3]

Never get in a relationship just to get in one and to 'avoid being lonely' and never 'have women' just to have one. Adopting this mentality will save you a LOT of stress, becuase as enjoyable as a great woman can be, the wrong one can completely throw your life into a tailspin.

Let me give some of you young'ns a real powerful piece of advice
Stop treating your johnson like a trophy case!
One of the things that really get cats caught up is that they think they have to sleep with this or that female to impress their boys or because it's just something they need to do. This is frankly an idiotic mentality to have, and it WILL get you in trouble sooner or later. Can your boys take the STDs from your body? Will your boys raise the kid that you popped into a woman you absolutely hate? A lot of men got caught up trying to impress others by smashing this or that fine woman... but how impressive did they look when they had 4 baby mommas and were virtually living in a state of servitude due to all that child support and the threat of jail hanging over their heads?

Just as we men expect women to hold their sexuality in self-esteem, you as men need to do the same thing. You may have your boys give you props for smashing a whole bunch of women, but they will NOT be there to help you handle the responsibilities and repercussions that come from that. The same ones giving you praise are going to be talking about how you 'fell off' when you get in a jam from your activities.

What I'm telling you guys to do is you better really think about whether or not this particular woman you are dealing with is increasing your happiness or decreasing it? Increasing your stress or decreasing it? Getting into relationships and having sex just to do it is a surefire way to start putting you on a course of events whereby you are shackled into a lifestyle you hate. Consider your actions wisely my friends and seriously think about the repercussions of your actions.

 

[Wild self]

lol man Chris Brown is doing too much. You don't ever own that thang between her legs... the kid is setting himself up for failure because he's putting way too much value on it. He's the type that will explode when he finds Rihanna doing what she do, and we know she will.

Simping at its finest. CB proves that even "bad boys" can be simps on the low, as well. Hell, most hard headed dudes are the way they are simply cause they get bytches. Straight up slaves to the p*ssy.

 

[LezJepzin]

Never get in a relationship just to get in one and to 'avoid being lonely' and never 'have women' just to have one. Adopting this mentality will save you a LOT of stress, becuase as enjoyable as a great woman can be, the wrong one can completely throw your life into a tailspin.

Let me give some of you young'ns a real powerful piece of advice
Stop treating your johnson like a trophy case!
One of the things that really get cats caught up is that they think they have to sleep with this or that female to impress their boys or because it's just something they need to do. This is frankly an idiotic mentality to have, and it WILL get you in trouble sooner or later. Can your boys take the STDs from your body? Will your boys raise the kid that you popped into a woman you absolutely hate? A lot of men got caught up trying to impress others by smashing this or that fine woman... but how impressive did they look when they had 4 baby mommas and were virtually living in a state of servitude due to all that child support and the threat of jail hanging over their heads?

Just as we men expect women to hold their sexuality in self-esteem, you as men need to do the same thing. You may have your boys give you props for smashing a whole bunch of women, but they will NOT be there to help you handle the responsibilities and repercussions that come from that. The same ones giving you praise are going to be talking about how you 'fell off' when you get in a jam from your activities.

What I'm telling you guys to do is you better really think about whether or not this particular woman you are dealing with is increasing your happiness or decreasing it? Increasing your stress or decreasing it? Getting into relationships and having sex just to do it is a surefire way to start putting you on a course of events whereby you are shackled into a lifestyle you hate. Consider your actions wisely my friends and seriously think about the repercussions of your actions.

Seen the aftermath of this with a lot of dudes I used to roll with. You only have yourself to blame in the end.

 

[kevm3]

It's funny just how valid a lot of the advice we've been kicking in this thread has turned out to be. All of this is common sense. Is it really any surprise that praising someone non-stop and telling them they are some kind of royalty without having to have any qualifications for it will result in someone who is obnoxiously entitled? There are even articles about this manifesting:

Danger of bringing up 'a little princess': Top head warns parents who shower girls with praise 'can't handle failure' | Mail Online

Parents are turning their daughters into ‘little princesses’ who can’t take criticism, the head teacher of a leading girls’ grammar school warned yesterday.

Nicole Chapman said some families treat daughters as if they ‘can do no wrong’ and constantly shower them with praise and presents,

As a result, many lack the ‘resilience’ to deal with failure or criticism, she said.

Mrs Chapman, who is head of one of the best selective schools in the country, spoke out ahead of a conference at her school in Chelmsford, Essex - attended by parents and other school leaders - about educating teenage girls.

‘What I try to address with my parents here is the concept of what we call the little princess, which is one where a child, once she’s satisfied her parents’ ambitions to get into the school, she can do no wrong,’ she said,

‘She’s constantly praised - and that is not necessarily a good thing.’

Mrs Chapman, who has a grown-up son, said that ‘the little princess’ always wants to please and gets ‘a lot of rewards’ for her troubles.

She said: ‘For some of them it’s just praise, but with others they can have more or less what they want.

‘Their parents shower them with presents.’

She said some parents ‘never exposed’ their daughters to any negative feedback.

This made girls into ‘perfectionists’ who would not take risks in case they failed.

Instead of excessive praise, she said, parents should ensure their daughters were ‘strong individuals’ who could cope with failure and grow up to be leaders.


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‘Our girls are bright and therefore, they will be leaders,’ she said.

‘As a leader, you’re not a princess. As a leader, you’ve got to have strength, belief, resilience.

‘You have to have the right principles - you must be principled, but you must have knowledge.

‘All those things don’t necessarily go with being a princess because a princess is a bit fragile.

‘A princess receives information, learns it, regurgitates it, but never gets truly challenged.’


'Perfectionists': Mrs Chapman said some parents have 'never exposed' their daughters to risk meaning they are afraid of failure (file photo)

Mrs Chapman is head of the 900-pupil Chelmsford County High School for Girls, where 88 per cent of pupils pass their GCSEs with As or A*s last summer.

Her comments were echoed by Dr JoAnn Deak, author of Girls Will Be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters.

Speaking at the conference yesterday, she said many parents ‘tend to go overboard on praise’, making girls ‘feel precious’ and that they’re ‘the centre of the universe’.

Praise should be ‘specific and earned’ instead, she said.

Referring to daughters, the American psychologist said: ‘As a parent, you’ll obviously offer general praise to her sometimes, but if you do it too often, your opinion will not be valued.

‘Remember too, that the more she focuses on self, the more selfish she will become; whereas the more she focuses on doing and on others, the more she will increase her self esteem.’


Conference: The comments by Mrs Chapman came ahead of a conference at her school in Chelmsford, Essex, about educating teenage girls

Earlier this month a leading psychologist warned that praising children with phrases such as ‘well done darling’ could damage their confidence.

Stephen Grosz says ‘empty praise’ such as ‘you’re so clever’ or ‘you’re such an artist’ could cause children to be unhappy as they feel they cannot live up to the false expectations, and can even hinder their progress at school.

Mr Grosz - who has practised as a psychoanalyst, a type of psychologist, for 25 years - cites research showing that children who were heavily praised were likely to perform worse in maths problems and even tended to lie about their results.

Instead he advises parents and teachers to bestow compliments less frequently and use phrases that congratulate children for ‘trying really hard’.

Here's another one:
Parents 'risk turning their daughters into spoilt princesses by letting them dress up' | Mail Online


I mean, why are no standards ever applied to women? Men won't let their son walk around thinking he's a little king and giving him nonstop praise because they know if he takes that attitude outside the house, he's going to get his butt whipped by other boys and he's potentially going to catch him a sexual harrassment charge in his future when he starts thinking he can 'do no wrong.' It's no wonder so many females can't take criticism when you got simped out dads or single moms just reinforcing and praising these women nonstop.

 

[kevm3]

i just find it funny that women teach their sons to be bytch made, which is exactly the kind of men they gravitate away from.

my cousin laid some real nikka shyt down on a nikka thursday and im just now

its all about me now.

A woman will mold you to be the man she really detests. She will mold you to be the ultimate simp. That's why it takes men to raise men.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

@Monsieur. Fox

the options concept is at any level where you're trying to guide a chick. from the moment you first talk to her til the moment you're old and grey with her if you get there with her. Whatever it is, getting her number, guiding her to go on a date with her, guiding her towards intimate physical contact, guiding her to change behavior. but again, it's not about giving them ultimatums, that's where alot of people get it confused IMO. Patrice Oneal (Black Phillip show) goes into great details about that concept and philosophy.


my opinions on when you should hit her up:



Also, one thing i'd like to add. the advantage of choosing chicks that chose you first (as we talked in other posts) and that are jocking you heavy is that they'll be the ones who call you, they'll be the ones who will want to spend time with you, ask you if they could spend time with you, try to touch you, kiss you, be close to you, etc (as long as you manage to keep your "mystique")

I can see that, not to give ultimatums buts to instead unconsciously show them things that you want, and expect them to meet those expectations. I'll definitely check out that Patrice show, seems very informative and funny.

As for when I should hit her up, according to what you say, I've missed my window as I got her number Friday night, and should have called her Saturday night, would Sunday afternoon be fine to schedule something towards the evening or perhaps even the next day? Coincidentally we go to the same school as well.

Yeah I don't think she's jocking that heavy, I think she was perhaps just a bit charmed. The convo was good, she was showing interest, asking for her number she said um as if there was some sort of doubt, for whatever reason, but I still got it. Either way you wanna size it up. I'm just nervous though, which is why I didn't call her Saturday, feel like I'd rather just text her and take the easy route