Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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These young broads need to be civilized.

They do not understand the harm they're doing to themselves with this online stuff.
Trust me i agree
But the fact is that most women who are dry texters suck on the phone too. And if you call them randomly they may find it intrusive

More times if the texting is flat they just not interested. It’s usually that simple. If texting was the issue and they were interested they would tell you to call.
 

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There was this chick I was getting to know a few years ago but I chose not to get into a relationship with her because I thought she was crazy. We never had sex, I was honestly worried about what would happen if we did. I had the strangest and most confusing interactions of my life with her, it was really unsettling and I started to actually feel uncomfortable around her like I was in danger...

She had a daughter yet did not have custody and was never with her daughter which I thought was weird.

I still see her from time to time when I'm out at events and every time I have an interaction with her I'm reminded why I didn't pursue a relationship with her.

I decided to look her up in the state case files today and she had previously been put into a Civil Commitment facility and classified as Mentally Ill. Which also explains why she doesn't have her daughter and why I rightfully thought she was crazy. This is the second time I have looked up a strange chick and found that in the history. They start out putting on a good act but eventually the facade falls apart when something doesn't go their way...

I looked at the chick's social media and several years ago she looked extremely healthy, beautiful smile, dressed in really nice clothing all the time, thick full head of hair. Then she didn't post anything for like 2 years. And in all her pictures afterwards, she dresses kinda bummy, has dark circles under her eyes and her hair is more thin, never smiling.

Pay close attention to these women's behavior
She pressed you for a relationship before sex?

Yeah she’s nutty
 

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I need yall help bruhs. I got this chick I’m going back and forth with texting but the the texts are dry as a hell. Mind you I initially dropped her because I thought there was no real chemistry beyond basic attraction. She has hit me back saying she ok with being friends but is texting like we together.

I honestly don’t know what to do.
Why would you sign up for the friendzone?

Come on guise
 

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She pressed you for a relationship before sex?

Yeah she’s nutty
She kept asking me how many kids I wanted to have, and that our kids would be really attractive

She wanted to move in with me after a week of dating

Her personality would flip-flop really fast, she'd go from sweet and submissive to angry and confrontational in a split second. Sometimes she'd be talking to me and it was like word salad, just nonsensical rambling. She would make up situations and ask me if I remembered when we did such and such thing (which never actually happened, it was in her imagination) and then get mad when I didn't know what she was talking about.

When her mood would switch I would get this weird, dark feeling almost like a fight or flight response like I was in danger. I only saw her wear a dress one time and her legs had cross crossing scars all over them that had turned into keloids

She's also missing part of a finger and she says she lost it in a work accident, but I'm starting to think she cut it off
 
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She says she wants to continue talking but then shows absolutely 0 willingness to ... You know... TALK

Why do I always gotta be the one to initiate a convo :snoop: about ready to bush this shyt
 

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She says she wants to continue talking but then shows absolutely 0 willingness to ... You know... TALK

Why do I always gotta be the one to initiate a convo :snoop: about ready to bush this shyt

She is making it difficult for you but making it easier for another nikka…

Read between the lines and ghost her.
 

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I need yall help bruhs. I got this chick I’m going back and forth with texting but the the texts are dry as a hell. Mind you I initially dropped her because I thought there was no real chemistry beyond basic attraction. She has hit me back saying she ok with being friends but is texting like we together.

I honestly don’t know what to do.
text that bytch rite now that you wanna fukk
 

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She says she wants to continue talking but then shows absolutely 0 willingness to ... You know... TALK

Why do I always gotta be the one to initiate a convo :snoop: about ready to bush this shyt
When a female wants you she will part the damn sea and make it obvious and show it actions simple as that
Move on breh she ain’t feeling u
Keep in backlog as smash and dash if she decides to show interest later down the line
 

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She says she wants to continue talking but then shows absolutely 0 willingness to ... You know... TALK

Why do I always gotta be the one to initiate a convo :snoop: about ready to bush this shyt
Only text to set up dates. If the bullshytting or don't wanna link up then she not interested
 

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I posted this as a thread, but it will probably flop so I'm posting here too.

But if you give a woman the option to turn you down, she likely WON'T do it.

If you tell a woman you're feelin her or you like her & want to get to know her, and you ask her if she's interested to let you know....OR if she's NOT interested, just to let you know and it's cool, no hard feelings....they are more likely not to tell you, "No", if they're uninterested, even tho you just made things super easy/not awkward for them.

This beautiful Portuguese chick I work with told me that approach is "insulting to women".

I'm like, so y'all want to feel like you have the power to THINK you're crushing a dude and ruining his day/week whatever, by telling him "No", but if he gives you an easy out, most of y'all are just going to string it along bc you see it as him "being indifferent".

One time a chick i asked out told me, "let me think about it". She was clearly not interested and didn't even give me her number. So In my mind, I'm like, what is there to "think about" ? Lol.
I told you I liked you, super nice, I asked you out, and said if you're not interested let me know, and it's cool. If you liked me you would say "Yes", but because I told you it's okay if you don't, you somehow can't really feel like you're getting the upper hand unless you think you're leaving me in a state of confusion so that maybe I'll continue to, pointlessly, pursue you.

Am I wrong? Lolol :pachaha:
 

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I posted this as a thread, but it will probably flop so I'm posting here too.

But if you give a woman the option to turn you down, she likely WON'T do it.

If you tell a woman you're feelin her or you like her & want to get to know her, and you ask her if she's interested to let you know....OR if she's NOT interested, just to let you know and it's cool, no hard feelings....they are more likely not to tell you, "No", if they're uninterested, even tho you just made things super easy/not awkward for them.

This beautiful Portuguese chick I work with told me that approach is "insulting to women".

I'm like, so y'all want to feel like you have the power to THINK you're crushing a dude and ruining his day/week whatever, by telling him "No", but if he gives you an easy out, most of y'all are just going to string it along bc you see it as him "being indifferent".

One time a chick i asked out told me, "let me think about it". She was clearly not interested and didn't even give me her number. So In my mind, I'm like, what is there to "think about" ? Lol.
I told you I liked you, super nice, I asked you out, and said if you're not interested let me know, and it's cool. If you liked me you would say "Yes", but because I told you it's okay if you don't, you somehow can't really feel like you're getting the upper hand unless you think you're leaving me in a state of confusion so that maybe I'll continue to, pointlessly, pursue you.

Am I wrong? Lolol :pachaha:

The only reason i never leave that type of decision upto a female is cuz it gives them the opportunity to remain in the “grey” area and therefore be able string you along (unless ofcourse she knows from jump she ain’t feeling you and will have no problems letting you know).

Like @MikelArteta always said, a girl likes leaving nikkas confused because in confusion, it gives them the benefit of doubt.

Rip the bandaid off, be a man and be direct.

Be indifferent to the outcome if anything but don’t preemptively tell a woman beforehand you’ll be indifferent to her response.
 

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The only reason i never leave that type of decision upto a female is cuz it gives them the opportunity to remain in the “grey” area and therefore be able string you along (unless ofcourse she knows from jump she ain’t feeling you and will have no problems letting you know).

Like @MikelArteta always said, a girl likes leaving nikkas confused because in confusion, it gives them the benefit of doubt.

Rip the bandaid off, be a man and be direct.

Be indifferent to the outcome if anything but don’t preemptively tell a woman beforehand you’ll be indifferent to her response.

I feel like what I described is what you are saying, or am I misreading?

. Being straight up. You are being vulnerable by telling her that you like her....but you're asking her to be honest and let you if she's interested or not.

There's no grey area there. Si o no should be the only answers.
 
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