Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

re'up

Veteran
Joined
May 26, 2012
Messages
21,007
Reputation
6,431
Daps
65,785
Reppin
San Diego
I agree in theory. Feel like you lose a bytch if you totally ghost before a date. Plus I’m trying to build up tension before we meet. Prob just hit her up once a day at night

didn't understand the degree to which lot of people interact, this way---maybe like 6 years ago, got intro'd to someone, and we set up a date, and didn't text until the day, maybe 3 days later, and she canceled, and said "what happened to you why haven't you texted me" I said if I give my word on a time, and date, than expect me to follow through. My word is good.

We eventually went out the next day or whatever, but it was a lesson for me in how people perceive each other.

still don't really do that, it just feels so weak, good morning and good night, how was your day type shyt, so fukking boring ---but I am sure it's led to some fumbles. The takeway is that people want reassurance and sustained interest, and if they don't see you on them, they assume you are on someone else. and will cut you before you cut them.
 

The ADD

Old Master
Joined
May 11, 2012
Messages
48,509
Reputation
6,376
Daps
100,086
didn't understand the degree to which lot of people interact, this way---maybe like 6 years ago, got intro'd to someone, and we set up a date, and didn't text until the day, maybe 3 days later, and she canceled, and said "what happened to you why haven't you texted me" I said if I give my word on a time, and date, than expect me to follow through. My word is good.

We eventually went out the next day or whatever, but it was a lesson for me in how people perceive each other.

still don't really do that, it just feels so weak, good morning and good night, how was your day type shyt, so fukking boring ---but I am sure it's led to some fumbles. The takeway is that people want reassurance and sustained interest, and if they don't see you on them, they assume you are on someone else. and will cut you before you cut them.
It’s the the expectation people set. It’s reasonable that if you express interest in someone that they would expect some form of communication outside of in-person.
 

Payroll

Insomnia Addict
Supporter
Joined
Nov 30, 2017
Messages
6,940
Reputation
3,126
Daps
23,355
Reppin
GMB
If a woman doesn't have a good relationship with her dad, she will likely be highly combative.

If you think she did something wrong and her story doesn't add up, keep questioning her. Never accept an answer that doesn't add up just because it feels good.

Women that you only want to chill with don't need to meet your people.

Always give her your number first. If she goes out of her way to call(not text), then she is ready to take the game further.
Fax fax fax
 

re'up

Veteran
Joined
May 26, 2012
Messages
21,007
Reputation
6,431
Daps
65,785
Reppin
San Diego
It’s the the expectation people set. It’s reasonable that if you express interest in someone that they would expect some form of communication outside of in-person.

Yeah, I don't think it's unreasonable, entirely. Just didn't realize the level people were expecting. Or operating on. I happened to run into her and a friend of mine, who hooked us up, so we texted a bit, and then set a date. About 3 days later. in the interim, don't really have anything to say, because we don't know each other, is kind of my thinking.
 

The ADD

Old Master
Joined
May 11, 2012
Messages
48,509
Reputation
6,376
Daps
100,086
Yeah, I don't think it's unreasonable, entirely. Just didn't realize the level people were expecting. Or operating on. I happened to run into her and a friend of mine, who hooked us up, so we texted a bit, and then set a date. About 3 days later. in the interim, don't really have anything to say, because we don't know each other, is kind of my thinking.
I would imagine she expected you to to begin the process of getting to know her once y’all were setup and not wait.

Limits of course but kind of comes with it.
 

Payroll

Insomnia Addict
Supporter
Joined
Nov 30, 2017
Messages
6,940
Reputation
3,126
Daps
23,355
Reppin
GMB
Randomly take the condom off while fukking then say I think it broke. If she keep letting you smash, you gotta winner. If she dont, she's an untrustworthy bytch.

:mjgrin: Or she just a dirty heaux and if your pull out came week you get hit with the Chappelle got ya bytch
 

Ohene

Free Sheist
Joined
May 1, 2012
Messages
75,432
Reputation
6,747
Daps
130,950
Reppin
Toronto
matched this girl yesterday but she can't meet till Friday. how you keep her engaged until then without texting too much? plus I'm trying to build up some tension to try and smash first date.
this was me last week with 2 separate shorties

hit her up on tuesday and check up on her, see how her week going
then hit her up on thursday to confirm plans for friday night

on tuesday see if you can keep a bit of a convo going through text, enough to learn enough about her that you can talk about in person...but dont talk to the point where you have nothing to talk about in person

also, try to let her be the one who sends the last text
 
Last edited:

Tommy Lee Jones

All Star
Joined
Jan 1, 2015
Messages
3,425
Reputation
449
Daps
9,725
didn't understand the degree to which lot of people interact, this way---maybe like 6 years ago, got intro'd to someone, and we set up a date, and didn't text until the day, maybe 3 days later, and she canceled, and said "what happened to you why haven't you texted me" I said if I give my word on a time, and date, than expect me to follow through. My word is good.

We eventually went out the next day or whatever, but it was a lesson for me in how people perceive each other.

still don't really do that, it just feels so weak, good morning and good night, how was your day type shyt, so fukking boring ---but I am sure it's led to some fumbles. The takeway is that people want reassurance and sustained interest, and if they don't see you on them, they assume you are on someone else. and will cut you before you cut them.
I’m def not doing how’s your day/good morning and all that lame shyt. But you do gotta keep them engaged somewhat. I missed out on a baddie by not texting enough in between dates. I think once or twice a day is ok and the twice is responding to her message responding to you
 

WIA20XX

Superstar
Joined
May 24, 2022
Messages
7,106
Reputation
3,380
Daps
22,485
A behind enemy lines type of post.



No pics, all self described.

TL/DR - did a serious makeover on herself, to go from her estimated 4 to a 7. (Totally believe it, sure babe)

That's a ton of work to get her appearance up, and I applaud self-improvement.

By contrast, the fellas don't even think on this level, and even if they did, a breh rarely has this many options.

80% of our visual game is
  • Get in the gym
  • Hair cut
  • Clothes that fit
I don't know if there's a whole lot to learn on the individual aspects here, but the mentality is commendable...

Until you get to her reasons

#2 I am only attracted to pretty men and just barely that. So I must be pretty to get pretty men.

#3 The vast majority of men literally hate women and thus I've decided IF I partner with a man it will be primarily for my benefit. And pretty girls get the most out of men.

#4 narcissism. I adore looking at myself. I
literally have an entire wall in my room that's just mirrors so I can look at myself.

#8 I'm a working class, awkward, black girl with depression and anxiety. I will take and use ANY advantage I can get to get to be upper middle class.

Each one of these is "beyond the pale" imo, and #8 might just explain the previous 7...but there are plenty of females like this.
Looking good or not.

The whole sub is a trip, but the self described Black women posting, are few and far inbetween.

I'm sure there's prolly stuff like this on LSA, or any place that women gather and chat amongst themselves, but it's rare to see it laid out like this.
 

Malcolmxxx_23

Let's go panthers
Supporter
Joined
May 1, 2012
Messages
107,192
Reputation
-14,228
Daps
324,309
matched this girl yesterday but she can't meet till Friday. how you keep her engaged until then without texting too much? plus I'm trying to build up some tension to try and smash first date.
Don’t hit her up till Thursday evening..only text to confirm the meet up

No need to keep her engaged lol ..waste of time
You gonna chit chat for few days for her to be like listen

“I don’t think I can make it on Friday “
 

Ahadi

Veteran
Joined
Aug 7, 2019
Messages
23,402
Reputation
3,520
Daps
95,699
Don’t hit her up till Thursday evening..only text to confirm the meet up

No need to keep her engaged lol ..waste of time
You gonna chit chat for few days for her to be like listen

“I don’t think I can make it on Friday “

& he’ll say something dumb lol. You really should try to meet within 24-48hours
 
Top