Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Breh i'm pretty sure you can imagine the horrors I been through during that "relationship" but for the rest of the brehs i'll write up a list of what to expect...

1. Prepare to spend most of your dates at her place(especially if her kid is still a baby)
2.I remember coming to her apartment at nights and not even being able to ring the doorbell because she'd yell at me because her kid was asleep. so I had to text her to come open the door:what:
3. And when i'm finally inside the house she's not even decently dressed(baggy clothes, hair up in an unattractive bun).
4.Times i'd be over there and she'd just start cleaning up her kid's mess and get mad while I sat and watched and say I wasn't a real man for not helping out or picking up a broom(Do I look like a maid?)
5.Having to wait until the kid was out cold before we could have sex...
6.The kid waking up crying while we're doing it and me having to stop(ruining the mood)
7.Her calling me at random times of the day to bytch about the horrible shyt her baby's father said or did to her that day while she battled him for custody.
8.Her expecting me to change her kid's diaper and feed him...
9. being outside and forced to carry her kid around while she looked in shopping stores for clothes or shoes and getting the side eye from people because the kid looked nothing like me...
10. Her still being in love with her kid's father despite it all and taking him back...
Just an overall horrible experience not to mention the psychological damage she displayed and scorned attitude and spontaneous mood swings...

DON'T DATE SINGLE MOMS BREHS!!!!!!!!!

i dont sad thing is i know what you mean

like ive mentioned here before my godson mom is a single mom
never dated her or banged, but everything you listed i have done, ive carried him and had people say aww your son is so cute:hmm:, i always hear the random "bytching": about baby dad, the hcild is 3, and i remmeber when she was pregnant so say the past 4 years shes dated her baby father, sometimes it last a week, sometimes a month, sometimes 3-4 months always ends with her being cheated on crying, finding some next simp to date her and then she ends up going back, i just watch the trainwreck from the side.
 

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Daily Star: Simply The Best 7 Days A Week :: Just Jane :: Ex is back but she has a fella

WHEN my gorgeous girlfriend dumped me, I was in pieces.

We’d been together for three years and had been living together for 18 months.


I really thought she was the girl for me and we seemed so happy.


But I came home one day and she was in the process of moving out.


I begged her to stay but she said her new guy was waiting for her in his car and she wasn’t going to let him down for me.


That was almost a year ago. I couldn’t stop crying. It took me months to start to get my life back together.


My mates and their girlfriends were brilliant and now I’m back to my old self.


But last week my ex turned up at my flat and let herself in with her key.


I was taking a shower at the time and she just stripped off and got in with me.


Within seconds she was giving me oral and then we had sex under the water.


She stayed the night and I felt brilliant.


She asked if she could move back in and I obviously said yes.


Then she told me that she would be back five nights a week, as on the other two she would be with her new guy.


I asked if he was the one she left me for – and she said no.


That guy had dumped her soon after she left me but in the last few weeks she had found someone else, but didn’t want to give him up. I was totally astounded. I love her and want her, but I don’t want to share her.


She said that’s the only way she’ll move back.


So what should I do?


:facepalm: This is what happens when you put the feline on a pedestal and let chicks wrap you around their little finger, cos any dude with a modicum of self respect would have told her to GTFO out the shower and his home and never come back.

I'm sorry breh, but I would've taken the unsuspecting head and the sex........THEN kicked her out my house after I bust:manny:


I'm evil though to those who wrong me. She would've just made herself a friend with benefits in my mind:pachaha:
 

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this is why i advise, many people dont realize how horrible it is until theyve been through it.


please share your experience breh.

I married a single mother.....been with her for 6 years and married for 3 years:manny:


Met her when she was 20 and I was 23.


Great woman, about her business, I have no complaints.


I was lucky though, bc it's not that common.:ufdup:


I wouldn't suggest anyone to date a single mother.
 

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the other day we was layin in her bed watchin a movie and i jus laid there and watched. what do i do if we side by side layin in the bed? what if im chillin with a girl in my car? my prob is that i dont know proper sexual advances.

:mindblown:


If a woman lets you into their bed breh....they want some dikk:ufdup:


Anyways, if you dont know, start touching/rubbing her innocently (arm, back, thigh, wherever just not her ass or chest just yet) and see if she moves away or anything. If she doesnt, inch a little closer to her and tell her to move closer to you...she's too far away or something. If she does that, during sometime within the next 3 minutes, look at her and go in for the kiss. If she moves back like :whoa:, then you know she aint on it. If she lays there and lets you kiss her....game on breh. She is gonna have sex with you
 

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I married a single mother.....been with her for 6 years and married for 3 years:manny:


Met her when she was 20 and I was 23.


Great woman, about her business, I have no complaints.


I was lucky though, bc it's not that common.:ufdup:


I wouldn't suggest anyone to date a single mother.

Akin to winning the lotto :obama:

Where's the dad though

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Akin to winning the lotto :obama:

Where's the dad though

Sent from royalty breh

He's a clown.


He left her and dipped to the army when the kid was being born in 2001. He came back in 2007, seen me in the picture and had no choice but to fall back.

He went on to have 2 more kids with 2 different girls in 2008 and 2010 (one was 15 but the other was 28). Then he got my wife's friend pregnant in 2012 (she was 17), lol, and dipped again.

He left Cleveland and he's now living in a trailer park in Georgia.....with some 16 year old girl he met (dude is 30).


He's a pedo. He was 18 when he met my wife, who was 13 and in the 8th grade and got her pregnant at 15. He only messes with youngins:scusthov:


I got lucky though, because my wife was only 20 and didnt really have the chance to be "ruined" out here by guys just smashing and dashing, so I got her and was able to mold her very easily.


I guess I won?:manny:
 

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the other day we was layin in her bed watchin a movie and i jus laid there and watched. what do i do if we side by side layin in the bed? what if im chillin with a girl in my car? my prob is that i dont know proper sexual advances.
another trick (art barr shared this move with me back on the :hamster:and it actually worked so as always, props to him)


if you're in bed with her, you just run your fingers to random non-sexual places on her at first (say her arm). then you grab her hand and put it on your chest and you look at her straight in the eyes. the animal instinct will take over her because she'll already know what you want and it will be contagious for her.

another trick (really old school though, might not work if she doesn't know what it "means") when you grab her hand, you start playing with it, caressing it. then you take either your middle finger or your middle and fourth finger and gently rub the middle of her palm. I did this to a chick once, she looked at me all seductive and asked me if i knew what it meant. I said no :mjpls: she then explained to me that it means i want things to go all the way and smiled. I went for the kiss and :steviej: but like i said, this is kinda like "old slang" she either knows what it means or she doesn't...
 

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Confidence is way up. Dress game is way sharper. Cologne game is smooth. I don't sit around playing with women. I got more swole from hitting them weights consistently.

I mean it's kind of coo being that guy that women say you're 'sexy' or 'hot' when you're not around or even to your face. It's kind of crazy when you notice that women never really look you in your eyes and kind of hold their head down when talking or looking at you... or when you can see a woman look very nervous when talking to you. It just starts to reflect the increased value you are starting to represent. And that's from the 'looks', aka outward standpoint.

Sharpening my conversation up, as well as getting my knowledge up has been a substantial improvement as well. Sitting back and formulating powerful principles to stand on is another aspect. Knowing that it's not my job as a man to cater to women but rather have them cater to me is another excellent aspect.

Breaking free from those simp characteristics of how I THOUGHT things were supposed to go and gaining the knowledge of what really works and starting to apply that. I'm starting to embody a much more powerful phhilosophy of living and manhood than ever before.

I got things I still want to work on, but that's what makes it so fun... knowing you always got something to work on and to improve and looking at yourself as wine-- you get better with time.
I honestly feel that sometimes I have to be careful about talking with a woman because I can start to say things to have her REALLY into me. The best thing is, I'm internalizing it all and I am BECOMING the man I was meant to be instead of running corny scripts and lines and trying to 'win over' this or that woman by reflecting the man I think she would want. As a man, you should NOT reflect the women. She should become a reflection of you.

Damn. Good post, I really like this , I really do. But hey how do you know if a chick is nervous or walks with her head down, how do you approach her?

As far as hearing that your sexy, what's the difference between sexy? What kind of things would make them really like you?
 

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He's a clown.


He left her and dipped to the army when the kid was being born in 2001. He came back in 2007, seen me in the picture and had no choice but to fall back.

He went on to have 2 more kids with 2 different girls in 2008 and 2010 (one was 15 but the other was 28). Then he got my wife's friend pregnant in 2012 (she was 17), lol, and dipped again.

He left Cleveland and he's now living in a trailer park in Georgia.....with some 16 year old girl he met (dude is 30).


He's a pedo. He was 18 when he met my wife, who was 13 and in the 8th grade and got her pregnant at 15. He only messes with youngins:scusthov:


I got lucky though, because my wife was only 20 and didnt really have the chance to be "ruined" out here by guys just smashing and dashing, so I got her and was able to mold her very easily.


I guess I won?:manny:

You won

Sent from royalty breh
 

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Damn. Good post, I really like this , I really do. But hey how do you know if a chick is nervous or walks with her head down, how do you approach her?

As far as hearing that your sexy, what's the difference between sexy? What kind of things would make them really like you?

It's this certain look la woman can have that you can tell she is nervous... like her voice falters or she looks like she has to use the bathroom. She might kind of look at you for a second and then look away and keep talking. Like she doesn't really want to sit there and look in your eyes for too long because it makes her feel more nervous, so she talks to you without looking in your eyes for too long. Hard to describe it exactly, but you'll know when you see it.

With me, I don't really go up and just start approaching women like that. Me, I kind of make them approach me. Like at the gym, the little receptionist girl on the 2nd floor, she was the one that told me I'm sexy. Day by day, I just pass by and say hey wassup... I don't really park myself over there like a lot of guys and just have these long drawn out conversations. She ends up finding a way to be around me. When women dig you, they find ways to pass by you or be around you. They might look at you and smile or something. That's when you got an opportunity to just start kicking it.

Me personally, I love to deal with a woman when she's 'hot'-- meaning she is extremely receptive to you. These are the women who will find some way, some how to be around your presence... like I remember I was at a wedding one time and there was this girl who was with her mom and could have sat ANYWHERE, but they decided to sit at a table with me and my homeboy unprompted. With women, it's almost like reading a hidden sign language. When you're able to start picking up on it, you'll start looking at your past like why did I NOT get that she liked me before?

In regards to the sexy question, I think you missed out on a word, but I'm guessing you put what's the difference between cute and sexy. To me cute is cool, but I personally hate hearing it. It's like she comes around you and thinks 'awwwww', like you are a puppy or a baby. Like you're this sweet, cuddly lil thing. With sexy, it denotes that she is really attracted to you in the level that she wants you.
 

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It's this certain look la woman can have that you can tell she is nervous... like her voice falters or she looks like she has to use the bathroom. She might kind of look at you for a second and then look away and keep talking. Like she doesn't really want to sit there and look in your eyes for too long because it makes her feel more nervous, so she talks to you without looking in your eyes for too long. Hard to describe it exactly, but you'll know when you see it.

With me, I don't really go up and just start approaching women like that. Me, I kind of make them approach me. Like at the gym, the little receptionist girl on the 2nd floor, she was the one that told me I'm sexy. Day by day, I just pass by and say hey wassup... I don't really park myself over there like a lot of guys and just have these long drawn out conversations. She ends up finding a way to be around me. When women dig you, they find ways to pass by you or be around you. They might look at you and smile or something. That's when you got an opportunity to just start kicking it.

Me personally, I love to deal with a woman when she's 'hot'-- meaning she is extremely receptive to you. These are the women who will find some way, some how to be around your presence... like I remember I was at a wedding one time and there was this girl who was with her mom and could have sat ANYWHERE, but they decided to sit at a table with me and my homeboy unprompted. With women, it's almost like reading a hidden sign language. When you're able to start picking up on it, you'll start looking at your past like why did I NOT get that she liked me before?

In regards to the sexy question, I think you missed out on a word, but I'm guessing you put what's the difference between cute and sexy. To me cute is cool, but I personally hate hearing it. It's like she comes around you and thinks 'awwwww', like you are a puppy or a baby. Like you're this sweet, cuddly lil thing. With sexy, it denotes that she is really attracted to you in the level that she wants you.

I've never approached a chick just out if the blue in real life. I'm the type to have patience, sit back and watch.

Chess not checkers


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It's this certain look la woman can have that you can tell she is nervous... like her voice falters or she looks like she has to use the bathroom. She might kind of look at you for a second and then look away and keep talking. Like she doesn't really want to sit there and look in your eyes for too long because it makes her feel more nervous, so she talks to you without looking in your eyes for too long. Hard to describe it exactly, but you'll know when you see it.

With me, I don't really go up and just start approaching women like that. Me, I kind of make them approach me. Like at the gym, the little receptionist girl on the 2nd floor, she was the one that told me I'm sexy. Day by day, I just pass by and say hey wassup... I don't really park myself over there like a lot of guys and just have these long drawn out conversations. She ends up finding a way to be around me. When women dig you, they find ways to pass by you or be around you. They might look at you and smile or something. That's when you got an opportunity to just start kicking it.

Me personally, I love to deal with a woman when she's 'hot'-- meaning she is extremely receptive to you. These are the women who will find some way, some how to be around your presence... like I remember I was at a wedding one time and there was this girl who was with her mom and could have sat ANYWHERE, but they decided to sit at a table with me and my homeboy unprompted. With women, it's almost like reading a hidden sign language. When you're able to start picking up on it, you'll start looking at your past like why did I NOT get that she liked me before?

In regards to the sexy question, I think you missed out on a word, but I'm guessing you put what's the difference between cute and sexy. To me cute is cool, but I personally hate hearing it. It's like she comes around you and thinks 'awwwww', like you are a puppy or a baby. Like you're this sweet, cuddly lil thing. With sexy, it denotes that she is really attracted to you in the level that she wants you.
listen to this dude.

there are to spectrums when it comes to first contact with girls. Not that one is bad or anything, i guess it depends on your style.

-on one side you got dudes who approach blindly any girl they find attractive and apply the full court press (PUA style). It's basically a numbers game, they don't care about if a girl is showing her the signs and they are very persistent. You're basically choosing her first.

-on the other side, you got dudes who just wait for the girl to approach them. They sit back and observe. (Pimp style). If a girl likes you it's like Kev said, she'll find a way to get in your circle. You basically wait for her to choose you first. this requires patience and observation skills but i'm trying to lean more towards this style. sometimes they'll even approach you first. (had a girl ask me if i could help them with homework and then conveniently forgot their books at home so "we have to go get them", had girl ask me if i wanted to go see them play at their softball game and then wanted to hang out with me, etc, etc)

the reason i said they are two spectrums is that you could be somewhere in between. you could watch for signs that a girl is choosing you and then approach her. you could approach blindly and while talking to her, lay back a little in the convo and see if she starts asking you questions (basically trying to see if she's interested and giving signs she's choosing). the reason i'm starting to favor the second style is because once a girl is already choosing you, the work is already done. You already know for a fact that she likes you. You can take it where ever you want from there cause if she's choosing you hard, she'll follow you where ever you lead her cause she wants and needs your approbation.you're the driver (drive responsibly)
 

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Well I don't ever see that, if anything I see women walking by that'll scan the room or look at me while walking and I'll try to make eye contact and they'll quickly look away whether down or to the left or right.

Even in a club situation? Yeah I agree, that's kind of a waste of time because I feel like it would automatically put you into the friend zone. I think this girl at this coffee shop likes me or some shyt, because the other day ago I told her she looked nice and so idk she got kinda nervous and I got scatter brained while making my coffee, looking down for sugar I noticed her looking at me and so I asked what and she laughed and said nothing lol. But today I bought coffee and she came up put both arms on her hips with more attitude asking me what was up and telling me about her day. Do I ask to get coffee? My only problem is I don't know if I'd wife this girl and yeah she's cool but if she wants more then I don't want to hurt her feelings.

Oh yeah good point, so rather than just talking to a girl randomly, you make sure there's at least common interest and first.

And no, my bad I didn't mean cute, I meant Handsome, what's the difference between that and sexy? The cute one makes sense since it usually being said to kids.
 
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