Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Scaaar]

I have a lot of girl friends, but never in my life have I asked someone to be friends LOL. I would say don't ever do that. It just sounds like some p*ssy shyt.

it just happens, and I never put people in an inflexible category. There's women that are my real friends, we have never slept together, but that's more on them. Some we have. Some we just kiss. But. she's a real friend, when I came back from a trip she picked me up and took me to my favorite market and IN N Out, that's my homie. And she has a boyfriend. But, that's a natural friendship. We didn't ever agree to be just friends.

That is Tik Tok shyt. I guess rom coms have pushed that for awhile too, but you don't really need to put people in such rigid categories. There's a great quote I heard in my marriage and family class in school, "relationships can always go forwards, they can never go backwards"

Right breh. I've never really gave women a specific category. I have women I'm actively pursuing. I have women that I pursued that didn't work out and the ones that remain are in a FWB's situation. Then I have ex's and lastly women that I'm cool with but then convos never turned sexual for one reason or another. As you meet and interact with folks people naturally fall into these slots just do to life happening. Even some of the FWBs have left to date folks that want a relationship with them and then come back later on when it didn't work. I don't treat them any differently. When I go out and want company I just call whoever I feel like spending time with at the moment. I just enjoy life until I find someone that makes me wanna commit long term. Brehs gotta start moving like that. The rules of dating are too stagnant and rigid. Just interact and mingle with people and stop putting too much thought into how it could go right or wrong. Just live

 

[RealAssanova]

That's all you needed to hear breh. Exit stage left. Let her know you can't be friends with someone that you're sexually attracted to and exit stage left. She's benefitting off the perks of you as a man but still not willing to open up to you intimately. It doesn't have to immediately be sex but a chick that's into you or sexually attracted would never say that. They would be pressed about securing the relationship which through alot of women's eyes is with sex since they view it as their biggest bargaining chip. Which means she already has someone fulfilling that need sexually either an ex or someone that she is pursuing besides you.

This is one scenario were i don’t really blame the woman.

He had ample opportunity to make something happen. Now she is uncertain about him and is feeling somewhat turned off imo. However, he is still providing benefit to her in the form of dates, attention & validation. So in her mind, why would she need to give that up?

She knows he’s into her (as he stated) and she knows he’s not confident. Perfect ingredients. She now has the recipe to breadcrumb and string him along.

He can obviously cut her off…but if he likes her like he says he does, it’ll mess with him.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

This is one scenario were i don’t really blame the woman.

He had ample opportunity to make something happen. Now she is uncertain about him and is feeling somewhat turned off imo. However, he is still providing benefit to her in the form of dates, attention & validation. So in her mind, why would she need to give that up?

She knows he’s into her (as he stated) and she knows he’s not confident. Perfect ingredients. She now has the recipe to breadcrumb and string him along.

He can obviously cut her off…but if he likes her like he says he does, it’ll mess with him.

Most women
If you don’t make a move..especially after 2 dates

They assume you weird

 

[MikelArteta]

This is one scenario were i don’t really blame the woman.

He had ample opportunity to make something happen. Now she is uncertain about him and is feeling somewhat turned off imo. However, he is still providing benefit to her in the form of dates, attention & validation. So in her mind, why would she need to give that up?

She knows he’s into her (as he stated) and she knows he’s not confident. Perfect ingredients. She now has the recipe to breadcrumb and string him along.

He can obviously cut her off…but if he likes her like he says he does, it’ll mess with him.

Yup I keep telling brehs to adopt the mindset like you're on vacation. You don't have time to wait to make a move you do it asap with that mentality.

 

[Scaaar]

This is one scenario were i don’t really blame the woman.

He had ample opportunity to make something happen. Now she is uncertain about him and is feeling somewhat turned off imo. However, he is still providing benefit to her in the form of dates, attention & validation. So in her mind, why would she need to give that up?

She knows he’s into her (as he stated) and she knows he’s not confident. Perfect ingredients. She now has the recipe to breadcrumb and string him along.

He can obviously cut her off…but if he likes her like he says he does, it’ll mess with him.

Definitely right breh. His hesitation caused her to sense it and him asking her to be friends put the ball in her court when it's supposed to be the other way. Brehs gotta stop overthinking and just do. He should cut his losses and bail because she knows that he's into her but he won't seal the deal. She could just leverage that to get the perks outta him but still stall him out on the intimacy of she chooses too.

 

[RealAssanova]

Definitely right breh. His hesitation caused her to sense it and him asking her to be friends put the ball in her court when it's supposed to be the other way. Brehs gotta stop overthinking and just do. He should cut his losses and bail because she knows that he's into her but he won't seal the deal. She could just leverage that to get the perks outta him but still stall him out on the intimacy of she chooses too.

Even if he was to make a move, i think she’ll shut it down.

Women have a window they give to a nikka..especially if they see him more than once. Meaning, he has to do somethin in that window otherwise he’s done.

They’re typically unforgiving when it comes to this typa shyt.

 

[Ahadi]

“hesitation” gets women dry btw.

They see it as low “masculinity”

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

This is one scenario were i don’t really blame the woman.

He had ample opportunity to make something happen. Now she is uncertain about him and is feeling somewhat turned off imo. However, he is still providing benefit to her in the form of dates, attention & validation. So in her mind, why would she need to give that up?

She knows he’s into her (as he stated) and she knows he’s not confident. Perfect ingredients. She now has the recipe to breadcrumb and string him along.

He can obviously cut her off…but if he likes her like he says he does, it’ll mess with him.

these type scenarios is where men need to learn to value themselves....
a lot of us inherently put women on pedestals and consciously or unconsciously think they're better than us
we put ourselves in losing situations like this in an effort to prove ourselves to women...i aint proving shyt....hate or love it...i dont care either way

to hell with that....women aint nothing special

yeah....she pretty and the ass is phat...she got pretty feet...but she stink up a bathroom and has morning breath just like you breh....

 

[Mike809]

Was talking to this one girl on hinge , told her I was buying myself some flowers today.
I went to the flower store , a bouquet was like $80 so I told her I don't love myself THAT much lol
she went ahead and unmatch me.

 

[Mike809]

idk how these dating apps can get away with putting height as a filter , but not weight.

 

[re'up]

idk how these dating apps can get away with putting height as a filter , but not weight.

When you get on Hinge and match someone, how long do you typically 'talk' for? Before you ask someone in person.

 

[Ahadi]

idk how these dating apps can get away with putting height as a filter , but not weight.

They’ll lose all of their female clientele, which will lose all of their male clientele, which will lose their money lol.

The best way is to tell by photo angles. Include any activities like running or working out. That “should” weed them out

 

[Ohene]

idk how these dating apps can get away with putting height as a filter , but not weight.

Because the world caters to women

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Was talking to this one girl on hinge , told her I was buying myself some flowers today.
I went to the flower store , a bouquet was like $80 so I told her I don't love myself THAT much lol
she went ahead and unmatch me.

because in her eyes you lowered your value. the woman needs to look up to you and if you don't love yourself enough to buy yourself $80 flowers why would she love you? I get what you did trying to make a joke but don't ever put yourself down or devalue yourself to a woman. also big yourself up and talk that shyt but still be humble.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Depending on the situation if you try to kiss on the first date and she doesn't do it you should bush them. Maybe depending on situation you give it a second date but if she wont kiss you after the second date move on. if it's not a hell yes then it is a hell no. either they are attracted to you or they aren't. don't let them play games and give them time to figure out if they like you or not. regardless of what they say woman immediately know if they want to fukk you and date you or not.