Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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i wanted to just casually go out like how we were doing
no,if you read i said she's a virgin
my bad, i thought you meant like she was a virgin before you slept with her maybe.


seems to me like she got bored with the routine. maybe she wants more. the thing that's making me think this is that she tried to be just friends with you and when you said naw she stayed in contact with you and still kissed you afterwards. and she's always finding ways even if petty to get into contact with you...then again who the hell knows what's going on in her head. she could be crazy for all we know. If you just want to go out on casual dates with her and nothing more, and if she doesn't want that, fukk it. to the next one as they say. but for what it's worth, i think she's still somewhat feeling you but not feeling what you guys are doing together.
 
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yea, she said she wasn't really committed she said. she said the last time she had a distraction in school she did bad and she's tryna go to med school so i can't really compete with that if she dont' want to. judging by how much time we would chill, talk, how much she would study and work i highly doubt she was doing the same thing with another guy at the same time, maybe she is now but definitely not before

I've had a similar situation. For several weeks I was hanging out with a coworker every other day, texting her all the time. Turns out she was seeing two other dudes at the same time, one of them being my boss.

My advice would be to move on. Relationships are easy in the beginning. If this isn't, its because its not a relationship. Like I said, its not a relationship until you get her to officially establish that it is.
 

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my bad, i thought you meant like she was a virgin before you slept with her maybe.


seems to me like she got bored with the routine. maybe she wants more. the thing that's making me think this is that she tried to be just friends with you and when you said naw she stayed in contact with you and still kissed you afterwards. and she's always finding ways even if petty to get into contact with you...then again who the hell knows what's going on in her head. she could be crazy for all we know. If you just want to go out on casual dates with her and nothing more, and if she doesn't want that, fukk it. to the next one as they say. but for what it's worth, i think she's still somewhat feeling you but not feeling what you guys are doing together.

yea
that makes a lot of sense, thanks
 

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When I say choosing, I mean not just getting with a woman because you know she likes you.

You have to make sure you like her as well.

So in essence, it has to be mutual.

Some dudes will just mess with any chick who is on their d*ck, not assessing whether she's a good fit or look for him. That's how dudes get caught up with hoodrats. Half of the time hoodrats approach us and we just deal with them because they're readily available and end up in bad and unsatisfying situations.
definitely. we need to up our standards. choose the creme of who's choosing us and they have to meet our standards.

cosign to the fullest.
 

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i need to make a comment on something that's been said a few times in this thread.

there's that look of desperation you give off when your looking at a girl, searching for her gaze. yall need to learn to avoid that. u dont wanna give off the impression that "im trying to be chosen". girls can spot this and it is very obvious and embarrassing..for the guy. u goto understand, chicks are more advanced at sensing this, way more than the average guy...since they get more ogling interactions with the opposite sex

the look u goto have on ur face should be some:jawalrus: or this :childplease: if its a chick who acts like her sh1t dont stink.
 

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i need to make a comment on something that's been said a few things in this thread.

there's that look of desperation you give off when your looking at a girl, searching for her gaze. yall need to learn to avoid that. u dont wanna give off the impression that "im trying to be chosen". girls can spot this and it is very obvious and embarrassing..for the guy. u goto understand, chicks are more advanced at sensing this, way more than the average guy...since they get more ogling interactions with the opposite sex

the look u goto have on ur face should be some:jawalrus: or this :childplease: if its a chick who acts like her sh1t dont stink.

i think you're reading too far into the look, what kidn of guy searches for a girls gaze?. if you feel a girl is looking at you with interest as long as you keep you're cool you're gonna be good.
 

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i need to make a comment on something that's been said a few things in this thread.

there's that look of desperation you give off when your looking at a girl, searching for her gaze. yall need to learn to avoid that. u dont wanna give off the impression that "im trying to be chosen". girls can spot this and it is very obvious and embarrassing..for the guy. u goto understand, chicks are more advanced at sensing this, way more than the average guy...since they get more ogling interactions with the opposite sex

the look u goto have on ur face should be some:jawalrus: or this :childplease: if its a chick who acts like her sh1t dont stink.
never even paid attention to that, i might have to check myself.
 

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i think you're reading too far into the look, what kidn of guy searches for a girls gaze?. if you feel a girl is looking at you with interest as long as you keep you're cool you're gonna be good.

:laugh: i dont think you're comprehending the post. re-read it and absorb.
 

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listen to this dude.

there are to spectrums when it comes to first contact with girls. Not that one is bad or anything, i guess it depends on your style.

-on one side you got dudes who approach blindly any girl they find attractive and apply the full court press (PUA style). It's basically a numbers game, they don't care about if a girl is showing her the signs and they are very persistent. You're basically choosing her first.

-on the other side, you got dudes who just wait for the girl to approach them. They sit back and observe. (Pimp style). If a girl likes you it's like Kev said, she'll find a way to get in your circle. You basically wait for her to choose you first. this requires patience and observation skills but i'm trying to lean more towards this style. sometimes they'll even approach you first. (had a girl ask me if i could help them with homework and then conveniently forgot their books at home so "we have to go get them", had girl ask me if i wanted to go see them play at their softball game and then wanted to hang out with me, etc, etc)

the reason i said they are two spectrums is that you could be somewhere in between. you could watch for signs that a girl is choosing you and then approach her. you could approach blindly and while talking to her, lay back a little in the convo and see if she starts asking you questions (basically trying to see if she's interested and giving signs she's choosing). the reason i'm starting to favor the second style is because once a girl is already choosing you, the work is already done. You already know for a fact that she likes you. You can take it where ever you want from there cause if she's choosing you hard, she'll follow you where ever you lead her cause she wants and needs your approbation.you're the driver (drive responsibly)

:whoo: :wow: :win:
 

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never even paid attention to that, i might have to check myself.

lol i had to check myself. u dont know when ur doing it. thats why i applaud what kevm3 is saying. see, you can emit confidence through only a few ways.

the way you talk
the way you move
and most importantly the LOOK on your face

to talk confidently, move nonchalantly, and have all that show up on your face (without it being faked), you have to have something going. something about u must be on point.

maybe u have a giant bank account that u know most people dont have. maybe u got a b1g d1ck. maybe ur dressed to kill. maybe u know u got 5 different dimes in ur phone u can hit up any time. these are facts that only u know and they are facts that will gracefully carry u across the veiled glances cast upon u by the eyes u dont see.

when u look at a girl, what is ur look saying? is it saying:

"oooo please please look at me so our eyes can connect"
"please please i'm begging u just smile at me"
"ooo my god u got a phat ass i wish i can fucck it"

what is ur look saying?

ur look should be saying something like:

"i'm sizing u up to see if u got what i want" ===>:obama: :smugbiden:
 

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