A convo this weekend, I was attempting to explain the "crash and burn" that many people experience in dating, (that I never really do, not ghosting, that I do experience)
Here's my summation: in the rush to "lock people down", and the immediate knowledge of other options, and the paranoia of someone "talking to other people", people rush very quickly into relationships, without giving each other room to breathe, and then end up disillusioned. A few girl friends of mine repeatedly describe scenarios that match
The optimization of APP dating, someone meets some qualifiers, "he wants long term" "he's good looking enough", "we had fun dates", lets get into a relationship RIGHT NOW. But, you don't really know that person intimately,. but no one wants the other person to "get away".
Only way ever pulled that off was get a girl who like girls and she a dam near honey potSometimes I feel like I need a woman who won't mind and will lowkey encourage me having another woman.
Just opens the door for jealousy and trust issues type shyt.. Just unnecessary stuff. I was kicking it with this one for a little minute, she was flighty type so I already knew what it was but it was cool.. Then she get accepted to some training for flight attendant and leaving town before she left we kick it with her friend and they basically set up a threesome.. Wow ok cool.. She leavin but her friend still in town, she know wats up as I told her wat she introduced but when shyt pop off she still got madWhat issues![]()
A convo this weekend, I was attempting to explain the "crash and burn" that many people experience in dating, (that I never really do, not ghosting, that I do experience)
Here's my summation: in the rush to "lock people down", and the immediate knowledge of other options, and the paranoia of someone "talking to other people", people rush very quickly into relationships, without giving each other room to breathe, and then end up disillusioned. A few girl friends of mine repeatedly describe scenarios that match
The optimization of APP dating, someone meets some qualifiers, "he wants long term" "he's good looking enough", "we had fun dates", lets get into a relationship RIGHT NOW. But, you don't really know that person intimately,. but no one wants the other person to "get away".
I think people do because they get scared that if they don't that person will find someone "better than him"
Like i was talking to a female acquaintance today and she was telling me how she's been going out with these two guys for the past couple weeks and both are great etc., but recently a 3rd guy popped up and he's a software engineer and blah blah and now that guy is in the "lead".
Thats the thing about these apps and people on them, a swipe away is someone that "looks better"or has "bigger boobs", or a "bigger az"z, or a "better job", or a "better body, is taller etc". you're never really satisfied.
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I matched with this 28 year old female, last week. I gave her a compliment & she asked me straight up what I do for a living. I told her Nursing (I'm actually an architect) she unmatched me quickly
Dating apps, some women expect you to tick all her boxes.
I would have said "I'm a medical professional".
I wouldn't have told no woman that I'm a male nurse![]()
I wouldn't even respond if the first question is what do you do but nurses be making bank so not sure why she unmatched? that's crazy.
Is it safe to assume any chick now has a bunch of dudes she’s talking to in IG DMs, Snapchat, etc. even if she doesn’t have dating apps?
Or am I just disillusioned. Just wanted a sense check lol
Is it safe to assume any chick now has a bunch of dudes she’s talking to in IG DMs, Snapchat, etc. even if she doesn’t have dating apps?
Or am I just disillusioned. Just wanted a sense check lol
breh can I DM you? Need some advice, looks like your profile is restrictedyes
even not being on a dating app, men at work, exes, male "friends", followers on instagram