Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Tip for the day. If you’re talking to a woman and you ask her what’s her name and she doesn’t ask for yours, she’s not interested lol. There are exceptions to the rule but for the most part this is true. Just charge it to the game.

I will say lotta chicks just have zero conversation skills or personality. But you shouldnt deal with a woman who cant do basic communication because when issues come up she is going to be even worse than the typical woman
 

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I will say lotta chicks just have zero conversation skills or personality. But you shouldnt deal with a woman who cant do basic communication because when issues come up she is going to be even worse than the typical woman
This falls into the category of exceptions to the rule.
 

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Swingers, lol. We dealt with the phone # problem in the early 00's.

The practical answer for this is two fold

1) Hook Up the Same Damn Night - stop collecting numbers and social media @'s - and go for the gusto every single time. If you get contact information, don't place any importance on it. It's an afterthought. If the chick can't accept the Gospel, keep it moving Black Jesus.

A) Add her to your social media and induce fomo.
B) Mass text all these chicks, "Hey I'ma be at such and such, come out, bring a friend, should be dope".

2) Increase your volume - If you're thinking about any given girl that you haven't got with (or even those that you have...), any given phone # - you don't have enough VOLUME.

So if you're doing the bar and clubs thing, you need to stop being a civilian about it. Maybe you're a known face at the spot, but you're not a known name - you need to be a name.

If you're doing the networking/happy hour/educated Black People thing - it's the same thing. So that means building some type of platform, or taking a leadership position. Male models could be in the church, the preacher gets all the attention.

If your game is primarily online - run ads on social media.

The mental energy we put into chicks that will forget us after hanging out for 2-3 hours and telling us her life story - these chicks are birds, even the smart ones.

Operate on that basis.

She's gonna get distracted, she's gonna not be into it 15 minutes after you leave, all types of things can happen.

And rather than invest in trying to keep one broads attention, invest in gathering all of the broads attention.


All true. My boys do a lot of that kind of thing with mixed results, or I would argue the results they want. The amount of effort I put in is very minimal, all things considered, and I have to be aware of my own boundaries, I am not willing to do much more than connect with someone in person, and hit them up. I can attract so easily it's almost like a joke, but the effort required is sometimes outside of my interest level. So, without social media, and without becoming the party guy, I'm playing with one hand tied behind my back, but I can live with that.


Also, a lot of this is just my own kind of self awareness, I come across, I am sure even more so on here, a little unaware of other people's emotions, and just the kind of messiness of human interaction. I have to check myself and remember that not everyone is as hyper efficient or whatever, I really expect sometimes one 4 text exchange and we are having fun somewhere EVERYTIME. That's not realistic. That's just my personal standard.
 

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Went to a bar/party yesterday stood in one spot for an hour. Had two chicks keep bumping into me the entire time. Hung out with them the entire night after striking up a conversation.

Got a date with one of them next week. :manny: :yeshrug:


Yall been posting too many L's. Date went well.

:wow: very pretty, feminine, no tattoos, a little reserved. 5'7 125 in her late 20s. College educated. Both parents been married for like 30+ years.


Not career obsessed like the last few women I dated. That can become annoying because they think making 6 figures means you can slack in other areas of life and can't take critiquing.
 
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Yeah we making mini movies on our phones now lol everyone is an “influencer” and IG has literally become your Life Resume.

I would say life time relationships are over snd now we will just exist in endless cycles of short term and long term (greater than 2 yrs) relationships.

So IMO marriage is over, best you can do is have kids in a manner where you can influence them as much as possible since modern women lack nurturing

Honestly it is kind of sad but true. Just like how people don't stay at that job for 20-30 years anymore the same with relationships.
 

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Honestly it is kind of sad but true. Just like how people don't stay at that job for 20-30 years anymore the same with relationships.
The most we can do in this day an age is minimizs the negative financial and physical when something ends lol. The emotional and mental damage should be null of you accept the new state of things but this is something men and women dont want to accept (hence men who refuse to adapt being angry at modern women, and modern women thinking their story has a happy fairy tale ending).
 

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The most we can do in this day an age is minimizs the negative financial and physical when something ends lol. The emotional and mental damage should be null of you accept the new state of things but this is something men and women dont want to accept (hence men who refuse to adapt being angry at modern women, and modern women thinking their story has a happy fairy tale ending).

Yup
I remember I used to be sad, frustrated, angry sometimes back in the day. Now I just accept it for what it is. It's like a rollercoaster you go on there are ups and downs, thrills and slow and fast moments but it comes to an end.
 

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Yup
I remember I used to be sad, frustrated, angry sometimes back in the day. Now I just accept it for what it is. It's like a rollercoaster you go on there are ups and downs, thrills and slow and fast moments but it comes to an end.
You notice when dudes find something good all that Hard on Hoes shyt gets tossed out the window lmfao. It’s only once shyt inevitably ends that they come back to their senses. Dudes gotta do what women do and “match energy” vs going all in and thinking about a future that aint guaranteed.
 

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This is the first time ever my "you don't have to respond if you don't want to" text didnt work. I wanted her essence but she really isn't in a good space mentally. I thought she would be easy to spin back on
:francis:

Who have I become
:mjcry:
 

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Yall been posting too many L's. Date went well.

:wow: very pretty, feminine, no tattoos, a little reserved. 5'7 125 in her late 20s. College educated. Both parents been married for like 30+ years.


Not career obsessed like the last few women I dated. That can become annoying because they think making 6 figures means you can slack in other areas of life and can't take critiquing.
the bold :wow:
 
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