Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Yea when the FULL internet was able to be open to masses and connect everyone, you could see the changes. Before even on phones they had some stripped down internet. But in '07 most people didnt have the iphone, it was a niche product for early tech adopters locked I think on ATT only. Then app store came like a year later ('08). IG was huge because it was an app first before ever having actual website, that was big at the time (Only accessible on mobile phone). That window of '11-'13 when IG is finding its lane and growing and then Tinder entering and taking off was a BIG shift, 4G also in that era late '12.

Even before then, how people consumed the internet was tied to their computer, stationary, only some people maybe took pics at a party then went home and uploaded. The amount of digital pictures exploded in that '12-'13 range. The way people interacted with IG was posting food pics or outfit of the day. Coming to android opened it to billion more users in '12. The actual camera used then were heavy pixels.

The next big shift came in that '16 ish time, cameras got better, EVERYONE had a connected smart phone, and IG went thru revamp with inrtoducing larger uploads, and mainly algorithm (MAJOR). Before it was just chronological order but then the algorithm was introduced. Women I think took to it much better than men, they understand or pay more attention to detail and aesthetics. New jobs/economy/trends took off, the whole makeup artist, lashes, weaves and tea, traveling, high end restaurants, shopping, soft girl life, boss girl, etc. To me ALLLL of that is tied to this eras change. With better high quality pics, you now need a curated feed, so its not just a fun app anymore, its presenting a whole lifestyle brand. Selling an image. Thats why they all want the same guy or its trending that way.

Now people are taking full on photoshoots, info that you would have to $earch for is freely available or given away. Things are moving soo fast and trends happening, I would have to sit and really think about it. Environment really dictates behavior but the algorithms seem to be having people go crazy more than anything else..
Yeah we making mini movies on our phones now lol everyone is an “influencer” and IG has literally become your Life Resume.

I would say life time relationships are over snd now we will just exist in endless cycles of short term and long term (greater than 2 yrs) relationships.

So IMO marriage is over, best you can do is have kids in a manner where you can influence them as much as possible since modern women lack nurturing
 

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Yeah we making mini movies on our phones now lol everyone is an “influencer” and IG has literally become your Life Resume.

I would say life time relationships are over snd now we will just exist in endless cycles of short term and long term (greater than 2 yrs) relationships.

So IMO marriage is over, best you can do is have kids in a manner where you can influence them as much as possible since modern women lack nurturing
BIG FACTS. When I say this to people in person and tell em marriage was by men, for men and women look at it as some type of "slavery" they look at me like I got 3 eyes..

Many cant wrap they head around it and I still see and hear people try to scare or shame women with "oh you wont get married", atleast in our community the women give less than zero fukks and their actions show it.. Again dudes behind the curve..:mjlol:
 

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BIG FACTS. When I say this to people in person and tell em marriage was by men, for men and women look at it as some type of "slavery" they look at me like I got 3 eyes..

Many cant wrap they head around it and I still see and hear people try to scare or shame women with "oh you wont get married", atleast in our community the women give less than zero fukks and their actions show it.. Again dudes behind the curve..:mjlol:
Dudes tryna shame hoes to act right when God himself couldnt even do it
 

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BIG FACTS. When I say this to people in person and tell em marriage was by men, for men and women look at it as some type of "slavery" they look at me like I got 3 eyes..

Many cant wrap they head around it and I still see and hear people try to scare or shame women with "oh you wont get married", atleast in our community the women give less than zero fukks and their actions show it.. Again dudes behind the curve..:mjlol:
Dudes tryna shame hoes to act right when God himself couldnt even do it
 

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Yeah we making mini movies on our phones now lol everyone is an “influencer” and IG has literally become your Life Resume.

I would say life time relationships are over snd now we will just exist in endless cycles of short term and long term (greater than 2 yrs) relationships.

So IMO marriage is over, best you can do is have kids in a manner where you can influence them as much as possible since modern women lack nurturing
Woof
 

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Yeah we making mini movies on our phones now lol everyone is an “influencer” and IG has literally become your Life Resume.

I would say life time relationships are over snd now we will just exist in endless cycles of short term and long term (greater than 2 yrs) relationships.

So IMO marriage is over, best you can do is have kids in a manner where you can influence them as much as possible since modern women lack nurturing
Gawtdamn :mjlol:
 

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i may really have to invest in developing a proper IG acct/dating profile this summer

cold approaching can work - i got 2 or 3 woman building on my roster as we speak...but its only becoming more and more fruitless as time goes on.

met a girl on the train yesterday, had a great conversation and exchanged numbers.

messaged her that night. she responds the next morning. i respond , no response from her. something similar happened with 2 other girls i bagged yesterday.

if you aint getting a hook up from your friend circle it is very hard to actually entice a random chick. got 3 numbers and deleted all 3 within 24 hrs :laff:


Glad you wrote this and not me, but yes, that happens pretty frequently. It's almost like satire like to me, at times. I'll meet someone, we have some connection, often through a friend, and then we even make a plan, which is forming another connection like "Lets go here this week, I'll text you"

Often, I even say something lightly addressing the idea that people just say shyt, and don't go, and I'm like "I'll actually text you, but do you actually want to go" and I will get a enthusiastic YES, I'M DOWN, I really have been wanting to go there!

then into the digital void, but, I do like this quote that "relationships can always go forward, never never backward", most of the time, we will end up closer, just takes longer. And the thing is, like someone said, the reasons for getting that non response are getting so neurotic and anxious, it's not "They just aren't into you".
 

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Another small note is, I have my anxiety, insecurities, (paranoia!) but through most of life, I walk confidently, more quiet than not, expensively dressed, about my business, low profile. Put me in any situation, almost and I am fine, composed, on point, charming.

I could give a fukk about petty gossip, or social media, or any of that, but more and more, almost like a 2020's "Swingers", you realize that to date, to sleep with people, to exist in 2020's means obsessing about texts, messages, social media, whatever.

Remember the scene in Swingers where he leaves that insane message? Meeting people for me, sometimes I think about that, and like I said, I'll push a little and jokingly say, "yeah I'll text you, but will you answer?" but pushing any harder than that, you look a little nuts, there's no way to navigate that.

Because part of the paradox is obsessing over texts/emojis/likes/response times, is pretending you don't care.
 
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Because part of the paradox is obsessing over texts/emojis/likes/response times, is pretending you don't care.

Swingers, lol. We dealt with the phone # problem in the early 00's.

The practical answer for this is two fold

1) Hook Up the Same Damn Night - stop collecting numbers and social media @'s - and go for the gusto every single time. If you get contact information, don't place any importance on it. It's an afterthought. If the chick can't accept the Gospel, keep it moving Black Jesus.

A) Add her to your social media and induce fomo.
B) Mass text all these chicks, "Hey I'ma be at such and such, come out, bring a friend, should be dope".

2) Increase your volume - If you're thinking about any given girl that you haven't got with (or even those that you have...), any given phone # - you don't have enough VOLUME.

So if you're doing the bar and clubs thing, you need to stop being a civilian about it. Maybe you're a known face at the spot, but you're not a known name - you need to be a name.

If you're doing the networking/happy hour/educated Black People thing - it's the same thing. So that means building some type of platform, or taking a leadership position. Male models could be in the church, the preacher gets all the attention.

If your game is primarily online - run ads on social media.

The mental energy we put into chicks that will forget us after hanging out for 2-3 hours and telling us her life story - these chicks are birds, even the smart ones.

Operate on that basis.

She's gonna get distracted, she's gonna not be into it 15 minutes after you leave, all types of things can happen.

And rather than invest in trying to keep one broads attention, invest in gathering all of the broads attention.
 

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Last 10 pages of this thread :wow:

As a married breh i feel for the single and younger folks. Ppl literally can't talk to each other and so socially awkward. Social media made ppl less social... who would have thunk it :wow:

Work on yourselves brehs, mentally, physically, financially and spiritually. Women claim to like that toxic shyt but that shyt don't last.

Aight back to the Lakers game and this Woodford Reserve :salute:
 
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You could take it a step forward:

If you have no interest and no investment into yourself and you meet someone, what are y’all supposed to do together?
If this is the case then it doesn't matter...you're not keeping her long anyway....no woman worth a damn is staying with a nab that has NOTHING going on for himself
 
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