Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Would love to just call and have people call me, so much easier. I'm good on the phone, (and text) but just calling to me, is much more my style, straight to the point and efficient, active communication in real time, as opposed to passive, you can scale up scale down, a 45 minute convo or a 2 min check in, or logistic coordination.

Whereas with text, it's this ambiguous, ever changing, endless volley of emojis, memes, questions, with undefined interpersonal relationships, I would say it's the least efficient, but people like it's distance and premediated nature.

right now, this instant, I want to hit my homie and see if she wants to get tacos, I feel like calling her, because if I text she may hit me back 15 minutes from now, and I could already be at the spot.
This. I hate text, its a horrible way to get to know someone.
 

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Had some thoughts of some key words and concepts that define a lot of people's thoughts and actions in this generation, after I heard a woman my age tell the staff at a taco spot yesterday "I feel like this burrito has sauce in it and I asked for no sauce"

Awkwardness, anxiety, and avoidance

This is some bullshyt theorizing from me, but here is the formula, encounter "awkwardness", avoid to reduce anxiety.

That's reasonable, but I think starting with millennials we started obsessing over "awkwardness", the idea that things were awkward, mostly I think for social media posts, but soon everything was awkward. he double texted me", AWKWARD, "He wasn't in the group chat, but he like came to the party" AWKWARD, "That server like looked at me for a second and just like it was so awkward"

Labeling everything as awkward led to more behavior that avoids it, even when, it's NOT really that awkward or uncomfortable, it became so. I have been watching more closely the amount of people who walk with their phone out, to avoid almost any interaction. "we had to like walk next to each other for a second, it was so awkward"

which brings me back to the phone convo. Think a lot of phone call avoidance is based in the idea that you can't instantly control how long a convo goes, most people have time for a 30 seconds or 2 minute phone convo, but to tell someone, "hey I have to go, lets talk later" takes some social grace, and yes is just slightly awkward. People will send 17 texts to reach the same conclusion of a 17 second phone convo.

"omg they called me it was so awkward"
 

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Had some thoughts of some key words and concepts that define a lot of people's thoughts and actions in this generation, after I heard a woman my age tell the staff at a taco spot yesterday "I feel like this burrito has sauce in it and I asked for no sauce"

Awkwardness, anxiety, and avoidance

This is some bullshyt theorizing from me, but here is the formula, encounter "awkwardness", avoid to reduce anxiety.

That's reasonable, but I think starting with millennials we started obsessing over "awkwardness", the idea that things were awkward, mostly I think for social media posts, but soon everything was awkward. he double texted me", AWKWARD, "He wasn't in the group chat, but he like came to the party" AWKWARD, "That server like looked at me for a second and just like it was so awkward"

Labeling everything as awkward led to more behavior that avoids it, even when, it's NOT really that awkward or uncomfortable, it became so. I have been watching more closely the amount of people who walk with their phone out, to avoid almost any interaction. "we had to like walk next to each other for a second, it was so awkward"

which brings me back to the phone convo. Think a lot of phone call avoidance is based in the idea that you can't instantly control how long a convo goes, most people have time for a 30 seconds or 2 minute phone convo, but to tell someone, "hey I have to go, lets talk later" takes some social grace, and yes is just slightly awkward. People will send 17 texts to reach the same conclusion of a 17 second phone convo.

"omg they called me it was so awkward"

Yup. Harness it. Attack it. Don’t let it control you.
 

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I’m mainly confused with how I have these many likes and no matches lmaoo

Cause they’re women you aren’t attracted too lol

Plus if i remember correctly, their location service within the app is a bit wonky. You’ll end up matching women 200 miles away from you even if you set 10 miles.
 

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Had some thoughts of some key words and concepts that define a lot of people's thoughts and actions in this generation, after I heard a woman my age tell the staff at a taco spot yesterday "I feel like this burrito has sauce in it and I asked for no sauce"

Awkwardness, anxiety, and avoidance

This is some bullshyt theorizing from me, but here is the formula, encounter "awkwardness", avoid to reduce anxiety.

That's reasonable, but I think starting with millennials we started obsessing over "awkwardness", the idea that things were awkward, mostly I think for social media posts, but soon everything was awkward. he double texted me", AWKWARD, "He wasn't in the group chat, but he like came to the party" AWKWARD, "That server like looked at me for a second and just like it was so awkward"

Labeling everything as awkward led to more behavior that avoids it, even when, it's NOT really that awkward or uncomfortable, it became so. I have been watching more closely the amount of people who walk with their phone out, to avoid almost any interaction. "we had to like walk next to each other for a second, it was so awkward"

which brings me back to the phone convo. Think a lot of phone call avoidance is based in the idea that you can't instantly control how long a convo goes, most people have time for a 30 seconds or 2 minute phone convo, but to tell someone, "hey I have to go, lets talk later" takes some social grace, and yes is just slightly awkward. People will send 17 texts to reach the same conclusion of a 17 second phone convo.

"omg they called me it was so awkward"

idk about all that when it comes to not talking on the phone.

For me talking on the phone requires to you minimize multitasking and focus compared to texting. At least for me when I am speaking to people I tend to have complete focus on them. Even if I'm talking to family on the phone I tend to stop what I was doing and focus on the phone. Sometimes you don't want to stop doing other things, and chances are if someone is multitasking while talking to you then the convo isn't even deep and is simple chit chat.
 

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i may really have to invest in developing a proper IG acct/dating profile this summer

cold approaching can work - i got 2 or 3 woman building on my roster as we speak...but its only becoming more and more fruitless as time goes on.

met a girl on the train yesterday, had a great conversation and exchanged numbers.

messaged her that night. she responds the next morning. i respond , no response from her. something similar happened with 2 other girls i bagged yesterday.

if you aint getting a hook up from your friend circle it is very hard to actually entice a random chick. got 3 numbers and deleted all 3 within 24 hrs :laff:
 

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i may really have to invest in developing a proper IG acct/dating profile this summer

cold approaching can work - i got 2 or 3 woman building on my roster as we speak...but its only becoming more and more fruitless as time goes on.

met a girl on the train yesterday, had a great conversation and exchanged numbers.

messaged her that night. she responds the next morning. i respond , no response from her. something similar happened with 2 other girls i bagged yesterday.

if you aint getting a hook up from your friend circle it is very hard to actually entice a random chick. got 3 numbers and deleted all 3 within 24 hrs :laff:

You can do both. But real life is undefeated lol.

I met two joints who curved me on hinge and I ended up messing with both of them. One being from a social circle & the other my neighbor.

Better get those summer pics up. Post on IG atleast every two weeks. Reuse content if you have to.
 

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You can do both. But real life is undefeated lol.

I met two joints who curved me on hinge and I ended up messing with both of them. One being from a social circle & the other my neighbor.

Better get those summer pics up. Post on IG atleast every two weeks. Reuse content if you have to.
You right
I imagine they even more fickle online anyway
 

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Cause they’re women you aren’t attracted too lol

Plus if i remember correctly, their location service within the app is a bit wonky. You’ll end up matching women 200 miles away from you even if you set 10 miles.
I understand and accept that

but when I tailor it to 18-99, 500 Mile radius, blind swipe — and still get nothing? :heh: ain’t nun of these 33 likes in my deck?
 

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i may really have to invest in developing a proper IG acct/dating profile this summer

cold approaching can work - i got 2 or 3 woman building on my roster as we speak...but its only becoming more and more fruitless as time goes on.

met a girl on the train yesterday, had a great conversation and exchanged numbers.

messaged her that night. she responds the next morning. i respond , no response from her. something similar happened with 2 other girls i bagged yesterday.

if you aint getting a hook up from your friend circle it is very hard to actually entice a random chick. got 3 numbers and deleted all 3 within 24 hrs :laff:
dudes are allergic to simply admitting social media changed the game and assume these young boys aren’t “trying hard enough”
 

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dudes are allergic to simply admitting social media changed the game and assume these young boys aren’t “trying hard enough”
what you mean by the bold?

i agree though, ive always said i feel sorry for young brehs with how social media has deluded women (and honestly men to a degree). Its going to be an absolute frenzy between the LGBTQ agenda and social media over the next few decades. Then we got AI generated ppl too. Lol...fukked up times.

its annoying enough as somebody whos in their 30s, but at least there are some millenials who are a bit more traditional and remember what life was like before all this social media shyt
 

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what you mean by the bold?
some brehs have this immediate kneejerk reaction to say “get better” or even agree with women anytime a young breh talks about his experiences. He could be transparent, admit his shortcomings, and genuinely take criticism — and these dudes will still pile on him to appease females or stay stuck in their ways, as if they’re not equipped to

now granted, some of these young brehs aren’t trying at all. No approach, no grooming improvement, constant complaining… but it’s something I’ve noticed more and more which explains why this generation just tunes out older men.
i feel sorry for young brehs with how social media has deluded women (and honestly men to a degree).
definitely to a high degree. The constant comparison, parasocial relationship with IG models, constant drilling of blackpill or negativity.

Type of shyt that makes you want to disregard wanting a family and not attempt to find partnership. Not every breh is built or meant for hook-up culture, but they feel either pressured to join in or simply feel this the only viable method
 

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some brehs have this immediate kneejerk reaction to say “get better” or even agree with women anytime a young breh talks about his experiences. He could be transparent, admit his shortcomings, and genuinely take criticism — and these dudes will still pile on him to appease females or stay stuck in their ways, as if they’re not equipped to

now granted, some of these young brehs aren’t trying at all. No approach, no grooming improvement, constant complaining… but it’s something I’ve noticed more and more which explains why this generation just tunes out older men.

definitely to a high degree. The constant comparison, parasocial relationship with IG models, constant drilling of blackpill or toxic dating tips
I know exactly what you mean
Ive spoke on this before saying how men blame each other way too much

Even my homie did it today

I was telling him how nowadays a girl wont even save your number until after youve proven yourself or some shyt

And then he said he would do the same thing if he was them, acting like I am weird for saying I wouldnt. I said why not just be more selective with who you give your number to rather than giving your number out and being ultra pessimistic


nikkas be cosigning antisocial behavior from women. shyt is sad
 
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