Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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RaspberryFitted
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damn smh. Good luck to ya future endeavors breh
and you thought I was trolling.
I'm telling y'all boys you gotta cut shyt off fast in this day and age. The days are over of a man engineering a world for him and his woman lol nah
Engineer YOUR WORLD for YOURSELF, and always remember women will come and go in this world, just never allow them to get in position to destroy your world (emotionally, financially, physically, etc).
I don't think men realize how grim the world we are in now. It's not to say love doesn't exist its more so the days of unconditional love are over (hell they never existed), and conditional love has ramped up to an extreme.
I agree with you but every situation has nuances. To be honest the way i operate is when i am in a relationship, i put in as much effort to make things work (as long as she too is putting in effort) without losing myself. I can now comfortably leave knowing I did the best i could and she was never gonna get with my program. Still in tact emotionally, physically and financially. I feel no ways about this decision because there are no second guesses; i know i was as patient as can be
Shorty left her job, family, home country to come here and be with me. For me thats not sumn you take lightly …i afforded her some patience , leeway and time given the circumstances but enough is enough
Some level of patience is often required as well as work in a relationship to get on the same page with your partner. In my humble opinion i went through the right/enough motions to see if we could get here and we cannot. Especially not living together
But yea thats just how i operate. I am a rational thinker. I still give leeway, i have patience etc…but im also not a dumbass
Went through a similar situation. Especially when you are an ambitious man you are use to bending the world around you, making shyt happen, fixing problems but sometimes the woman just ain't with your program no matter what you do.
It's your life not mine, but a woman shouldn't be doing all of that unless y'all are already married and I'd argue married with kids.
You (man or woman) should never make life changing choices off of the POTENTIAL of something.
you're program should be agnostic of if a woman is there or not. Dudes want to fit a woman into their plans and in 2023 it just doesn't work.
the main issue once dudes adapt is not coming off too "cold", like you don't have to say "hey bytch I don't need you", but you do have to give a sense of indifference. But like I said we were raised off a form of Manhood that is just idiotic in 2023 when you look at what we are up against. This is why I always tell dudes do things on your terms, never for a woman or the hopes of making her happy. If she not happy with your terms just say I understand and I wish you the best. Thats the power of choice, she has choice thus we should have it too and all that "Ima do the right thing as a man" gets us fukked up
Wth she left her country for you. Ya man I don’t agree with that I mean it’s on her and if things fall thru like they did and she got nothing to fallback on she screwed I apply this to man and woman. Now if she was engaged I get it cuz u can get the fiance visa. Not faulting u just in general people gotta be smart when it involves other countries but you know when u know ur done with someone
yeah imo in 2023 the ONLY time you do that stuff is when you MARRIED WITH KIDS. The reason I put the emphasis on Kids because in all honesty just being married/fiancé chick can still get over/use it as justification for divorce. But with Kids involved as parents y'all should always do what benefits the kids first. Operating off Potential is a dangerous game, woman have adapted but we as men haven't due to our nature of wanting to build a world for people we care for.
word. the bolded has been me the last 5 or so months to be honest, and even more so in the last two months. rest of the shyt in your post is true.
at a certain point i essentially told her that while I am always willing to work and adapt in my relationships I was not going to live my life in xyz way (dealing with combativeness, arguing over bullshyt etc.), so it was up to her to get with my program or we could go our separate ways. i gave her the time to get with the program and in a lot of ways i can genuinely say that she tried but it simply isnt in her. the issues are too deep rooted/fundamental
there are fundamental ways in which see sees things that I cant fukk with. One example is that she can be v ery very fastidious, about pointless shyt though. Me, I am conscientious which is a bit similar; however, I tend to be easy going and worry about the big picture and what is practical or has real life impact. No matter how much i advised her to stop fixating on small shyt, she wouldnt stop or would claim she isnt fixating.
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Ya I was engage to a local Japanese female and I didn’t let her comeback with me when I got my duty change back to states unless we were married or gonna within a certain timeframe with date set and I broke it off with her before she came too see me which proved my point of why I didn’t want her to come.
The kids part is so damn true when they are involved 100%
the one thing I will say is always put the ball in her court. As in you are going to do what you have to do on your end, if she chooses to join then it is because she wants to. I say this because women LOVE making men out to be the bad guy. Everything she did she will say she did it because of you and then her fam and your fam looking at you crazy.
In this day and age you damn near have to build your world and then take on serious relationships AFTER. The days of a woman being with you on your journey imo are over. It's a gift and curse in the sense that often times we would hold off on risk just to make sure our girl was happy, and the curse is the road can be lonely and nikkas toss out logic once they are in need of female companionship and this tends to be what gets us messed up.
tbh I`m not for bringing overseas chicks back to Western countries as it always ruins them + lot of em want to hit licks. But thats a convo for another day. But yeah IMO the ONLY thing a man should compromise for is his kids and even then you gotta tread lightly as the laws do not benefit men, and it is no good killing yourself because then you won't be your best self for your kids.