Obviously you've got. This should be your go to, imo.
- Drink #1 at the bar close to your spot, and drink #2 at your spot. (cocktails and conversation)
- Drink #1 at bar #1, Drink #2 at bar #s, and then food/whatever at your spot.
- if you want to summer-ize a drinks date - go for Tiki drinks.
- Straight to the House for my savages (and dummies that don't think they can't get set up, or get a clinger)
Obviously avoid
- Sporting Events - I can't think of one sport off the top of my head that facilitates anything early in the relationship (short term or otherwise)
- Sports Bars/wing spots and other sausage fests
- High Priced Restaurants (medium priced restaurants, ethnic spots are usually what I rock)
- Coffee/Smoothie - anything that says cheap/low effort/low investment (and coffee at night time, gives her chemical enhancement to sniff out BS instead of just enjoying herself)
Overall, any type of date should be something that you're happy to do BY YOUR DAMN SELF. And usually anything I try to do, is meet met at location 1, where I can have a good time because chicks be late, and then we'll go to location #2.
This is not always an easy thing to accomplish, as chicks steer guys into situations where they can get their time wasted. ASK ME HOW I KNOW.
You need a "please myself first" mentality when it comes to these chicks a lot of the time.
The idea of trying to show a girl a good time - is about her hanging with you - not whatever place you end up at. She should have a ball with you waiting in line at Wal-Mart, period.
What type of date you choose, really depends on your intentions and your bank roll, and what message you're "trying to send".
Summer Specific Dates
- Amusement Park - high drama, adrenaline, etc (in the cold weather this is the Haunted House)
- Anything emotional is good for a date in my experience. But an amusement park date is not cheap, but it doesn't send the same message as taking a chick to the hot new restaurant.
- CHEAP Summer Concerts/outdoor music events (most cities have a free something, bring a blanket, food, wine, etc, listen to some old people music)
- No Coachella for them broads.
- Ice Cream and Stroll
- You gotta find a spot. When I was in NYC, I'd hit that Chinese Ice Cream Place. In DC it was ice cream in Old Town.
- Banana Splits at your Place (or boozy milkshakes)
- Might be a 2nd date activity, but buying the groceries, letting her pick the bananas, (and I keep rum at the spot, so i'll flambe up a ripe plantain real quick) - but this can be a real relaxed, low pressure, end up in bed type of thing.
- Hiking (smh - but sometimes these chicks want that IG life - New Year, New Me has not worn off yet)
- the key with any type of "she might start sweating activity" is to set up some sort of surprise cool off activity. When I lived in TX, hike followed by a trip to the pool at the apartment...you already know how it goes.
- Pool Party (might just be a Vegas thing)
- If you're still on your "cut", maybe.
- White girls (and white adjacent Black/Latin/Asian/Indian) love a gym/yoga date - so this can be in the same vein as that
- Summer Festivals (like a corporate Block Party. Fairly popular on the East Coast)
- Buy tix early, And if she flakes, that's the cost of doing business. It's a stroll, eat/drink, people watch, type of thing. It's not cheap, but it can seem cheap/reasonable to a broad. From my perspective, you don't want to seem like you're spending money on a broad at all, even though facilitating a date actually costs money.
- BBQs and Cookouts - Your friends, not your family.
- This is where having friends is crucial.
- Mini/Putt Putt Golf (in the cool weather, replace with Bowling/Darts/Pool/Shuffle Board/Arcades/Axe Throwing, Escape Room)
- This is all about helping her putt, if you know what I mean
- Go Karts - broads be competitive.
High Time/Prep Investment/Screening
- The Beach - (can be a first date, not usually)
- What that body looking like. But hang out, lunch, cool out, something else, bang.
- Road Trip - I like to travel with a chick as soon as possible, because it's a good way to screen broads out that I don't like. Same with a real meal with a waiter. But I'm screening for something long term, I've had enough meaningless sex at this point in my life. This is not a good thing for a young cat trying to get his feet wet.
I'm Cultured (for my distinguished set)
- Museum at Night - Houston used to have these, and I think I've seen them in other places. But the Museum will have a dj and you can roam the spot looking at art.
- Book Fairs/Book Stores/Author Talks - This one is more difficult, and I have not tried one yet. If you deal with the Sexy Librarian types - this can be great, but there's an implication that you're gonna buy her a book - which I don't like. Still in the lab on this one.
- Plays/Theater/Opera - This is some grown and sexy steez. One of my homies is a performer, somewhat retired. He goes to these things and knows people. He can pull a broad at these spots like it was a club, and if he brings a broad the type of love he gets makes it a wrap for the chick. If that's not you, dressing up at night for something, can set a whole different vibe. I like to personally put pressure on a chick to look pretty all the time. The drawback is these hoes take forever to get ready. Some of y'all prefer bonnet head in the middle of the night... it is what it is.
Holidays (which implies holiday weekend, which implies extra lit Thursday/Sunday, depending...)
- Memorial Day (I think that's this weekend)
- Juneteenth
- July 4th
- Labor Day
These are days that I would
not try to set up a proper date. This is an invitation - "We outchea, come meet me at" - not a "I'm gonna pick you up at ..."
