Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

It’s not you brehs, is your MARKET.

If you aren’t finding results, MOVE!

Use online dating apps as a way to test, figure out your sample size, find results.

 

[BlaccSunrise]

Correct. The “dinner request” the “flowers” all that extra ish doesn’t matter if he REALLY likes you. The next part is making sure she’s infatuated with you.

It should be easy when you’re in each others presence. Any difficulty or any tension, shows she doesn’t like you.

 

[Ohene]

The first video from the white broad hits the nail on the head. Once you understand this, then you won't have to do all kinds of cartwheels cos if a chick is really interested she'll know how to make everything flow on easy street.

i agree with the tweet. not listening to the vids tho

 

[Black Excellence]

i wanna try some Trading Places shyt and just experiment…cold approach, offer a bytch $500 to fukk and see what their reaction is.

Ima do this in the summer

 

[The ADD]

we had a class together and i started texting her during break. i thought she would be an easy lay cause she was always joking about dikk. i never said anything provocative but she eventually started to pry me about wanting to f*** her after i already pretty much insinuated it early on with us chilling in her crib and throwing on a movie and maybe getting drinks after break and she was fine with it.

some weeks later in texting, one night she randomly starts pressing me then eventually outs me to her classmates in the all-female study group chat she added me to of the other girl friends around us who would frequently talk with me during that class. smh

why would i text you if i didn’t want to fukk? she got hype and escalated a situation out of proportion when i was never even being vulgar to fukk up my reputation.

then she texts me again after that situation: “are we going to try this again?”

i just ignored the bytch

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

It's true though if a chick really wants to see you and spend time with you she will. Date number 3 with the ghananian chick she told me she is super busy the next few weeks.

She told me she only has next friday available but I had other plans so I'm like all good no worries. Then a few hours she calls me and says that if I can do breakfast on Saturday she'll wake up early so we can spend a good amount of time together before she has to go to her prior engagements.

What were your first 3 dates?

 

[MikelArteta]

What were your first 3 dates?

Just two so far. 1st one was a walk and dinner, second one mini putt and movies

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

Just two so far. 1st one was a walk and dinner, second one mini putt and movies

Summer’s coming up. If you got any date ideas to throw up, that’d be appreciated

 

[WIA20XX]

Summer’s coming up. If you got any date ideas to throw up, that’d be appreciated

Obviously you've got. This should be your go to, imo.

• Drink #1 at the bar close to your spot, and drink #2 at your spot. (cocktails and conversation)
• Drink #1 at bar #1, Drink #2 at bar #s, and then food/whatever at your spot.
  • if you want to summer-ize a drinks date - go for Tiki drinks.
• Straight to the House for my savages (and dummies that don't think they can't get set up, or get a clinger)

Obviously avoid

• Sporting Events - I can't think of one sport off the top of my head that facilitates anything early in the relationship (short term or otherwise)
• Sports Bars/wing spots and other sausage fests
• High Priced Restaurants (medium priced restaurants, ethnic spots are usually what I rock)
• Coffee/Smoothie - anything that says cheap/low effort/low investment (and coffee at night time, gives her chemical enhancement to sniff out BS instead of just enjoying herself)

Overall, any type of date should be something that you're happy to do BY YOUR DAMN SELF. And usually anything I try to do, is meet met at location 1, where I can have a good time because chicks be late, and then we'll go to location #2.

This is not always an easy thing to accomplish, as chicks steer guys into situations where they can get their time wasted. ASK ME HOW I KNOW.

You need a "please myself first" mentality when it comes to these chicks a lot of the time. The idea of trying to show a girl a good time - is about her hanging with you - not whatever place you end up at. She should have a ball with you waiting in line at Wal-Mart, period.

What type of date you choose, really depends on your intentions and your bank roll, and what message you're "trying to send".

Summer Specific Dates

• Amusement Park - high drama, adrenaline, etc (in the cold weather this is the Haunted House)
  • Anything emotional is good for a date in my experience. But an amusement park date is not cheap, but it doesn't send the same message as taking a chick to the hot new restaurant.
• CHEAP Summer Concerts/outdoor music events (most cities have a free something, bring a blanket, food, wine, etc, listen to some old people music)
  • No Coachella for them broads.
• Ice Cream and Stroll
  • You gotta find a spot. When I was in NYC, I'd hit that Chinese Ice Cream Place. In DC it was ice cream in Old Town.
• Banana Splits at your Place (or boozy milkshakes)
  • Might be a 2nd date activity, but buying the groceries, letting her pick the bananas, (and I keep rum at the spot, so i'll flambe up a ripe plantain real quick) - but this can be a real relaxed, low pressure, end up in bed type of thing.
• Hiking (smh - but sometimes these chicks want that IG life - New Year, New Me has not worn off yet)
  • the key with any type of "she might start sweating activity" is to set up some sort of surprise cool off activity. When I lived in TX, hike followed by a trip to the pool at the apartment...you already know how it goes.
• Pool Party (might just be a Vegas thing)
  • If you're still on your "cut", maybe.
  • White girls (and white adjacent Black/Latin/Asian/Indian) love a gym/yoga date - so this can be in the same vein as that
• Summer Festivals (like a corporate Block Party. Fairly popular on the East Coast)
  • Buy tix early, And if she flakes, that's the cost of doing business. It's a stroll, eat/drink, people watch, type of thing. It's not cheap, but it can seem cheap/reasonable to a broad. From my perspective, you don't want to seem like you're spending money on a broad at all, even though facilitating a date actually costs money.
• BBQs and Cookouts - Your friends, not your family.
  • This is where having friends is crucial.
• Mini/Putt Putt Golf (in the cool weather, replace with Bowling/Darts/Pool/Shuffle Board/Arcades/Axe Throwing, Escape Room)
  • This is all about helping her putt, if you know what I mean
• Go Karts - broads be competitive.

High Time/Prep Investment/Screening

• The Beach - (can be a first date, not usually)
  • What that body looking like. But hang out, lunch, cool out, something else, bang.
• Road Trip - I like to travel with a chick as soon as possible, because it's a good way to screen broads out that I don't like. Same with a real meal with a waiter. But I'm screening for something long term, I've had enough meaningless sex at this point in my life. This is not a good thing for a young cat trying to get his feet wet.

I'm Cultured (for my distinguished set)

• Museum at Night - Houston used to have these, and I think I've seen them in other places. But the Museum will have a dj and you can roam the spot looking at art.
• Book Fairs/Book Stores/Author Talks - This one is more difficult, and I have not tried one yet. If you deal with the Sexy Librarian types - this can be great, but there's an implication that you're gonna buy her a book - which I don't like. Still in the lab on this one.
• Plays/Theater/Opera - This is some grown and sexy steez. One of my homies is a performer, somewhat retired. He goes to these things and knows people. He can pull a broad at these spots like it was a club, and if he brings a broad the type of love he gets makes it a wrap for the chick. If that's not you, dressing up at night for something, can set a whole different vibe. I like to personally put pressure on a chick to look pretty all the time. The drawback is these hoes take forever to get ready. Some of y'all prefer bonnet head in the middle of the night... it is what it is.

Holidays (which implies holiday weekend, which implies extra lit Thursday/Sunday, depending...)

• Memorial Day (I think that's this weekend)
• Juneteenth
• July 4th
• Labor Day

These are days that I would not try to set up a proper date. This is an invitation - "We outchea, come meet me at" - not a "I'm gonna pick you up at ..."

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

Obviously you've got. This should be your go to, imo.

• Drink #1 at the bar close to your spot, and drink #2 at your spot. (cocktails and conversation)
• Drink #1 at bar #1, Drink #2 at bar #s, and then food/whatever at your spot.
  • if you want to summer-ize a drinks date - go for Tiki drinks.
• Straight to the House for my savages (and dummies that don't think they can't get set up, or get a clinger)

Obviously avoid

• Sporting Events - I can't think of one sport off the top of my head that facilitates anything early in the relationship (short term or otherwise)
• Sports Bars/wing spots and other sausage fests
• High Priced Restaurants (medium priced restaurants, ethnic spots are usually what I rock)
• Coffee/Smoothie - anything that says cheap/low effort/low investment (and coffee at night time, gives her chemical enhancement to sniff out BS instead of just enjoying herself)

Overall, any type of date should be something that you're happy to do BY YOUR DAMN SELF. And usually anything I try to do, is meet met at location 1, where I can have a good time because chicks be late, and then we'll go to location #2.

This is not always an easy thing to accomplish, as chicks steer guys into situations where they can get their time wasted. ASK ME HOW I KNOW.

You need a "please myself first" mentality when it comes to these chicks a lot of the time. The idea of trying to show a girl a good time - is about her hanging with you - not whatever place you end up at. She should have a ball with you waiting in line at Wal-Mart, period.

What type of date you choose, really depends on your intentions and your bank roll, and what message you're "trying to send".

Summer Specific Dates

• Amusement Park - high drama, adrenaline, etc (in the cold weather this is the Haunted House)
  • Anything emotional is good for a date in my experience. But an amusement park date is not cheap, but it doesn't send the same message as taking a chick to the hot new restaurant.
• CHEAP Summer Concerts/outdoor music events (most cities have a free something, bring a blanket, food, wine, etc, listen to some old people music)
  • No Coachella for them broads.
• Ice Cream and Stroll
  • You gotta find a spot. When I was in NYC, I'd hit that Chinese Ice Cream Place. In DC it was ice cream in Old Town.
• Banana Splits at your Place (or boozy milkshakes)
  • Might be a 2nd date activity, but buying the groceries, letting her pick the bananas, (and I keep rum at the spot, so i'll flambe up a ripe plantain real quick) - but this can be a real relaxed, low pressure, end up in bed type of thing.
• Hiking (smh - but sometimes these chicks want that IG life - New Year, New Me has not worn off yet)
  • the key with any type of "she might start sweating activity" is to set up some sort of surprise cool off activity. When I lived in TX, hike followed by a trip to the pool at the apartment...you already know how it goes.
• Pool Party (might just be a Vegas thing)
  • If you're still on your "cut", maybe.
  • White girls (and white adjacent Black/Latin/Asian/Indian) love a gym/yoga date - so this can be in the same vein as that
• Summer Festivals (like a corporate Block Party. Fairly popular on the East Coast)
  • Buy tix early, And if she flakes, that's the cost of doing business. It's a stroll, eat/drink, people watch, type of thing. It's not cheap, but it can seem cheap/reasonable to a broad. From my perspective, you don't want to seem like you're spending money on a broad at all, even though facilitating a date actually costs money.
• BBQs and Cookouts - Your friends, not your family.
  • This is where having friends is crucial.
• Mini/Putt Putt Golf (in the cool weather, replace with Bowling/Darts/Pool/Shuffle Board/Arcades/Axe Throwing, Escape Room)
  • This is all about helping her putt, if you know what I mean
• Go Karts - broads be competitive.

High Time/Prep Investment/Screening

• The Beach - (can be a first date, not usually)
  • What that body looking like. But hang out, lunch, cool out, something else, bang.
• Road Trip - I like to travel with a chick as soon as possible, because it's a good way to screen broads out that I don't like. Same with a real meal with a waiter. But I'm screening for something long term, I've had enough meaningless sex at this point in my life. This is not a good thing for a young cat trying to get his feet wet.

I'm Cultured (for my distinguished set)

• Museum at Night - Houston used to have these, and I think I've seen them in other places. But the Museum will have a dj and you can roam the spot looking at art.
• Book Fairs/Book Stores/Author Talks - This one is more difficult, and I have not tried one yet. If you deal with the Sexy Librarian types - this can be great, but there's an implication that you're gonna buy her a book - which I don't like. Still in the lab on this one.
• Plays/Theater/Opera - This is some grown and sexy steez. One of my homies is a performer, somewhat retired. He goes to these things and knows people. He can pull a broad at these spots like it was a club, and if he brings a broad the type of love he gets makes it a wrap for the chick. If that's not you, dressing up at night for something, can set a whole different vibe. I like to personally put pressure on a chick to look pretty all the time. The drawback is these hoes take forever to get ready. Some of y'all prefer bonnet head in the middle of the night... it is what it is.

Holidays (which implies holiday weekend, which implies extra lit Thursday/Sunday, depending...)

• Memorial Day (I think that's this weekend)
• Juneteenth
• July 4th
• Labor Day

These are days that I would not try to set up a proper date. This is an invitation - "We outchea, come meet me at" - not a "I'm gonna pick you up at ..."

Rep this man

 

[Ahadi]

Obviously you've got. This should be your go to, imo.

• Drink #1 at the bar close to your spot, and drink #2 at your spot. (cocktails and conversation)
• Drink #1 at bar #1, Drink #2 at bar #s, and then food/whatever at your spot.
  • if you want to summer-ize a drinks date - go for Tiki drinks.
• Straight to the House for my savages (and dummies that don't think they can't get set up, or get a clinger)

Obviously avoid

• Sporting Events - I can't think of one sport off the top of my head that facilitates anything early in the relationship (short term or otherwise)
• Sports Bars/wing spots and other sausage fests
• High Priced Restaurants (medium priced restaurants, ethnic spots are usually what I rock)
• Coffee/Smoothie - anything that says cheap/low effort/low investment (and coffee at night time, gives her chemical enhancement to sniff out BS instead of just enjoying herself)

Overall, any type of date should be something that you're happy to do BY YOUR DAMN SELF. And usually anything I try to do, is meet met at location 1, where I can have a good time because chicks be late, and then we'll go to location #2.

This is not always an easy thing to accomplish, as chicks steer guys into situations where they can get their time wasted. ASK ME HOW I KNOW.

You need a "please myself first" mentality when it comes to these chicks a lot of the time. The idea of trying to show a girl a good time - is about her hanging with you - not whatever place you end up at. She should have a ball with you waiting in line at Wal-Mart, period.

What type of date you choose, really depends on your intentions and your bank roll, and what message you're "trying to send".

Summer Specific Dates

• Amusement Park - high drama, adrenaline, etc (in the cold weather this is the Haunted House)
  • Anything emotional is good for a date in my experience. But an amusement park date is not cheap, but it doesn't send the same message as taking a chick to the hot new restaurant.
• CHEAP Summer Concerts/outdoor music events (most cities have a free something, bring a blanket, food, wine, etc, listen to some old people music)
  • No Coachella for them broads.
• Ice Cream and Stroll
  • You gotta find a spot. When I was in NYC, I'd hit that Chinese Ice Cream Place. In DC it was ice cream in Old Town.
• Banana Splits at your Place (or boozy milkshakes)
  • Might be a 2nd date activity, but buying the groceries, letting her pick the bananas, (and I keep rum at the spot, so i'll flambe up a ripe plantain real quick) - but this can be a real relaxed, low pressure, end up in bed type of thing.
• Hiking (smh - but sometimes these chicks want that IG life - New Year, New Me has not worn off yet)
  • the key with any type of "she might start sweating activity" is to set up some sort of surprise cool off activity. When I lived in TX, hike followed by a trip to the pool at the apartment...you already know how it goes.
• Pool Party (might just be a Vegas thing)
  • If you're still on your "cut", maybe.
  • White girls (and white adjacent Black/Latin/Asian/Indian) love a gym/yoga date - so this can be in the same vein as that
• Summer Festivals (like a corporate Block Party. Fairly popular on the East Coast)
  • Buy tix early, And if she flakes, that's the cost of doing business. It's a stroll, eat/drink, people watch, type of thing. It's not cheap, but it can seem cheap/reasonable to a broad. From my perspective, you don't want to seem like you're spending money on a broad at all, even though facilitating a date actually costs money.
• BBQs and Cookouts - Your friends, not your family.
  • This is where having friends is crucial.
• Mini/Putt Putt Golf (in the cool weather, replace with Bowling/Darts/Pool/Shuffle Board/Arcades/Axe Throwing, Escape Room)
  • This is all about helping her putt, if you know what I mean
• Go Karts - broads be competitive.

High Time/Prep Investment/Screening

• The Beach - (can be a first date, not usually)
  • What that body looking like. But hang out, lunch, cool out, something else, bang.
• Road Trip - I like to travel with a chick as soon as possible, because it's a good way to screen broads out that I don't like. Same with a real meal with a waiter. But I'm screening for something long term, I've had enough meaningless sex at this point in my life. This is not a good thing for a young cat trying to get his feet wet.

I'm Cultured (for my distinguished set)

• Museum at Night - Houston used to have these, and I think I've seen them in other places. But the Museum will have a dj and you can roam the spot looking at art.
• Book Fairs/Book Stores/Author Talks - This one is more difficult, and I have not tried one yet. If you deal with the Sexy Librarian types - this can be great, but there's an implication that you're gonna buy her a book - which I don't like. Still in the lab on this one.
• Plays/Theater/Opera - This is some grown and sexy steez. One of my homies is a performer, somewhat retired. He goes to these things and knows people. He can pull a broad at these spots like it was a club, and if he brings a broad the type of love he gets makes it a wrap for the chick. If that's not you, dressing up at night for something, can set a whole different vibe. I like to personally put pressure on a chick to look pretty all the time. The drawback is these hoes take forever to get ready. Some of y'all prefer bonnet head in the middle of the night... it is what it is.

Holidays (which implies holiday weekend, which implies extra lit Thursday/Sunday, depending...)

• Memorial Day (I think that's this weekend)
• Juneteenth
• July 4th
• Labor Day

These are days that I would not try to set up a proper date. This is an invitation - "We outchea, come meet me at" - not a "I'm gonna pick you up at ..."

Completely agree. It seems like these women formed like voltron and are “rejecting” coffee.

I have no problem getting women out for chai / almond milk, but from what I hear a lot of women are openly rejecting coffee (R/L + Apps)

Anything sausage fest related, I tend to move away from (sporting event, sports bar, bar crawls, etc)

Vegan Ice Cream has been my bag lately. Between that & outdoor patio + drinks (tiki bars are perfect)

Straight to the crib is more effective in the fall / winter. But if you got it like that with her, go for it.

Museum / art gallery date is always smooth. Especially if it’s opening night featuring an artist (free wine & champagne)

Jazz concerts are a vibe too. (Alongside the summer concert series)

Mini golf + top golf / any time of interactive gaming is nice. Outdoor activities are a cheat for getting into a pool at your place after.

Wine tasting is also interactive and always works well.

Most importantly, these are activities I WANT TO DO. She’s just along for the ride. Intimate activities like (cookouts, pool parties, road trip, yacht week, members only club, anything with access to my network will take work from her side).

Holiday weekends, I’m usually hunting with my guys, or solo. On some rooftop party or rooftop bar. Majority of my dates are on the “weekday” . My weekends are for me, unless I choose to call one of them up.

 

[Apollo Creed]

2nd time this new team roster entry has tried to change the date venue

I might be bugging but this has turned me off, I'd rather play fifa

you should have deaded it after the first

 

[Apollo Creed]

Completely agree. It seems like these women formed like voltron and are “rejecting” coffee.

I have no problem getting women out for chai / almond milk, but from what I hear a lot of women are openly rejecting coffee (R/L + Apps)

Anything sausage fest related, I tend to move away from (sporting event, sports bar, bar crawls, etc)

Vegan Ice Cream has been my bag lately. Between that & outdoor patio + drinks (tiki bars are perfect)

Straight to the crib is more effective in the fall / winter. But if you got it like that with her, go for it.

Museum / art gallery date is always smooth. Especially if it’s opening night featuring an artist (free wine & champagne)

Jazz concerts are a vibe too. (Alongside the summer concert series)

Mini golf + top golf / any time of interactive gaming is nice. Outdoor activities are a cheat for getting into a pool at your place after.

Wine tasting is also interactive and always works well.

Most importantly, these are activities I WANT TO DO. She’s just along for the ride. Intimate activities like (cookouts, pool parties, road trip, yacht week, members only club, anything with access to my network will take work from her side).

Holiday weekends, I’m usually hunting with my guys, or solo. On some rooftop party or rooftop bar. Majority of my dates are on the “weekday” . My weekends are for me, unless I choose to call one of them up.

this is the thing. If a woman rejects coffee she doesn't like you. nikkas should not be reinventing the wheel because you are taking it in the ass praying a bytch likes you.

no if the bytch don't like you then thats cool on to the next. We can't say we putting our feet down then adjusting for hoes who don't like us. If a bytch likes you she will meet you at McDonalds.

 

[Stir Fry]

Edit: Not sure why the reel isn't playing for me. It says,

Go to Facebook Marketplace and search for wedding dresses. It'll show you recently divorced women. From there, you can filter by size

 

[The ADD]

Completely agree. It seems like these women formed like voltron and are “rejecting” coffee.

I have no problem getting women out for chai / almond milk, but from what I hear a lot of women are openly rejecting coffee (R/L + Apps)

Anything sausage fest related, I tend to move away from (sporting event, sports bar, bar crawls, etc)

Vegan Ice Cream has been my bag lately. Between that & outdoor patio + drinks (tiki bars are perfect)

Straight to the crib is more effective in the fall / winter. But if you got it like that with her, go for it.

Museum / art gallery date is always smooth. Especially if it’s opening night featuring an artist (free wine & champagne)

Jazz concerts are a vibe too. (Alongside the summer concert series)

Mini golf + top golf / any time of interactive gaming is nice. Outdoor activities are a cheat for getting into a pool at your place after.

Wine tasting is also interactive and always works well.

Most importantly, these are activities I WANT TO DO. She’s just along for the ride. Intimate activities like (cookouts, pool parties, road trip, yacht week, members only club, anything with access to my network will take work from her side).

Holiday weekends, I’m usually hunting with my guys, or solo. On some rooftop party or rooftop bar. Majority of my dates are on the “weekday” . My weekends are for me, unless I choose to call one of them up.

Bruhs set up the coffee option all wrong. They should position it as a easy first meet up up to see how things click. Talking to a chick for weeks , showing interest and then saying coffee as a first date is a goof.