so what exactly do you be doing with girls that you didnt burn and you're maintaining a long term connection?
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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That shyt is cool until it isn't..
What homeboy is saying I'm actually doing and I got 3 who I put on the backburner, 1 who I'm
ing some time from and 1 who i had to rearrange schedules wit multiple times...Sometimes I don't want to be bothered etc
I want to see my "main"
These bytches legit will try to wiggle their way into all of your free time
I always say that women are parasites and will suck up all your resources if you let themThat shyt is cool until it isn't..
What homeboy is saying I'm actually doing and I got 3 who I put on the backburner, 1 who I'm
Sometimes I don't want to be bothered etc
I want to see my "main"
These bytches legit will try to wiggle their way into all of your free time
Time
Money
Energy
Space
Emotion
Everything
nikkas be doing too much for p*ssy
Brandsdale
Big Yella
ngl im scorned from doing option 4
But Having a chic flop on an ice cream date in the summer aint toooo bad cause you still kinda treating yourself. Last summer id ride all the way downtown just to cop from this asain soft served spot
Action Mike
All praise..
Yup and hell even after a while you may not be interested in them or vice versa, its a numbers game
Example talking to around like 8 women
Chick 1 - mixed her up with someone else and got unmatched.
Chick 2 - Went out twice but I don't really like her aggressive personality and her always being on her phone we still talk here and there but my interest is like 0 now
Chick 3 - Went out once she's older and wanted serious settle down fast never contacted her after the date as I wasn't interested
Chick 4 - Second date is tomorrow, first date was nice
Chick 5 - Was supposed to meet up but she cancelled last minute
Chick 6 - Date went ok, but I can tell she was really not interested so meh
Chick 7 - white girl i met up with yesterday, it was alright but I wouldn't want anything romantic or anything
Chick 8 - another chick I was supposed to meet up with but then got the hey sorry I just want to look for something organically (whatever teh hell that means)
So out of these 8 women
4 weren't interested in me
3 I'm not interested in continuing
1 is potential and even that one told me she had a date the day before we met up and had one a day afterbut its good when you have an array of options. If a girl isn't interested in me no biggie and If I'm not interested no biggie
I'm still continuing to have some things scheduled as well this week. It's just like a hiring manager not all candidates will be the right fit and vice versa.
Complete facts, dating one girl at a time as a man in this generation is bad for your health.
The only things is as we initiate all these dates and it takes our time and resources, got to be more discerning on who you take out
It is, because these girls are going out on multiple dates, talking to numerous men and if she doesn't end up picking you, you're going to be
. That one chick you are focused on and feeling has like 5 guy friends trying to get at her and is going on multiple random dates every week riding the carousel.The chick I'm going out with tomorrow told me she's only been on hinge for like 5 days and has over 250 matches. She's probably been out on 3 dates this week no biggie so have I .
Thankfully its just been mainly starbucks for me, max i spend is like 10 dollars
KeysT
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How old is she? Seems immature.
If a chick knows how to take a good photo, she's getting all the attention, dates, and whatever else she wants.
It was like that in the 90's/00's, but it's only gone 10X.
They were miserable then, but they are more miserable now.
This is an old chart. (the numbers don't add up to 100%)
But it's striking. Most folks was not meeting online and not really meeting in the clubs/bars.
Now, folks are primarily meeting through online, with clubs/bars as second.
It was like that in the 90's/00's, but it's only gone 10X.
They were miserable then, but they are more miserable now.
This is an old chart. (the numbers don't add up to 100%)
But it's striking. Most folks was not meeting online and not really meeting in the clubs/bars.
Now, folks are primarily meeting through online, with clubs/bars as second.
so what exactly do you be doing with girls that you didnt burn and you're maintaining a long term connection?
Part of it is having a genuine bond or connection, if you really have contempt or don't care about these people, this doesn't really work. I actually like all these people. Whether we have slept together or not, whether they ghosted me 6 months ago, whatever, they are all good with me. I have a dinner tonight at some new omakse place, 10 course meal, ill send pics to at least one person, because I know she would love it. Probably send to like 4 people. It's a sincere thing. Sometimes that sparks that convo and you end up in person, sometimes it's just the thought, and you move on. Then that person hits you up, and before you know it, you are trying to decide whose place to go to. I may want a date somewhere, and just randomly hit up someone, and they are like YES.
Partly, I never never realized how many people, men and women, were taking a "take no prisoners" approach to the whole thing, as in, if you are not 100% down for me RIGHT NOW, you are out/over/done. I think a lot of that is just ego, but for those who really want to get married, it makes some sense.
Romances and friendships can span lifetimes, if you just give them room to breathe.
I personally think it's unhealthy. At the same time, if a chick does me wrong, I don't want to see her ever again.
How wrong is what I would ask, someone simply choosing someone else at a certain point, (probably because they were planning on marriage) is not really wrong to me. Someone ghosting me or fading me out or whatever, isn't that big of a deal. I try to keep them all going, but even I know sometimes, you just have to step back, so I get it. Can't be mad if someone made a better offer, or more common, simply offered more. All in the game.
Which brings me to the idea of "wasting time", do you remember when that became like a trendy phrase? Maybe 2016? Obviously common, but like a social media thing. People would refer to their relationships that "didn't work", as "they wasted my time", and I didn't really get it, because for me, thinking of my own, I was like but I loved those memories. Should I think of 'A' as "wasting my time" because we didn't get married? We were 18! We loved each other the best we could at that moment.
but I realize people were keeping score a different way.
There has to be reciprocity on both sides. It can’t be a one way connection.
That's fair, and true, I also would point to this being similar idea as "expecting people to do exactly what you want, when you want it is unrealistic", not everyone is ready or open for that connection when you are. Sometimes people lack grace. Especially through a text message.
Often, it all switches around.
and also someone with the mindset of "no wasted time", is going to see things different than me.