Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[rabbid]

Part of it is having a genuine bond or connection, if you really have contempt or don't care about these people, this doesn't really work. I actually like all these people. Whether we have slept together or not, whether they ghosted me 6 months ago, whatever, they are all good with me. I have a dinner tonight at some new omakse place, 10 course meal, ill send pics to at least one person, because I know she would love it. Probably send to like 4 people. It's a sincere thing. Sometimes that sparks that convo and you end up in person, sometimes it's just the thought, and you move on. Then that person hits you up, and before you know it, you are trying to decide whose place to go to. I may want a date somewhere, and just randomly hit up someone, and they are like YES.

Partly, I never never realized how many people, men and women, were taking a "take no prisoners" approach to the whole thing, as in, if you are not 100% down for me RIGHT NOW, you are out/over/done. I think a lot of that is just ego, but for those who really want to get married, it makes some sense.

Romances and friendships can span lifetimes, if you just give them room to breathe.

Oh damn... i mean, I've definitely had girls sent me random pics and stuff like that after we've stopped talking, so i get what you're saying. Its just not emotionally or mentally fulfilling to me so be sending random photos or happy birthday texts months apart, or liking each other's posts when i havent spoke to you in years.

Maybe for a girl I never hooked up with or got to know on a deeper level, but after I've fukked u on the floor and we've been on trips together its just not really doing it for me to be checking in every now and again. I've got family and friends that I've known longer that I know for a fact will be there at my lowest that I'd rather pour that energy into. I guess I've never met a girl that's worth doing that for, as i definitely dont get a dopamine rush unless i can feel some sort of passion behind what they're doing or saying. And even then if its been too much back and forth without hanging out, then it fizzles out again pretty quickly. Not to mention seeing random posts with another dude that I've never met, its just hard to show support for that even if I'm glad she's happy.

Fair enough, but i feel like I've been in enough situations to know that type of relationship isn't really for me. I wish it was though cause I'd probably still be dealing with some girls that I've no interest in anymore. I tried to have a lifetime relationship with my ex but its just boring and not pleasant to talk to her anymore. She told me she'll probably hit me up down the line and i was like bet. But i don't consider that a real relationship anymore.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

huh

 

[Mastamimd]

Met someone and things were going cool until I texted her to no response yesterday and finding out I got blocked...the hell did I do

 

[VertigoKnight]

It can't be overstated as a man to never oversell your sex game to a woman, let her be surprised.

Had dinner with a female friend of mine and she was telling me about this guy who has been in her DMs for a while, and they were flirting back and forth. He'd been talking a big game for a while about what he wanted to do to her, was going to destroy her sexually etc

So she finally called his bluff and said come through, he turned up and lasted 5 mins.



Could never be me. One of the chicks I see said to me recently that I was the best lover she's ever had as I get her off as well.

 

[The ADD]

It can't be overstated as a man to never oversell your sex game to a woman, let her be surprised.

Had dinner with a female friend of mine and she was telling me about this guy who has been in her DMs for a while, and they were flirting back and forth. He'd been talking a big game for a while about what he wanted to do to her, was going to destroy her sexually etc

So she finally called his bluff and said come through, he turned up and lasted 5 mins.



Could never be me. One of the chicks I see said to me recently that I was the best lover she's ever had as I get her off as well.

But he got what he wanted

 

[WIA20XX]

In terms of Long Term Relationships - IS IT CONTROVERSIAL to focus on educated but poor women, vs those that make the same (might make more), and those that make more?

Typical breh is pulling 50, maybe 80 doing something technical/stem or trade oriented

1. Teacher/Social Worker is slightly less (with stability)
2. Nurse might be about the same, but will make more.
3. According to Average LSA member - they make 6 figs

What say you?

 

[re'up]

But he got what he wanted

This points to a overall flaw in how everyone views things, sex is a mutually desirable thing, it's meant to be pleasurable for both! but its been turned into like an exchange, where one person gives, and one person takes.

And the idea that you don't care about another person, gets to the idea that people don't respect the people they sleep with, unless it's like "marriage" or "long term".

There really isn't a rational reason for that.

 

[VertigoKnight]

But he got what he wanted

True true. But this guy has been messaging her again. Looking to have this be a regular thing.

For me personally, even when I hit and quit. I'm making sure I'm getting more than 5 mins of pleasure. And the chick is going to remember me as someone who gave pleasure to her as well as took it.

 

[MikelArteta]

In terms of Long Term Relationships - IS IT CONTROVERSIAL to focus on educated but poor women, vs those that make the same (might make more), and those that make more?

Typical breh is pulling 50, maybe 80 doing something technical/stem or trade oriented

1. Teacher/Social Worker is slightly less (with stability)
2. Nurse might be about the same, but will make more.
3. According to Average LSA member - they make 6 figs

What say you?

never believe what people say on the internet
i have access to everyones salary at one of the biggest health networks in canada. Out of nearly 12,000 employees only around 750 are making 6 figures a year

and 70% are managers/directors and above


The average worker will be lucky to ever reach even 80k


I've never cared what a woman makes . I'd take the secretary making 20 a hour whose humble and I'm attracted to than the senior manager making 150k a year whose bossy and aggressive.

 

[RealAssanova]

It can't be overstated as a man to never oversell your sex game to a woman, let her be surprised.

Had dinner with a female friend of mine and she was telling me about this guy who has been in her DMs for a while, and they were flirting back and forth. He'd been talking a big game for a while about what he wanted to do to her, was going to destroy her sexually etc

So she finally called his bluff and said come through, he turned up and lasted 5 mins.



Could never be me. One of the chicks I see said to me recently that I was the best lover she's ever had as I get her off as well.

A W in that he got the p*ssy which was what he wanted…but an L cuz he bussed quick.

If she really likes homeboy (which it sounds like she does), he’ll be back to improve.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

got my first stripes. Waiting for that Walgreens call

 

[The ADD]

This points to a overall flaw in how everyone views things, sex is a mutually desirable thing, it's meant to be pleasurable for both! but its been turned into like an exchange, where one person gives, and one person takes.

And the idea that you don't care about another person, gets to the idea that people don't respect the people they sleep with, unless it's like "marriage" or "long term".

There really isn't a rational reason for that.

What do you base that it’s meant to be pleasurable for both on? At its core it’s for reproduction. Otherwise you are likely basing it on something people have ascribed to it but that’s not the standard that most folks carry anymore. I don’t know that they have to have a reason that makes sense to anyone but them

 

[The ADD]

True true. But this guy has been messaging her again. Looking to have this be a regular thing.

For me personally, even when I hit and quit. I'm making sure I'm getting more than 5 mins of pleasure. And the chick is going to remember me as someone who gave pleasure to her as well as took it.

Of course he his, she gave up sex via DMs. Why wouldn’t he run it back? I see your point but He likely doesn’t care in the way you do.

 

[International Playa]

In terms of Long Term Relationships - IS IT CONTROVERSIAL to focus on educated but poor women, vs those that make the same (might make more), and those that make more?

Typical breh is pulling 50, maybe 80 doing something technical/stem or trade oriented

1. Teacher/Social Worker is slightly less (with stability)
2. Nurse might be about the same, but will make more.
3. According to Average LSA member - they make 6 figs

What say you?

I focus more on compatibility & connection I have with the woman. Do we share the same values, morals, goals etc.

Aslong as she got a good head on her shoulders, teachable & cooperative you can always focus on building together as a couple & make more money if she ain't a high earner.

Nothing beats having a strong connection & being compatible with the right woman for you.

 

[re'up]

What do you base that it’s meant to be pleasurable for both on? At its core it’s for reproduction. Otherwise you are likely basing it on something people have ascribed to it but that’s not the standard that most folks carry anymore. I don’t know that they have to have a reason that makes sense to anyone but them

Reproduction?! its good for me to get some of these perspectives, sometime's I'm just blindsided by these kinds of things.