Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CW_1991]

The subtle (or maybe not so subtle), desperation that you feel from some of these single mother types is palpable.




Met this chick on bumble the other day and suggested we go down to this public park trail in my town and walk and vibe out. She ended up kind of springing on me the fact that she was bringing her 2-year-old daughter and one of her homegirls who brought her little ones along too. They hung back at some little playground area while me and her went and walked.

Found out she recently got out of a 12-year relationship last year and that's where the two-year-old comes from. Apparently the whole thing was rocky throughout but finally she severed ties permanently with dude (who has like 6 other kids by different women before her) and there's been no kind of real connection or relation between them, (according to her).

Was obvious to me she brought her friend along so that she could try to get a read on me and they could discuss what their impressions were after the whole thing was over with. I didn't really care I mainly wanted to go to the park to get in a couple miles of walking for exercise and some sunlight.

Anyway, a few hours after the whole little date thing she started asking me about whether or not I believe in marriage and God and things. Told her "I feel like marriage is a gamble this day and age and that I do believe in god".

She responded back with "it's not a gamble if it's led by God"



Just a very unsexy on warranted type of conversation topic. She also kept on jokingly asking for reassurance that I wasn't going to go ghost her back when we were all huddled around the little playground area talking and whatnot. Her little two year old kept on crying and complaining about things.

The mom even gestured toward the kid and was asking is this something I'm willing to deal with...





Got a little long winded, but that's basically it. Just palpable desperation.

She's 32 by the way. I'm 31 and childless.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

The subtle (or maybe not so subtle), desperation that you feel from some of these single mother types is palpable.




Met this chick on bumble the other day and suggested we go down to this public park trail in my town and walk and vibe out. She ended up kind of springing on me the fact that she was bringing her 2-year-old daughter and one of her homegirls who brought her little ones along too. They hung back at some little playground area while me and her went and walked.

Found out she recently got out of a 12-year relationship last year and that's where the two-year-old comes from. Apparently the whole thing was rocky throughout but finally she severed ties permanently with dude (who has like 6 other kids by different women before her) and there's been no kind of real connection or relation between them, (according to her).

Was obvious to me she brought her friend along so that she could try to get a read on me and they could discuss what their impressions were after the whole thing was over with. I didn't really care I mainly wanted to go to the park to get in a couple miles of walking for exercise and some sunlight.

Anyway, a few hours after the whole little date thing she started asking me about whether or not I believe in marriage and God and things. Told her "I feel like marriage is a gamble this day and age and that I do believe in god".

She responded back with "it's not a gamble if it's led by God"



Just a very unsexy on warranted type of conversation topic. She also kept on jokingly asking for reassurance that I wasn't going to go ghost her back when we were all huddled around the little playground area talking and whatnot. Her little two year old kept on crying and complaining about things.

The mom even gestured toward the kid and was asking is this something I'm willing to deal with...





Got a little long winded, but that's basically it. Just palpable desperation.

She's 32 by the way. I'm 31 and childless.

congrats on the new family breh

 

[Ahadi]

The subtle (or maybe not so subtle), desperation that you feel from some of these single mother types is palpable.




Met this chick on bumble the other day and suggested we go down to this public park trail in my town and walk and vibe out. She ended up kind of springing on me the fact that she was bringing her 2-year-old daughter and one of her homegirls who brought her little ones along too. They hung back at some little playground area while me and her went and walked.

Found out she recently got out of a 12-year relationship last year and that's where the two-year-old comes from. Apparently the whole thing was rocky throughout but finally she severed ties permanently with dude (who has like 6 other kids by different women before her) and there's been no kind of real connection or relation between them, (according to her).

Was obvious to me she brought her friend along so that she could try to get a read on me and they could discuss what their impressions were after the whole thing was over with. I didn't really care I mainly wanted to go to the park to get in a couple miles of walking for exercise and some sunlight.

Anyway, a few hours after the whole little date thing she started asking me about whether or not I believe in marriage and God and things. Told her "I feel like marriage is a gamble this day and age and that I do believe in god".

She responded back with "it's not a gamble if it's led by God"



Just a very unsexy on warranted type of conversation topic. She also kept on jokingly asking for reassurance that I wasn't going to go ghost her back when we were all huddled around the little playground area talking and whatnot. Her little two year old kept on crying and complaining about things.

The mom even gestured toward the kid and was asking is this something I'm willing to deal with...





Got a little long winded, but that's basically it. Just palpable desperation.

She's 32 by the way. I'm 31 and childless.

I don’t even know why you didn’t walk away.

Looks like you’re clean up man.

She brings her friend to vet and now she’s asking serious questions after having a kid by a man who already has 6



Walk away now & delete her number

 

[CW_1991]

I honestly just want to go into Kevin Samuel's mode and start dismantling everything she's talking about.

The whole tone of her conversation reads like I'm just some retirement plan. Of course it's not going to happen, but it gives you insight into just how crazy it is out here. Just the disconnect that these females display. But maybe it isn't disconnect maybe it's all premeditated and I just see through it.

Chick really trying to get philosophical with me about marriage and the why's and why nots when she can't even talk herself

 

[Ahadi]

If you don’t wana deal with single moms on apps, pay the fee and restrict your profile from seeing them.

Also you want women 18-25.

 

[Ahadi]

I honestly just want to go into Kevin Samuel's mode and start dismantling everything she's talking about.

The whole tone of her conversation reads like I'm just some retirement plan. Of course it's not going to happen, but it gives you insight into just how crazy it is out here. Just the disconnect that these females display. But maybe it isn't disconnect maybe it's all premeditated and I just see through it.

Chick really trying to get philosophical with me about marriage and the why's and why nots when she can't even talk herself

You need to. Be 100% yourself and don’t care. Be as open as she was. It is premeditated, she’s tired of spending her own money.

Because that’s what happens with single moms. You have to ask yourself (if she’s pretty or gorgeous) would she deal with you if she didn’t have a kid?

 

[CW_1991]

You need to. Be 100% yourself and don’t care. Be as open as she was. It is premeditated, she’s tired of spending her own money.

Because that’s what happens with single moms. You have to ask yourself (if she’s pretty or gorgeous) would she deal with you if she didn’t have a kid?

She's very average. Definitely could shed a few pounds. She even says this herself when I tell her about me going to the gym and things.

And I try to be polite and let people down easy instead of just putting them on blast. I feel more sorry for her than anything.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

If you don’t wana deal with single moms on apps, pay the fee and restrict your profile from seeing them.

Also you want women 18-25.

y’all really pay the fees?

 

[Ahadi]

y’all really pay the fees?

Nah, I deleted my apps. But when I was on hinge. They gave me a month for free. If I was a serious dater I would. Cut out all the smokers & women with kids.

I’d probably would pay if I go overseas

 

[Ahadi]

She's very average. Definitely could shed a few pounds. She even says this herself when I tell her about me going to the gym and things.

And I try to be polite and let people down easy instead of just putting them on blast. I feel more sorry for her than anything.

Don’t feel sorry for them. They feel sorry for themselves and for you. You’re a last option, you’re the desperation choice, you don’t make her wet, you are just an ATM, you are just the caretaker, you’re not the man that brings out her animalistic instinct. They fukked up. Not you.

You don’t owe her anything. You are valuable childless black man.

 

[CW_1991]

Don’t feel sorry for them. They feel sorry for themselves and for you. You’re a last option, your desperation, you don’t make her wet, you are just an ATM, you are just the caretaker, you’re not the man that brings out her animalistic instinct

Unfortunately I think this is true. The whole conversation felt like some kind of negotiation or something.

She was even surprised that I was single and started listing off all the positives in a statistical type of manner;

Single, no kids, my own crib and car, good job, nice looking. Like some kind of math equation that yields a good result. Maybe that way of thinking is a little harsh or cynical, but that's just what I feel. Could have just been trying to gas me up.

I see now why she kept asking for reassurance about whether or not I was going to ghost sir her (who would even admit they would).

Unless you're a complete and desperate simp, or some scummy type who likes to lead women on and then hit and quit, I'm thinking most dudes with halfway decent sense wouldn't touch this with a 10 ft Pole.

I forgot to mention, she also is a daycare worker or something but she was in a bad accident recently so she hasn't been working. That much was true. She had a very wicked looking raw scar on her elbow that was like a foot long.

 

[Ahadi]

Unfortunately I think this is true. The whole conversation felt like some kind of negotiation or something.

She was even surprised that I was single and started listing off all the positives in a statistical type of manner;

Single, no kids, my own crib and car, good job, nice looking. Like some kind of math equation that yields a good result. Maybe that way of thinking is a little harsh or cynical, but that's just what I feel. Could have just been trying to gas me up.

I see now why she kept asking for reassurance about whether or not I was going to ghost sir her (who would even admit they would).

Unless you're a complete and desperate simp, or some scummy type who likes to lead women on and then hit and quit, I'm thinking most dudes with halfway decent sense wouldn't touch this with a 10 ft Pole.

I forgot to mention, she also is a daycare worker or something but she was in a bad accident recently so she hasn't been working. That much was true. She had a very wicked looking raw scar on her elbow that was like a foot long.

Sounds like she’s tired of working, or isn’t looking forward to going back to work and not at all, when you’re dating you need to figure out everything, especially when you have resources, what are her intentions? Does she like me for me? My car? My place? My connections? My money? Etc.

But going back to the date part, she’s probably dating multiple ppl and seeing who will “step up”. Little does she know, if she’s average and her body isn’t in shape, plus a kid, she’s not giving the man anything of value.

Her next play is to manipulate with sex. I don’t recommend anyone hit a single mother because if there’s an accident, then there’s a 99.9% chance she won’t abort.

 

[The ADD]

Unfortunately I think this is true. The whole conversation felt like some kind of negotiation or something.

She was even surprised that I was single and started listing off all the positives in a statistical type of manner;

Single, no kids, my own crib and car, good job, nice looking. Like some kind of math equation that yields a good result. Maybe that way of thinking is a little harsh or cynical, but that's just what I feel. Could have just been trying to gas me up.

I see now why she kept asking for reassurance about whether or not I was going to ghost sir her (who would even admit they would).

Unless you're a complete and desperate simp, or some scummy type who likes to lead women on and then hit and quit, I'm thinking most dudes with halfway decent sense wouldn't touch this with a 10 ft Pole.

I forgot to mention, she also is a daycare worker or something but she was in a bad accident recently so she hasn't been working. That much was true. She had a very wicked looking raw scar on her elbow that was like a foot long.

Why did you go out with her?

 

[CW_1991]

Why did you go out with her?

I mentioned earlier. We matched on bumble, I suggested we link up at this local park to break the ice and everything I've been talking about ensued.

And I was on bumble for the same reason most guys go on bumble.

 

[Ahadi]

Another reason why I don’t date over 25



Every woman over 25 sees me as resource man or clean up.