Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[skyrunner1]

Wow, I am glad to see this just isn't me, and you have a similar train of thought and experience. Of course, I realize it's not, (just me) but I am still surprised, even as I encounter it more and more. I don't see it as just generational either, it's anyone who since 2012 has been fixated on social media/texts/smart phones

I never had social media, obviously I have had an iphone for a decade plus and text, but it hasn't entirely warped the way I think or socialize. It still seems weak, passive, and even cowardly, but I am an outlier.

There are a lot of studies and papers and opinion pieces from the usual academic media circles about this now.

yea that two eras stand out to me, that 2012/13 era, when IG and Tinder first get introduced to the space, apps have been on phones for a couple years and IG is completely detached from computer when first introduced. Like it was first app completely started on phone first..

Then 2016/17 just seems like an incredible turning point also, IG changes their algorithm. EVERYONE has a decent enough phone to capture decent enough pics, women of course being ahead of social curve compeletly dive into branding type media (makeup artist, eyelash tech, hairstylist TAKES THE fukk OFF to fill this void, goes from being women of night thing to across the board) Behaviors start to change, social media is starting to break thru in ways I never seen, phones streaming decent enough where youtube is mobile..

I think all this gender war stuff between last of gen x and early millennials is squashing out "late to party" things.. What you are talking about is the bleeding edge stuff that isnt being talked about.. I think many people will be shocked by the behavior and ripple effects coming down the pipe..

 

[360dagod]

Wow, I am glad to see this just isn't me, and you have a similar train of thought and experience. Of course, I realize it's not, (just me) but I am still surprised, even as I encounter it more and more. I don't see it as just generational either, it's anyone who since 2012 has been fixated on social media/texts/smart phones

I never had social media, obviously I have had an iphone for a decade plus and text, but it hasn't entirely warped the way I think or socialize. It still seems weak, passive, and even cowardly, but I am an outlier.

There are a lot of studies and papers and opinion pieces from the usual academic media circles about this now.

The initial date has to be active...

seems to be where it's at for me at least...

Any activity where you can kind of talk shyt to them so they can loosen up a bit...

I'm not much of a text person, but I've had to humble myself and kind of adapt until the comfort level reaches where I would like...

It's just a different world out here

 

[YOGEBEAR09]

Just accept monogamy ain’t your thing

Problem solved

Might be true for me

 

[The ADD]

Might be true for me

Nothing wrong with it

 

[Rasille]

As funny as this skit is, this highlights two things for me. Number 1, women will put up with this for a guy she likes and number 2, we as men have been in a situation where we treat a woman like this that we clearly see likes us.

 

[CW_1991]

How would y'all personally handle a chick you met on a dating app, who early on (texting phase) mentions "before going further" that she has 4 kids (wasn't written in main profile). Says she thinks I should be aware.

Age 32, originally from Cali but in the south currently. Decent looking.

My profile states I'm not looking for anything serious or complicated but we still matched.

 

[Rasille]

How would y'all personally handle a chick you met on a dating app, who early on (texting phase) mentions "before going further" that she has 4 kids (wasn't written in main profile)

Age 32, originally from Cali but in the south currently. Decent looking.

My profile states I'm not looking for anything serious or complicated but we still matched.

Don’t waste her time. Tell her the deal and if she’s still down then it’s on her.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

The initial date has to be active...

seems to be where it's at for me at least...

Any activity where you can kind of talk shyt to them so they can loosen up a bit...

I'm not much of a text person, but I've had to humble myself and kind of adapt until the comfort level reaches where I would like...

It's just a different world out here

Recreational activities are the best first dates

Ziplining, hiking, bumper cars, amusement parks, shooting range.... just few great examples to add to your list.

Leading the interaction is mostly important

 

[CW_1991]

Don’t waste her time. Tell her the deal and if she’s still down then it’s on her.

Asked her to specify exactly what she wants/expects (because the profile doesn't mention it) and she says, an eventual relationship (but no rush) and that she's not just looking to hook up.

Considering she got 4 youngins and passed 30 I imagine not.

 

[re'up]

I feel like objectively my dating asks or ideas are always 100%, like I go frequently to the hottest spots in my city, the most exclusive hotels, the hardest to get reservations is usually where the bar staff knows me, because I'm in there solo, and all the new places. You never would see me asking someone to some cheap bullshyt spot. That's just not my style. But, sometimes I think I'm going way out of some people's comfort zone, like I'm asking them to really high end expensive places just casually, and they may be thinking there's more to it.

Hiking, or ziplining, like you'd never catch me doing some shyt like that, on my own, I understand the practicality of those dates though. I do like less structured things, where we can just talk and be ourselves, and not have to go through like rituals and signaling, but that involves letting ones guard down. As I mentioned awhile back, my homie said you don't care about structures or systems, you just try and go around it.

 

[The ADD]

How would y'all personally handle a chick you met on a dating app, who early on (texting phase) mentions "before going further" that she has 4 kids (wasn't written in main profile). Says she thinks I should be aware.

Age 32, originally from Cali but in the south currently. Decent looking.

My profile states I'm not looking for anything serious or complicated but we still matched.

Wouldn’t entertain it for a second. But I wouldn’t deal with a chick with kids so it might be worth to others.

 

[CW_1991]

Wouldn’t entertain it for a second. But I wouldn’t deal with a chick with kids so it might be worth to others.

Yeah I'm not. Objectively the math not mathing.

We are roughly the same age except I don't have any kids or multiple baby mommas, have a great paying job, and my shyt pretty well together.

Suspecting she not going to be with just the casual stuff.

 

[360dagod]

I feel like objectively my dating asks or ideas are always 100%, like I go frequently to the hottest spots in my city, the most exclusive hotels, the hardest to get reservations is usually where the bar staff knows me, because I'm in there solo, and all the new places. You never would see me asking someone to some cheap bullshyt spot. That's just not my style. But, sometimes I think I'm going way out of some people's comfort zone, like I'm asking them to really high end expensive places just casually, and they may be thinking there's more to it.

Hiking, or ziplining, like you'd never catch me doing some shyt like that, on my own, I understand the practicality of those dates though. I do like less structured things, where we can just talk and be ourselves, and not have to go through like rituals and signaling, but that involves letting ones guard down. As I mentioned awhile back, my homie said you don't care about structures or systems, you just try and go around it.

The woman feels too much pressure on expensive dates...

A "cheap bullshyt spot" in her eyes gives her a margin for error if she not feeling you..

Expensive dates only happen after you knocked it down and the baseline is established

 

[WIA20XX]

How would y'all personally handle a chick you met on a dating app, who early on (texting phase) mentions "before going further" that she has 4 kids (wasn't written in main profile). Says she thinks I should be aware.

Age 32, originally from Cali but in the south currently. Decent looking.

My profile states I'm not looking for anything serious or complicated but we still matched.

That's cool, I got 5 kids that I ain't taking care of....

Come through around 11

*unless this Cali Chick is Kim Kardashian, in which case, I'll be the Dad that Stepped up.

 

[360dagod]

Yeah I'm not. Objectively the math not mathing.

We are roughly the same age except I don't have any kids or multiple baby mommas, have a great paying job, and my shyt pretty well together.

Suspecting she not going to be with just the casual stuff.

Lol...

Might as well buy some p*ssy..

Because they coming for them pockets..

Whatever L you take, accept it and move on...

It's 100% your fault for fukking them in the 1st place..

But she gonna want to see about them pockets for sure