the hardest thing about finding a good woman nowadays, is that even the ones who are good on paper have this fairy tale mindset when it comes to relationships
they think everything is just supposed to work, be easy, serve them...and when it doesnt they are ready to move on to the next fling
I think part of the approach, at least from a successful black man's perspective - is that rather than look for a unicorn and hope she stays that way - we need to set an example, lead, and give direction to chicks that we deal with.
Obviously, you're not at the strip club looking for a wife. You gotta pick well to begin with. I do have a passport, but the same male/female issues that exists between two folks in the states, plays out with the Asians, Latins, and EE's (ask me how I know - the same fundamental issues we have in 2022, they was talking about in the Q'uran, Bible, and Torah).
So get your long term screening game TIGHT.
But if a brougham grabs him a nurse, teacher, ad exec - he does the background check for whatever he's looking for... Then he gives the chick direction, he teaches his broad HOW to be a good woman
to him. Off rip, she doesn't have a clue how to be a good partner, much less to the man she's with specifically. She
expects him to be a good partner to her, and read her mind. One of the biggest keys in pulling broads in the short game, is the same thing in the long game -
she has to chase you, not the other way around.
Back to the passporting, 3rd world broads will cook and clean - but guys focused on that type of thing really are beyond help imo. She needs to be good to the man, not just have basic life skills. If a chick can't do that, Cali Colombia, or Cali USA - keep it moving.
All this means is a much more active role in the relationship.
HOL UP!
On the one hand, that's what she wants you to do - to think about her. To make
your plans with
her in mind. It's one thing when you have a family, but when it's just the female - TO ME - that always seemed one sided.
The fact that a broad wants me to think about her when I'm NOT with her, instead of my mission - makes me already tense up.
BUT...
Having a chick in your life, making her into something you can trust and rely on - it takes work.
And for the most part, I haven't been interested in doing that work. Not for a broad at least. Go all out for the dough, drive the getaway car for my partners, but something stops me from doing it with the females. (prolly personal experience, as well as the collective memory)
Here's a good story about a dude who went all out for a female, and got his just desserts -
I don't think most guys are trying to really do that work either.
A lot of us can see the value of the work, when it comes to children, but not when it comes to the grown adult sharing a bed with us.
And, imo, that's a mistake. Not saying that women are children (I'm not
saying it)...
With these wayward chicks these days, obsessed with Instagram, trying to live that Love and Hip Hop Atlanta lifestyle, hating on Kylie Jenner because they secretly want her life - they REQUIRE more work than what our fathers and grandfathers did. (I got grey in the beard, so I'm not dealing with the under 25 set - but if you don't think the 35+ set isn't on the same young girl BS.....)
These girls today not only have money and education, they generally have it easier than the average man in getting that money and education.
And having that money and education usually means that she doesn't want to come under the leadership and guidance of a man - because why? She knows everything and feels like she has more. (I'm not
saying they act like children, i'm just implying it, so you can infer it)
So to bring it back to the topic of good women -
she's not born, she's made.
