Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Apollo Creed]

Read the last 20 or so pages good questions and answers from everyone

Been working on myself the past few months got the new job, new crib downtown yada yada.. the thing I noticed the girls I used to like before I don’t even want to smash

Anyone else felt that gradual shift of wanting better when you leveled up in life? We all fukked a few wack bytches in our life but it’s crazy when you’re living in a better spot it impacts who you want over. Also since moving, I barely be on the apps other than hinge because it be bytches with multiple kids, mediocre jobs, etc giving trouble and it’s a waste of time since you’re doing so well in real life

TLDR- when you work on yourself and enter the dating game again you’ll be blown away how fast your standards changed

IMO as men toss that level up term to the bushes, that shyt is for women.

1.Learn to be alone and enjoy it. Being lonely leads to us getting into situationships we shouldn't be in. Learn yourself and what you actually enjoy.
2.Once you learn to be alone, master yourself. Conquer whatever non productive vices you have whether it be porn, food addiction, etc. I say this because when we get down and out we lean to this shyt and it further puts us in a hole.
3.When you do 1 and 2 you understand how simple life is thus you abandon the level up bullshyt which is just shyt to make you a slave of capitalism.
4.Remember you dont own anyone and nobody owns you. Take people who come in your life as they are, you cant change them and that is ok. Simply ask yourself, if the characteristics they display things you want in your life and if so, do these things shift you off your square? if they do cut them out, reflect on the lessons learned and move on.

 

[Nokids]

IMO as men toss that level up term to the bushes, that shyt is for women.

1.Learn to be alone and enjoy it. Being lonely leads to us getting into situationships we shouldn't be in. Learn yourself and what you actually enjoy.
2.Once you learn to be alone, master yourself. Conquer whatever non productive vices you have whether it be porn, food addiction, etc. I say this because when we get down and out we lean to this shyt and it further puts us in a hole.
3.When you do 1 and 2 you understand how simple life is thus you abandon the level up bullshyt which is just shyt to make you a slave of capitalism.
4.Remember you dont own anyone and nobody owns you. Take people who come in your life as they are, you cant change them and that is ok. Simply ask yourself, if the characteristics they display things you want in your life and if so, do these things shift you off your square? if they do cut them out, reflect on the lessons learned and move on.

I def feel you on the level up thing from being homeless to where I’m at now don’t know a better term for it.. With 1, I’m 1000 miles away from my fam, so being alone got me moving at a different place than usual.

but I’m working on 2 right now..porn and working from home is a bad mix the first step is knowing the problem. Being in the burbs had me inside all the time at least now I’ll be around more things to do



I appreciate this post fam

 

[Apollo Creed]

I def feel you on the level up thing from being homeless to where I’m at now don’t know a better term for it.. With 1, I’m 1000 miles away from my fam, so being alone got me moving at a different place than usual.

but I’m working on 2 right now..porn and working from home is a bad mix the first step is knowing the problem. Being in the burbs had me inside all the time at least now I’ll be around more things to do



I appreciate this post fam

With porn/vices it boils down to idle time = idle mind. When you aren't working find things to keep you occupied, and after a while those vices vanish/become minimal. Once you get through that, the vices become a nice to have vs a dependency. I believe most things are fine in moderation, when you have mastery of self you are then able to moderate things appropriately.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

You admitted to spending almost 50$ on uber eats.

Homegirl stopped cooking cuz she know you gonna spend bread to feed her..

She is SUBTLY pushing it further and further to where more money is going to be relieved from your bank account because you don't establish boundaries....

she trying to prove she good in a recession with your money..

You will see the light eventually

50 between 2 people is normal on Uber eats in NY. She cooks sometimes but not that often anymore cuz her commute is far.

 

[WhatsGoodTy]

What do you do if your family don’t like the person you’re with for no real reason?

 

[RealCrownHeights]

nikkas gotta think they doing women a favor with this I'll pay 60/40 bullshyt. If you make more than her thats her problem nobody told her to pick the career field she is in.

Either you are 100% provider (and like 95% of women cant handle what comes with that) or yall 50/50 everything. Anything else is confusion that leads you no where. This is for actual relationships. Anything else keep it FWB, I'll summon you when I want to see you so you dont invest unnecessary time on giving attention as time is money.

She makes more than me for most our relationship. I just started making money. When we first met she expected me to pay everything I shut that down

 

[RealCrownHeights]

there is a third option

Tell her to give you her check every payday and you manage all the finances with all the money outside of some disposable cash she can keep for whatever.

It worked in the past for couples and it should work now. Especially if ya’ll living together and what not.

We don’t live together but she’s 5 min away. We have different bills also

 

[RealCrownHeights]

these nikkas aint married though. It's just two confused adults.

We over complicate gender dynamics because Dating isn't even real, it comes from prostitution culture but we now use it as method of relationship lol.

I’m 29 she 27. On paper and in another city I feel like we would have been married already. Cost of living in NY and me navigating jobs has put that on a back burner. I think we’ve been doing okay at the split shyt because if either one did 100 we would be broke af.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I’m 29 she 27. On paper and in another city I feel like we would have been married already. Cost of living in NY and me navigating jobs has put that on a back burner. I think we’ve been doing okay at the split shyt because if either one did 100 we would be broke af.

I’m 29 she 27. On paper and in another city I feel like we would have been married already.

I feel like we would have been married already.

Bruh please.. like.. you seem like a solid dude. Folks are in here not tryna clown or negate your feelings.

Ya thought process just sounds real fukking stupid.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I’m 29 she 27. On paper and in another city I feel like we would have been married already. Cost of living in NY and me navigating jobs has put that on a back burner. I think we’ve been doing okay at the split shyt because if either one did 100 we would be broke af.

it doesn't cost anything to get married but fees at the court house.

That fact you even use that angle is more validation you need to dead this lmfao but you are going to do what you want so it is what it is.

 

[WIA20XX]

What do you do if your family don’t like the person you’re with for no real reason?

Take a good look at the broad. Cause there's something that they see, that you can't see.

Might be rudeness, she might inconsiderate, she might be dependent/co-dependent. etc

 

[RealCrownHeights]

it doesn't cost anything to get married but fees at the court house.

That fact you even use that angle is more validation you need to dead this lmfao but you are going to do what you want so it is what it is.

No, trust me I considered it. I have a pro and con list but yea she's def not one for a city hall marriage.

 

[The ADD]

What do you do if your family don’t like the person you’re with for no real reason?

If she’s temporary it doesn’t matter

 

[Apollo Creed]

No, trust me I considered it. I have a pro and con list but yea she's def not one for a city hall marriage.

like I said bro you gonna do what you gonna do and as a man it's your right. But from what I am being presented I'm bush the situation but thats me.

 

[InGodWeTrust]

My lady wanted to watch porn for once and I had her choose the video. She chose a threesome vid (2 girls and a dude).

Afterwards she asked if that’s something that I’d be interested in so I might start hitting some women up.