Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DTXwavey_02]

Welp the African chick was fun while it lasted. I’ve never seen a girl commit so many red flags in a span of one day

I told ol girl when we first met I talk to other women and at first she understood that. So we out and about and she tryna post me on social media and that is a no go we not even dating, and than she tryna hold my hand and shyt

The dealbreaker was when I was on my way to drop her off, and she decided to look through my phone and saw the girls I was talking to and she was pissed. I told her straight up you don’t just invade someone’s privacy like that and I will stop engaging with you

It’s all good tho, there’s this girl I’ve been talking to recently and our personalities just click, and she doesn’t need to be taken out like the African chick. On all of our meetings we can deadass just sit around and talk for hours and I fw that

 

[DTXwavey_02]

Welp the African chick was fun while it lasted. I’ve never seen a girl commit so many red flags in a span of one day

I told ol girl when we first met I talk to other women and at first she understood that. So we out and about and she tryna post me on social media and that is a no go we not even dating, and than she tryna hold my hand and shyt

The dealbreaker was when I was on my way to drop her off, and she decided to look through my phone and saw the girls I was talking to and she was pissed. I told her straight up you don’t just invade someone’s privacy like that and I will stop engaging with you

It’s all good tho, there’s this girl I’ve been talking to recently and our personalities just click, and she doesn’t need to be taken out like the African chick. On all of our meetings we can deadass just sit around and talk for hours and I fw that

Also the African chick was one of those girls where she does this dumbass shyt where you’ve already done some nasty shyt to her and THAN tells you she wasn’t to do anything until she gets to know you more (get into a relationship), wouldn’t even make out with me


bytch you already sucked my dikk and let me clap yo cheeks you can’t just change up, I’ve had that happen a couple of times in the past and these hoes always deflect when I ask why and say they were just horny

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

And here you are typing essays. The jokes write themselves. Bro you are one dumb mothafukka. This is my last reply to you

That was before you exposed yourself as a homotional bum. My original post exposed your poor logic and you decided to respond like a disgruntled wife. Now you're crying cause I called you fatherless. I just call em how I see em

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

Also the African chick was one of those girls where she does this dumbass shyt where you’ve already done some nasty shyt to her and THAN tells you she wasn’t to do anything until she gets to know you more (get into a relationship), wouldn’t even make out with me


bytch you already sucked my dikk and let me clap yo cheeks you can’t just change up, I’ve had that happen a couple of times in the past and these hoes always deflect when I ask why and say they were just horny

How you gonna play hard to get after you gave it up already?

Bushes.

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

This is my last reply to you

A neg is a reply, breh. Thought you said you were done

Be emotionally volatile, brehs

 

[ViShawn]

Classic case of a person who has been let down

Let down in what way? I think I kinda get it but I want your definition brother.

 

[Astroslik]

Broke boy bum still begging for my attention. He mad an enraged off a neg. But considering how much he spends time posting on this forum, I can see why you take this internet shyt to heart. Go outside and quit being a failure to your family.

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

Broke boy bum still begging for my attention. He mad an enraged off a neg. But considering how much he spends time posting on this forum, I can see why you take this internet shyt to heart. Go outside and quit being a failure to your family.

It's nothing personal for me breh. You're the one who seems triggered. Your responses have been mildly amusing.

I think you got everything you needed to say off your chest, so let's stop derailing this thread

 

[Astroslik]

It's nothing personal for me breh. You're the one who seems triggered. Your responses have been mildly amusing.

I think you got everything you needed to say off your chest, so let's stop derailing this thread

Why did you edit your post.. the jokes continue to write themselves

Very “fatherless” behavior. Aight I’m done picking on you breh.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

How you gonna play hard to get after you gave it up already?

Bushes.

Had a broad do this esrliesr this year. We'd smashed first link. Been having sex regularly. Now all of a sudden she wants to "find herself and wait" talking about the ball is in my court if I want to continue talking to her despite no sex that morning was the last time we spoke.

 

[dappadonna]

Baad single mother on hinge still hit me up after I left her on read for 2 days . Thought she'd get the hint.

Why couldn't she just put 'have Children' in her profile from the get go ? I would've just casually X'd her . I said I'd never deal with a lady with kids.

 

[Ahadi]

From the Lori Harvey Thread:

The common occurrence of women having “one foot in and one out the other” / wanting girlfriend perks without the title of it.

A lot of em are scared & think they’re going to lose their freedoms. They think they’re missing a lot by being out in the streets.

Eventually though. They’ll have to cash out.

The advice is to pull back financially & time wise, don’t give them girlfriend perks until they earn it, then you can promote them to that next level.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Spoiler

At 21 Im going to tell you as clear as possible and hopefully it gives you clarity like I tried to do with my young bulls I try to put on right path.. I dont know your situation (unless you want to share) I have no choice but to generalize. You are basically starting at bottom on totem pole. You left high school which was a silo'd environment (most girls are available to you and your peers only and not available to general market because of proximity and age, older guys cant use their advantages like money, logistics/cars/home, experience because thats a no go so for you and your boys yall get that advantage) after high school graduation Girls are going to college and they are obviously based on looks they can climb up heirarchy very fast,since women look to date up they can date guys a lil older while gaining access to things and status, for just a young regular dude you starting at bottom.

You have to look at your paths to victory so to say, your pool gets limited in general because you cant date soo much younger and the immediately older women will not be checking for the younger guys in large numbers (a 24/25+ YO women wont date a 21 YO guy in normal circumstances) Now you have to climb up and better yourself while also figuring way to hack the system up, everything is gonna be based on what value u bring, like an earlier post said are you photographer, access to parties, DJ, play on football team, part of a frat, Promoter, do you know anyone in a 6 degrees kind of way who can get you plugged in? If not what about your fundamentals? Do you have car/own place, how is your wardrobe, what are we doing to upgrade our life overall, going to school, what is main focus to bring in money, what is job status? Are you working out right now? Break these things down like a video game and you can really see where you are lacking quickly..

You need those fundamentals in place FOR YOU. You need money FOR YOU, never lead with your wallet but money will allow you to invest in yourself first and foremost, if you are doing that people will see and take notice. Will allow you to pay for gym, eat better food, dress better, have hobbies and try new things, enter new social groups and take care of yourself overall.. After that you can look at how you moving socially, what do you do for fun, having active social life will allow you to have multiple social circles with people doing things you enjoy, they will see you in positive light and should help you meet new people, expand your circle and possibly open to opportunities..

Your age you should be in basically a couple years in some type of apprentice stage of developing your money making skills, if not get on that first, second and third! Nothing will affect your confidence at a young age then to just be listless and watch time pass you by. Post getting kinda long but that should just be the fundamentals to put you on track to have the world as your oyster, it might not see like it at your age now but if you put these things in affect at a young age, things turn around fast and open up for you quickly. Every year you get older your pool will get wider and having accomplished more you will have confidence in your self and it should show. If you want me to continue as I might just be rambling without actually knowing your situation just let me know and I can touch on in more directly, good luck

I sincerely appreciate the long type up. You ain’t have to take the time out ya game to give ya gems out, and I appreciate that.

I’ll answer this post by each paragraph & spoiler it

Spoiler

1) I completely agree. I’m also self-aware to know.. some brehs my age or even younger got it could easily use the older men excuse as a copeout but I’m a realist. Talked to my OG about it and we concluded I don’t fit the college environment and quite frankly.. the standard of what a BM “should” be. I hate to say the latter. It sounds whiny and is honestly something WE define not the world. I can be immature, short-sighted sometimes, and in general make errors of the regular 21 year old… I’m not special but boy does it feel like it sometimes so I either have to adapt/fake it or vastly improve my vetting. As y’all say: understand your lane.

2) I like how you broke down the fundamentals of what I bring to the dating pool. I personally & honestly think I am the greatest accumulation of atoms God ever crafted but means absolutely nothing if I don’t gauge how I am perceived as well as what I display to others. It’s those uncomfortable introspective moments where you really have to measure yourself and understand what is good for you. Good thing I can proudly say is I take a large chunk of accountability for dating woes. All fixable, all correctable, all on me.

3) I appreciate this portion of your post, because it reiterates how I need to be in tune with myself as well as what I have going on. Everytime I talk about my internships & scholarships to my OGs, their eyes light up and they start doing math on how much salary I can reign in, what cities I could move to, what can I invest my play money in.. I realize they do this because youth is truly wasted on the youth. Build the groundwork so I can flourish as I grow.

4) Babyface & Mustafa said the same thing — this stage is your building stage. Obviously, you should enjoy dates.. go see what’s out in the pond from time to time.. but your greatest use of time is earning wealth: physically and financially

 

[RaspberryFitted]

From the Lori Harvey Thread:

The common occurrence of women having “one foot in and one out the other” / wanting girlfriend perks without the title of it.

A lot of em are scared & think they’re going to lose their freedoms. They think they’re missing a lot by being out in the streets.

Eventually though. They’ll have to cash out.

The advice is to pull back financially & time wise, don’t give them girlfriend perks until they earn it, then you can promote them to that next level.

green isn’t always greener on the other side.

Who are we to tell them otherwise.

 

[skyrunner1]

I sincerely appreciate the long type up. You ain’t have to take the time out ya game to give ya gems out, and I appreciate that.

I’ll answer this post by each paragraph & spoiler it

Spoiler

1) I completely agree. I’m also self-aware to know.. some brehs my age or even younger got it could easily use the older men excuse as a copeout but I’m a realist. Talked to my OG about it and we concluded I don’t fit the college environment and quite frankly.. the standard of what a BM “should” be. I hate to say the latter. It sounds whiny and is honestly something WE define not the world. I can be immature, short-sighted sometimes, and in general make errors of the regular 21 year old… I’m not special but boy does it feel like it sometimes so I either have to adapt/fake it or vastly improve my vetting. As y’all say: understand your lane.

2) I like how you broke down the fundamentals of what I bring to the dating pool. I personally & honestly think I am the greatest accumulation of atoms God ever crafted but means absolutely nothing if I don’t gauge how I am perceived as well as what I display to others. It’s those uncomfortable introspective moments where you really have to measure yourself and understand what is good for you. Good thing I can proudly say is I take a large chunk of accountability for dating woes. All fixable, all correctable, all on me.

3) I appreciate this portion of your post, because it reiterates how I need to be in tune with myself as well as what I have going on. Everytime I talk about my internships & scholarships to my OGs, their eyes light up and they start doing math on how much salary I can reign in, what cities I could move to, what can I invest my play money in.. I realize they do this because youth is truly wasted on the youth. Build the groundwork so I can flourish as I grow.

4) Babyface & Mustafa said the same thing — this stage is your building stage. Obviously, you should enjoy dates.. go see what’s out in the pond from time to time.. but your greatest use of time is earning wealth: physically and financially

Absolutely breh, I love the game and love to see the light bulb turn on for brothers as they excel in life and thrive, if you took any value out of my post Im good.

Most of what I posted was the fundamentals from your reply you seem to have a positive enough self esteem about yourself, I like the boastfulness and you speaking about your accomplishments. Now posting it on a site and translating that same energy when interacting with opposite sex needs to be identical. KEEP. THE. SAME. ENERGY. Now I wouldnt recommend you reading off who you are or what you do, that comes across kinda tacky. Its better to let them find out stuff about you organically and in passing but definitely carry that air of IM HIM. That alone can carry you a long way. Having the confidence and in tandem leading in all situations will get you results you desire.

No matter where you are there are always paths to victory. Pros and cons to everything, so look at the positives and lean into those, it sounds like you have alot going on with internships/scholarships which I am sure put you in proximity to like minded and same age people. Something that is highly overlooked is proximity and how that is one of biggest indicators of being successful in dating. Most guys complain because they cant even be around women, if you take avg university the ratios are heavily skewed in your favor. You have proximity to the what some would say the most desirable women available in your city without them having supervision from their parents and usually have time to interact. Thats gold right there, even just talking and building friendships will help you see who is into you as you get exposed to other networks. I am a big proponent of being into who is into you. If you have your fundamentals in check the women will soon be checking for you, now question is will you be able to catch their signals because young dudes sometime miss those cues while women think they are being obvious.

You sound like you are on right path in regards to developing your money making skills, that alone will put you ahead of game in no time. I would also add if you get a chance check out @WIA20XX (Im not sure if its the same west indian archie but thats been his name on other sites, welcome home) website (westindianarchie.com) I would scroll down to beginning of archive and start at beginning for quality info on actually approaching and "game" type info. His info is beyond legit and keep fingers cross he ever drop that book (we been waiting yearsssss).