Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[skyrunner1]

I sincerely appreciate the long type up. You ain’t have to take the time out ya game to give ya gems out, and I appreciate that.

I’ll answer this post by each paragraph & spoiler it

Spoiler

1) I completely agree. I’m also self-aware to know.. some brehs my age or even younger got it could easily use the older men excuse as a copeout but I’m a realist. Talked to my OG about it and we concluded I don’t fit the college environment and quite frankly.. the standard of what a BM “should” be. I hate to say the latter. It sounds whiny and is honestly something WE define not the world. I can be immature, short-sighted sometimes, and in general make errors of the regular 21 year old… I’m not special but boy does it feel like it sometimes so I either have to adapt/fake it or vastly improve my vetting. As y’all say: understand your lane.

2) I like how you broke down the fundamentals of what I bring to the dating pool. I personally & honestly think I am the greatest accumulation of atoms God ever crafted but means absolutely nothing if I don’t gauge how I am perceived as well as what I display to others. It’s those uncomfortable introspective moments where you really have to measure yourself and understand what is good for you. Good thing I can proudly say is I take a large chunk of accountability for dating woes. All fixable, all correctable, all on me.

3) I appreciate this portion of your post, because it reiterates how I need to be in tune with myself as well as what I have going on. Everytime I talk about my internships & scholarships to my OGs, their eyes light up and they start doing math on how much salary I can reign in, what cities I could move to, what can I invest my play money in.. I realize they do this because youth is truly wasted on the youth. Build the groundwork so I can flourish as I grow.

4) Babyface & Mustafa said the same thing — this stage is your building stage. Obviously, you should enjoy dates.. go see what’s out in the pond from time to time.. but your greatest use of time is earning wealth: physically and financially

Absolutely breh, I love the game and love to see the light bulb turn on for brothers as they excel in life and thrive, if you took any value out of my post Im good.

Most of what I posted was the fundamentals from your reply you seem to have a positive enough self esteem about yourself, I like the boastfulness and you speaking about your accomplishments. Now posting it on a site and translating that same energy when interacting with opposite sex needs to be identical. KEEP. THE. SAME. ENERGY. Now I wouldnt recommend you reading off who you are or what you do, that comes across kinda tacky. Its better to let them find out stuff about you organically and in passing but definitely carry that air of IM HIM. That alone can carry you a long way. Having the confidence and in tandem leading in all situations will get you results you desire.

No matter where you are there are always paths to victory. Pros and cons to everything, so look at the positives and lean into those, it sounds like you have alot going on with internships/scholarships which I am sure put you in proximity to like minded and same age people. Something that is highly overlooked is proximity and how that is one of biggest indicators of being successful in dating. Most guys complain because they cant even be around women, if you take avg university the ratios are heavily skewed in your favor. You have proximity to the what some would say the most desirable women available in your city without them having supervision from their parents and usually have time to interact. Thats gold right there, even just talking and building friendships will help you see who is into you as you get exposed to other networks. I am a big proponent of being into who is into you. If you have your fundamentals in check the women will soon be checking for you, now question is will you be able to catch their signals because young dudes sometime miss those cues while women think they are being obvious.

You sound like you are on right path in regards to developing your money making skills, that alone will put you ahead of game in no time. I would also add if you get a chance check out @WIA20XX (Im not sure if its the same west indian archie but thats been his name on other sites, welcome home) website (westindianarchie.com) I would scroll down to beginning of archive and start at beginning for quality info on actually approaching and "game" type info. His info is beyond legit and keep fingers cross he ever drop that book (we been waiting yearsssss).

 

[WIA20XX]

His info is beyond legit and keep fingers cross he ever drop that book (we been waiting yearsssss).

Haha, shots fired.

I didn't think the Coli Brehs needed any game help.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Scrolling on Tinder earlier and see this chick who kinda looked familiar. I flick though her photos and remember I was talking to her for a while back in 2019. She lived near but we never managed to get it together, she’d always kinda gently rebuff any attempt I made to meet up even though I know she was horny. After a while I lost interest and shyt fizzled out.

Anyway I read her profile and thrown in part of it was her saying she is HSV2+ I was like maybe that’s why she didn't want to meet up?
this was back when I wouldn’t necessarily ask a woman when she last got checked out.

Having to tell every single person you date that you have it would be status you’d basically be cutting off a majority of your dating options.
I can only stress how important it is to ask a woman when she last got checked. And for us guys to get checked regularly I went last week and got my results all clear as usual.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

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My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

"Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive"...

 

[Ohene]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

Kind of in a similar situation

 

[DapMeUp!]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

 

[The ADD]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

Going to bush her soon?

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

There are pros and cons to being in a relationship, same with being single. If she's an otherwise quality woman who adds value to your life, try to work through y'all problems. If it's not possible, bushes.

 

[MikelArteta]

So sometimes I fall back into loneliness thinking about what transpired between my ex and I. Her violent display of anger still lingers in the back of my mind. How she screamed uncontrollably, throwing stuff, etc. It still saddens me. More often than not though having been two months removed from the relationship I feel okay. Her birthday is in a few days so I wonder how she's doing.


On a lighter note - I have been on/off on Hinge and had a funny interaction with a woman I went on one date in 2015 recently "liked" me. She was very short with me back during that date but I was VERY skinny back then and was not the man I was back then. I will say though I met her a few days after I did a MMA fight so I was extra lean then.

Things more or less fizzled out with that interaction, but she worked at the same company I did and we knew of each other by a few degrees of separation. She still had Facebook but I recall one time back when I was posting more controversial stuff in 2017 she took issue to something I said and I accidentally bumped into her She was always vocal about politics, women's rights, women in tech, etc.

Fast forward 2022 Hinge says that me and this woman are "Most Compatible" Given the brief history I had with her and knowing her through people I went "nah" and swiped left.

Hours later she likes a video of one of my gym feats with enthusiasm.

Now it's 2022 and I will say that she is still fine as hell, but still illustrates a LOT of insecurities she once did i.e. flaunting her body, bunch of selfies, glossy pictures, and after lurking a bit it seems still social media driven. Her political affiliation now is "Moderate" and she's "Spiritual"

Those personality traits in my mind make me think she's definitely NOT wife material, but I haven't fukked a woman since my break up by choice. Part of me wants to just see where it goes and see if I can fukk the shyt out her out of spite. That may not be good for my soul though so I may just leave it be

It's tough but just gotta move forward. You can't change the past, it didn't matter what you would have done different the outcome would have been the same. People are who they are.

Scrolling on Tinder earlier and see this chick who kinda looked familiar. I flick though her photos and remember I was talking to her for a while back in 2019. She lived near but we never managed to get it together, she’d always kinda gently rebuff any attempt I made to meet up even though I know she was horny. After a while I lost interest and shyt fizzled out.

Anyway I read her profile and thrown in part of it was her saying she is HSV2+ I was like maybe that’s why she didn't want to meet up?
this was back when I wouldn’t necessarily ask a woman when she last got checked out.

Having to tell every single person you date that you have it would be status you’d basically be cutting off a majority of your dating options.
I can only stress how important it is to ask a woman when she last got checked. And for us guys to get checked regularly I went last week and got my results all clear as usual.

Like I always say sometimes when things don't work out be thankful. You never know that person could have a std, an abusive ex partner whose harassing her, trauma etc. and God said nah not today Satan

 

[MikelArteta]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike -
Proverbs 27:15

 

[MikelArteta]

Welp the African chick was fun while it lasted. I’ve never seen a girl commit so many red flags in a span of one day

I told ol girl when we first met I talk to other women and at first she understood that. So we out and about and she tryna post me on social media and that is a no go we not even dating, and than she tryna hold my hand and shyt

The dealbreaker was when I was on my way to drop her off, and she decided to look through my phone and saw the girls I was talking to and she was pissed. I told her straight up you don’t just invade someone’s privacy like that and I will stop engaging with you

It’s all good tho, there’s this girl I’ve been talking to recently and our personalities just click, and she doesn’t need to be taken out like the African chick. On all of our meetings we can deadass just sit around and talk for hours and I fw that

The hilarious thing is if you went through her phone she's probably talking to a bunch of different men as well.

 

[bigde09]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

They just can’t let you have anything my mom does that to my dad and they have been married 30+ years

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Going to bush her soon?

There are pros and cons to being in a relationship, same with being single. If she's an otherwise quality woman who adds value to your life, try to work through y'all problems. If it's not possible, bushes.

I won't bush her this has shown me a side that I can't stand. I am not a big fan of women who need constant reassurance. Its not like I am out there chasing other woman or smashing different broads. All I am done is at home grinding. That's it. I am the type to handle my own feelings, dont need validation or reassurance..and she is that type. Needs constant word of affirmation. It's crazy lol.

 

[Brandsdale]

My girl been driving me crazy man . It is like women be making sheet deeper than it is and fkn up your up mood. Sometimes I miss just doing my own thing. Come home focus on myself. I have been busy studying my ass off for my next gig but it is like damn, she is too emotionally dependent and has a problem with it. lol now she wants us to attend therapy . like dude, as a single man, I wasn't dealing with all that b.s so at times, I do miss being single because of this.

Nothing like being able to do as you please and not answer to anyone but with that said, I have hit that age where. passing on quality woman may not be the proper move.

whats the issue with that?