rapdonttweet
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You use really strange phrases as if English isn't your first language. Makes your posts hard to read.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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You use really strange phrases as if English isn't your first language. Makes your posts hard to read.
rapdonttweet
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Think about it this way. What's better, to approach a female in a public place and take the risk 1) she turns you down 2) other females are watching what you're doing 3) they actually care enough to downgrade your value and 4) you were planning at hollering at the other females (all 4 of those factors have to be true for there to be any risk).
OR to approach no one and leave with no numbers and never having spit game at anyone.
First off, its kind of paranoid to assume other women are paying attention to you and her while you spit your game. Second, if she turns you down she probably won't make a big scene about it. She'll tell you she's not interested and kim. And even if you do get shut down in front of some other girls, the second option would still make more sense. You're probably not going to see any of these women again so what does it matter what they see you do?
FastEddie215
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real shyt
It's just different approaches to the situation and that's cool. To me, if a woman is hitting me with all those one word answers, I'm not going to really keep on sitting there trying to exp\tend the conversation for too much longer. One thing when dealing with women is that you always have to get their hints because they constantly do things in a round-about fashion.
If a woman is one-wording me, she might not be feeling me, she might not be trying to speak at that instant or she might be very nervous and shy. IN that instance, if you don't mash on her that first day and you know you'll see her again, it at least allows her to get comfortable with you when you see her next time again because she knows you aren't one those cats that be pressuring her. Plus, if she's fine, she also gets the notion that you aren't no extra thirsty dude who will be pasted on her because she's giving you some attention.
Next time she sees you and she's more comfortable with you and starts warming up, that's when I like to start mashing. Not all women will warm up to you the first day. Some need to see you around a bit and get familiar with you before they open up, especially shy women.
FastEddie215
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@kevm3 can yo define your version of the word THIRSTY? i feel some people version of being thirsty is actually some people version of just being Persistent in trying to get the girl since most girls will play hard to get and make you work for it instead of getting it easy. so being persistent actually pays off depending on how you go about it
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even though this is adressed at kev i'll give it a shot.
thirsty = needy.
persistent = you don't give up easily.
i think someone else in the thread said it but thirsty is like you desperately want to be accepted by the other person. so it's almost like you're implicitly begging them to like you. someone persistent will make a solid effort to command attention and respect but while respecting his boundaries and frame.
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Let me break it down to you from my perspective, even though Turbulent gave a great answer.
When you come up on a female, you can deal with her from a standpoint of you having the greater value and being the prize or you can look at her as having the greater value and being the prize. The mentality YOU choose will ultimately affect how you deal with her.
The difference between thirst and persistence is the difference between the words want and need.
Thirsty negroes act like they NEED a woman. Real men WANT a woman. The distinction between the two is that a man that needs a woman behaves in a fashion that he will pursue her and attempt to have her by any means necessary, even if it means a degradation of his dignity as a man. A man that wants a woman will pursue a woman, but he will never sacrifice his own principles, dignity and manhood in order to chase her.
If you feel YOU'RE the prize, you only want to deal with a woman in a certain way. If you feel SHE is the prize, you will deal with her and do anything to get her. Let me break this down further. How you step through the door with a woman is often how the relationship will be. If you come through the door with a woman attempting to impress her and being OVERLY persistent, then she will see you as a man that is really trying hard to win her affection. She will start getting the notion that SHE is in control because she sees that you are exerting an abnormal amount of effort to catch her. Once she gets this notion in her mind, sure, you might be able to deal with her on a short-term basis, but over the long-term, it's going to be nothing but problems because you've set a bad precedent. When you dealt with her early on through exerting that extra effort you essentially told her that you will go that extra mile to be with her. She can get you to do the out of the ordinary for her attention.
That's why a lot of cats, when they deal with a woman and 'catch her' by exerting all of this extra effort... doing little things to impress her, staying around and dealing with her when she's in this sour nasty mood, letting her call the shots, etc... they may HAVE her, but the way they have her is going to be unacceptable. When they end up dealing with her, she's going to be real disrespectful because she got the notion in her mind that SHE'S running things. She's going to start CHARGING you for her attention.
Now, when dealing with a woman, it all starts from your mentality and from your initial reactions with her. If I'm chopping it with a woman and she's icy with it, I'm not going to keep on going on and on with it. Me, I believe a woman finds a way to get to where she wants to be and finds a way to get to who she wants to get to. So I don't believe in trying to impress a woman who isn't feeling me, aka trying to WIN her attention and affection. You know what, prizes are WON, so if you're trying to win her attention and affection, you are telling her SHE is the prize. You might end up 'winning' her, but you will have paid a high cost and will continue paying during your interactions with her. She will always be CHARGING you, or in other words, creating stipulations that you have to adhere to and requiring compensation in order for you to get her time.
As I said before, when a woman really digs a man, I FIRMLY believe she acts in a way that is conducive towards him catching her. Her conversation is more open and friendlier than average. She makes herself available to him. Now you do have women that play hard-to-get, but my mentality is screw that, THEY are the ones that are going to miss out. I'm not going out of my way to play some little games with a woman in order to get her attention. She better cut them games out and act right to get my attention, because I'm the prize. You might miss out on some QUANTITY with my approach, but the QUALITY of the women you deal with will be much better.
Now how all of this deals with talking to a woman you just met? If the conversation is icy and one worded, I'm not going to necessarily assume that she's not feeling me, but then again, what I WON'T do is be hanging around all day trying to drag all of this conversation out. If it starts getting icy, I'm gone and when I come around the next time, I'm going to see if it had warmed up. Some women are shy and take time to get comfortable around you. The more these women see you, are able to observe you and become familiar with you, the more comfortable they become. So THOSE women take time to really crack, so leaving and having her see you again, if she is shy and likes you, you will notice her opening up slowly and heating up. Now if you see a woman and she was icy to you and you left and you see her again and she's icy again, and you start noticing a pattern of iciness, that's one broad that might very well not be feeling you. There's no need to pursue her any further, because as I said before, I'm not going to WIN a woman's attention and affection, or in other words, make HER the prize in order to deal with her.
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it never ceases to amaze me how these hoes really have no love for their kids.
For a chick that do that and her kids are starving, she gotta be evil. No ands, ifs, or buts. Her kids gonna think that mommy is a worthless hoe. That is why I hate child support so much cause it puts money in a trifiling woman's pocket and never to help the kids. shyt like that, I wonder how the kids gonna think of mommy when they get older.
My dude said "The pullout method does work"
Looks like another Black Man lost
Grown ass man, thinking the pullout method actually does work........ in the year 2013........not 1320...........the year 2013
Some people are suckers for p*ssy.
rapdonttweet
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These type of women are the best to be with. They are the opposite of attention whores and not many guys have the persistence to truly get to know them. And also they tend to be more loyal to the guy who invests time getting them to open up. I had this coworker who took months before she would start sharing personal information with me. Never smashed because I had a girlfriend at the time, but I'm always on the lookout for someone like that.
And on the flip side there's the female who will start sharing her life story the first time you meet her. From my experience its best not to pursue this type because she probably has 10 other guys trying to get with her thinking they "know" her.
I feel you on that. Women that give you that 'fast burn' when you first meet them are the ones that will quickly burn out more times than not... because as they say, easy come, easy go. If it's easy for you on the first night, it's easy for another man. As fly as we all like to think our own game is, there's always another man out there who has game that she will be feeling just as much... so what it comes down to is how SHE responds to a cat that she likes.
If it takes a while to open her up for you, then it will take another man time to open her up. Another important thing to recognize in women is how much she values herself... how much she can control her desires. There actually are women out there who can look at a man, be feeling him, but also say to herself, okay, I like how he looks, I like his swag, but he needs to show me he has suitable traits for a long-term man. There are women out there that value loyalty, but finding them isn't all that easy.
rapdonttweet
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Right on. If its in the early stages of dating, we're getting hot and heavy, and she has the self-control to stop me from going all the way, I take it as a good sign.
I also never put on a condom right away, I wait to see if she stops me to make me put one on. Very important because I know other dudes will try and hit raw and I want to know if she's been going around having unprotected sex and getting diseases.
did u read my original post? see, the way it works is this, u approach a chick, and based on the hints u get from her, u decide whether or not to proceed further with ur "macking". maybe its cool for u to talk to a chick and have her not even ask u questions about u. thats fine. but i take that as a disrespect. so i keep it moving. the more u talk to a chick that's one-wording u, the more your value decreases. keep in mind, this is the library/computer lab of a college. so yes, chances are pretty good u will see some of the same girls in the lab again.
some girls give one word answers for different reasons. in the case of this girl, her hints and clues indicated she wasn't deeply feeling me. it was after i got up to leave without saying anything to her that i saw, maybe she just wanted to be chased harder. but chased harder for what? for that ego boost? or cause she wants some d1ck? either way its whatever. if i see her again, i'll talk to her again. and if she acts stupid again like she did the last time, she'll get the same treatment.
and by the way, u can chat up a chick "mack it to her" get her number, and even talk to her fordays....and still not fucck. so again, when ur "macking", u need to be able to assess the type of girl ur dealing with. if ur talking to the girl because u wanna be "friends" then yeah "mack" all you want despite whatever negative signals she emits. if ur seasoned in ur game, u'll be able to spot the type of chicks that are time wasters, learn to stop wasting efforts on them...and spend ur time on the chicks who give off the proper acceptable hints.