Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

I forgot who mentioned this advice, but this has been the best so far.

“Be the chill, cool, no pressure type of guy”

I’ve been winning ever since, just getting to know them for them, enjoying the convo, if we have sex, we have sex, they aren’t going anywhere.



I’m at a point too, there’s gotta be more substance in the sex. Not just smashing just to smash.

 

[KidJSoul]

As far as what?

Just, you know, equal? I just can't imagine not being called upon to have to do something dangerous or dirty

No such thing can ever occcur in a relationship

This is what I feel

Obviously I'll still treat my girl right and all but still

 

[The ADD]

Tryna figure out why someone would lie for no reasons. Some girl I’m involved with flew back home to Algeria for the holidays. Mind you she’s also Canadian. We have a good “relationship” and keep it real with each other. I just asked her if she got back safe.. She tells me nah they wouldn’t let her fly back because her Algerian passport expired. Brruuuh the maths isn’t mathing. Y’all think I’m reading too much into it?

If you aren’t in a committed relationship then yeah you are over thinking it

 

[Rasille]

Just, you know, equal? I just can't imagine not being called upon to have to do something dangerous or dirty



This is what I feel

Obviously I'll still treat my girl right and all but still

This sounds like gender roles to me

 

[skyrunner1]

I forgot who mentioned this advice, but this has been the best so far.

“Be the chill, cool, no pressure type of guy”

I’ve been winning ever since, just getting to know them for them, enjoying the convo, if we have sex, we have sex, they aren’t going anywhere.



I’m at a point too, there’s gotta be more substance in the sex. Not just smashing just to smash.

This basically been my path to victory for yearsss.. Only thing I would add for me personally is "fun, nonjudgemental"..

Nothing gets them wide open for me and when they do leave they always come back..

 

[Deathstroke]

If you aren’t in a committed relationship then yeah you are over thinking it

Yea, I was overthinking it. I went on about my business and she ended up snapping me while she’s still stuck there. I gotta remove myself a bit cause this shows too much emotional involvement from me.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

How many can relate to this?

I can. Broke up with my ex last October, laid up with a new shorty January to February I met off Bumble to bounce back. Whole time had the Face. I’m sure she could sense it. She hit me with the “let’s just be friends” bit. One time after we smashed we got into a conversation. Long story short she said she felt like I was dead inside. Like I was just there physically but if she looked into my eyes she couldn’t feel anything from me.

At 38, I can’t really see myself being emotionally vulnerable again. My ex was the last woman to have me open and trusting. shyt just is what it is

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

There’s this chick I’ve been talking to for a while now. I’d say things with her have been a slight roller coaster, but when shyt is good, it’s really good. Anyway, out of the blue, at the start of this month, she started ignoring me. She dubbed my texts, calls, etc., and I reached out to her multiple times. On Monday, I sent her a message saying that if she didn’t respond to this message, I wouldn’t speak to her again. She replied early the next morning and played the victim role basically saying, “you don’t know what I’ve been going through.” She didn’t apologize for anything.

I responded and told her that I was sorry for whatever she was going through, and I hope she feels better, but that’s not an excuse for her behavior. I never treated her like that, and I would’ve understood if she would’ve just said she was dealing with something. She gave me a dry ass short response. I sent her another message after that, and she never responded. Today I peeped her IG story, and I saw she was at some dude’s crib last night having drinks and smoking hookah. He wasn’t directly in the picture, but you could see him in the reflection in the background.

I’m not really mad; I’m more disappointed than anything. This is a chick who I’ve been super solid with. When she had other problems, I was there listening and encouraging her. When her homegirl slimed her out, I was there for her. Beyond emotional support, I’ve also helped her financially on different occasions. I don’t want to paint a picture like I’ve been 100% perfect with her because I have had some fukkups, but I’ve held it down and been solid with her since I met her.

Romantic feelings aside, I just can’t understand how you can ghost and seemingly not gaf about someone who's genuinely been good to you. There were red flags with her that I ignored early on, and they came back to bite me in the ass. I have a lot of mixed emotions, but I’m really feeling like, damn, you shytted on me after everything I did for you? After I held you down? I was genuinely there for her when other mfers weren't.
My trust level with women is already at an all time low and after this it’s bout to be nonexistent.

That’s the worst breh. The sudden flip out of nowhere.

shyt is like being a college coach on the recruiting trail. Got a good prospect, everything checks out. Communication has been great for weeks/months. Whole time this 4 star been taking visits to other schools even though they seemed committed to your school.

You don’t find out till signing day and she announces she will be going to new dikk university. Now you gotta fill that hole cause you took the scholarship off the board. Back to the recruiting trail After awhile every new recruit you find yourself like towards these hoes.

 

[VertigoKnight]

This basically been my path to victory for yearsss.. Only thing I would add for me personally is "fun, nonjudgemental"..

Nothing gets them wide open for me and when they do leave they always come back..

Yep this few days I saw 4 chicks all of them love that I never push for things too much, I'm chill fun and listen.

And I'm very non judgemental that is the key to getting a woman really open for you.

And you're right when a woman knows you are like that even if she wanders off she comes back.

These days I like to keep things open, honest and respectful between us. That way there is none of the usual fukkery when things switch up we just keep it friendly.

 

[VertigoKnight]

So one of my female friends is visiting NY this month she went last year but is spending 3 weeks there this time. Last time she met a guy off Hinge and they connected and met. She had told him she was coming back and they had been sporadically messaging as her trip came near.

So on monday he texts her. Then 10 mins later, messages her again asking if his been blocked.

20 mins later he messages her on Hinge as they were still matched on there, asking if she had blocked him.



Bruh, then he sent another text message to her. Telling her he wasnt sure if this message would reach her but to take care and enjoy her trip to NY.

She then told him he wasnt blocked and that she doesn't know why he assumed that. And that she was working that evening and doesn't check her phone until end of her shift at 11pm

He tried to pull it back but man his blown it.

Patience sometimes goes a long way. Homie couldn't wait a few hours for a reply considering NY and Vancouver are in different time zones.

She told me she would have seen him again. Now she feels freaked out and would be uncomfortable around him and the energy he was giving off.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

So one of my female friends is visiting NY this month she went last year but is spending 3 weeks there this time. Last time she met a guy off Hinge and they connected and met. She had told him she was coming back and they had been sporadically messaging as her trip came near.

So on monday he texts her. Then 10 mins later, messages her again asking if his been blocked.

20 mins later he messages her on Hinge as they were still matched on there, asking if she had blocked him.



Bruh, then he sent another text message to her. Telling her he wasnt sure if this message would reach her but to take care and enjoy her trip to NY.

She then told him he wasnt blocked and that she doesn't know why he assumed that. And that she was working that evening and doesn't check her phone until end of her shift at 11pm

He tried to pull it back but man his blown it.

Patience sometimes goes a long way. Homie couldn't wait a few hours for a reply considering NY and Vancouver are in different time zones.

She told me she would have seen him again. Now she feels freaked out and would be uncomfortable around him and the energy he was giving off.

That’s something I had to learn and working on. Patience. Especially when it comes to texting in the talking/beginning stages. Don’t assume anything.

The way these girls be playing games I can see how a dude can go off the deep end and get in their own head after a few hours of no response

 

[International Playa]

So one of my female friends is visiting NY this month she went last year but is spending 3 weeks there this time. Last time she met a guy off Hinge and they connected and met. She had told him she was coming back and they had been sporadically messaging as her trip came near.

So on monday he texts her. Then 10 mins later, messages her again asking if his been blocked.

20 mins later he messages her on Hinge as they were still matched on there, asking if she had blocked him.



Bruh, then he sent another text message to her. Telling her he wasnt sure if this message would reach her but to take care and enjoy her trip to NY.

She then told him he wasnt blocked and that she doesn't know why he assumed that. And that she was working that evening and doesn't check her phone until end of her shift at 11pm

He tried to pull it back but man his blown it.

Patience sometimes goes a long way. Homie couldn't wait a few hours for a reply considering NY and Vancouver are in different time zones.

She told me she would have seen him again. Now she feels freaked out and would be uncomfortable around him and the energy he was giving off.

Breh could have avoided this if he had 2-3 women he was getting to know. It kills off that desparation as your time is divided between the women.

I keep 2-3 women in rotation until we have that exclusive talk

 

[The ADD]

There’s this chick I’ve been talking to for a while now. I’d say things with her have been a slight roller coaster, but when shyt is good, it’s really good. Anyway, out of the blue, at the start of this month, she started ignoring me. She dubbed my texts, calls, etc., and I reached out to her multiple times. On Monday, I sent her a message saying that if she didn’t respond to this message, I wouldn’t speak to her again. She replied early the next morning and played the victim role basically saying, “you don’t know what I’ve been going through.” She didn’t apologize for anything.

I responded and told her that I was sorry for whatever she was going through, and I hope she feels better, but that’s not an excuse for her behavior. I never treated her like that, and I would’ve understood if she would’ve just said she was dealing with something. She gave me a dry ass short response. I sent her another message after that, and she never responded. Today I peeped her IG story, and I saw she was at some dude’s crib last night having drinks and smoking hookah. He wasn’t directly in the picture, but you could see him in the reflection in the background.

I’m not really mad; I’m more disappointed than anything. This is a chick who I’ve been super solid with. When she had other problems, I was there listening and encouraging her. When her homegirl slimed her out, I was there for her. Beyond emotional support, I’ve also helped her financially on different occasions. I don’t want to paint a picture like I’ve been 100% perfect with her because I have had some fukkups, but I’ve held it down and been solid with her since I met her.

Romantic feelings aside, I just can’t understand how you can ghost and seemingly not gaf about someone who's genuinely been good to you. There were red flags with her that I ignored early on, and they came back to bite me in the ass. I have a lot of mixed emotions, but I’m really feeling like, damn, you shytted on me after everything I did for you? After I held you down? I was genuinely there for her when other mfers weren't.
My trust level with women is already at an all time low and after this it’s bout to be nonexistent.

You did all that for a chick you were only “talking” to?

That’s the goof

 

[MAKAVELI25]

There’s this chick I’ve been talking to for a while now. I’d say things with her have been a slight roller coaster, but when shyt is good, it’s really good. Anyway, out of the blue, at the start of this month, she started ignoring me. She dubbed my texts, calls, etc., and I reached out to her multiple times. On Monday, I sent her a message saying that if she didn’t respond to this message, I wouldn’t speak to her again. She replied early the next morning and played the victim role basically saying, “you don’t know what I’ve been going through.” She didn’t apologize for anything.

I responded and told her that I was sorry for whatever she was going through, and I hope she feels better, but that’s not an excuse for her behavior. I never treated her like that, and I would’ve understood if she would’ve just said she was dealing with something. She gave me a dry ass short response. I sent her another message after that, and she never responded. Today I peeped her IG story, and I saw she was at some dude’s crib last night having drinks and smoking hookah. He wasn’t directly in the picture, but you could see him in the reflection in the background.

I’m not really mad; I’m more disappointed than anything. This is a chick who I’ve been super solid with. When she had other problems, I was there listening and encouraging her. When her homegirl slimed her out, I was there for her. Beyond emotional support, I’ve also helped her financially on different occasions. I don’t want to paint a picture like I’ve been 100% perfect with her because I have had some fukkups, but I’ve held it down and been solid with her since I met her.

Romantic feelings aside, I just can’t understand how you can ghost and seemingly not gaf about someone who's genuinely been good to you. There were red flags with her that I ignored early on, and they came back to bite me in the ass. I have a lot of mixed emotions, but I’m really feeling like, damn, you shytted on me after everything I did for you? After I held you down? I was genuinely there for her when other mfers weren't.
My trust level with women is already at an all time low and after this it’s bout to be nonexistent.

What were some of the red flags you ignored?

 

[DapMeUp!]

What do y’all do when you get this kind of response?