Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

This is why mentioned above, you always double book.

Texted her at 7pm to confirm for tomorrow (I got other women lined up)

Radio silence until 8am this morning.

“I was super distracted, My family friend died and im honestly not in the mood, can we go for a drink and reschedule for another day”

 

[MikelArteta]

This is why mentioned above, you always double book.

Texted her at 7pm to confirm for tomorrow (I got other women lined up)

Radio silence until 8am this morning.

“I was super distracted, My family friend died and im honestly not in the mood, can we go for a drink and reschedule for another day”

Yup like a doctors office. Either double book or do something you were going to do anyways.

 

[Ahadi]

Yup like a doctors office. Either double book or do something you were going to do anyways.

That’s exactly why I always confirm the day before instead of day of.

Plus you sound like you have stuff going on.

 

[bigde09]

There’s this chick I’ve been talking to for a while now. I’d say things with her have been a slight roller coaster, but when shyt is good, it’s really good. Anyway, out of the blue, at the start of this month, she started ignoring me. She dubbed my texts, calls, etc., and I reached out to her multiple times. On Monday, I sent her a message saying that if she didn’t respond to this message, I wouldn’t speak to her again. She replied early the next morning and played the victim role basically saying, “you don’t know what I’ve been going through.” She didn’t apologize for anything.

I responded and told her that I was sorry for whatever she was going through, and I hope she feels better, but that’s not an excuse for her behavior. I never treated her like that, and I would’ve understood if she would’ve just said she was dealing with something. She gave me a dry ass short response. I sent her another message after that, and she never responded. Today I peeped her IG story, and I saw she was at some dude’s crib last night having drinks and smoking hookah. He wasn’t directly in the picture, but you could see him in the reflection in the background.

I’m not really mad; I’m more disappointed than anything. This is a chick who I’ve been super solid with. When she had other problems, I was there listening and encouraging her. When her homegirl slimed her out, I was there for her. Beyond emotional support, I’ve also helped her financially on different occasions. I don’t want to paint a picture like I’ve been 100% perfect with her because I have had some fukkups, but I’ve held it down and been solid with her since I met her.

Romantic feelings aside, I just can’t understand how you can ghost and seemingly not gaf about someone who's genuinely been good to you. There were red flags with her that I ignored early on, and they came back to bite me in the ass. I have a lot of mixed emotions, but I’m really feeling like, damn, you shytted on me after everything I did for you? After I held you down? I was genuinely there for her when other mfers weren't.
My trust level with women is already at an all time low and after this it’s bout to be nonexistent.

If you were legitimately a good dude to her then she will be back. They are grown children and have severe grass is greener syndrome. Once women know they have you and you ain’t going no where, they start to lose interest. It’s fukked up and exhausting to deal with as a man

When she comes back, and she WILL come back, you better not let her in again

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

 

[Ahadi]

It really does. All it does is make you angry. You gotta enjoy the process and get to know ppl on a human level. (Ppl who are worth it)

Literally a non-stop algorithm of men being angry lol.

 

[Asiatic Black Hebrew]

There’s this chick I’ve been talking to for a while now. I’d say things with her have been a slight roller coaster, but when shyt is good, it’s really good. Anyway, out of the blue, at the start of this month, she started ignoring me. She dubbed my texts, calls, etc., and I reached out to her multiple times. On Monday, I sent her a message saying that if she didn’t respond to this message, I wouldn’t speak to her again. She replied early the next morning and played the victim role basically saying, “you don’t know what I’ve been going through.” She didn’t apologize for anything.

I responded and told her that I was sorry for whatever she was going through, and I hope she feels better, but that’s not an excuse for her behavior. I never treated her like that, and I would’ve understood if she would’ve just said she was dealing with something. She gave me a dry ass short response. I sent her another message after that, and she never responded. Today I peeped her IG story, and I saw she was at some dude’s crib last night having drinks and smoking hookah. He wasn’t directly in the picture, but you could see him in the reflection in the background.

I’m not really mad; I’m more disappointed than anything. This is a chick who I’ve been super solid with. When she had other problems, I was there listening and encouraging her. When her homegirl slimed her out, I was there for her. Beyond emotional support, I’ve also helped her financially on different occasions. I don’t want to paint a picture like I’ve been 100% perfect with her because I have had some fukkups, but I’ve held it down and been solid with her since I met her.

Romantic feelings aside, I just can’t understand how you can ghost and seemingly not gaf about someone who's genuinely been good to you. There were red flags with her that I ignored early on, and they came back to bite me in the ass. I have a lot of mixed emotions, but I’m really feeling like, damn, you shytted on me after everything I did for you? After I held you down? I was genuinely there for her when other mfers weren't.
My trust level with women is already at an all time low and after this it’s bout to be nonexistent.

Real shyt breh. This sounds exactly like the situation I posted a few years back with one of my ex's who ghosted me out of nowhere & I had to find out on Facebook that she was cheating the entire time. My trust with women has also been at zero since that day & will probably never return.

The pain will ease with time though. Just keep pushing & let the chips fall where they may.

Dapped & repped

 

[Malik1time]

Why am I only matching with older women.. always 3 years+ older than me
Theirs this girl on Instagram I been talking too (she’s Haitian which is a added bonus) good conversation
Only issue she’s 5 years older than me
I’m 27 so she’s 32

 

[Turk]

What were some of the red flags you ignored?

Well for starters I find her hella attractive so I put up with certain shyt I shouldn't have. For example one time she blocked me because I didn't respond to her text message from morning until afternoon but that was because I was at work and she knew my work schedule

She ended up telling me that she be getting hella emotional sometimes and overreacting to shyt. I let that slide. I have other examples of things too but it mainly boils down to me ignoring her roller coaster emotional state and putting up with that shyt because she was fine and it made me blind

 

[duncanthetall]

Ex texted me right before I was outta work. Literally straight up just asked if I wanted to come fukk. We’ve been cordial and talking here and there in the 2 weeks since the break up. But like I was just kinda tryna keep my head down and not even think about women right now. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is so so so weak, brehs.

She’s expressed how she knows she fukked up goin nuclear and breaking up over some shyt that could’ve been handled. I understand that, knowing who she is. But she needs to go to therapy before I consider making this more than the occasional fukk again.

 

[Ahadi]

50% Off “LAST CHANCE” Labor Day Sale is in full effect.

 

[Deathstroke]

Well for starters I find her hella attractive so I put up with certain shyt I shouldn't have. For example one time she blocked me because I didn't respond to her text message from morning until afternoon but that was because I was at work and she knew my work schedule

She ended up telling me that she be getting hella emotional sometimes and overreacting to shyt. I let that slide. I have other examples of things too but it mainly boils down to me ignoring her roller coaster emotional state and putting up with that shyt because she was fine and it made me blind

Were y’all having sex ?

 

[Dave24]

Why am I only matching with older women.. always 3 years+ older than me
Theirs this girl on Instagram I been talking too (she’s Haitian which is a added bonus) good conversation
Only issue she’s 5 years older than me
I’m 27 so she’s 32

What's wrong with her being a little older than you?

 

[Brandsdale]

50% Off “LAST CHANCE” Labor Day Sale is in full effect.

 

[Brandsdale]

Yup like a doctors office. Either double book or do something you were going to do anyways.

i usually plan big errands, or appointments around dates now

too much flaking or me showing up and shes hella late