Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[LeVraiPapi]

Lol creepy how we asked it after one another.

But yeah although I was just curious about the race/ethnicity for the sake of knowing. I don't think a woman doing what she does makes no difference. I agree with your statement but.... I think you have "be careful" in any relationship with a woman and have a strong defense.

@LeVraiPapi you want to make sure that this girl is ambitious about her goals in the RIGHT WAY(if she is embarrassed). If this is not a green card situation, then you STILL have to make sure she is ambitious about a certain goal in terms of career.

The homemaker/stay at home with no career is very risky. Can you give us any more info about her in terms of career.

Am I making a correct guess to say she is introverted?

she got a year left in Nursing and I actually told her I don't want her to work and going to school at the same time. I will let her walk her last semester so she can get her foot in the door somewhere at a hospital, but that's about it.

She wanna be a Nurse Practitioner. Oh, she used to work before when I was in college. That money was going straight to my pockets/needs though

I trust her a little more since she's anti-twitter/FB/Instagram. She watches Lifetime/ID/History channel but hey I still stay on my toes my negga cuz after all, she's human

 

[TRUEST]

On terms of what though ? Elaborate breh

i hope ur chick isn't one of those chicks that felt she missed out on a lot by not being born here. what's are friends like?

listen man. i dont want to terrify u. but i met this married chick a year and a half ago. i'm not proud of what i'm about to say. but i feel like i should let yall know.

i met this chick right after me and this other chick i really liked went our separate ways. i really liked that chick. but when we split i needed to find another chick asap.

so me and by boy were chilling at a parking lot of his apartment complex one evening. he was smoking. i was just chilling there just to chat. i seen this chick walk by. her ass was huge. her t*ts were huge. i'm not a t*ts kinda guy but the combo of her t*ts and her ass made her sex appeal just too irresistible. when she walked i noticed from the way she walked that she was looking for d1ck. i told my boy this. he aint say much.

when she walked past again, i stepped to her. she kept walking but i spoke up louder in a firmer voice for her to stop. and she did. and when i got closer, the first words out of her mouth was "i'm married".

to make a long story short. i kicked it to her a lil bit. got her number. and she walked away and i went back to sit in the car with my boy. in less than 20 minutes of her leaving, i get a text from her. she basically said something to the effect of "look i'm just trying to have some fun". i knew what time it was. i jumped out my boys car. went home. prepared the crib. she came through and i smashed, and i continued to smash for a year until i just couldn't do it anymore. my conscience was just getting at me. in my defense, i never called her. she called me. she'd come through, let me fucck raw and she'll bounce. at first she wanted to do all that girlfriend sh1t with me, like going out to eat and to the movies and all that sh1t. but i had to dead that cause i aint trying to be seen in public with a married chick.

now, the reason i tell u this story is this. this chick really loves her husband. i say this because i can tell from the vibe i get from her. she says she massages his feet when he comes from work (who the fucck does that? i personally dont need a chick to do that for me but anyway). she says she cooks for him, irons his clothes. chick even goes to church regularly.

but the reason she's out fuccking me (raw i might add), is because this dude stay trying to kick it to other girls. she has his facebook password. and she said she's gone on his profile many times and read messages of him trying to see whats up with chicks. and this has been a constant problem for them. they keep arguing about it and he keeps denying it. she showed me the messages so i know dude was indeed trying to creep. the sad thing is most of the girls he kicked it to aint give him any play.

this chick got married when she was 21. she married the first guy she ever been with (yes i believe that). and each time i was fucccking her, i can see she's really into her man. but that didn't stop her from fooling around.

in your case, i dont know how young yall got married. but nonetheless, stay alert.

 

[TRUEST]

ay mane let me tell ya'll something too... don't be 'too cool' aka waiting too long to get at these women though cuz cats out here are adamant about planting flags on these pretty ones. they be mashing on these chicks with the intent to impregnate lolol

mannn i know a real pretty yellabone that was digging me me, but i was too slow in making my moves due to certain circumstances and some cat done went ahead and dropped that kid on her. you got to be out here mashing when the opportunity presents itself... you can play it cool to raise her interest for a little while, but never wait too long.

lol. i'm guilty of having attempted this myself. but not to get them pregnant perse but to be the first to "pollinate" them lol.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

This will be a long reply which I will break into parts...

Morals and true spiritually is uncommon, but anything great is uncommon, for greatness is a state of distinction from what is common... so for those who have the ear to hear, a delicious, yet rare fruit awaits for those who rightfully embrace proper principles. I agree with you that people are so caught up in the blinding haze of materialism that their decision-making process is being greatly blunted to such an extent that people cannot build something over the long-term. This, along with improper understanding of the role of men and women, is why we have so much discord in relationships in this day and age.

Now this message about submission is a very powerful one. As a man and woman who are serious about each other continue to interact with each other, they begin to meld together. Marriage is the symbolic process of two becoming one. Now, when a woman truly finds a man that she is equally yoked with, whose understanding and vision she agrees with, what she must ultimately do is to yield, or in other words, to submit. She cedes her authority as she melds into one wit her man. She no longer thinks in terms of ME and neither does he. They both think in terms of us... together we stand, together we fall. They've become bonded to such an extent that they are ONE unit. They may be separate parts, but together they are one unit.

Think about a car. A car has an engine, which is a separate part from the
steering wheel, but together, they form one unit, and their combined capabilities are WAY greater than what each of those parts can do by themselves. A steering wheel is useless by itself, just as an engine is worthless by itself. When all the parts of a car come together, they work in sync to produce something that none of the parts could do individually.

This is why you hear a statement like behind every great man is a great woman. The key word is GREAT woman, not any woman. A man can take himself to way greater heights with a high quality woman behind him than he could on his own, and likewise, a great man can elevate a woman to heights she would never have imagined or able to do on her own.

The process of submission is a scary one for a lot of women since so many men in this day and age are not leaders, but rather are manipulators. The difference between a man and a leader is stark. Leadership in the context of a relationship is the ability of the man to use his wisdom, knowledge, understanding and directing capabilities to ensure that him, his woman and the kids if there are always taken care physically, mentally and spiritually, and that the family unit are constantly accomplishing goals and improving themselves. Unfortunately, so many men in this day and age are manipulators. Their thoughts aren't focused on improving the bond with their woman and to cause both of them to rise... but rather, they are vagina slaves. Their modus operandi is to find a way to sneak into the vagina, and past that, they don't think about much. On the other hand, a man that is a leader will ensure that him and his woman are taking care of and will REWARD her submission.

Submission isn't about becoming a slave for your man, but is rather the process of ceding your authority and allowing him to lead without objection. It's ultimately a process of TRUST. You are letting your boundaries down, and in return, he is using your trust in him to cause both of you to reach heights you wouldn't have alone. Submitting doesn't mean that you never make any objections to his rationale and that you agree with everything he does... but rather what it DOES mean is that the choice he decides to make, even if you may disagree with it, you throw your chips in with him and say, "I might not agree with this, but I trust my man and I'll roll with him." Just this attitude alone will have a profound effect on how a real man views his woman. On the other hand, a man who is a true leader, doesn't only concern himself with his own thoughts, but will listen to the counsel of his woman and factor everything into his ultimate decision-making process.

Part 2 will be on the way

Kev, I swear to God, breh, if you wrote a book I'd buy it. This is just powerful shyt, you're not teaching me anything I didn't know but you're articulating it in a way thats just

 

[MAKAVELI25]

this has been bothering me since it happened. how would yall have handled this?

i'm a the library/computer lab. i sat next to a chick that looked alright. she's fucckable. while sitting next to her, i got the vibe this chick is on the prowl cause she kept looking up at every male figure that passed.

she looked my way a couple of times (which i saw from the corner of my eye). eventually i decided i cant let this slide without at least saying something to her. so i asked her what she was working on. she told me she was working on something related to her class. she seemed really interested in talking. but when she didn't ask me anything about me or what i was doing, i just let the conversation end.

keep in mind yall, this a library/computer lab. every conversation is heard by eavesdroppers. so i'm not trying to make a fool out of myself. i've had plenty of chicks be nice and then when u ask them for their number, u get hit with different variations of that burning ether. but then again, i've had other chicks give their number.

anyway, after the convo ended. i kept on doing my thing, she kept on doing hers. only this time, she wasn't looking up anymore at any one that passed , and she wasn't sneaking looks at me. she would do her work and would sporadically pick up her phone to start texting. all the while not glancing at me anymore. so i figured its whatever.

about 25 minutes later, i got tired of sitting by the computer so i just printed up some sh1t i was reading, got up and got the papers i printed, and was fixing to leave. as i was leaving i saw she seemed somewhat unsettled. like i got the vibe she was thinking "is this dude really gonna just up and leave without saying goodbye to me?".

i left without saying anything to her, but as i left, i noticed she looked back at me.

basically the experience left me feeling . cause i feel i coulda hit. the last chick who gave that kinda vibe i ended up fuccking for a while until i decided to sever ties with her. if this had been in a spot that wasn't as crowded or where not a lot of people woulda heard the convo, this woulda gone down quite differently lol.

but what would my colian brothers have done in that situation?

IMO atleast you did the right thing. You made the first move, normally if a girl likes you she should continue the conversation so it is not one-sided. Some bytches like to play hard to get, I don't do that. If she is not atleast trying to contribute to the conversation even though she likes you, then she is one of those chicks that feels like she is a prize and this kind of behavior will continue in to your relationship. I love women, I really do, but that kind of "I am the prize" mentality is what is wrong with most of them today

 

[LeVraiPapi]

i hope ur chick isn't one of those chicks that felt she missed out on a lot by not being born here. what's are friends like?

listen man. i dont want to terrify u. but i met this married chick a year and a half ago. i'm not proud of what i'm about to say. but i feel like i should let yall know.

i met this chick right after me and this other chick i really liked went our separate ways. i really liked that chick. but when we split i needed to find another chick asap.

so me and by boy were chilling at a parking lot of his apartment complex one evening. he was smoking. i was just chilling there just to chat. i seen this chick walk by. her ass was huge. her t*ts were huge. i'm not a t*ts kinda guy but the combo of her t*ts and her ass made her sex appeal just too irresistible. when she walked i noticed from the way she walked that she was looking for d1ck. i told my boy this. he aint say much.

when she walked past again, i stepped to her. she kept walking but i spoke up louder in a firmer voice for her to stop. and she did. and when i got closer, the first words out of her mouth was "i'm married".

to make a long story short. i kicked it to her a lil bit. got her number. and she walked away and i went back to sit in the car with my boy. in less than 20 minutes of her leaving, i get a text from her. she basically said something to the effect of "look i'm just trying to have some fun". i knew what time it was. i jumped out my boys car. went home. prepared the crib. she came through and i smashed, and i continued to smash for a year until i just couldn't do it anymore. my conscience was just getting at me. in my defense, i never called her. she called me. she'd come through, let me fucck raw and she'll bounce. at first she wanted to do all that girlfriend sh1t with me, like going out to eat and to the movies and all that sh1t. but i had to dead that cause i aint trying to be seen in public with a married chick.

now, the reason i tell u this story is this. this chick really loves her husband. i say this because i can tell from the vibe i get from her. she says she massages his feet when he comes from work (who the fucck does that? i personally dont need a chick to do that for me but anyway). she says she cooks for him, irons his clothes. chick even goes to church regularly.

but the reason she's out fuccking me (raw i might add), is because this dude stay trying to kick it to other girls. she has his facebook password. and she said she's gone on his profile many times and read messages of him trying to see whats up with chicks. and this has been a constant problem for them. they keep arguing about it and he keeps denying it. she showed me the messages so i know dude was indeed trying to creep. the sad thing is most of the girls he kicked it to aint give him any play.

this chick got married when she was 21. she married the first guy she ever been with (yes i believe that). and each time i was fucccking her, i can see she's really into her man. but that didn't stop her from fooling around.

in your case, i dont know how young yall got married. but nonetheless, stay alert.

The dude is not a G. WHy would you want her to have your pass if you kicking it to other girls ? Also, women can never hide their joy. NEVER. She left some clues behind, but he too dumb to pick em up

 

[TRUEST]

The dude is not a G. WHy would you want her to have your pass if you kicking it to other girls ? Also, women can never hide their joy. NEVER. She left some clues behind, but he too dumb to pick em up

its just really horrifying to see that a chick can really love her man but still fucck around on him.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

this has been bothering me since it happened. how would yall have handled this?

i'm a the library/computer lab. i sat next to a chick that looked alright. she's fucckable. while sitting next to her, i got the vibe this chick is on the prowl cause she kept looking up at every male figure that passed.

she looked my way a couple of times (which i saw from the corner of my eye). eventually i decided i cant let this slide without at least saying something to her. so i asked her what she was working on. she told me she was working on something related to her class. she seemed really interested in talking. but when she didn't ask me anything about me or what i was doing, i just let the conversation end.

keep in mind yall, this a library/computer lab. every conversation is heard by eavesdroppers. so i'm not trying to make a fool out of myself. i've had plenty of chicks be nice and then when u ask them for their number, u get hit with different variations of that burning ether. but then again, i've had other chicks give their number.

anyway, after the convo ended. i kept on doing my thing, she kept on doing hers. only this time, she wasn't looking up anymore at any one that passed , and she wasn't sneaking looks at me. she would do her work and would sporadically pick up her phone to start texting. all the while not glancing at me anymore. so i figured its whatever.

about 25 minutes later, i got tired of sitting by the computer so i just printed up some sh1t i was reading, got up and got the papers i printed, and was fixing to leave. as i was leaving i saw she seemed somewhat unsettled. like i got the vibe she was thinking "is this dude really gonna just up and leave without saying goodbye to me?".

i left without saying anything to her, but as i left, i noticed she looked back at me.

basically the experience left me feeling . cause i feel i coulda hit. the last chick who gave that kinda vibe i ended up fuccking for a while until i decided to sever ties with her. if this had been in a spot that wasn't as crowded or where not a lot of people woulda heard the convo, this woulda gone down quite differently lol.

but what would my colian brothers have done in that situation?

You did the right thing.... too often cats go for the # right then and there. Like I said women love mystery and they RESPECT men who arent thirsty.Always END the conversation with them. It shows you are in control. If a woman dismisses you and your conversation,the window is close.Next time when you see the young lady she will remember you and you too can talk more.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

@ Truest I got a ? for you. Do you ever fear ol girl will snitch on you to her husband? The fact that she knows where you live and all.

 

[sixsixtwo]

The End Game Of Feminism

 

[LeVraiPapi]

its just really horrifying to see that a chick can really love her man but still fucck around on him.

She does not love the negga. If she did, she would have broken down crying and made a scene about the messages. She was probably lying to you to justify her actions.

A woman that loves her man would make a huge scene if she found out she sharing the man.

A chick told me that before, and all I told her was no thanks

 

[LeVraiPapi]

This female co-worker of mine was supposed to be married in 3 weeks. So, about a week ago, she found out her man was smashing his ex while she at work. She called it off, and she already met some NFL backup qb dude and she in love again. So, I told her that the qb will cheat on her even more and she was like "why can't you be happy for me ?" then one day she asked me if I wanted to be the replacement instead. I screamed "hell no, I m just letting you know your choice of men is not the married type"

Keep in mind that's a white chick lol. Why do they think all neggas are thirsty ?

 

[TRUEST]

@ Truest I got a ? for you. Do you ever fear ol girl will snitch on you to her husband? The fact that she knows where you live and all.

i thought about that. my biggest fear was she was gon get into it with her husband and then throw it in his face on some yeah thats why i been letting this n1gga hitting me raw. thats another reason i had to let that go.

also, i left something out. turns out ol girl and her hubby been trying to have a kid for a while. which makes sense cause when i asked her if she'd ever get an abortion if she got pregnant by me, her answers were anything but a flat out no.

one time i was fuccking her and she just blurted out come inside me. i paused for a second like lol. and then asked her jokingly do u really want me to? she laughed and said no. but i knew what the deal was. she woulda easily passed that off as her hubby's.

girls are crazy out there yall. be careful.

 

[TRUEST]

She does not love the negga. If she did, she would have broken down crying and made a scene about the messages. She was probably lying to you to justify her actions.

A woman that loves her man would make a huge scene if she found out she sharing the man.

A chick told me that before, and all I told her was no thanks

nah she wasn't playing. she did make a scene. but the n1gga kept on doing whatever he was doing.
it was just wrong on so many levels what she was doing. some times she came through when the n1gga was working. and tat sh1t was just wrong.

if i can resist that ass, shed be a cool chick to just chill and watch movies with. but i know aint no way that kinda ass is laying next me and me not doing anything. so she had to be removed from the team.

 

[DaRealness]

this has been bothering me since it happened. how would yall have handled this?

i'm a the library/computer lab. i sat next to a chick that looked alright. she's fucckable. while sitting next to her, i got the vibe this chick is on the prowl cause she kept looking up at every male figure that passed.

she looked my way a couple of times (which i saw from the corner of my eye). eventually i decided i cant let this slide without at least saying something to her. so i asked her what she was working on. she told me she was working on something related to her class. she seemed really interested in talking. but when she didn't ask me anything about me or what i was doing, i just let the conversation end.

keep in mind yall, this a library/computer lab. every conversation is heard by eavesdroppers. so i'm not trying to make a fool out of myself. i've had plenty of chicks be nice and then when u ask them for their number, u get hit with different variations of that burning ether. but then again, i've had other chicks give their number.

anyway, after the convo ended. i kept on doing my thing, she kept on doing hers. only this time, she wasn't looking up anymore at any one that passed , and she wasn't sneaking looks at me. she would do her work and would sporadically pick up her phone to start texting. all the while not glancing at me anymore. so i figured its whatever.

about 25 minutes later, i got tired of sitting by the computer so i just printed up some sh1t i was reading, got up and got the papers i printed, and was fixing to leave. as i was leaving i saw she seemed somewhat unsettled. like i got the vibe she was thinking "is this dude really gonna just up and leave without saying goodbye to me?".

i left without saying anything to her, but as i left, i noticed she looked back at me.

basically the experience left me feeling . cause i feel i coulda hit. the last chick who gave that kinda vibe i ended up fuccking for a while until i decided to sever ties with her. if this had been in a spot that wasn't as crowded or where not a lot of people woulda heard the convo, this woulda gone down quite differently lol.

but what would my colian brothers have done in that situation?

Maybe my tolerance levels aren't as high as most people, because if a chick can't even have the common courtesy to ask about me after I express an interest in what she does, then it's a wrap and I just keep it moving. Reciprocity, even in small ways, is something I look out for. It doesn't take any energy at all to simply ask "how about you?" and if someone can't even bother to do that, then I won't bother either.

As for this sneaking looks thing that chicks do, call me Danny Glover cos I'm too old for that shyt. If you can't open your mouth and say something, keep your eyes elsewhere.