I'm interested in reading more on your thoughts of leadership/submission. @ me when you do speak on it.
Morals and mentality are "played" in this day and age. We have become so materialistic and wrapped up in the "now" versus looking into long term. "Swag" only lasts so long and eventually the Johnson stops working...What then?
This will be a long reply which I will break into parts...
Morals and true spiritually is uncommon, but anything great is uncommon, for greatness is a state of distinction from what is common... so for those who have the ear to hear, a delicious, yet rare fruit awaits for those who rightfully embrace proper principles. I agree with you that people are so caught up in the blinding haze of materialism that their decision-making process is being greatly blunted to such an extent that people cannot build something over the long-term. This, along with improper understanding of the role of men and women, is why we have so much discord in relationships in this day and age.
Now this message about submission is a very powerful one. As a man and woman who are serious about each other continue to interact with each other, they begin to meld together. Marriage is the symbolic process of two becoming one. Now, when a woman truly finds a man that she is equally yoked with, whose understanding and vision she agrees with, what she must ultimately do is to yield, or in other words, to submit. She cedes her authority as she melds into one wit her man. She no longer thinks in terms of ME and neither does he. They both think in terms of us... together we stand, together we fall. They've become bonded to such an extent that they are ONE unit. They may be separate parts, but together they are one unit.
Think about a car. A car has an engine, which is a separate part from the
steering wheel, but together, they form one unit, and their combined capabilities are WAY greater than what each of those parts can do by themselves. A steering wheel is useless by itself, just as an engine is worthless by itself. When all the parts of a car come together, they work in sync to produce something that none of the parts could do individually.
This is why you hear a statement like behind every great man is a great woman. The key word is GREAT woman, not any woman. A man can take himself to way greater heights with a high quality woman behind him than he could on his own, and likewise, a great man can elevate a woman to heights she would never have imagined or able to do on her own.
The process of submission is a scary one for a lot of women since so many men in this day and age are not leaders, but rather are manipulators. The difference between a man and a leader is stark. Leadership in the context of a relationship is the ability of the man to use his wisdom, knowledge, understanding and directing capabilities to ensure that him, his woman and the kids if there are always taken care physically, mentally and spiritually, and that the family unit are constantly accomplishing goals and improving themselves. Unfortunately, so many men in this day and age are manipulators. Their thoughts aren't focused on improving the bond with their woman and to cause both of them to rise... but rather, they are vagina slaves. Their modus operandi is to find a way to sneak into the vagina, and past that, they don't think about much. On the other hand, a man that is a leader will ensure that him and his woman are taking care of and will REWARD her submission.
Submission isn't about becoming a slave for your man, but is rather the process of ceding your authority and allowing him to lead without objection. It's ultimately a process of TRUST. You are letting your boundaries down, and in return, he is using your trust in him to cause both of you to reach heights you wouldn't have alone. Submitting doesn't mean that you never make any objections to his rationale and that you agree with everything he does... but rather what it DOES mean is that the choice he decides to make, even if you may disagree with it, you throw your chips in with him and say, "I might not agree with this, but I trust my man and I'll roll with him." Just this attitude alone will have a profound effect on how a real man views his woman. On the other hand, a man who is a true leader, doesn't only concern himself with his own thoughts, but will listen to the counsel of his woman and factor everything into his ultimate decision-making process.
Part 2 will be on the way
. cause i feel i coulda hit. the last chick who gave that kinda vibe i ended up fuccking for a while until i decided to sever ties with her. if this had been in a spot that wasn't as crowded or where not a lot of people woulda heard the convo, this woulda gone down quite differently lol. 
Alright dude, I know how to deal with you now....
. I gotta tell you about my wife breh breh 
