Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[VertigoKnight]

I’m consistently in the gym….I’m pretty good shape..I figured she’d eventually start going since I am but nah….and we have a home gym…

Ouch well then I think it’s best to be upfront and say you feel she could workout more with you.

Nothing worse than a woman letting herself slip and start piling on those pounds with no pushback.

 

[MikelArteta]

Aight brehs I need y'all opinions on this.

Spoiler

So I've been seeing this girl for like 9 months now. Things are going good. She's in love with me and shows all the signs of a woman in love(Clingyness, Neediness, blows up my phone if i don't answer, always wants to kiss on me and make love etc etc etc.). Shes east african and her family is kinda conservative. One day we kicking it and we looking at eachother's IG pages and a video from last year caught my attention. In the video she's at a family event dancing with a family friend. The dancing was harmless, it was her and her sisters dancing in a circle and he was in the circle too. But something about the way they looked at eachother for like 2 seconds in the vid seemed "odd". So i asked her who this is and she's like hes just a family friend, their families been close for years etc etc. After doing some research Reincar style @FireMikelArteta "Trust But verify" I found out that that was true and their families were close and he's very cool with her older sisters, hes like 7-8 years older than my girl. So after my research I let it slide but something about it kept bothering me so when me and her weren't together I would go to my shawty's IG page and watch that video again. My instincts were trying to tell me something until one day i just asked my girl again and told her not to lie, did they have something going on and she said yes, they had a 2 month fling in the past before me and her met and none of their family knows about it because it would be shameful for her and her sisters would look at her crazy because theyre kinda conservative and hookup shyt is frowned upon. Apparently I'm the only person who knows about it. So obviously the family doesn't know anything about it and in the family's mind they're just "friends".

So im cool with the fam and they love me so the sisters throw a party at their crib and invite me, I show up but they invited dude also. He's been solid with her sisters for years. I never met dude before that day so he comes up to me and tries to shake my hand. Me being the nikka i am i just look at him crazy and dont accept the shake. Was I wrong? I feel like the sisters think I'm an a$$hole now but they dont know what I know and I don't want to be the one to expose my shawty past because we all have one but a part of me wants to be like yo don't come around here no more. That friendship shyt is dead but I'd be over stepping my boundaries. How would yall act in this situation? dude only pops up once in a blue when the fam throw a party or family get together but still I feel like that's too much Thoughts?

@VertigoKnight @FireMikelArteta

All women have a past, but if there is one thing I learned through life is be aware, prepared and usually trust your gut. It's funny how dude just went from just a family friend to we banged each other for two months when you pressured her to tell teh truth.


What I would want to know is if she's still talking to dude even on a "friendly" basis? And if so to dead that. I'm pretty sure if you had a girl who your chick was asking about and then you said yeah we dated for two months and hooked up. She wouldn't like that at all.

And as always if a guy hit it once there is always a chance he might again. Like I said everyone has a history, and it's been months you met the family you're accepted. I'd just continue observing

 

[MikelArteta]

Hey Brehs,

How y’all let your misses know she should start working out more…

If you guys live together start going for walks together. Even half hour a day will start losing weight. If not you can do other subliminal stuff, such as you getting into shape more, or even buying her a dress a size or two smaller and when it doesn't fit. Damn I thought you were a size insert this is all they had in stock I really want to see you in this dress

 

[VertigoKnight]

Aight brehs I need y'all opinions on this.

Spoiler

So I've been seeing this girl for like 9 months now. Things are going good. She's in love with me and shows all the signs of a woman in love(Clingyness, Neediness, blows up my phone if i don't answer, always wants to kiss on me and make love etc etc etc.). Shes east african and her family is kinda conservative. One day we kicking it and we looking at eachother's IG pages and a video from last year caught my attention. In the video she's at a family event dancing with a family friend. The dancing was harmless, it was her and her sisters dancing in a circle and he was in the circle too. But something about the way they looked at eachother for like 2 seconds in the vid seemed "odd". So i asked her who this is and she's like hes just a family friend, their families been close for years etc etc. After doing some research Reincar style @FireMikelArteta "Trust But verify" I found out that that was true and their families were close and he's very cool with her older sisters, hes like 7-8 years older than my girl. So after my research I let it slide but something about it kept bothering me so when me and her weren't together I would go to my shawty's IG page and watch that video again. My instincts were trying to tell me something until one day i just asked my girl again and told her not to lie, did they have something going on and she said yes, they had a 2 month fling in the past before me and her met and none of their family knows about it because it would be shameful for her and her sisters would look at her crazy because theyre kinda conservative and hookup shyt is frowned upon. Apparently I'm the only person who knows about it. So obviously the family doesn't know anything about it and in the family's mind they're just "friends".

So im cool with the fam and they love me so the sisters throw a party at their crib and invite me, I show up but they invited dude also. He's been solid with her sisters for years. I never met dude before that day so he comes up to me and tries to shake my hand. Me being the nikka i am i just look at him crazy and dont accept the shake. Was I wrong? I feel like the sisters think I'm an a$$hole now but they dont know what I know and I don't want to be the one to expose my shawty past because we all have one but a part of me wants to be like yo don't come around here no more. That friendship shyt is dead but I'd be over stepping my boundaries. How would yall act in this situation? dude only pops up once in a blue when the fam throw a party or family get together but still I feel like that's too much Thoughts?

@VertigoKnight @FireMikelArteta

It comes down to do you trust your chick? I’ve said before a woman is going to do what a woman is going to do.
From your description sounds like she’s very much into you. And when a woman is like that and things are going well, guys from the past are going to find it hard to turn her head.

I would have shaken his hand but kept an eye on the interactions. Now he probably knows that she told you they had a fling and its going to be tense whenever her sisters throw an event and he turns up.

Some men do have honour and won’t be trying anything, but I guess its also wise to see if her and him are in regular contact.

You don't want to come across as worried about him, but I also understand your gut didnt lie to you when you watched that video.

 

[George Gooney]

All women have a past, but if there is one thing I learned through life is be aware, prepared and usually trust your gut. It's funny how dude just went from just a family friend to we banged each other for two months when you pressured her to tell teh truth.


What I would want to know is if she's still talking to dude even on a "friendly" basis? And if so to dead that. I'm pretty sure if you had a girl who your chick was asking about and then you said yeah we dated for two months and hooked up. She wouldn't like that at all.

And as always if a guy hit it once there is always a chance he might again. Like I said everyone has a history, and it's been months you met the family you're accepted. I'd just continue observing

Real talk breh. Every woman has a past and every woman is biologically inclined to conceal the truth about that past when asked about it. Its just their nature which is why i wasn't too upset when she lied about dude at first. If she had continued lying and I had to find out on my own she would be in the bushes now so her coming clean earned alot of points.
They don't communicate besides the small talk when hes around her and her family(How you been blah blah blah). They were following eachother on IG and facebook but i made her block him as soon as I found out. I trust my girl so now its just me continuing to observe and enjoying our time together but always prepared to bush her

.It comes down to do you trust your chick? I’ve said before a woman is going to do what a woman is going to do.
From your description sounds like she’s very much into you. And when a woman is like that and things are going well, guys from the past are going to find it hard to turn her head.

I would have shaken his hand but kept an eye on the interactions. Now he probably knows that she told you they had a fling and its going to be tense whenever her sisters throw an event and he turns up.

Some men do have honour and won’t be trying anything, but I guess its also wise to see if her and him are in regular contact.

You don't want to come across as worried about him, but I also understand your gut didnt lie to you when you watched that video.

I trust her breh but i always keep an eye on my women from afar. It's just how i'm wired. I don't give women the benefit of the doubt. I've seen too much so Its guilty until proven innocent for me. I probably came off like a jerk for not shaking dudes hand but in my city we don't do that fake love shyt so I guess thats why I didn't do it. Actually I kinda want him to know that i know about the fling so that dude knows hes not welcome around anymore. We'll see if he got the hint. She knows I would bush her expeditiously if she ever contacted dude on some platonic shyt. Just gotta enjoy the moment and see how shyt goes from here I guess.

 

[CW_1991]

Going to the movies is a shytty first date idea.

 

[Ahadi]

Going to the movies is a shytty first date idea.

Idk why you did that.

And I’m assuming you paid for everything too



She got to sit in the quiet, and eat maybe drink for free. Then she can say “it’s getting late, gotta go”

 

[CW_1991]

Idk why you did that.

And I’m assuming you paid for everything too



She got to sit in the quiet, and eat maybe drink for free. Then she can say “it’s getting late, gotta go”

Basically. Offered for her to tag along because I wanted to see what was playing anyway. Zero communication or opportunity for rapport building.

Make matters worse, there were a couple of goofies sitting behind us snickering and playing with their phones the whole time.

 

[Ahadi]

I must have a sign on my forehead that says “Ciara’s Prayer”. Cause all these women think I’m ready to save them

Them & their kids lol

 

[Ahadi]

Basically. Offered for her to tag along because I wanted to see what was playing anyway. Zero communication or opportunity for rapport building.

Make matters worse, there were a couple of goofies sitting behind us snickering and playing with their phones the whole time.

Yup. Sounds like a lose lose situation. She didn’t have to talk, or do anything & she got a free movie. Well, you live and you learn.

But you did the right thing at asking her to tag along doing an activity you were already doing.

 

[skyrunner1]

Going to the movies is a shytty first date idea.

Not to kick you while you down but for other, this is like 101 level mistake.. We all been there but thats more if you already got intimate type date. Atleast get cinebistro type deal also, never had issue with disrespectful people and you can get drinks, full recline chairs, etc.

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

Aight brehs I need y'all opinions on this.

Spoiler

So I've been seeing this girl for like 9 months now. Things are going good. She's in love with me and shows all the signs of a woman in love(Clingyness, Neediness, blows up my phone if i don't answer, always wants to kiss on me and make love etc etc etc.). Shes east african and her family is kinda conservative. One day we kicking it and we looking at eachother's IG pages and a video from last year caught my attention. In the video she's at a family event dancing with a family friend. The dancing was harmless, it was her and her sisters dancing in a circle and he was in the circle too. But something about the way they looked at eachother for like 2 seconds in the vid seemed "odd". So i asked her who this is and she's like hes just a family friend, their families been close for years etc etc. After doing some research Reincar style @FireMikelArteta "Trust But verify" I found out that that was true and their families were close and he's very cool with her older sisters, hes like 7-8 years older than my girl. So after my research I let it slide but something about it kept bothering me so when me and her weren't together I would go to my shawty's IG page and watch that video again. My instincts were trying to tell me something until one day i just asked my girl again and told her not to lie, did they have something going on and she said yes, they had a 2 month fling in the past before me and her met and none of their family knows about it because it would be shameful for her and her sisters would look at her crazy because theyre kinda conservative and hookup shyt is frowned upon. Apparently I'm the only person who knows about it. So obviously the family doesn't know anything about it and in the family's mind they're just "friends".

So im cool with the fam and they love me so the sisters throw a party at their crib and invite me, I show up but they invited dude also. He's been solid with her sisters for years. I never met dude before that day so he comes up to me and tries to shake my hand. Me being the nikka i am i just look at him crazy and dont accept the shake. Was I wrong? I feel like the sisters think I'm an a$$hole now but they dont know what I know and I don't want to be the one to expose my shawty past because we all have one but a part of me wants to be like yo don't come around here no more. That friendship shyt is dead but I'd be over stepping my boundaries. How would yall act in this situation? dude only pops up once in a blue when the fam throw a party or family get together but still I feel like that's too much Thoughts?

@VertigoKnight @FireMikelArteta

Seems like you overreacted. Whatever happened between them was before your time.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

I don't mind romance. But unrealistic expectations and simping?

Always thought valentines day was a scam. If you really have that desiring passion and affection for that one person, why wait for one day just to show it? To each is own.

My main love language is physical affection and words of affirmation. I like to stimulate a woman's mind. Put her in the hot seat. Build up the tension. fukking her mind before we get to action.

 

[The ADD]

Basically. Offered for her to tag along because I wanted to see what was playing anyway. Zero communication or opportunity for rapport building.

Make matters worse, there were a couple of goofies sitting behind us snickering and playing with their phones the whole time.

Self inflicted goof

 

[Morose Polymath]

Real talk breh. Every woman has a past and every woman is biologically inclined to conceal the truth about that past when asked about it. Its just their nature which is why i wasn't too upset when she lied about dude at first. If she had continued lying and I had to find out on my own she would be in the bushes now so her coming clean earned alot of points.
They don't communicate besides the small talk when hes around her and her family(How you been blah blah blah). They were following eachother on IG and facebook but i made her block him as soon as I found out. I trust my girl so now its just me continuing to observe and enjoying our time together but always prepared to bush her

I trust her breh but i always keep an eye on my women from afar. It's just how i'm wired. I don't give women the benefit of the doubt. I've seen too much so Its guilty until proven innocent for me. I probably came off like a jerk for not shaking dudes hand but in my city we don't do that fake love shyt so I guess thats why I didn't do it. Actually I kinda want him to know that i know about the fling so that dude knows hes not welcome around anymore. We'll see if he got the hint. She knows I would bush her expeditiously if she ever contacted dude on some platonic shyt. Just gotta enjoy the moment and see how shyt goes from here I guess.

Sounds like regardless buddy isnt going anywhere. He may not talk to your lady anymore but he's a family friend so he'll be around.

So you have to ask yourself, are you comfortable repeatedly seeing a man who used to to copulate with your lady??

You cant predict the future and never know when your girl may find herself in a situation where breh is present.
Trust your gut and be ready to live with whatever decision you make moving forward.