Sad shyt. No wonder dudes who want success have to portray themselves as bums and flawed, cause they know that the "strive for better" image is no good and make women feel.
In high school there were actually cats who came from well-to-do families that did things like sell weed or just other petty crime so they could get the 'drug dealer'/'tough guy' image so that they could get certain women. Playing the role of the loser WILL get you more attention from certain women, but you'll be just that-- a loser. I'd tell a youngn out there, man if you have to play the role of a loser to catch that woman, throw her right back in the water. That's a mercury-filled fish you can do without.