What do you actually want from her?Guys I’m confused with this new chick I started seeing. Mixed african chick from Europe and moved to my city about 2months ago. Met her 3weeks ago and asked her out the same day I got her ig, and she said yes. She’s really great and I’m digging her. She’s also very honest with me. Told me from the jump she wants something real and she’s real careful so things always move slow with her. I say yea for sure cause that’s what they all say. I still tried kissing her on the second date because I thought I was the shyt and I’m a fly nikka(we were touching a lot, she was staring in my soul and shyt) and she playfully dodged it and started laughing. I was mad af cause this the first time it ever happens to me, but I kept it playa and turned it into a “damn I thought I was Casanova” joke . Made a few other jokes about it and she seemed surprised by my reaction and laughed a lot. I was going to fall back but the next day she asked me out and she’s been initiating to see me a lot since(she paid for a few dates as well). Never had an issue not seeing her, she was only mad once when I told her I couldn’t make it anymore cause she took too long and I was out with friends. Still ended up seeing her later that day though.
Now we’ve been trying to get to know each other. The issue is she has the same personality as me, we joke a lot, tease a lot, we’re comfortable but we’re also sort of shy and quiet in general. I’m used to dating girls who are way more talkative and extrovert than me. In this case, she behaves too much like me so I have to behave differently and find to ways to get her to open. On saturday, she even mentioned she finds me very mysterious and that she’s trying to figure me out but she can’t and feels like I don’t talk that much about myself. However she can tell I’m someone who puts in efforts and she likes that.
I was like girl your ass is the exact sameand she started laughing and agreed.
How do I proceed with this shyt? Should I apply that pressure/keep seeing her that much or should I fall back ?
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
- Thread starter Rominati
- Start date
Deathstroke
Pro
I want something serious with her. Only thing is I’m not tryna be played or end up in the friendzone. Not so worried about the last part because I made it clear by my actions and intentions but yea I’m not trying to put in all this energy for nothing. Usually my relationships move quick.
Then I don’t understand the basis of your question. If you are interested keep moving forward. Why would falling back be an option?
Deathstroke
Pro
Just wanted advice from y’all if I was doing too much and should fall back a bit and focus on other stuff to not seem or be too involved. I’ve been seeing her two to three times a week.
Malik1time
What you looking at?
Got a date tonight with that foward girl 
We’ll see how it goes
I noticed she deleted our hinge conversations
Probably means nothing but
We’ll see how it goes
I noticed she deleted our hinge conversations
Probably means nothing but
Fall back and talk to other women. Don't fall for that shy stuff. You highkey should've smashed already.
Tommy Lee Jones
All Star
what you mean she deleted it? she unmatched you? just go in with no expectations. otherwise you gonna go in thirsty.Got a date tonight with that foward girl
We’ll see how it goes
I noticed she deleted our hinge conversations
Probably means nothing but
Killigraphy
Banned
Do some slight research, in this case, look up the top 5 books of the current year; there's always some "hear me roar" novel about some broad who fukked up, bring that up, in a natural fashion. Ask if she's heard of the book, "you strike me as the type that would like it", you're presuming her persona, which always makes them either try to defend it , or curious, either way, the conversation begins.
Its easier if its something mainstream, like the GoT days, where I got so much nerd p*ssy it was insane. Interrupt them, they're losers, who are clearly not getting any fun due to them being in the library. Doesn't matter the look, girls like that always want drug filled/bad boy fun, some of the easiest birds to pluck, are the nerds.
Malik1time
What you looking at?
Yeah she unmatched me… yeah I am… we going to Dave and buster I’m more excited going there than the actual date
I love Dave and buster.. and I haven’t been in a year.. she got potential but I got low expectationsTommy Lee Jones
All Star
I had a girl unmatch me after I got her number but I deleted her number by accident so guess it wasn't meant to be. I've also unmatched girls by accident when I meant to hide the convo. so either shes shady or she might of done it by accident.Yeah she unmatched me… yeah I am… we going to Dave and buster I’m more excited going there than the actual date
Got a date tonight with that foward girl
We’ll see how it goes
I noticed she deleted our hinge conversations
Probably means nothing but
Bro thats the after the date “ima block his # too move …thanks for the food etc…ur a nice guy “ move
Tommy Lee Jones
All Star
yea I wouldnt trust this bytch or expect much.
Malik1time
What you looking at?
We’ll see how it goes…luckily I’m going somewhere I actually wanna go so Win win for me and it’s cheap… I’ll keep ya updated
Tommy Lee Jones
All Star
That’s how it’s suppose to go. Pick what you want where you want. shyt you might fukk on first night just don’t go in thirsty.
Win win for me and it’s cheap… I’ll keep ya updated