Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RaspberryFitted]

How many of yall know dudes with successful, long term happy relationships?

I know multiple baby fathers, four of them being the fathers of my nieces/nephews.

I can confidently say it has fukked up my perception on a relationship and even sex.

 

[EffYou]

Read that post I made on the page before about a similar situation I had but turned it around.

If you like her and want to still talk to her you gotta at least apply pressure or at least express how you feel about the situation before it ends.

We gotta stop this "I'm a fallback" mentality. All this falling back we do takes any accountability away from them, and this is why they do the things they do. They're never called out on their BS so it's an endless cycle of girls putting guys through shyt and nothing happens because they were "going through things" and we pretend to not care even though we do.

None of this has to come from an angry place, even if you are angry. We're adults and should be able to communicate with one another in a respectable manner. Addressing the issue might not repair the relationship but it could probably help prevent her from doing that to other men in the future.

You also brought up in another post asking do relationships last anymore. I'm in my late 20s and my best friends are still dating their gfs of 5 plus years and the other is reaching ten. My parents are still together.

There's not gonna be a time on this earth where man doesn't have to deal with the bs from the other gender and vice versa. Every chick has her own issues that you will have to deal with and there will always be chicks that either challenge you or lose interest.

We're supposed to find the right ones we believe are worth putting in work for.

But none of that work ever happens if you just fall back.

I hear you, but naw im good. I’m not mature enough for all that...besides I’m starting to get used to the cycle of how my relationships end and I pick up new tricks as I go along with women. I’d rather do that and keep getting used to the feeling that women don’t stick around, then switch up and try something new to get burned in the end anyways. If ima potentially be sacrificing my life/soul for a bytch well I better go down on my terms


Edit: and potentially some girls I was really into it could have been a blessing in disguise, things not working out. fukk regretting/contemplating on what could have been

 

[Ohene]

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its really that bad eh

 

[Ohene]

I know multiple baby fathers, four of them being the fathers of my nieces/nephews.

I can confidently say it has fukked up my perception on a relationship and even sex.

please expound breh. my brother and cousin are baby daddies but i wanna hear the stories

 

[Ohene]

its 2022, women just want to “explore their options” us men are still going off the old rules not realizing its a new day.

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Will it end well for these women? I’d argue they have an expiration date when it comes to maximizing their ability to keep this up with quality men, but thats their problem not ours.

If you not trying to marry a woman in a quick turn around (under 1.5 years), you better understand the game is the game and everyone playing it is a self serving mercenary.

same shyt i was basically saying below

this thread is about ten YEARS deep...if nikkas in here dont understand how the game works by now then I dont know what to say

why complain about the mentality of women nowadays and the ease with which women can get dikk, money and shyt from men when
a) a lot of them same women will be miserable going into their 30s because
-------- I) they chose the wrong dude who doesnt fulfill them
-------- II) they are past their prime and cant find anyone
b) its the men who are perpetuating the foolishness

women vie for companionship/security. men vie for sex.

sex is the commodity, and men pay for it with their money and attention. its been that way forever. feminism, dating apps and social media have only exacerbated it. you can choose to pay your way, or you can develop yourself into the sort of man that doesnt have to. It is really and truly that simple.

Really and truly.

 

[DapMeUp!]

Read that post I made on the page before about a similar situation I had but turned it around.

If you like her and want to still talk to her you gotta at least apply pressure or at least express how you feel about the situation before it ends.

We gotta stop this "I'm a fallback" mentality. All this falling back we do takes any accountability away from them, and this is why they do the things they do. They're never called out on their BS so it's an endless cycle of girls putting guys through shyt and nothing happens because they were "going through things" and we pretend to not care even though we do.

.

I read your post, and I hope it all works out for you...but nah I'm not chasing a girl that suddenly goes cold out the blue with no explaination.

As you said, we are adults and you should be able to communicate why you may have gone cold without me chasing you to find out why.
You don't deserve chasing if you exhibit that type of behavior and think it's OK but that's just me

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I hear you, but naw im good. I’m not mature enough for all that...besides I’m starting to get used to the cycle of how my relationships end and I pick up new tricks as I go along with women. I’d rather do that and keep getting used to the feeling that women don’t stick around, then switch up and try something new to get burned in the end anyways. If ima potentially be sacrificing my life/soul for a bytch well I better go down on my terms


Edit: and potentially some girls I was really into it could have been a blessing in disguise, things not working out. fukk regretting/contemplating on what could have been

I don't know you personally breh but you sound like the old me.

Probably older than I am too (I assume all coli posters are older than I am). This means you've gone through a lot of cycles where you waste your time with women. On top of that, you don't want to be mature enough to address situations or express how you feel?

There are posters here that posted in the 100s-200s pages and still post to this day talking about they "fall back" now too. Like damn brehs, how you guys been in the dating scene for 7 to 8 years with all these pages on how to deal with women, and you all keep returning to asking bytches what their favorite color is

At some point, people have to realize that when others continue to leave it probably speaks volumes about the person being left than the people leaving.

Like yeah you can learn new tricks and always take something away but bringing issues from your past interactions with new females who have nothing to do with it is one of the worst things you can do.

That's when you start to grow old and have resentment towards women and everything like almost every old head coli poster .

Go ahead and be one of the guys who fall back instead of tryna level up though. I will see you on pg 3777 two-three years from now asking what the newest dating app is.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I read your post, and I hope it all works out for you...but nah I'm not chasing a girl that suddenly goes cold out the blue with no explaination.

As you said, we are adults and you should be able to communicate why you may have gone cold without me chasing you to find out why.
You don't deserve chasing if you exhibit that type of behavior and think it's OK but that's just me

Addressing and trying to fix the issue or trying to find out what happened so your future interactions with other women don't end the same are not chasing.

If she's not willing to communicate back when you address the issue or she told you it's over but you keep trying, then yeah that's chasing.

I feel like if I spent money on you or gave you the time and effort out of my day to try to get something going then I feel like I at least deserve a mature conversation about what's not working or why it won't.

Sounds like some of us don't even have respect for ourselves around here


And you're right we should be able to be adults to communicate.

But 9/10 women will not address the issue first so it's your role as the guy to put your foot down and do it first.

It's either that or keep asking bytches what their favorite color is until you reach that age where they find it creepy to sleep with you.

 

[EffYou]

I don't know you personally breh but you sound like the old me.

Probably older than I am too (I assume all coli posters are older than I am). This means you've gone through a lot of cycles where you waste your time with women. On top of that, you don't want to be mature enough to address situations or express how you feel?

There are posters here that posted in the 100s-200s pages and still post to this day talking about they "fall back" now too. Like damn brehs, how you guys been in the dating scene for 7 to 8 years with all these pages on how to deal with women, and you all keep returning to asking bytches what their favorite color is

At some point, people have to realize that when others continue to leave it probably speaks volumes about the person being left than the people leaving.

Like yeah you can learn new tricks and always take something away but bringing issues from your past interactions with new females who have nothing to do with it is one of the worst things you can do.

That's when you start to grow old and have resentment towards women and everything like almost every old head coli poster .

Go ahead and be one of the guys who fall back instead of tryna level up though. I will see you on pg 3777 two-three years from now asking what the newest dating app is.

“Yawn” I see plenty of ex married guys or guys that have been in long term relationships return to the dating schemes and since they had gotten complacent in the safety net of their relationships have no clue how to maneuver in the dating market.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

“Yawn” I see plenty of ex married guys or guys that have been in long term relationships return to the dating schemes and since they had gotten complacent in the safety net of their relationships have no clue how to maneuver in the dating market.

Nah brother have faith and be positive.

i know you a leader and can write you’re own story. You will some day fam!

 

[The ADD]

Read that post I made on the page before about a similar situation I had but turned it around.

If you like her and want to still talk to her you gotta at least apply pressure or at least express how you feel about the situation before it ends.

We gotta stop this "I'm a fallback" mentality. All this falling back we do takes any accountability away from them, and this is why they do the things they do. They're never called out on their BS so it's an endless cycle of girls putting guys through shyt and nothing happens because they were "going through things" and we pretend to not care even though we do.

None of this has to come from an angry place, even if you are angry. We're adults and should be able to communicate with one another in a respectable manner. Addressing the issue might not repair the relationship but it could probably help prevent her from doing that to other men in the future.

You also brought up in another post asking do relationships last anymore. I'm in my late 20s and my best friends are still dating their gfs of 5 plus years and the other is reaching ten. My parents are still together.

There's not gonna be a time on this earth where man doesn't have to deal with the bs from the other gender and vice versa. Every chick has her own issues that you will have to deal with and there will always be chicks that either challenge you or lose interest.

We're supposed to find the right ones we believe are worth putting in work for.

But none of that work ever happens if you just fall back.

If they have been friendly for half a year and then she goes absent after formal dates then he needs to keep it pushing.

Addressing and trying to fix the issue or trying to find out what happened so your future interactions with other women don't end the same are not chasing.

If she's not willing to communicate back when you address the issue or she told you it's over but you keep trying, then yeah that's chasing.

I feel like if I spent money on you or gave you the time and effort out of my day to try to get something going then I feel like I at least deserve a mature conversation about what's not working or why it won't.

Sounds like some of us don't even have respect for ourselves around here


And you're right we should be able to be adults to communicate.

But 9/10 women will not address the issue first so it's your role as the guy to put your foot down and do it first.

It's either that or keep asking bytches what their favorite color is until you reach that age where they find it creepy to sleep with you.

Depends on the situation. Digging deeper with someone you were in a relationship with I get. In @Urbanmiracle situation, just move on.

 

[EffYou]

Addressing and trying to fix the issue or trying to find out what happened so your future interactions with other women don't end the same are not chasing.

If she's not willing to communicate back when you address the issue or she told you it's over but you keep trying, then yeah that's chasing.

I feel like if I spent money on you or gave you the time and effort out of my day to try to get something going then I feel like I at least deserve a mature conversation about what's not working or why it won't.

Sounds like some of us don't even have respect for ourselves around here


And you're right we should be able to be adults to communicate.

But 9/10 women will not address the issue first so it's your role as the guy to put your foot down and do it first.

It's either that or keep asking bytches what their favorite color is until you reach that age where they find it creepy to sleep with you.

I’m not saying you’re wrong , we just come from different schools. I see the faults within your method. If it works for you then shyt keep going , we all don’t want the same things or the same women. If your way of fishing works then power to you brother

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

If they have been friendly for half a year and then she goes absent after formal dates then he needs to keep it pushing.

Depends on the situation. Digging deeper with someone you were in a relationship with I get. In @Urbanmiracle situation, just move on.

Yeah context of a situation always matters.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

please expound breh. my brother and cousin are baby daddies but i wanna hear the stories

From a relationship standpoint, I’ve seen it all. How to be a deadbeat, how to be put on child support, how to be a stepdad to another kid, how to bust your ass trying to co-parent when you already got kids from a different relationship… NEVER in my personal life have I seen a man be with one woman and build a home together with their children.

Having to watch my mother basically be a mother to grandchildren at her age… not being able to live life since her youngest son is in college.. breaks something inside of you, something that you don’t want to repeat for her sake and your own.

All that accumulates to my sex/romantic life. Once I entered college (2019) I found myself being cautious of who I slept with or got into a relationship with.. in hopes in not repeating the mistakes I’ve seen. Left some p*ssy on the table, which later made me question if I’m too harsh on myself or if I’m instilling the right discipline in myself.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

From a relationship standpoint, I’ve seen it all. How to be a deadbeat, how to be put on child support, how to be a stepdad to another kid, how to bust your ass trying to co-parent when you already got kids from a different relationship… NEVER in my personal life have I seen a man be with one woman and build a home together with their children.

Having to watch my mother basically be a mother to grandchildren at her age… not being able to live life since her youngest son is in college.. breaks something inside of you, something that you don’t want to repeat for her sake and your own.

All that accumulates to my sex/romantic life. Once I entered college (2019) I found myself being cautious of who I slept with or got into a relationship with.. in hopes in not repeating the mistakes I’ve seen. Left some p*ssy on the table, which later made me question if I’m too harsh on myself or if I’m instilling the right discipline in myself.

nah this some king shyt.

Self-discipline and you're leading by example trying to break the cycles you saw growing up.