Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

Only you can measure that, but you have to be truthful in how much time that is.

Are you mentally and emotionally prepared to speak to another woman? Physically, are you where you want to be to maximize your value in the market? Is this woman getting the best version of you and not some salvaged byproduct of a break up?

1000% All of this

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I'm not really ready to be dating, I need 2 more months off.

However this woman has huge potential, we click personalitywise, she has a great job, she my type looks wise, very smart, a bit too nerdy & too religious though. She was too hard to pass up till I'm fully ready. I will see how it goes, if nothing progresses with her, I will chill for 2 months till I get back to dating.

I have an issue with red in bold. You’re not prepared to date (key word: date) yet you want to pursue this woman because of her potential, as if she’s the last “quality” woman on earth.

This is the mindset that we DESPISE from women in our romantic woes. “Needs time to find herself” “Confused on where she wants to take this” “Not mentally there” all the cliches you heard in the past of a woman you’ve rightfully bushed.

Is it fair to do the same to her?

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Do you think we complicate too much for ourselves?

It shouldn’t be this hard. I see women with dudes all the time that I’m like you’re with him??

shyt even crack heads got crack head bytches

 

[Apollo Creed]

I have an issue with red in bold. You’re not prepared to date (key word: date) yet you want to pursue this woman because of her potential, as if she’s the last “quality” woman on earth.

This is the mindset that we DESPISE from women in our romantic woes. “Needs time to find herself” “Confused on where she wants to take this” “Not mentally there” all the cliches you heard in the past of a woman you’ve rightfully bushed.

Is it fair to do the same to her?

exactly its selfish. Why waste a “good” womans time if you aint ready to do anything? When dudes list out potential they def aint talking about casually dating and smashing.

 

[EffYou]

After a break up, how long do u suggest to take time to work on yourself before dating.

Broke up with my ex end of January, got my first date since the break up next week.

ASAP

 

[1thouwow]

I’ve been fukked up these past few months. Finally got rid of this woman whose been making me unhappy for months. Then boom, I slide into this next thing with no recovery time. And it was going good. Dates were fun. We had communication. Then one week, I sensed the shift. She stopped answering the text right away. She busy all the time now. Yup another nikka. But I didn’t wanna believe it. And then I fukked up by texting her still. She won’t answer for hours. All this bullshyt. Then she finally hit me with the i dunno what I want which is women speak for I want to try this other option and see where it goes. So ima cut my loses and get back in the pool. Already got a date lined up for the weekend. Gonna take it waaaaaaaaaaaay slow with this next one. But I really liked ol girl man. She was fine, nice. Humble. Funny. We chilled at my spot for the Super Bowl and I cooked and she brought wine and rum cup cakes. Thought we had something. But just like that, she gone. Ain’t nothing like…. Long lasting no more? My aunt and uncle married 60 years. Where the fukk is that at? And this chick ain’t young. 37. Divorced. Kid. Yes I know probably shouldn’t even get too deep with this. Whatever.

nikka her baby daddy or ex husband was hitting it the whole time. You was just something a lil fun until he started to act right again

 

[RaspberryFitted]

exactly its selfish. Why waste a “good” womans time if you aint ready to do anything? When dudes list out potential they def aint talking about casually dating and smashing.

said “good” woman reflects on how she keeps getting broken men or men who don’t want anything serious. Decides to switch her outlook on relationships..

.. and the cycle continues.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Do you think we complicate too much for ourselves?

It shouldn’t be this hard. I see women with dudes all the time that I’m like you’re with him??

shyt even crack heads got crack head bytches

Explain the bold. I had this mindset in the past and immediately deaded it once College hit.

 

[Ahadi]

Do you think we complicate too much for ourselves?

It shouldn’t be this hard. I see women with dudes all the time that I’m like you’re with him??

shyt even crack heads got crack head bytches

The guy their with is probably more “aligned”, comfortable with himself, etc. Might just have more work to do, or just need to travel and expand your reach.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Explain the bold. I had this mindset in the past and immediately deaded it once College hit.

I just feel like there’s just some guys out here you would never expect to get a girl/gf but they can

and if they can then that means everyone can

that’s why I was asking if guys make this too complex when it’s simple

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I just feel like there’s just some guys out here you would never expect to get a girl/gf but they can

and if they can then that means everyone can

that’s why I was asking if guys make this too complex when it’s simple

By the bolded, do you mean non-traditionally desired men (short, fat, no swag) or men you believe are undesirable due to their status in life (bums, hood brehs, druggies)

I got an answer typed up, but don’t want to spur BS on here if it isn’t applicable

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

By the bolded, do you mean non-traditionally desired men (short, fat, no swag) or men you believe are undesirable due to their status in life (bums, hood brehs, druggies)

I got an answer typed up, but don’t want to spur BS on here if it isn’t applicable

Both

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Both

For the first part: Con-fid-ence. It can overshadow the shortcomings we have as people. It’s all about audacity. The nerve of you to walk over to a “9”, smile, AND blurt out something engaging while being the untraditional standards of beauty she tweets about Like Musafa said:

The guy their with is probably more “aligned”, comfortable with himself

for the second part, I have two schools of thought with it:
1) chemistry & attraction.

It’s not about what is brung to the table, it’s about how comfortable the chairs are.

Although it’s important for substance later in the relationship, all that high value, lyrical miracle spiritual shyt isn’t necessary to attract a woman. Can you make her laugh? Are you a fun person to be around? Can she let her guard down with you? Regards of her status, the excitement of being around you matters.

Hood/Broke brehs, for better or worse, don’t care about logistics and don’t take life or themselves too seriously. A woman who already has enough stress in her life would rather kick back with a breh and turn off her brain than be “mentally stimulated” by a guy who has nothing else to offer besides intellectual conversations.. ESPECIALLY if she’s 18-25 Now, those same women are birds for allowing FUN to dictate who becomes their baby’s father, but that’s another topic.

Point is, we as men over complicate things by suppressing the fun/juvenile side of ourselves. Ask wild hypotheticals. Flirt. Make fun of her forehead or outfit.

2) False perception. On the outside, the relationship may look like polar opposites, but behind closed doors it makes sense. Ignore the accolades, her degrees, her two parent household, her modest apparel, her community service work, and just simply watch her actions. Some of these women are broken inside and their ain’t shyt partner is a perfect match for them.. regardless of how they look aesthetically.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Summer around the corner + covid on the verge of being “over” (everyone relaxing mandates), i hope yall boys spent this time grinding and not just crying

if you handled your business its about to be game time

 

[MollyGalaga]

Summer around the corner + covid on the verge of being “over” (everyone relaxing mandates), i hope yall boys spent this time grinding and not just crying

if you handled your business its about to be game time

Grinding & crying