Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[BiggWebb79]

she dumb for thinking a younger man would marry her, and you took the L for not standing on your square.

You right but you know you live and you learn.

 

[Apollo Creed]

You right but you know you live and you learn.

At least you made it out no additional kids and with your health

 

[BiggWebb79]

At least you made it out no additional kids and with your health

Yeah when she had a miscarriage that was a sign that it wasn't ment to be.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Stuff like this is why you can't take women seriously really. See so many stories like this. Women really are children.

I saw a psychologist give a Ted talk on how we need both love and desire, and how love kills desire. I agree 100%. Each time the man I am dating would declare love for me, after I was sure of our relationship and felt safe and secure, and loved, I would stop being attracted to him. I am living with a man for 5 years now, have a 2 year old baby, I love him deeply and have no plans of destroying my family, but I am no longer attracted to him. Sex is fine, but I desire other men, men from my past, 3 of them in particular, with whom I've had purely sexual relationships that always left me wanting for more. Lovers, I guess. I wish I could delete them from my memory yet I masturbate while thinking about them regularly.

Is anyone in the same boat and if so, any advice?

Any thoughts on the love kills desire premise?

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

This is the same person as above.

So I will try To keep this as short as I can. I am engaged to the greatest guy I’ve ever met who I met shortly after graduating college because he worked in the same office park that I do. He is smart, funny, very good-looking and very very stable and pretty much everything a girls ever ask for in a guy.

When I was in high school I had a very passionate but stupid relationship with my ex-boyfriend who was a dead beat for the longest time but I have heard through the grapevine has become very successful (for our smallish town) business owner. Everyone thought he would end up in jail or dead so it’s always been good to hear that he’s doing better.

Last night I went out to a girls night and ended up at a country bar that is about an Hour away from where I live now and about 20 minutes away from the town I grew up in. We were having a great time when I ran smack into my high school ex-boyfriend which is the first time I’ve seen him in about four years. He asked me to dance and I figured it wouldn’t hurt anything so I did and we had a great time. I ended up talking with him at his table for the rest of the night and it was really nice to catch up with him and I never once felt guilty or that I was doing anything wrong with relation to my fiancé. But then at the end of the night he insisted on hugging me and I felt a spark of passion that I haven’t felt since I was about 17 years old. To say that it shocked me is an understatement.

I love my fiancé with my whole heart but I don’t feel that electricity when I am with him. Like I said in the beginning he was a great guy and would be an amazing catch for any girl but this has really shaken me.

I guess my question is, are these type of experiences normal for people? And if so how do I realign my feelings to where I actually start to feel that spark with my fiancé instead of feeling it towards a guy who I know is very bad for me ?

 

[EffYou]

Stuff like this is why you can't take women seriously really. See so many stories like this. Women really are children.

Cold world bruh, I think what could help most men in dealing with these women are checking our egos(easier said then done)...you can’t rely on what these women say/think as indicators if you’re the shyt or not

 

[EffYou]

This is the same person as above.

To answer her question the husband lost... he just doesn’t do “that” for her... he’s the safe rebound most women end up with after being run through by the bad boys that they’re attracted to without knowing why. A lot of men fear this, idk how you could reverse it once you notice your lady ain’t feeling you like that no more(or I should say it would take too much effort to). It’s better to just move on and keep ur game tight from the very beginning with this new relationship. It’s the men curse that we have to be A1 and the weakness of any kind lowers our value. Women fear us losing attraction to them as they age/gain weight well guys fear not being “cool” anymore in the eyes of their partners.... damn

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Cold world bruh, I think what could help most men in dealing with these women are checking our egos(easier said then done)...you can’t rely on what these women say/think as indicators if you’re the shyt or not

What helps more is knowing that what women say and what they want are two different things and they move on emotion. they say they want stability and gentlemen but then they get bored and cheat. I think you have to have an ego with women and always put yourself first so at least if they cheat you still come first.

plus when you put yourself first they put you first too. I helped my ex out a lot just for her to break up with me. I don't regret it but I'm not doing it for the next bytch.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

To answer her question the husband lost... he just doesn’t do “that” for her... he’s the safe rebound most women end up with after being run through by the bad boys that they’re attracted to without knowing why. A lot of men fear this, idk how you could reverse it once you notice your lady ain’t feeling you like that no more(or I should say it would take too much effort to). It’s better to just move on and keep ur game tight from the very beginning with this new relationship. It’s the men curse that we have to be A1 and the weakness of any kind lowers our value. Women fear us losing attraction to them as they age/gain weight well guys fear not being “cool” anymore in the eyes of their partners.... damn

i agree but I think this stuff only applies to 8's, 9's and 10's?

 

[EffYou]

What helps more is knowing that what women say and what they want are two different things and they move on emotion. they say they want stability and gentlemen but then they get bored and cheat. I think you have to have an ego with women and always put yourself first so at least if they cheat you still come first.

plus when you put yourself first they put you first too. I helped my ex out a lot just for her to break up with me. I don't regret it but I'm not doing it for the next bytch.

Yeah some guys don’t play those games (it could be some psychology sociopath type shyt... idk I’ll let the white boys put a name on it) Patrice said it best, it’s better to like a bytch than love a bytch

 

[EffYou]

i agree but I think this stuff only applies to 8's, 9's and 10's?

All bytches think they deserve better, it’s that hypergamy shyt folks always throw around. It happens once she feels she “has” you then she loses interest and starts wondering if she settled and if she could have done better. bytches will grow to resent you when that happens(and it’s not even their fault , it’s just their nature bruh... all them years of programming some shyt just can’t be helped), and you can’t even be mad/upset at them they don’t realize what it is that’s why shawty you quoted kept saying shyt like “idk how ex had me feeling this way” and she was asking have others felt that way as well because she doesn’t know what to call it. They all do lol

 

[Apollo Creed]

Stuff like this is why you can't take women seriously really. See so many stories like this. Women really are children.

its more so that they arent built for the streets. This is why body count matters for a wife.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

Y'all called it, got into another fight with my ex -went to my third funeral in 7 months for my godmother's family. Her uncle died, she lost her mother and aunt and now him.My ex texted me and sent me a thoughtful text, at the repass everyone talking to me about love and marriage and giving advice, I'm not in the mood but I shoot her a text she ignores it. Next morning she calls me and we get into a big fight. She went to his crib and watched the kanye doc and smoked but she thinks he checked out but is willing to try and maybe work something out but still isn't sure because she still talking to me her ex and he said he feels like he was guy number 2. Said part of her reservation with me is I never followed through with my career choices when we dated and didn't know what I wanted to do. Never mind that now I'm studying hours a day and even at work but nonetheless I'm in a cafe studying for sec +and I'm getting so heated I have to leave because I feel like punching someone. Now when me and my ex broke up I hooked up with this chick that's bad af but she would ghost then hit me up like play mad games. She hit me like she's moving to LA and throwing a party, I wasn't going to go because I don't go out anymore and trying to focus but after the funeral and this s shyt said fukk it. Went, she hugged me and said I cant believe you came and I leave next week. From there, I let my friend convince me to go to the strip club. Was not in the mood in the slightest and didn't want to spend money on landing strip thrid world p*ssy not to fukk when I can just fly to DR and do that if I was on that type of time. I text the girl lets grab a drink before you leave and no response. Both these bytches posted on their story

If down bad was a person it would be me. No discipline no self control putting the p*ssy on a pedastal instead of my purpose. shyt like this gonna turn me into the joker no funny shyt. Anyway glad tomorrow the holiday, not gonna answer either if they hmu gonna book the psychiatrist session this week and go to bjj and study and try to pray, I have to be one of the pallbearer saturdays

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Cooperation is key. Not saying that it can’t be something else, but if there’s a communication problem then the relationship is doomed.

Honestly communication and consistency is the biggest thing women seek. You don’t have to look like Rico suave, make 10000000, be 6’6 etc, your word and how you come across as a man is everything.

Because once you mentally got a chick it’s a wrap.

I had a date last night with this red haired white chick. Wholesome type or maybe I'm projecting that on her: 34, no kids, getting masters, medical lab scientist, introvert, doesn't drink, goes to church but getting away from Christianity, doesn't have many friends, and busy with work. Met on bumble. Texted back and forth for a few days before last night. We went to Mexican restaurant. I paid. Had a great convo and she didn't really want it to end so we went and got dessert. Stayed til everyone left. Finally called it a night at 10. Didn't kiss.

She had told me that with affection she has to warm up and feel safe, so I didn't expect it...but I kept getting this lingering feeling she wanted me to come over, but I couldn't tell. Kept biting her lip, staring in my eyes but would sometimes look down, there felt like chemistry but in my past whenever I go out with a wholesome girl and don't make a move out of respect of what the woman has said about affection/intimacy, I end up losing out and not going on a second date bc they really did want it and were just full of shyt. It's always wholesome ones like thst for me that fukk my whole game up, and the truth is its because deep down that is exactly what I want. I am truly hoping she ain't full of shyt.

Texted her when I got home, like she asked, said I enjoyed talking to her and meeting her and thought she was cute. She replied that she had a lovely evening this morning. I responded to thst and said glad she enjoyed herself bc I did as well. Haven't heard shyt since this morning. With her personality that's not surprising but there's always the chance I'm playing myself

 

[MikelArteta]

I matched with this girl last year on hinge and she was cold etc and unmatched me. I see her again on hinge and usually when I see a chick on hinge I’ve talked to or met before I usually remove them so I don’t see em again.

I said what the hell and liked hero little write up she matched back with me and poof we meeting up tomorrow