Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Looking like my boy got ghosted.

I’ve mentioned him in this thread multiple times, the amount of dating L’s his taken has been astounding.

He met this chick on Hinge, she’s British but lives in Vancouver now, they’re into similar things, the outdoors, skiing and hiking.

They had been on three dates, and he followed my suggestions about kissing a woman if he feels the energy is there which he did on the second date.

She invited him impromptu onto a third date beach walk where they kissed again and then he suggested they go get dinner this past Thursday, day of the date, she cancels with no real reason and then he messages her on the Friday, still no reply from her but she’s read the message.

He had 4 conversations going on when he met this chick and stopped the others to focus on her. I did warn him not to focus all his attention on just one chick as you could get into situations like this. Where she bails and you’re left with nada and your other convos will be hard to pick back up.

I haven’t spoken to him in depth as I’ve been busy with my chicks. But he was really into her and maybe that was the problem? She probably felt he was trying to lock her down.

I’ve told him before he needed to hold back from too much text chit chat and save that for in person. And that you need to smash some of these chicks within 2-3 meets or at least get her into a sexual mindset. Where she anticipates and wants you sexually. This is where being too much of a ‘gentlemen' can be a hindrance a woman wants to be seduced by you, not tell you she’s ready for sex.

Female friends of ours have told him that he gives off too much of a 'nice guy’ vibe. You don't need to be a scumbag but some friendly aggression can go a long way.

this is what homeys are for. It's really a cold game and most dudes just don't know what they don't know.

 

[Serious]

this is what homeys are for. It's really a cold game and most dudes just don't know what they don't know.

What I’ve learned too that if chick really wants you she’ll make it easy, so you can’t even fall into that nice guy / friend zone trap

 

[EffYou]

Longest relationship y’all have had and how did things “end”? Were their signs before the final closing? Who ended things you or her?

help the younger or inexperienced bruhs out before they fall into the same trappings as yourself.

 

[EffYou]

Looking like my boy got ghosted.

I’ve mentioned him in this thread multiple times, the amount of dating L’s his taken has been astounding.

He met this chick on Hinge, she’s British but lives in Vancouver now, they’re into similar things, the outdoors, skiing and hiking.

They had been on three dates, and he followed my suggestions about kissing a woman if he feels the energy is there which he did on the second date.

She invited him impromptu onto a third date beach walk where they kissed again and then he suggested they go get dinner this past Thursday, day of the date, she cancels with no real reason and then he messages her on the Friday, still no reply from her but she’s read the message.

He had 4 conversations going on when he met this chick and stopped the others to focus on her. I did warn him not to focus all his attention on just one chick as you could get into situations like this. Where she bails and you’re left with nada and your other convos will be hard to pick back up.

I haven’t spoken to him in depth as I’ve been busy with my chicks. But he was really into her and maybe that was the problem? She probably felt he was trying to lock her down.

I’ve told him before he needed to hold back from too much text chit chat and save that for in person. And that you need to smash some of these chicks within 2-3 meets or at least get her into a sexual mindset. Where she anticipates and wants you sexually. This is where being too much of a ‘gentlemen' can be a hindrance a woman wants to be seduced by you, not tell you she’s ready for sex.

Female friends of ours have told him that he gives off too much of a 'nice guy’ vibe. You don't need to be a scumbag but some friendly aggression can go a long way.

Yeah a kiss means nothing, you’re not “completely “ in there until it’s dikk on p*ssy contact and even then shawties can bail if they just not feeling it.

numbers game, can’t get attached to none of them(easier said than done...). Like with all things it’s just going to take practice and failures dealing with different women

 

[Serious]

Longest relationship y’all have had and how did things “end”? Were their signs before the final closing? Who ended things you or her?

help the younger or inexperienced bruhs out before they fall into the same trappings as yourself.

3 years, I had no intention of marrying her I was perfectly comfortable in a long term situation.

Major sign you see and should always pay attention is communication becoming distant and less frequent. No one is that busy.


She ended it, even though I could feel something was off.

 

[InGodWeTrust]

Do not, I repeat do not go on a date or even meet with these women unless you have video chatted or FaceTime first.

1.) It weeds out the bullshytters
2.) I’ve definitely learned most of these women look NOTHING like their pics
3.) You can tell instantly if they’re feeling you
4.) You can tell if you actually can stand them longer than 10 mins

 

[The ADD]

Do not, I repeat do not go on a date or even meet with these women unless you have video chatted or FaceTime first.

1.) It weeds out the bullshytters
2.) I’ve definitely learned most of these women look NOTHING like their pics
3.) You can tell instantly if they’re feeling you
4.) You can tell if you actually can stand them longer than 10 mins

 

[EffYou]

3 years, I had no intention of marrying her I was perfectly comfortable in a long term situation.

Major sign you see and should always pay attention is communication becoming distant and less frequent. No one is that busy.


She ended it, even though I could feel something was off.

Did you ask any of the Ws(Who, what, when, where, why?) or did u just go “okay” and moved on

 

[EffYou]

Do not, I repeat do not go on a date or even meet with these women unless you have video chatted or FaceTime first.

1.) It weeds out the bullshytters
2.) I’ve definitely learned most of these women look NOTHING like their pics
3.) You can tell instantly if they’re feeling you
4.) You can tell if you actually can stand them longer than 10 mins

Mhm this is an interesting one

 

[VertigoKnight]

What I’ve learned too that if chick really wants you she’ll make it easy, so you can’t even fall into that nice guy / friend zone trap

True. Every woman I’ve struggled with opening up. I look back and see she buffered all of my attempts as she was not feeling me like that. But I persisted. But they were trying to angle me into friendship.

All the women I really got on with were open with me and wanted to be around me and vice versa.

 

[Ahadi]

If they are 30+ and childless, it's not even dating, it's a business discussion..

Pretty much 10-20% off

And if you go that route, you better leverage it as much as possible.

 

[Ahadi]

Do not, I repeat do not go on a date or even meet with these women unless you have video chatted or FaceTime first.

1.) It weeds out the bullshytters
2.) I’ve definitely learned most of these women look NOTHING like their pics
3.) You can tell instantly if they’re feeling you
4.) You can tell if you actually can stand them longer than 10 mins

Usually when I give my Google number and tell them to call me it weeds out the bs.

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[BiggWebb79]

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Longest relationship y’all have had and how did things “end”? Were their signs before the final closing? Who ended things you or her?

help the younger or inexperienced bruhs out before they fall into the same trappings as yourself.

My longest relationship was 9 years, things ended this past August. I wasn't into it towards the end of the relationship. But I also know I had a role to play in that was well because of me procrasting the advancment of the relationship, which lead to me not caring about the relationship and just going thru the motions. I was getting careless and it was starting to show with the disrespect. Started messing with my baby mother on the low towards the end of it after not being with her for years. I started seeing qualities in my bm that I didn't see in my ex. There was signs that it shouldn't lasted as long as it did like after a year and a half together we broke up over her being superficial about a Valentine's Day gift, red flag! Then about 4 years later we broke up when she gave me an ultimatium about " not spending another christmas without getting a ring instead of anothe mediocre gift" via text message; Big Red Flag!!! After a breakup got back with her then the final straw for me was her not wearing her enganment ring to her best friends wedding then, not wearing it again a couple of weeks later to a comdey show, I was done and checked out.

 

[The ADD]

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My longest relationship was 9 years, things ended this past August. I wasn't into it towards the end of the relationship. But I also know I had a role to play in that was well because of me procrasting the advancment of the relationship, which lead to me not caring about the relationship and just going thru the motions. I was getting careless and it was starting to show with the disrespect. Started messing with my baby mother on the low towards the end of it after not being with her for years. I started seeing qualities in my bm that I didn't see in my ex. There was signs that it shouldn't lasted as long as it did like after a year and a half together we broke up over her being superficial about a Valentine's Day gift, red flag! Then about 4 years later we broke up when she gave me an ultimatium about " not spending another christmas without getting a ring instead of anothe mediocre gift" via text message; Big Red Flag!!! After a breakup got back with her then the final straw for me was her not wearing her enganment ring to her best friends wedding then, not wearing it again a couple of weeks later to a comdey show, I was done and checked out.

Woof

 

[Reality]

So I've smashed the HAPA budtender 3 times now and have not cum any of those times - not because the sex is whack, because it's actually phenomenal and I don't want it to stop. I've been tiring out after like an hour or so. Something about her has a hold on me. I'm not trying to date like that right now, but I fukk w/ her personality..ended up having a realish date vs. just netflix and chill, so she keeps getting it like a GF .

It's funny because objectively the HAPA nurse is probably more my type physically...Eva Lovia with better thighs & ass. But something about that budtender yo. This is the closest I've come to seeing when it's just pure chemistry at work.

I'm not even sure what to tell her because I do fukk with her personality and she asked to see me again today...I declined because I'm busy but she's starting to ask for daytime visits, going to the park together, etc. I want to and don't want to.