Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[NoirDynosaur]

Looking like my boy got ghosted.

I’ve mentioned him in this thread multiple times, the amount of dating L’s his taken has been astounding.

He met this chick on Hinge, she’s British but lives in Vancouver now, they’re into similar things, the outdoors, skiing and hiking.

They had been on three dates, and he followed my suggestions about kissing a woman if he feels the energy is there which he did on the second date.

She invited him impromptu onto a third date beach walk where they kissed again and then he suggested they go get dinner this past Thursday, day of the date, she cancels with no real reason and then he messages her on the Friday, still no reply from her but she’s read the message.

He had 4 conversations going on when he met this chick and stopped the others to focus on her. I did warn him not to focus all his attention on just one chick as you could get into situations like this. Where she bails and you’re left with nada and your other convos will be hard to pick back up.

I haven’t spoken to him in depth as I’ve been busy with my chicks. But he was really into her and maybe that was the problem? She probably felt he was trying to lock her down.

I’ve told him before he needed to hold back from too much text chit chat and save that for in person. And that you need to smash some of these chicks within 2-3 meets or at least get her into a sexual mindset. Where she anticipates and wants you sexually. This is where being too much of a ‘gentlemen' can be a hindrance a woman wants to be seduced by you, not tell you she’s ready for sex.

Female friends of ours have told him that he gives off too much of a 'nice guy’ vibe. You don't need to be a scumbag but some friendly aggression can go a long way.

How you start is how you finish. Literally.

Props for helping your homie and letting him know what went wrong on the date. That type of mentoring brothas need in the game!

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Nvm

 

[EffYou]

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My longest relationship was 9 years, things ended this past August. I wasn't into it towards the end of the relationship. But I also know I had a role to play in that was well because of me procrasting the advancment of the relationship, which lead to me not caring about the relationship and just going thru the motions. I was getting careless and it was starting to show with the disrespect. Started messing with my baby mother on the low towards the end of it after not being with her for years. I started seeing qualities in my bm that I didn't see in my ex. There was signs that it shouldn't lasted as long as it did like after a year and a half together we broke up over her being superficial about a Valentine's Day gift, red flag! Then about 4 years later we broke up when she gave me an ultimatium about " not spending another christmas without getting a ring instead of anothe mediocre gift" via text message; Big Red Flag!!! After a breakup got back with her then the final straw for me was her not wearing her enganment ring to her best friends wedding then, not wearing it again a couple of weeks later to a comdey show, I was done and checked out.

Damn 9 years

 

[Ohene]

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My longest relationship was 9 years, things ended this past August. I wasn't into it towards the end of the relationship. But I also know I had a role to play in that was well because of me procrasting the advancment of the relationship, which lead to me not caring about the relationship and just going thru the motions. I was getting careless and it was starting to show with the disrespect. Started messing with my baby mother on the low towards the end of it after not being with her for years. I started seeing qualities in my bm that I didn't see in my ex. There was signs that it shouldn't lasted as long as it did like after a year and a half together we broke up over her being superficial about a Valentine's Day gift, red flag! Then about 4 years later we broke up when she gave me an ultimatium about " not spending another christmas without getting a ring instead of anothe mediocre gift" via text message; Big Red Flag!!! After a breakup got back with her then the final straw for me was her not wearing her enganment ring to her best friends wedding then, not wearing it again a couple of weeks later to a comdey show, I was done and checked out.

damn

you get your ring back?

 

[BiggWebb79]

damn

you get your ring back?

Yeah when she told me to give her key back and pick up my stuff, she put it in the bag with my things and text me the ring was with it as well.

 

[BiggWebb79]

Damn 9 years

Yeah long time man.

 

[The ADD]

Yeah long time man.

How old were y’all?

 

[International Playa]

Do not, I repeat do not go on a date or even meet with these women unless you have video chatted or FaceTime first.

1.) It weeds out the bullshytters
2.) I’ve definitely learned most of these women look NOTHING like their pics
3.) You can tell instantly if they’re feeling you
4.) You can tell if you actually can stand them longer than 10 mins

Video Calling is a must, I videocall for at least a week before we go on a date.

 

[Serious]

True. Every woman I’ve struggled with opening up. I look back and see she buffered all of my attempts as she was not feeling me like that. But I persisted. But they were trying to angle me into friendship.

All the women I really got on with were open with me and wanted to be around me and vice versa.

Cooperation is key. Not saying that it can’t be something else, but if there’s a communication problem then the relationship is doomed.

Honestly communication and consistency is the biggest thing women seek. You don’t have to look like Rico suave, make 10000000, be 6’6 etc, your word and how you come across as a man is everything.

Because once you mentally got a chick it’s a wrap.

Nvm

 

[Serious]

Did you ask any of the Ws(Who, what, when, where, why?) or did u just go “okay” and moved on

In that instance yeah, but not because I cared it was more so ego. I actually did something to self sabotage. Matter of fact I’ve done that in all my relationships to force them to end to be honest.

 

[BiggWebb79]

How old were y’all?

I'm 42 & she's 44

 

[twan83]

Longest relationship y’all have had and how did things “end”? Were their signs before the final closing? Who ended things you or her?

help the younger or inexperienced bruhs out before they fall into the same trappings as yourself.

Excluding my current marriage
My ex wife for 5 years
Signs of distrust was always there but turned a blind eye
Ended cuz of I got sick and she didn’t want the responsibility of helping take care of me and raising kids and working so she cheated and left me and kids more or less

 

[EffYou]

Excluding my current marriage
My ex wife for 5 years
Signs of distrust was always there but turned a blind eye
Ended cuz of I got sick and she didn’t want the responsibility of helping take care of me and raising kids and working so she cheated and left me and kids more or less

Damn

 

[Apollo Creed]

I'm 42 & she's 44

she dumb for thinking a younger man would marry her, and you took the L for not standing on your square.

 

[Tr0yTV]

Longest relationship y’all have had and how did things “end”? Were their signs before the final closing? Who ended things you or her?

help the younger or inexperienced bruhs out before they fall into the same trappings as yourself.

8 years. Should have ended after year 2 or 3 but I was ‘in love’ only advice is to focus on yourself while in a relationship. Because all I have to show for the time wasted with her is the career moves I made. Also, stay in the gym no matter how comfortable you get. I fell off hard but I appreciate the lesson I learned because of it. Most important thing I learned is I don’t like relationships. Can’t cheat if you never commit