Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The ADD]

Chick either got Covid or a compromised immune system. If you consider her someone you care about, check in on her just as being a good human, but I'd dead them wifey dreams. Part of vetting is health condition imo

That’s a really good point. Check on her as a friend but the relationship aspect isn’t her priority understandably.

 

[buzzkill]

Chick either got Covid or a compromised immune system. If you consider her someone you care about, check in on her just as being a good human, but I'd dead them wifey dreams. Part of vetting is health condition imo

That's a good point . What if it's a bad strain of flu though? I've heard a lot of people get hit hard by the flu this year.

 

[Apollo Creed]

That’s a really good point. Check on her as a friend but the relationship aspect isn’t her priority understandably.

yeah alot of us becoming like women, and dont know how to manage human relationships (instead we just looking to take take take like most women do).

We forget how to be human because we too worried about being 'one upped' by a woman.

 

[Apollo Creed]

That's a good point . What if it's a bad strain of flu though? I've heard a lot of people get hit hard by the flu this year.

my point is she isn't your wife. Pull back from the disney fantasy, and just check in on her as a good human assuming you actually care about her as a human and not just utility. The fact you smashing other chicks implies you want to move on, but you like many men end up playing the fence.

Even the 'wifey' term has no value because dudes will say 'wifey' but not mean getting married.

If you not looking to get married soon, dead the wifey talk and just say you enjoy the company of women and if you have sex then thats a bonus.

 

[buzzkill]

That’s a really good point. Check on her as a friend but the relationship aspect isn’t her priority understandably.

You right. She's most likely focused on trying to not be in the hospital and not being sick than dating me

 

[buzzkill]

yeah alot of us becoming like women, and dont know how to manage human relationships (instead we just looking to take take take like most women do).

We forget how to be human because we too worried about being 'one upped' by a woman.

Yo bolded is a gem. I've dealt with a lot of women in my 28 years so im kinda hip to when a girl is playing games. I usually am aware when a girl is losing interest and about to ghost or something so I thought this may be the case at first. I need to drop trying to figure out what to do and just approach this as a human.... u right as crazy as that sounds.

my point is she isn't your wife. Pull back from the disney fantasy, and just check in on her as a good human assuming you actually care about her as a human and not just utility. The fact you smashing other chicks implies you want to move on, but you like many men end up playing the fence.

Even the 'wifey' term has no value because dudes will say 'wifey' but not mean getting married.

If you not looking to get married soon, dead the wifey talk and just say you enjoy the company of women and if you have sex then thats a bonus.

I like your perspective a lot bro. U are kind of clearing the confusion i have. Tbh i was checking on her because I was actually worried about her because the flu aint a joke and not just using her as a utility I was even going to instacart some pedialyte and flowers to her until i found out she was in the hospital for 2 weeks. Only reason I'm smashing other chicks is because I wasn't exactly sure what was going on or if I will even see her again so i had to keep the show going. I still like her but I guess like ADD said i think i should just be her friend for the time being.


Damn i sound like a simp. But I'll keep sending her check up texts every once and a while and fall back on the dating shyt with her until i see what's up with her health.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yo bolded is a gem. I've dealt with a lot of women in my 28 years so im kinda hip to when a girl is playing games. I usually am aware when a girl is losing interest and about to ghost or something so I thought this may be the case at first.



I like your perspective a lot bro. U are kind of clearing the confusion i have. Tbh i was checking on her because I was actually worried about her because the flu aint a joke and not just using her as a utility. Only reason I'm smashing other chicks is because I wasn't exactly sure what was going on or if I will even see her again so i had to keep the show going. I still like her but I guess like ADD said i think i should just be her friend for the time being.


Damn i sound like a simp. But I'll keep sending her check up texts every once and a while and fall back on the dating shyt with her until i see what's up with her health.

in all reality a woman aint yours unless she got your last name lol (and in America that is a stretch but still).

Once you hit 25-27 you should be hip to the dumb games women play unless you haven't had any relationships. Women aren't slick we just get blinded by Disney dreams. Treat women like the humans they are and you'll never be disappointed, because humans aren't perfect. Once you are experienced as a man, Womens games are like children, where it's like "you must really thing I'm dumb", where you laugh at it more so than drown in dred.

 

[buzzkill]

in all reality a woman aint yours unless she got your last name lol (and in America that is a stretch but still).

Once you hit 25-27 you should be hip to the dumb games women play unless you haven't had any relationships. Women aren't slick we just get blinded by Disney dreams. Treat women like the humans they are and you'll never be disappointed, because humans aren't perfect. Once you are experienced as a man, Womens games are like children, where it's like "you must really thing I'm dumb", where you laugh at it more so than drown in dred.

Facts. Usually I keep a rotation and know that most of the time shes not mine its just my turn and all that. After being with her for a while i thought we were really fw each other so i started getting lazy with trying to keep up with pullin new hoes and maintaining a rotation(as u can see that backfired). Think i need to go to the hospital for my oneitis .

 

[Apollo Creed]

Facts. Usually I keep a rotation and know that most of the time shes not mine its just my turn and all that. After being with her for a while i thought we were really fw each other so i started getting lazy with trying to keep up with pullin new hoes and maintaining a rotation(as u can see that backfired). Think i need to go to the hospital for my oneitis .

yeah as men we got all the time in the world, so we cant really trip if chicks pivot from us because they are on the clock. This is why I'm like either you all in (seeking a wife, not mindless dating), or you just 'having fun'. Often times dudes try to play boyfriend in order to get sex access and it always ends in confusion or a waste of time.

 

[The ADD]

yeah as men we got all the time in the world, so we cant really trip if chicks pivot from us because they are on the clock. This is why I'm like either you all in (seeking a wife, not mindless dating), or you just 'having fun'. Often times dudes try to play boyfriend in order to get sex access and it always ends in confusion or a waste of time.

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Really should be theme/review point of this thread. Where does your problem lie relative to where you stand on dealing with women……

 

[buzzkill]

yeah as men we got all the time in the world, so we cant really trip if chicks pivot from us because they are on the clock. This is why I'm like either you all in (seeking a wife, not mindless dating), or you just 'having fun'. Often times dudes try to play boyfriend in order to get sex access and it always ends in confusion or a waste of time.

I guess Im on the fence then. Since I'm 28 and finally am hitting financial and career goals, I am having fun right now but if i meet a good woman i would settle down. Of course I do red flag vetting and all that. With her we started casual (i even told her that when we first started texting and she was cool with it so i wasnt playing bf) but we synced instantly and were fukking with each other heavy sleep overs every weekend and all that and she seemed like a good woman to lock down no real red flags from her and things were going extra smooth until this.

 

[jesc07]

I guess Im on the fence then. Since I'm 28 and finally am hitting financial and career goals, I am having fun right now but if i meet a good woman i would settle down. Of course I do red flag vetting and all that. With her we started casual but we were fukking with each other heavy sleep overs every weekend and all that and she seemed like a good woman to lock down.

Sorry but her story sound fishy af. You got the right to be skeptical and if y'all were really fukking with each other as heavy as you say then she would've been communicating with you on what's going on.

 

[buzzkill]

Sorry but her story sound fishy af. You got the right to be skeptical and if y'all were really fukking with each other as heavy as you say then she would've been communicating with you on what's going on.

True she wasnt my gf but we were smashing and seeing eachother pretty much every weekend besides around the holidays because i went out of town... so it seemed like we were headed in that direction. I told my boy I aint believing her 100% until i see her in person. The only reason i think she is really sick is because who would keep up a lie like this texting back how your doing occasionally for a month and have someone thinking youre sick af but you want to ghost them. Thats a level of scumbaggery even i havent reached yet and ive done some true scumbag shyt in my life .

Only reason i was skeptical at first is because im so used to dealing with shytty women so i thought she was just going to say she had the flu and then stop hitting me back within a week or so or just say she isnt interested any more

 

[Apollo Creed]

I guess Im on the fence then. Since I'm 28 and finally am hitting financial and career goals, I am having fun right now but if i meet a good woman i would settle down. Of course I do red flag vetting and all that. With her we started casual (i even told her that when we first started texting and she was cool with it so i wasnt playing bf) but we synced instantly and were fukking with each other heavy sleep overs every weekend and all that and she seemed like a good woman to lock down no real red flags from her and things were going extra smooth until this.

your post is contradictory which means you dont know what you want. You shouldn't settle down because you found a 'good woman', you should settle down because you want to.

Right now you dont have the ability to even lead a woman because you letting her dictate if you want to settle down or not lol.

Man just have fun, take career risk, and then at 30-35 write down what you feel you need from a woman and then use that to drive your vetting. Dudes be calling chicks wifey cause she nice, well thats just basic human decency lol.

 

[The ADD]

True she wasnt my gf but we were smashing and seeing eachother pretty much every weekend besides around the holidays because i went out of town... so it seemed like we were headed in that direction. I told my boy I aint believing her 100% until i see her in person. The only reason i think she is really sick is because who would keep up a lie like this texting back how your doing occasionally for a month and have someone thinking youre sick af but you want to ghost them. Thats a level of scumbaggery even i havent reached yet and ive done some true scumbag shyt in my life .

Only reason i was skeptical at first is because im so used to dealing with shytty women so i thought she was just going to say she had the flu and then stop hitting me back within a week or so or just say she isnt interested any more

No offense but it sounds like y’all were FWB that got along well. Nothing wrong with that but if she’s really sick you are way down on the priority list.